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Why Doesn’t She Trust Me Anymore? The Deep Cost of Invalidating Her Pain

Why Doesn’t She Trust Me Anymore? The Deep Cost of Invalidating Her Pain

Update: 2025-07-30
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Why can’t she trust you—even now? Discover how invalidation, betrayal trauma, and dismissive advice from leaders deepen the wounds. Listen and learn how to do better.

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If you've ever thought, “Why can’t she just get over it?”—this episode is for you. Maurice Harker reveals the damaging impact of invalidation from spouses, church leaders, and even therapists who don't understand betrayal trauma. When your wife says she doesn't feel safe, it’s not about a single moment—it’s about the cumulative trauma of being ignored, dismissed, or gaslit for years.

You’ll learn:

  • The real difference between big-T and little-t trauma

  • How “normalizing” porn or betrayal creates emotional devastation

  • Why some professionals accidentally do more harm than good

  • How to finally stop dismissing her pain—and start healing the right way

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Why Doesn’t She Trust Me Anymore? The Deep Cost of Invalidating Her Pain

Why Doesn’t She Trust Me Anymore? The Deep Cost of Invalidating Her Pain

Maurice Harker