Heal Through Humor

In this episode, Talia Bombola interviews Robyn Isman, a therapist specializing in working with parents of anxious children. They discuss the importance of working with parents in addressing childhood anxiety and the concept of anxiety as a gateway diagnosis. Robyn explains the interpersonal aspect of anxiety and how parents can inadvertently accommodate their child's anxiety. They also emphasize the importance of parental accountability and empowerment, as well as the need for parents to apologize and take ownership of their actions. The conversation highlights the challenges and learning process of parenting and differentiating anxiety from personal preferences. In this conversation, Talia Bombola, LMFT, and Robyn Isman discuss anxiety in children and teens. They explore the importance of understanding anxiety versus oppositional behavior and the impact of anxiety on parent-child relationships. They also highlight the benefits of addressing anxiety and increasing independence to decrease anxiety. The role of parents in anxiety treatment, including validation and belief in children, is emphasized. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the power of modeling emotional regulation, the challenge of balancing emotional and physical health, and the importance of humor and lightness in parenting. Takeaways- Anxiety in children and teens should be explored and understood, distinguishing it from oppositional behavior.- Addressing anxiety can lead to closer parent-child relationships and increased independence in children.- Parents play a crucial role in anxiety treatment by providing validation and belief in their children.- Modeling emotional regulation and using supportive language can have a significant impact on children's emotional well-being.- Bringing humor and lightness to parenting can help create a positive and supportive environment for children. Robyn's Links: @parentingtheanxiouschild 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:55 Anxiety as a Gateway Diagnosis 05:50 The Importance of Working with Parents 09:13 The Interpersonal Aspect of Anxiety 13:02 The Role of Parents in Accommodating Anxiety 15:55 Empowerment and Accountability for Parents 22:12 Parenting as a Learning Process 24:00 Differentiating Anxiety from Personal Preferences 24:58 Exploring Anxiety in Children and Teens 26:23 Understanding Anxiety and Oppositional Behavior 27:49The Impact of Anxiety on Parent-Child Relationships 28:48 Benefits of Addressing Anxiety in Children and Teens 29:44 Increasing Independence to Decrease Anxiety 30:23 The Role of Parents in Anxiety Treatment31:11The Importance of Validation and Belief in Children 31:59 Modeling Emotional Regulation and Validation 33:19 The Impact of Parental Invalidation on Children 34:08 The Power of Validation and Supportive Language 36:12 The Challenge of Balancing Emotional and Physical Health 37:06 The Role of Parents as Role Models 38:14 Differentiating Between Parent and Child Responsibilities 39:29 The Power of Naming and Validating Emotions 40:27 Bringing Humor and Lightness to Parenting 43:19 The Importance of Modeling Behavior and Language 44:36 The Impact of Humor on Parent-Child Relationships 46:00 Resources and Courses for Parenting the Anxious Child

