“Making Your Pain Worse can Get You What You Want” by Logan Riggs
Description
I remember going to church w/ my mom where we'd need to stand while singing. I didn't really like standing that long, so I told Mom my legs were hurting so could I please sit down?
She said yes.
Sooo the next week, when I wanted to sit down, I intentionally tensed my knee-area so that my legs would hurt. Then I could tell ask my mom again and sit down while not being a dirty liar (we were in church after all).
In general, people can sometimes get what they want [attention/emotional support/etc] by making their problems worse (or creating a problem when there's none there). One simple way to achieve this is to have a genuine negative reaction to something, focus on the negative reaction until it grows bigger and bigger, and then act from that emotional state when talking to people who can give [...]
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Outline:
(01:56 ) Where The Pattern was Formed
(02:50 ) Breaking the Pattern For Yourself
(03:41 ) Those Triggered Snowflakes!
(04:07 ) Realizing That Youre on Your Own
(05:15 ) Breaking the Pattern From the Inside
The original text contained 3 footnotes which were omitted from this narration.
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First published:
October 5th, 2025
Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/emEmipwkKvjxksohy/making-your-pain-worse-can-get-you-what-you-want
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