Inside The Mind Of An Addict

Getting a loved one into treatment often feels like the finish line—but it’s actually just the beginning. In this episode, we break down why treatment alone is not the goal. Sobriety and long-term recovery are. Using a powerful lunar module metaphor, we explain why detox and a 30-day program can’t carry someone all the way to lasting change—and what must be in place after traditional treatment for recovery to truly stick. We talk through the critical gap families fall into once treatment ends, why things often unravel at home, and how lack of post-treatment planning quietly sets people up to fail. If you’re afraid to “rock the boat,” unsure what accountability should look like, or exhausted from holding everything together, this conversation helps you zoom out, think strategically, and build a recovery plan that actually lasts. Resources mentioned in this episode: High-Functioning Families Membership:https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership One-on-One Consultations:https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations Beyond Boundaries Program:https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/beyond-boundaries-1 This episode is for families who don’t just want someone to complete treatment—but want real, sustainable recovery on the other side.

Trust doesn’t come back through treatment, promises, or apologies—it comes back through proof. If you’re a functional alcoholic trying to rebuild trust with your family, or you’re living with someone whose drinking has damaged trust, this episode is for you. In this live stream, Amber breaks down why saying “just trust me” rarely works after broken promises—and what actually helps families start to feel safe again. You’ll learn the critical difference between accountability and surveillance, and why confusing the two often keeps families stuck in conflict. This episode also explores practical, real-world tools for high-functioning people with drinking problems, including how to demonstrate sobriety without rehab or AA, and what families need to see—not just hear—before trust can begin to rebuild. This video is sponsored by Soberlink, a remote alcohol monitoring system designed to rebuild trust through accountability rather than policing. Learn more at: https://www.soberlink.com/amber  Free Resources 📊 Free Self-Assessments (boundaries, communication, addiction severity, relapse triggers): https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/self-assessments  📥 Free Downloadable Recovery Resources: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources  👥 Free Facebook Support Group for Families: https://www.facebook.com/groups/familyrecoverysupport  Work With Us 🎯 1-on-1 Recovery Coaching with Amber: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/strengths-based-assessment  👨‍👩‍👧 Advanced Skills Group Coaching for Family Members (led by Kim & Campbell): https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership  💡 Motivation Unlocked Challenge (for partners of functional alcoholics in denial): https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivation-unlocked-challenge  📅 Book a Consultation with Our Specialists: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

In this episode, we’re diving into the wild, confusing, head-spinning stories we hear from clients every single day—and how they connect directly to the lies and mixed messages addiction feeds families. If you’ve ever thought, “This just doesn’t add up,” you’re not wrong. Addiction creates chaos. It scrambles logic, twists timelines, and leaves loved ones feeling confused or blindsided. But there are patterns. We break down the most common “schemes” addiction uses—things like: Deflecting and redirecting Emotional baiting Fake promises and temporary “turnarounds.” Minimizing or rewriting events Most of these behaviors aren’t intentional manipulation—they’re survival strategies that keep the addiction cycle going. Once you can see the pattern, you can finally respond from a place of clarity instead of panic. If you’re tired of feeling confused or constantly second-guessing yourself, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and how to move forward with confidence and calm. Additional Resources ☑️ Work 1:1 With a Specialist https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations  ☑️ Beyond Boundaries: Learn How to Set Limits That Actually Hold https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/beyond-boundaries-1   

Join me live as we dig into the unseen patterns that shape families coping with addiction. In this episode, we break down the covert dynamics—unspoken rules, silent agreements, emotional roles—that often keep families stuck in the same painful cycles. You’ll learn how these hidden forces can unintentionally block progress or open the door to real healing. By recognizing these patterns, you’ll be better equipped to create a healthier, more supportive environment for your loved one’s recovery—and your own. We’ll explore: • How family roles form around addiction • Why certain behaviors unintentionally fuel the cycle • What it takes to shift long-standing patterns • How awareness becomes the first step toward meaningful change If you're ready to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, this episode will give you a clearer map—and practical tools—to move forward. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES ☑️ Get Through To A Functional Alcoholic Spouse: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivation-unlocked-challenge  ☑️ Recovery Coaching With Amber: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/strengths-based-assessment  ☑️ Advanced Skills Group for People with Addicted Spouses, Sons, or Daughters: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership  ☑️ Soberlink: https://www.soberlink.com/amber  ☑️ Recommended Books (Amazon Affiliate Link): https://www.amazon.com/shop/addictionrecoveryresources-hopeforfamilies?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_YW5FBWTS2KYF9BWDX5EN

