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What masks do you wear without even realising it? This episode takes inspiration from Rob Goddard's book "Behind the Smile" as we explore the facades we've created throughout our lives to navigate the world as gay men.

Dave opens up about his "mask of control" – a safety mechanism developed from growing up in rough neighborhoods that now manifests as a need to maintain control in various situations. This protective strategy serves him well but becomes problematic when circumstances fall outside his influence. Meanwhile, I share my "mask of suppression" formed during years in the military when being gay was illegal, and how that suppression became so ingrained that traces remain even in today's more accepting environment.

We both acknowledge the contradictions in our personalities – claiming we don't care what others think while simultaneously seeking validation and approval, particularly in professional settings. The conversation takes a vulnerable turn when discussing the "mask of shame" that comes from past relationships and decisions, including my feelings about my previous marriage before fully accepting my sexuality.

The episode isn't all serious introspection though! We introduce a hilarious new segment on pet peeves that has us ranting about everything from people who don't wear deodorant on public transport to drivers who fail to acknowledge when you let them merge in traffic. Dave's passionate hatred for noisy car exhausts reveals his "cranky old man" persona in full force.

Whether you're examining your own masked behaviors or just looking for some authentic conversation with plenty of laughs, this episode offers both profound insights and entertaining banter. Share your own masks or pet peeves with us at fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or through our socials – we'd love to hear what makes you tick (or what gives you the ick)!

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