Shadow Work, WTF?

Stella from MAFS sit's down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship and mean girl drama.You saw the dinner party chaos - now hear the psychology behind it.Stella sits down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship, the mean girl drama she was targeted by, and what was really happening beneath the surface.They go deep on:The anxious/avoidant dance Stella used to live in (and what shifted)Why “boring” can be the first sign of secure attachmentThe mean girl hierarchy, projection, and subtle power plays at the tableWhat not reacting actually communicates in high-conflict spacesHow real support looks (spoiler: not your friends yelling “fuck him!” on repeat)Compassion without reconciliation (aka: you can have empathy and still say NO)How to watch reality TV like free therapy instead of a public hangingWhether you’re watching MAFS or not, this episode will change how you see relationship drama — on screen and in your own life.If you love this episode please like, share and subscribe. Find us on socials here:Caitlin: https://www.instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin/Stella: https://www.instagram.com/mickstella_/

Why Your Biggest Blocks Are Keeping Your Clients Stuck TooThis week, Caitlin and support coach Lurinda dive deep into the most common shadows that plague coaches - and how these patterns directly sabotage their ability to create transformative client experiences. From burnout cycles and abandonment wounds to perfectionism and the desperate need to prove themselves, they explore how these shadows create co-dependent relationships, surface-level sessions, and clients who never quite get the breakthrough they're seeking. This conversation offers the uncomfortable truth about why your own unintegrated shadows are the biggest barrier to your coaching effectiveness.This episode is for you if:You find yourself filling every silence in coaching sessions because it feels uncomfortableYou struggle with clients who seem overly agreeable or those who challenge your expertiseYou work harder than your clients do and feel resentment creeping into your practiceYou panic when clients ask questions you don't immediately know how to answerWhat we'll cover:How the "lazy" shadow creates burnout cycles that keep coaches trapped in proving energyWhy abandonment wounds lead to chameleon coaching that serves no one authenticallyThe perfectionism trap that makes coaches talk too much and listen too littleHow to recognise when you're creating co-dependent relationships instead of empowered clientsKey Points and Timestamps:01:19:00 - The Burnout ShadowLurinda shares how the "lazy" shadow drives coaches into exhaustion cycles, working constantly to prove they're not lazy, only to burn out and finally give themselves permission to rest.10:43:00 - The Chameleon EffectHow abandonment wounds cause coaches to shape-shift for each client, creating unsafe containers where neither coach nor client can show up authentically.22:25:00 - The Perfectionism TrapWhy coaches who fear being seen as "not knowing enough" end up dominating sessions, leaving clients feeling unheard and misunderstood.29:26:00 - The Cracking ProcessLurinda describes how the Shadow Alchemy immersion allows coaches to move from rigid personas to authentic presence through being witnessed in their mess.41:05:00 - Integration and Moving ForwardPractical advice for coaches who recognise these shadows in themselves, including how to discern between imposter syndrome and genuine skill gaps.Resources Mentioned:Shadow Alchemy Certification: shadowalchemycoaching.comNext Shadow Alchemy immersion: July 4th-6thFollow Lurinda: @perspectivebylurindaShadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademyConnect with Us:Loved this episode? Share it with a fellow coach who needs this reality check. Tag us @shadowalchemycoachingacademy with your biggest takeaway.If you're ready to face your coaching shadows in a container designed for transformation, the next Shadow Alchemy immersion happens July 4th-6th, and prices increase by $1000 after June 30th. This work isn't comfortable, but it's the difference between performing as a coach and actually being one. Apply at shadowalchemycoaching.com when you're ready to stop letting your shadows sabotage your sessions.