 Setting Yourself Up for a Calm, Low-Drama Holiday Season The holidays can bring joy, but they can also stir up stress, tension, and addiction-related challenges—especially when Thanksgiving kicks off the season. In this episode, we dive into practical, realistic strategies to help you stay grounded, reduce conflict, and support healthier dynamics in your home. Whether you’re navigating a loved one’s addiction or trying to protect your own peace, these tools will help you create a calmer, more connected holiday experience. You’ll learn how to: Set clear expectations before the big gatherings Prevent emotional triggers from taking over Maintain boundaries without guilt Support your loved one in a way that’s both compassionate and effective Protect your own well-being when things get tense If you want to move through the season with more confidence and less chaos, this episode is your starting point. Resources Mentioned ➡️ Beyond Boundaries: Self-Paced Online Course Learn how to set healthy, effective boundaries that protect your well-being and support recovery. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/beyond-boundaries-1 ➡️ Advanced Skills Membership Join live coaching calls, get deeper training, and connect with a supportive community navigating addiction recovery just like you. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership ➡️ Free Downloadable Tools & Guides Access worksheets, templates, and guides to help you manage addiction-related challenges during the holidays and beyond. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources ➡️ Book a Consultation Get personalized support from an addiction recovery specialist. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

Get Your Spouse to Face Their Alcohol Problem If you’ve ever wondered whether your spouse is truly ready to change—or just telling you what you want to hear—this episode will give you the clarity you’ve been craving. Amber breaks down the difference between genuine effort and manipulation, and shows you exactly how to spot the behaviors that signal real progress versus empty promises. You’ll learn why repeated cycles of hope, disappointment, and “one more chance” leave you feeling confused and emotionally drained—and more importantly, how to break out of that cycle. Amber shares a practical framework to help you make decisions with confidence, set boundaries without guilt, and respond from a place of strategy instead of fear or frustration. This conversation is especially for you if: You’ve said “this is the last time” more times than you can count You feel torn between compassion and the fear of being manipulated You can’t tell if your spouse is trying or just buying time You’re losing confidence in your own judgment Everyone around you has an opinion, and none of it feels helpful Amber walks you through how to trust your instincts, protect your peace, and still show up with love—without enabling the behavior that’s hurting your family. ✨ Get Your Spouse To Face Their Alcohol Problem: Motivation Unlocked Live Coaching Program https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivation-unlocked-challenge  ✨ Recovery Coaching With Amber: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/strengths-based-assessment  ✨ Advanced Skills Group for Families: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership  ✨ Soberlink: https://www.soberlink.com/amber 

How to Recognize and Stop Addictive Thinking We’re diving deep into the world of addictive thinking—the hidden patterns that drive destructive behavior and keep people stuck in the cycle of addiction. These thoughts often disguise themselves as “harmless” excuses or rationalizations, but they’re actually powerful defense mechanisms that fuel denial and relapse. Whether you’re in recovery, supporting a loved one, or just curious about how addiction hijacks the mind, this episode will help you spot addictive thinking before it takes control. 💡 In this episode, you’ll learn: The most common patterns of addictive thinking that keep people trapped. How to recognize self-deception and rationalizations that fuel addictive behavior. Why these thoughts feel so convincing—and how to challenge and replace them with clarity and truth. We’ll unpack real-life examples, explore the psychology behind these thought loops, and share actionable tools to help you break free from them once and for all. 📚 Additional Resources: 💥 Free Emotional Triggers Worksheet  👩‍⚕️ Make an Appointment with a Specialist  💪 Recovery Coaching with Amber  🔓 Learn How to Motivate a Functional Alcoholic to Change   

How Your Addicted Loved One Strategically Fuels Their Addiction Ever feel like your addicted loved one knows exactly how to push your buttons? In this episode, we’ll break down how people in active addiction often provoke emotional reactions as a way to keep their addiction alive — and how you can step out of that exhausting cycle. You’ll learn what’s really happening beneath those conflicts, how to stop taking the bait, and what to do instead to truly protect your peace and influence change. 💡 Resources Mentioned in the Episode: 👉 Beyond Boundaries: Self-Paced Online Course Learn how to set healthy boundaries that protect your well-being and support your loved one’s recovery. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/beyond-boundaries-1 👉 Advanced Skills Membership Access live coaching calls, advanced training, and a supportive community to help you navigate addiction recovery. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership 👉 Free Downloadable Resources Get tools and guides to help you manage addiction challenges in your family. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources 👉 Make an Appointment with a Specialist Get personalized guidance from one of our addiction recovery experts. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

