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Why Some Couples Struggle — and Others Thrive

Why Some Couples Struggle — and Others Thrive

Update: 2025-11-13
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Why do some couples seem to grow closer over time while others drift apart? In this episode, we explore the small, often unnoticed moments that make or break a relationship — the bids for connection.

Every time you reach out — with a glance, a question, a joke, or a touch — you’re offering a bid. Thriving couples recognise these bids and turn toward them; struggling couples miss or dismiss them.

We’ll unpack why these micro-moments matter so much, how to spot them, and what happens when they’re ignored. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or just starting out, this episode will help you see love not as grand gestures but as the tiny daily choices that keep your bond alive.

To learn more, visit my couples therapy website and the new online program

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Why Some Couples Struggle — and Others Thrive

Why Some Couples Struggle — and Others Thrive

Thomas Westenholz and Michael Preston