Defensiveness isn’t proof your partner doesn’t care. It’s a sign they don’t feel safe.

In this episode we reveal the truth about defensiveness:
Why defensiveness is really about protection, not rejection
How shame, fear, and not feeling enough fuel the walls in your relationship
The exact steps we used to break the cycle and finally open up honest conversations 

“Defensiveness isn’t the problem. Disconnection is. When you meet the defense with compassion instead of fighting it, everything changes.” 

If you’ve ever thought:
He just won’t open up
Every conversation feels like hitting a wall
We can’t talk without it turning into an argument 

This episode will shift how you see defensiveness and show you how to create safety, honesty, and connection. 

Save this for when you feel shut out. 

Send it to a friend who’s tired of hitting the same walls. 

Full episode: “Why Is My Husband So Defensive & How To Get Him To Open Up” is live now. Link in bio. 

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