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When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack

When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack

Update: 2025-07-14
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Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity.

We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens:
 • When someone says it outright
• When they imply it
• When you infer it

And then the spiral begins:
 – You feel like you have to prove your worth
 – You obsess over how they see you
 – You shut down, because it felt like a verdict, not just a comment

🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value.
 💡 And we’ll offer truth that anchors your identity in something unshakeable:

“Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.”

If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you.

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When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack

When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack

Aaron & Jenna Zint