Is friendship harder than dating or are we all just a little gay? Who did friendship labels better, Aristotle or the Myspace Top 8? Was Alexander Hamilton bi or were we just more comfy with deep friend love back then? How do you make friends as an adult? Is the self care era making us bad friends? Can you love yourself well and love your friends well at the same time?

EPISODE SUMMARY

I. WHY IS MAKING FRIENDS SO HARD?(2:34 )

a. no clear labels (3:22 )

i. the myspace top 8 - a fleeting moment of clarity (5:47 )

ii. aristotle's take on friendship labels (8:00 )

b. no hallpass for jealousy (14:34 )

i. alexander hamilton: bisexual or just comfy with friend love? (15:55 )

c. no roadmap for initiating friendships (20:38 )

d. we're all a little gay nowadays (24:05 )

II. HOW DO YOU MAKE FRIENDS AS AN ADULT? (27:25 )

a. using the internet (28:05 )

b. get okay with pleasure-based friendships (31:00 )

c. be patient (32:07 )

d. emotional openness (32:56 )

e. following through (34:53 )

III. IS THE SELF CARE ERA MAKING US BAD FRIENDS? (36:33 )

a. 2 stories about flakiness (37:53 )

b. the self care over everything era (43:57 )

c. how can we love ourselves and our friends well at the same time? (46:40 )

SOURCES

Aristotle, Nichomachean Ethics

Glennon Doyle, Untamed

article re: Alexander Hamilton being bi: https://tinyurl.com/53328d5d

self care tweet by @kevinfarzad: https://tinyurl.com/yrddpaw6