In this episode of Shadow Work, WTF?, Caitlin and support coach Lurinda sit down with Mads, a Shadow Alchemy Certification student whose journey from sceptical single mum to shadow work coach reveals the transformative power of embracing vulnerability. What started as judgment toward Lurinda's career shift eventually led Mads to her own breakthrough moment, showing how our strongest resistance often points directly to our deepest healing. This episode dives into the messy reality of feminine and masculine energies, the freedom that comes from surrendering control, and how shadow work creates profound shifts beyond just mindset.This episode is for you if:You pride yourself on being "hyper-independent" but secretly feel exhausted from doing it allYou've tried traditional therapy but still feel stuck in the same patternsYou're curious about shadow work but have been skeptical or resistant to trying itYou're a coach who wants to understand how to create deeper, more lasting transformations for clientsWhat we'll cover:Why our harshest judgments of others always reveal our own shadowsThe misconceptions about feminine/masculine energy and how they impact our ability to receive supportHow shadow work differs from traditional talk therapy in creating rapid transformationThe real responsibility that comes with being a transformational coach and why proper training mattersKey Points and Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction and WelcomeCaitlin introduces Mads, with Lurinda sharing how they connected and Mads' inspiring journey to Shadow Alchemy.05:29:00 - The Transformational First SessionMads shares the powerful shadow work session that changed everything, allowing her to embrace her feminine energy and open up to receiving support.12:21:00 - The Feminine-Masculine ConversationA nuanced discussion about what feminine and masculine energies actually mean beyond societal gender roles and gender norms.25:15:00 - Motherhood and Slowing DownExploring how motherhood created a craving for connection and presence despite societal pressure to "do it all."30:05:00 - Confronting Judgment as ShadowMads reveals how her judgment of Lurinda's career shift was actually jealousy of her boldness and confidence.41:45:00 - Beyond Talk TherapyMads discusses the limitations of traditional therapy compared to the action-oriented transformation of shadow work.48:36:00 - The Ethical Responsibility of CoachesAn important conversation about safety, trauma, and the responsibility coaches have when doing transformational work.Resources Mentioned:Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademyConnect with Mads on Instagram: @madsleonard__Follow Lurinda: @perspectivebylurindaConnect with Us:Loved this episode? Screenshot it, share it, and tag us with your biggest takeaway. Your journey from resistance to transformation might be just what someone else needs to hear today.P.S. If you've been curious about shadow work but something's been holding you back, this is your sign. The transformation you're resisting is usually exactly what you need. Visit shadowalchemycoaching.com to explore certification or book a session with one of our coaches.

Today I share about the things that really held me back in my business and how I started to get super honest with myself and moved through this. I see this with women again and again, and it’s the reason so many businesses fail - what I share in this episode is the key to sustainable business and life. Join the Unlocked Business masterclass here: https://completebycaitlin.com/unlocked-business/ Join the waitlist for Badass CEO here: https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/waitlist-to-work-with-me If you have any questions - DM me on IG @complete_bycaitlin And if you have loved this episode please screenshot and share!

Today we dive into all things food and body shame. I know that myself and so many women deeply struggle with food, body and how we feel about these things. It can really throw us off in life and lead us down a path of feeling guilty and unworthy of our desires. Laura Phelan is an expert in helping women break free from food and body shame so you can find full body & food freedom so you can thrive. This is such a powerful conversation and I highly recommend all women to listen to what she has to say. Tune in to learn: How to shift your relationship with food & body Where our food & body issues really stem from Why this is so prevalent in society, particularly with women. What can happen when you move through these issues and find your self. If you would love to connect with Laura please find her IG here: https://www.instagram.com/thisislauraphelan/ Or her website for more information: http://www.phelanwell.com/ Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me and Laura on instagram @complete_bycaitlin & @thisislauraphelan

In today’s episode Sam and I have an incredible conversation around getting out of your head and into your body, and how this creates more fun, pleasure and income in your life and business. Tune in to learn: Why we need to get out of our heads Stop associating with the problem Unfollowing people for your mental health More fun = more money How to get back into your body Sam Altieri is a health life and business coach for ambitious women who are obsessed with freedom and travel. She empowers them to get back into control of their lives, their happiness and connect to their feminine magnetic energy in order to attract the life they desire. If you would love to connect with Sam please find her here: Podcast & Coaching: https://msha.ke/samaltieri IG: www.instagram.com/samaltieri Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me and Sam on instagram @complete_bycaitlin & @samaltieri

In today’s episode we deep dive into the potency of using breathwork as a way to get unstuck and create huge changes in all areas of your life - especially, how you feel about yourself. Tune in to learn: Why breathwork is so powerful The transformations that can occur through this powerful modality The nervous system and how trauma is stored here Why resistance comes up and how to navigate this If you would love to connect with Crystal please find her on IG here: www.instagram.com/crystal.angwin Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me and Crystal on instagram @complete_bycaitlin & @crystal.angwin

The final training for 5 days of Christmas! Today I am talking all things how to quit the people pleasing, stop giving a f*ck about what others think and unlocking your authentic expression. This is for you if you constantly worry about what everyone is judging about you and you’re over it! Tune in to learn: Why we give a f*ck what others think Why no part of you is ‘bad’ How to start owning who you are How to find your authentic expression Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

Today we jump into all things self-trust, embodiment and success with the gorgeous Rachael! This episode is for the woman who struggles to trust her intuition, her path and wants to hear how periods of darkness and challenges are an integral part of your path and how we can shift our nervous systems to expand to receive all that we desire. Tune in to learn: How to develop self-trust What is sustainable success and how to create it How learning to regulate our nervous system expands our capacity to receive our goals Why challenges are an integral part of your manifestation process What embodied leadership is A practice on how to develop your intuition A practice on assessing what your values are in life and business and how these values allow you to be the embodied leader you want to be And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag us on instagram @complete_bycaitlin & @Iamrachaelfisher If you would love to connect with Rachael, here are all her links! www.rachaelfishercoaching.com/links www.rachaelfishercoaching.com/podcast www.instagram.com/iamrachaelfisher

