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When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People

When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People

Update: 2025-04-21
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What do you do when your feedback is met with stonewalling, shutdowns, or accusations? In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney return with more live Q&A from their tour stop in Newcastle, Washington, tackling tough questions about feedback, conflict, narcissism, and relational disconnect. Through personal stories and real-life coaching moments, they offer wisdom for navigating relationships where feedback feels impossible and disconnection seems inevitable. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a one-sided relationship or struggled to confront dysfunction in love, this episode will equip you to stay powerful, connected, and courageous.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:




  • What to do when someone resists or shuts down your feedback.




  • How to stay calm, clear, and connected when emotions run high.




  • Why asking “What did you hear me say?” is a game-changer for clarity.




  • The difference between repentance and self-justification in broken trust.




  • How to approach accusations of narcissism in a culture that overuses the term.





Key Takeaways:




  • Don’t confuse judgment for feedback: True feedback is sharing your experience, not labeling or controlling the other person.




  • Safe connection takes time: If someone has never experienced feedback as love, they may need consistent safety before they engage.




  • Stay powerful, even when others aren’t: You get to choose self-control, honor, and clarity, regardless of how the other person responds.




  • Build trust with repetition: Healing relational dynamics takes practice, courage, and time—not a one-time conversation.




  • Repentance isn’t promises—it’s change: When trust is broken, words don’t restore it—consistent changed behavior does.





Join the Conversation:


Have you ever struggled to give feedback to someone who wouldn’t receive it? What helped you stay connected and powerful? Let us know by leaving a review or connecting on socials.



Stay Connected:


Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
Instagram: @brittneyserpell




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When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People

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