When Being Seen Feels Like a Threat (Part 1)
Update: 2025-11-23
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In this solo episode of Cafe con Pam, Pam gets real about why speaking up can feel so hard, even when you know you have something important to say.
She unpacks the idea of the visibility wound of Calladita Culture, explaining how it goes way deeper than just lacking confidence. From family messages like "calladita te ves más bonita" to the pressures of code-switching and dealing with accents, Pam highlights how generations of cultural conditioning shape our reactions when all eyes are on us.
She shares personal stories, a client example, and research to show it’s not you—it’s your nervous system protecting you based on old survival instincts. If you’ve ever frozen up in a meeting or felt extra pressure as the only Latina in the room, this episode is for you.
Check out today's sponsor Savvy Ladies, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women like YOU take control of your financial future. They offer free resources, webinars, and my favorite: a free financial helpline where you can connect one-on-one with trusted financial experts. Visit www.savvyladies.org today and connect with the financial helpline to get the personalized support you deserve. Your journey to financial independence starts here.
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She unpacks the idea of the visibility wound of Calladita Culture, explaining how it goes way deeper than just lacking confidence. From family messages like "calladita te ves más bonita" to the pressures of code-switching and dealing with accents, Pam highlights how generations of cultural conditioning shape our reactions when all eyes are on us.
She shares personal stories, a client example, and research to show it’s not you—it’s your nervous system protecting you based on old survival instincts. If you’ve ever frozen up in a meeting or felt extra pressure as the only Latina in the room, this episode is for you.
Check out today's sponsor Savvy Ladies, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women like YOU take control of your financial future. They offer free resources, webinars, and my favorite: a free financial helpline where you can connect one-on-one with trusted financial experts. Visit www.savvyladies.org today and connect with the financial helpline to get the personalized support you deserve. Your journey to financial independence starts here.
Check out BMO here
Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.
Follow Cafe con Pam on all things social:
Get on the waitlist for Un Verano con Self Love
Subscribe on YouTube
Listen to Cafe con Pam
Take our Calladita Culture®️ Quiz
Get your business on El Mercadito
Learn more about Pam
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