WOW this was such a juicy live and training. I deep dive into all things fear, procrastination, resistance, people pleasing and getting STUCK. I share exactly how to move through these things so you can step into your most fearless version and create massive changes in your life. Tune in to learn: The different ways fear shows up for us. Why we get stuck in fear. How to shift your mindset around fear How to increase your capacity to leave your comfort zone and create everything you want. If you’re interested in IGNITE check it out here: https://completebycaitlin.com/ignite Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

On today’s training I deep dove into all this self trust. This is such an important part of living a life that is fulfilling and authentic to us. When we don’t self-trust, we so often ended up chasing goals, people, etc that leave us feeling burnt out, unhappy and leaning on unhealthy coping mechanisms. Tune in to learn: How we learned not to trust ourselves Why it’s so hard to start following our intuition How to get unstuck and start trusting yourself How to follow your intuition no matter what If you’re interested in the 90 min shadow shift experience, you can check it out here: https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/offers/6uLeoi3J?coupon_code=XMASSHADOW Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

Today is the recording from the live I did on IG for this weeks 5 days of Christmas training! I deep dive into all things triggers and how to shift them. Tune in for: - Understanding why you’re getting triggered - What kinds of things can trigger you and why - How you know you’re triggered (you will be surprised by some of these 😉) - How your triggers are linked to your “bad” habits - How to stop getting triggered + how to manage them when you do Check out the Triggers Toolkit here! https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/triggerstoolkit Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

WOW this episode was pure fire. On this episode of Free Your Fierce, myself and the one and only powerhouse, multi-business owner and Mother Rochene Hawley from Women in Strength chat about building a business that’s in alignment with who you are and cutting the BS tactics you think you need  to make it work. There’s an amazing journaling question at the end of the episode, so make sure you listen all the way through! Tune in to hear about: What it takes to be in alignment and show up authentically Why you DON’T need a big audience to have a successful business How challenging yourself in other areas can make you more successful in business The biggest thing holding you back in your business when showing up online How to start to be an authentic based business If you want to connect with Ro, please jump over to her IG: @womeninstrength__ Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me + Ro on instagram @complete_bycaitlin @womeninstrength__

This is a SPICEY episode where I’m calling out your BS high standards, perfectionism and unrealistic goals. This is one of the biggest forms of sabotage I see and it seems ‘fine’ because it feels legit - right? Wrong. Tune in to find out how and why we sabotage ourselves through ‘high standards’ and what to do instead. I’m also running my 2022-UNLOCKED masterclass! There will be a replay available - you can jump in here: https://completebycaitlin.com/2022-unlocked You can also jump on the waitlist to work with me and grab the pre sale for Embodied Queen here: https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/waitlist-to-work-with-me Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

Today we are chatting all things around why we don’t do or resist the things we KNOW will help us. This is something I have seen in myself, my clients, and pretty much everyone I have ever met! Tune in to learn: Why we don’t do the things that we KNOW will help us What to do about this self-sabotaging pattern. Some easy journaling prompts to get you started on shifting this! Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

Today we are chatting all things stress and overwhelm! In the world we live in, this is so common for us to experience and so many of us have no idea what to do except lean on our unresourceful coping strategies (eating, drinking, etc) In today’s episode I’m going over: Why we get overwhelmed The 2 stages of overwhelm Long and short term strategies for dealing with overwhelm What to do with your big goals when you’re overwhelmed Enjoy this episode! And If you love it please screenshot and share + tag me on instagram @complete_bycaitlin

In today's episode I cover: Why we don’t listen to our intuition. What to expect when you start following it. How to manage the changes that come with following your intuition If you’re struggling to follow your intuition and want to know how, then join IGNITE and I’ll show you all the tools to integrate your shadow so you can follow your intuition, stand in your truth and be your most powerful, authentic self. https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/ignite-sales

On today's episode I have a super special guest! Kiara is a client of mine who did IGNITE in May '21 She has created such an incredible transformation within herself, how she feels and what she now believes she can accomplish that I knew I had to get her in for you guys to hear from her. If you're wanting to do shadow work, and see what it's all about, join me for IGNITE where we will transform your whole live, from the inside, out. JOIN IGNITE HERE -> https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/ignite-sales

Today I give you a bit of a tough love speech. I have see so many women living in this world of 'should' even when their body and minds scream NO and then they wonder why they are unhappy. This is to wake you up to the BS construct of should and step you into CAN and WANT. If you love this episode please share it on IG and tag me @complete_bycaitlin Feel free to also message me any questions or feedback you have :) 

This week we are talking all things triggers and how to use them as a portal to wholeness and growth rather than avoiding them like the plague. Doing the work I talk about in this episode has radically altered how I feel about myself and how well I can now lean into discomfort these days. Tune in to learn exactly how to change your life, find self-compassion and your authentic self using your triggers. If you want to join the Triggers toolkit head here: https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/triggerstoolkit Jump on the waitlist for IGNITE here: https://completebycaitlin.mykajabi.com/ignite-sales