You Don’t Have to Fix Your Child: The Shift That Changes Everything
Description
In this episode, Amy speaks directly to the part of every parent that whispers, “You’ve got to fix this.”
Drawing from her own journey - from years of researching and even attending graduate school to understand her child’s behavior - she shares what she’s learned about the nervous system, safety, and why trying to “fix” our children keeps both parent and child stuck in a cycle of stress.
Listeners will hear how Amy reframed her approach to parenting a neurodivergent, PDA-profile child - and how understanding safety as the foundation for behavior can transform family life.
This episode is a powerful reminder that parenting isn’t about control; it’s about connection, curiosity, and co-regulation.
In This Episode, Amy Shares:
- Why the “fix-it” mindset is so common (and so exhausting) for parents
- How understanding the nervous system changes everything about behavior
- The role of safety and connection in regulating both parent and child
- How parents can step out of fear and into curiosity - even on hard days
- What it means to create “cues of safety” for both yourself and your child
Mentioned in This Episode:
- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors – A Parent Course
Developed by Robyn Gobbel, MSW, and adapted for PDA parents/led by Amy Kotha.
➡️ Join the Waitlist Here! - Bonus Session inside the January 12-week course with Danielle Rodda, Neurodivergent Consulting:
Exploring unschooling and homeschooling for PDA kids - how to lower pressure, rebuild trust, and make learning feel safe again. - Related Resource:
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior - live workshop and ebook created by Robyn Gobbel, adapted for PDA parents and led by Amy Kotha
➡️ Learn More and Register Here!
Connect with Amy:
- Instagram → @amykcoach
- Website → www.amykcoach.com



