**Trigger warning: this conversation covers addiction and makes reference to sexual assault. Please be mindful of this before hitting play**

If you’re tired of doing it all, this episode will change how you see your relationship. 

Cat Sims reveals why you can’t fix your partner – but you can change the dynamic – through honesty, communication, and the unexpected power of letting go.

We’re diving deep into the mental load – that endless, invisible checklist running in your head to keep everyone and everything afloat. It’s the 3 a.m. jolt when you realise it’s book character day at nursery or that you forgot the doctor’s appointment (again).

The mental load is relentless, unfair, and exhausting – and most of it still falls on mothers.

This week’s guest, Cat Sims, knows it all too well. It almost cost her marriage. Now, she’s written The Mental Load Diaries: How I Learned to Juggle Life, Love and the Never-Ending To-Do List – a raw, funny, and deeply relatable guide to reclaiming your sanity.

In this conversation, you’ll learn:

• What mental load really is and why it’s so damaging


• The moment Cat realised her marriage was breaking under its own weight


• How to communicate the load with your partner (without it ending in a fight)


• What to do if your partner just doesn’t get it

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If you liked this episode, listen to this next: Why you're resentful in your relationship—and how to fix it starting today, with Dr Morgan Cutlip

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