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Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends: Understanding Boundaries, Identity, and Reciprocity

Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends: Understanding Boundaries, Identity, and Reciprocity

Update: 2025-07-14
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Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends



Curt and Katie chat about why therapists often struggle with friendships—especially with non-therapists. They explore the impact of emotional labor, overidentifying as caretakers, and the challenges of setting boundaries and expressing needs in personal relationships.




Key Takeaways:




  • Therapists often default to caretaking in friendships, especially if they have a history of being “the helper.”




  • Emotional exhaustion from client work can make socializing difficult.




  • Confidentiality and identity boundaries limit what therapists can share about their day.




  • Friendships become healthier when therapists drop the therapist role and prioritize reciprocity.




  • Intentional communication and boundary-setting help create sustainable relationships.




More information and transcripts available at:
https://mtsgpodcast.com


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Creative Credits:

Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano

Voiceover by DW McCann



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Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends: Understanding Boundaries, Identity, and Reciprocity

Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends: Understanding Boundaries, Identity, and Reciprocity

Curt Widhalm, LMFT and Katie Vernoy, LMFT