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Why Couples Struggle After Baby–How Attachment Shapes Postpartum Relationships

Why Couples Struggle After Baby–How Attachment Shapes Postpartum Relationships

Update: 2025-03-21
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In this episode, Zara Arshad discusses the four main attachment styles—anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant, and secure—and how they manifest in relationships, particularly during the transformative period of new parenthood. The conversation delves into how postpartum challenges can amplify attachment tendencies, leading to increased stress and insecurity in relationships. Zara offers insights on how to promote healthy attachment styles for both parents and their children, highlighting the importance of understanding one's own attachment style to foster secure relationships. 

In this conversation, Zara discusses the complexities of attachment theory in parenting, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness for parents, suggesting that understanding one's own triggers and behaviors can lead to healthier relationships with children. The discussion also covers the nuances of sleep training, advocating for a balanced approach that meets both parental and child needs. Additionally, Zara critiques the common emphasis on date nights in relationships, arguing that true connection stems from addressing underlying issues and fostering open communication between partners.


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Why Couples Struggle After Baby–How Attachment Shapes Postpartum Relationships

Why Couples Struggle After Baby–How Attachment Shapes Postpartum Relationships

Megan Stander and Chelsea Ledsen