Breaking Through Denial with a Functional Alcoholic Living with a functional alcoholic can be confusing and exhausting. On the outside, they may look like they’ve got it all together—holding down a job and handling daily responsibilities—but behind the scenes, the drinking is quietly taking a toll. The most frustrating part? Their denial. They truly believe they’ve got everything under control, and it can make you feel powerless to help. In this live discussion, we’ll unpack why functional alcoholics stay stuck in denial and explore effective ways to help them see the truth—without sparking defensiveness or conflict. You’ll learn practical, proven strategies to start real conversations and move your loved one toward genuine change. If you’re tired of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of what to do next, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop the cycle of denial and take steps toward healing and recovery. 👉 Ready to take the next step? Join the 5-Day Motivation Unlocked Challenge, designed to help you break through your loved one’s denial and inspire change. Don’t wait—sign up here: 🔗 Motivation Unlocked Challenge

  Podcast Summary: The 4 Key Signs of Solid Recovery Are you wondering if you’re truly on the path to recovery? In this episode, Amber breaks down the four key signs of solid recovery — the kind that goes far beyond simply staying sober. You’ll learn how to recognize the shift from addicted thinking to sober thinking, why connection, contribution, and creativity are essential parts of long-term healing, and how these elements show up in a healthy recovery journey. Whether you’re navigating recovery yourself or supporting someone you love, this conversation will help you spot real progress, build motivation, and stay grounded in what matters most. 💡 Want more resources to support your recovery journey? ✅ Soberlink: https://www.soberlink.com/amber 🔥 Amber’s 5-Day Challenge – Motivation Unlocked: For people with functionally alcoholic partners in denial → https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivation-unlocked-challenge  

Breaking the Cycle of Negative Engagement In this episode, we’re digging into one of the most common traps families fall into when dealing with addiction—negative engagement. You’ll learn how to spot the subtle ways you may be unintentionally fueling the problem and discover healthier, more effective ways to communicate and support recovery. We’ll walk through practical steps to help you build confidence, shift your mindset, and respond in ways that actually promote change instead of conflict. Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Beyond Boundaries: Self-Paced Online Course — Learn to set healthy boundaries that protect your peace and encourage recovery. 💬 Advanced Skills Membership — Join live coaching calls, gain access to advanced trainings, and connect with others on the same journey. 📘 Free Downloadable Resources — Get helpful guides and tools to navigate addiction in your family. 🧭 Make an Appointment with a Specialist — Receive personalized guidance from experienced recovery professionals. Tune in to learn how small changes in your approach can lead to big shifts in your relationship—and help you and your loved one find a healthier path forward.

Betrayal trauma can hit like an emotional wrecking ball—shattering trust, shaking relationships, and leaving you doubting yourself. But healing is possible. In this powerful episode, I sit down with betrayal trauma expert Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute, to explore the process of moving from heartbreak to healing. We’ll talk about the step-by-step journey of recovery, what transformation really looks like, and how to turn pain into personal power. Whether your experience comes from infidelity, addiction, or other forms of deception, this conversation offers the tools and insights you need to start rebuilding your life. 🔗 Learn more about Debi Silber: thepbtinstitute.com  ✨ Additional Resources for Recovery: Free Downloadable Resources  Free Family Recovery Support Group on Facebook  Make an Appointment with Our Specialists  The Invisible Intervention  BetterHelp Counseling (Get 10% off!)  Advanced Skills Membership  Family Recovery Academy Website  Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more insights on recovery and rebuilding stronger, healthier relationships.

Loving someone with an addiction can feel like living in a never-ending rinse and repeat cycle—exhausted, stuck, and unsure what to do next. In this episode, we dig into the hidden “realities” that keep families trapped: parenting guilt, cultural expectations, enabling patterns, and the constant fear of what might happen if you set boundaries. We explore how addiction and anxiety feed off each other, why families often feel damned if they do and damned if they don’t, and how misplaced guilt only deepens the exhaustion. You’ll hear real examples of how cultural norms, family dynamics, and mental health beliefs shape the way we respond—and why those responses often keep us in survival mode instead of moving toward peace. Most importantly, we share what it looks like to finally step off the hamster wheel, shift out of reactivity, and reclaim your energy. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still end up drained and defeated, this conversation will help you recognize your reality, rethink your approach, and discover practical tools to feel less exhausted and more empowered. Resources Mentioned in the Video: Beyond Boundaries: Self-Paced Online Course Learn how to set healthy boundaries that protect your well-being and support your loved one’s recovery. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/beyond-boundaries-1 Advanced Skills Membership Access live coaching calls, advanced training, and a supportive community to help you navigate addiction recovery. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership Free Downloadable Resources Get tools and guides to help you manage addiction challenges in your family. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources Make an Appointment with a Specialist Get personalized guidance from one of our addiction recovery experts. https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations  