In this episode, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss the challenges of creating content in a healthy relationship and the importance of setting boundaries and privacy. They also explore the impact of social media on relationships and the evolution of dating apps. The conversation delves into the talking stage and the dangers of getting stuck in that phase. They emphasize the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in relationships, as well as the importance of fine-tuning the picker and raising relationship standards. In this conversation, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss various aspects of relationships and offer valuable insights. They explore recognizing patterns, setting boundaries, and unprogramming relationship programming. They emphasize the importance of seeking objective advice and avoiding biased opinions from family and friends. They also discuss the influence of curated content on social media and the need to trust one's gut instincts. The conversation delves into the fallacy of 'if they won't, someone else will' and the importance of effective communication. They highlight the benefits of long-term healthy relationships and the power of weekly check-ins. Finally, they discuss the nuances of healthy relationships and the importance of taking space and communicating needs.TakeawaysCreating content in a healthy relationship can be challenging, as it may require setting boundaries and respecting privacy.The evolution of dating apps and social media has changed the dynamics of dating and relationships.It is important to differentiate between the talking stage and dating, and to avoid getting stuck in the talking phase.Authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability are crucial in building healthy relationships.It is essential to fine-tune the picker and raise relationship standards to attract emotionally available partners. Recognize patterns in your relationships and set boundaries to create healthier dynamics.Seek objective advice from counselors or trusted individuals rather than relying solely on biased opinions from family and friends.Be mindful of the influence of curated content on social media and actively search for diverse perspectives.Trust your gut instincts and cultivate your inner voice to make decisions that align with your values and needs.Regularly communicate with your partner through check-ins to deepen intimacy and address any concerns or needs. Connect with Talia: taliabombola.com therapywithtalia.com IG: @taliabombola Connect with Dave: IG: @coachdaveglaserTiktok: @dave.glaser Dave's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-challenger-podcast/id1397178628 00:00 Introduction and New Relationship Story 01:01 Challenges of Creating Content in a Healthy Relationship 03:07 Setting Boundaries and Privacy in a Relationship 05:53 Using Dating Advice in Real Life 07:58 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication 09:05 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships 10:05 Navigating Communication in Relationships 11:07 The Role of Voice Memos in Communication 12:19 The Evolution of Dating Apps and Social Media 13:14 The Talking Stage and Dating 15:12 The Dangers of Getting Stuck in the Talking Phase 17:21 The Paradox of Choice and Multi-Dating 18:24 Defining Relationships and Emotional Availability 20:13 The Challenges of Being Friends with an Ex 22:20 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships 23:54 The Impact of Social Media on Relational Content 25:18 The Importance of Authenticity and Vulnerability 28:00 Taking Accountability in Relationships 29:16 Reframing Relationship Patterns 31:33 Fine-Tuning the Picker and Raising Relationship Standards 32:51 The Power of Light Bulb Moments 33:36 Differentiating Red Flags and Deal Breakers 33:46 Recognizing Patterns and Setting Boundaries 34:40 Unprogramming Relationship Programming 35:36 The Biased Advice of Family and Friends 36:29 Curated Content and Social Media Influence 37:26 Trusting Your Gut and Seeking Counsel 38:02 The Fallacy of 'If They Won't, Someone Else Will' 39:00 Unraveling Relationship Programming 40:09 The Importance of Effective Communication 41:02 The Danger of Unrealistic Expectations 42:29 The Benefits of Long-Term Healthy Relationships 43:42 The Power of Weekly Check-Ins 46:31 The Nuances of Healthy Relationships 49:03 Taking Space and Communicating Needs 52:02 Defeating Past Patterns and Trusting Your Inner Guide

This week, Talia sits down with fellow psychotherapist Britt Frank. They discuss what led Britt to the field, what being stuck looks like, how to know it's time to change, what you can do to get unstuck, the joy of therapeutic journey, the power of childhood, and more.Connect with Britt:scienceofstuck.comIG: @brittfrankConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

In this episode, Talia sits down with mental health counselor and Instagram-viral therapist, Stassi of @BossyStassi. They talk self-awareness, knowing that if you're feeling something someone else out there probably is too, the way we project our feelings when we know others are suffering, and the fact that we can't rescue people.Connect with Stassi:evergreenwellnesstherapy.comIG: @bossystassiConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia chats with Logan Ury, dating coach and behavioral scientist at hinge. They answer questions about how Logan got into the industry, dying alone, how dating has changed over the years, Logan's book, and so much more.Connect with Logan:loganury.comIG: @loganuryCheck out Logan's book, How to Not Die Alone, here.https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1603216350&sr=8-2&linkCode=sl1&tag=loganury-20&linkId=fa9564cbd4d496dfc6d90e077b24c528&language=en_USConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia and Vanessa talk codependency, depth psychology (also known as psychology of the soul), how to maintain relationships as you change, growing together instead of growing apart, and more.Connect with Vanessalinktr.ee/vanessasbennettIG: @vanessasbennettConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia and Christie sit down to discuss the benefits of knowing yourself before dating, how to continue that process while you’re dating, how each of their signature programs helps you to better understand yourself and dating partners, how certain attachment styles play into this communication pattern, how family dynamics and other research stats plays into partner choice, how self-worth and self-love can help you hold high standards, and more!Connect with Christie:drchristiekederian.comIG: @thedatedoctorchristieConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with Jackie Brubaker for an insightful conversation covering things like what ghosting is, the common causes of ghosting, how certain attachment styles play into this communication pattern, why situationships happen and how to prevent it if it’s not what you want, how self-worth and self-love can help you hold high standards, and tips for how to regulate yourself as an anxious or an avoidant.Connect with Jackie:linktr.ee/loveyouevenmorepodcastIG: @jackiebrubakerConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

