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When kids say “I’m stupid”: How to rebuild confidence and self-esteem

When kids say “I’m stupid”: How to rebuild confidence and self-esteem

Update: 2025-09-11
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As a parent, it’s heartbreaking to hear your child say “I’m stupid.”

Whether it comes after a tough day at school, a frustrating homework session, or a comment that hit the wrong nerve, that feeling can really stick. Dr. Kristin Carothers joins us to unpack where this kind of negative self-talk comes from. What’s happening beneath the surface? And how can adults respond in ways that build confidence — not pressure?

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(02:50 ) How parents can respond to negative self-talk

(06:08 ) What not to say to your child

(14:30 ) Modeling positive affirmations at home

For a transcript and more resources, visit the In It show page on Understood.org

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When kids say “I’m stupid”: How to rebuild confidence and self-esteem

When kids say “I’m stupid”: How to rebuild confidence and self-esteem

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