We seek validation because we ultimately lack self trust and confidence. Sometimes we are simply trying to please others, which is fine to an extent, but not when we compromise our own desires. 

What is self validation?

Encouraging yourself.

Acknowledging your strengths, successes, progress, and effort.

Noticing and accepting your feelings.

Prioritizing your needs.

Treating yourself with kindness.

Saying nice things to yourself.

Accepting your limitations, flaws, and mistakes.