In this episode, Talia chats with therapist and relationship expert Dr. Katie Fedrick. They dive in on what it’s like to be a therapist who helps people with relationships and attachment, some of the common thoughts and feelings of various attachment styles, how to work towards earned secure attachment, how attachment styles can be fluid and flexible over the lifespan, how therapists and coaches have a role in helping people healing attachment, and tips for how to regulate yourself as an anxious or an avoidant.Connect with Elizabeth:drelizabethfedrick.comIG: @drelizabethfedrickConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Jacquelyn is back on the podcast for a dynamic and insightful conversation about being a therapist on the frontline and social media, why nuance matters, the importance of being mindful of the content you consume, and how therapists and coaches both have important roles in helping as long as they can stay in their respective lanes.Connect with Jacquelyn:jacquelyntenaglia.comIG: @no.bs.therapistConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Today, Talia and guest Dr. Katie Fracalanza talk people pleasing. Where does it come from, what does it look like, and how can you shift out of it?Connect with Katie:drfracalanza.comIG: @dr.katiefracConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia and divorce guru Rob Roseman talk all things dating, dating after divorce, and blending families. Plus, some factors to consider when picking a partner, the value of communication and boundaries (especially in post-divorce dating), when or if to blend families, and the impact of parent child dynamics on pretty much everything in adulthood.Connect with Rob:wtfdivorce.combeacons.ai/wtfdivorceIG: @wtfdivorceConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with dating coach and author Kirstie Taylor to talk all things anxious attachment. Hear it all, from how they got into the work the do to how anxious attachment presents. Plus, how it might look different in friendships compared to romantic relationships and what you can do to self-soothe.Connect with Kirstie:kirstietaylor.comIG: @kirstietaylorrConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Today Talia chats with therapist Adam Luke about turning towards your partner to survive relationship hardships, finding a therapist who helps you feel safe, re-writing subconscious blueprints from your upbringing, how men and women can learn from each other, and the importance of men's mental health.Connect with Adam:wildethoscounseling.comIG: @wildethoscounselingConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Barry Selby is back to talk about balancing masculine and feminine in yourself and doing the inner work it takes to grow.Barry and Talia dive in on topics like the balance and range of masculine and feminine energies, why it matters to honor yourself first before partnering, how some of your upbringing and subconscious blueprints need to be re-written to be effective in relationships, the importance of setting and enforcing boundaries when dating and relating, and the value of doing the work on yourself before you try and find someone to build a life with.Connect with Barry:linktr.ee/barryselbyIG: @therealbarryselbyConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with Jacquelyn Tenaglia, LMHC to talk about mental health in the age of social media.Connect with Jacquelyn:jacquelyntenaglia.comIG: @no.bs.therapistConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Today Talia sits down with attachment theory expert Dr. Morgan. They dive into how you can get off the rollercoaster and start living and loving in healthier ways. They relate on common experiences and talk all about the value of lived experience as a provider.Find you attachment style here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5e77d82d29386e001428f8f1Connect with Dr. Morgan:drmorgancoaching.comIG: @drmorgancoachingConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with the incredible Tessa Mac for a rousing conversation on the power of the subconscious mind, starting with how the mind works and  diving into everything from facing your fears to living an authentic life.Connect with Tessa:tessamac.com/coachingIG: @tessamacConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with Barry Selby to discuss polarity, emasculation,  and the power of doing inner work.Connect with Barry:linktr.ee/barryselbyIG: @therealbarryselbyConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with matchmaker Abby Rosenblum, the modern yenta, to talk all things dating, love, and finding the one.Connect with Abby:thesocialmm.clubIG: @thesocialmm@modernyentaConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola