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You Don’t Have to Fix Your Child: The Shift That Changes Everything

You Don’t Have to Fix Your Child: The Shift That Changes Everything

Update: 2025-11-04
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In this episode, Amy speaks directly to the part of every parent that whispers, “You’ve got to fix this.”

Drawing from her own journey - from years of researching and even attending graduate school to understand her child’s behavior - she shares what she’s learned about the nervous system, safety, and why trying to “fix” our children keeps both parent and child stuck in a cycle of stress.

Listeners will hear how Amy reframed her approach to parenting a neurodivergent, PDA-profile child - and how understanding safety as the foundation for behavior can transform family life.

This episode is a powerful reminder that parenting isn’t about control; it’s about connection, curiosity, and co-regulation.

In This Episode, Amy Shares:

  • Why the “fix-it” mindset is so common (and so exhausting) for parents
  • How understanding the nervous system changes everything about behavior
  • The role of safety and connection in regulating both parent and child
  • How parents can step out of fear and into curiosity - even on hard days
  • What it means to create “cues of safety” for both yourself and your child

Mentioned in This Episode:

  • Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors – A Parent Course
    Developed by Robyn Gobbel, MSW, and adapted for PDA parents/led by Amy Kotha.
    ➡️ Join the Waitlist Here!
  • Bonus Session inside the January 12-week course with Danielle Rodda, Neurodivergent Consulting:
    Exploring unschooling and homeschooling for PDA kids - how to lower pressure, rebuild trust, and make learning feel safe again.
  • Related Resource:
     Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior - live workshop and ebook created by Robyn Gobbel, adapted for PDA parents and led by Amy Kotha
    ➡️ Learn More and Register Here!

Connect with Amy:

  • Instagram → @amykcoach
  • Website → www.amykcoach.com
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You Don’t Have to Fix Your Child: The Shift That Changes Everything

You Don’t Have to Fix Your Child: The Shift That Changes Everything

Amy Kotha