In this deeply personal SeductionEd episode, Keu Reyes explores one of the most painful and common illusions in modern relationships… the heartbreak that comes not from rejection, but from realizing that the person you fell for only existed in your imagination.

This is not a podcast about tactics. This is about the subconscious narratives we write, the stories we project, and the emotional damage caused by unverified hope.

You’ll hear Keu dissect his own patterns of idealization, expectation, and emotional projection. He breaks down how we often:

* Fill in gaps with fantasies

* Ignore red flags because they don’t match our storyline

* Confuse potential with reality

* Fall in love with futures that were never promised

What begins as seduction becomes self-seduction. And the pain that follows isn’t just disappointment, it’s the psychological crash of colliding imagination with truth.

Topics Covered

• The neurobiology of imagination and romantic projection

• Why idealization activates dopamine pathways

• How unmet expectations become emotional trauma

• The psychology of ignoring who someone is in favor of who you hope they are

• The importance of emotional realism in early attraction

Related Studies and Concepts

* Zaki & Ochsner (2012): The neuroscience of empathy and projection shows how we “fill in” emotional gaps based on our own desires.

* Helen Fisher’s research on the dopamine high of romantic potential, not reality.

* The Zeigarnik Effect: unfinished stories and emotional loops stay open in the brain, keeping us obsessed.

* Cognitive Dissonance Theory (Festinger, 1957): explains the pain of holding onto a belief even when the facts contradict it.

Call to Action

If you’ve ever loved someone more in your head than in reality, this episode is for you.

Listen. Reflect. And maybe, detach.

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