Why You Keep Drinking (And How to Finally Stop the Cycle) Why do you do fine for a bit…then the wheels fall off? This episode breaks down the relapse loop—the trigger, the promise, the rationalization—and shows you how your brain quietly justifies “just one.” You’ll learn practical, science-backed strategies to interrupt cravings, outsmart self-talk, and build a repeatable plan so “doing better” isn’t a phase—it’s your new default. What you’ll learn The 3-step relapse pattern (trigger → vow → rationalization) and where to break it Why this isn’t about willpower (hello, brain shortcuts + reward circuitry) Micro-moves that snap you out of a craving in 90 seconds A simple Relapse Interrupt Plan you can use anytime, anywhere How to turn slip-ups into data, not drama Chapters 00:00 Hook: “Why do I keep doing this?” 01:30 The relapse loop you don’t see forming 06:15 Cognitive traps: “I deserve it,” “Just one,” “I’ve been good” 12:20 Craving toolkit: urge surfing, pattern breaks, 2-call rule 18:40 Build your Relapse Interrupt Plan (RIP) 24:00 From streaks to systems: making progress stick 28:30 Next steps + resources Key takeaways You don’t have a willpower problem; you have a pattern problem. Plan beats mood. Put the steps in writing and rehearse them once a day. A slip is information. Use it to strengthen your plan, not shame yourself. Resources mentioned Soberlink: https://www.soberlink.com/amber FREE Cheatsheet (Disputing Irrational Beliefs): https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/manifesting-recovery 30-Day Jump Start (Early Recovery): https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start Strength-Based Recovery Coaching: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/invisible-intervention Rapid Relationship Repair Course: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/rapid-relationship-repair 24/7 Counseling (10% Off): https://www.betterhelp.com/PutTheShovelDown Streaming tool: StreamYard ($10 off): https://streamyard.com/pal/d/4991328482492416

Your brain is a master of tricks—and sometimes its biggest game is keeping you stuck in the very habits you want to break. In this episode, we dive into the sneaky ways your mind works against you, using rationalization, minimization, and self-deception to make bad choices feel “not that bad.” If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll quit tomorrow” or “It’s not really a problem,” you’ll learn why those thought patterns are so powerful, how they develop, and—most importantly—how to outsmart them. By shining a light on these mental traps, you’ll gain the tools to stop justifying unhealthy cycles and start making choices that align with the life you actually want. This episode is your guide to breaking free from self-justification and taking back control of your decisions. Resources Mentioned 💜 Recovery Coaching With Amber 💜 Free Addiction Recovery Resources 💜 Advanced Skills Membership for Families 💜 Family Recovery Academy Website

Do you struggle with recognizing when you need boundaries—or feel like you just can’t hold onto them once you set them? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re digging into: Why boundaries can feel so confusing and difficult The hidden reasons you may resist setting them (even when you know you need to) What’s really happening when you cave, bend, or abandon your boundaries The mindset shift that can help you finally start protecting your peace If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep letting this happen?” or “Why can’t I stick to my boundaries?”—this conversation is for you. 💡 Ready to go deeper? Check out my Beyond Boundaries course, designed to help you learn how to set healthy boundaries and actually keep them: 👉🏻 Beyond Boundaries  ✨ Additional Resources: Enroll Here: Learn Why Boundaries Are So Hard  Beyond Boundaries Course  Special Offer Access

Why Most Recovery Plans Fail (and How to Build One That Lasts) Why do so many recovery plans fall apart? In this episode, I’m breaking down the key ingredients to creating a recovery plan that actually works—and sticks. Whether you’re in recovery yourself or supporting a loved one, this is the truth about what it takes to achieve lasting success. We’ll cover the most common mistakes people make, the mindset shifts that change everything, and the practical steps you can take to build a recovery strategy that’s sustainable for the long haul. If recovery has ever felt like an uphill battle—or if you’re tired of plans that don’t deliver—this episode is for you. 💡 Ready to take the next step? Check out Amber AI, the revolutionary tool designed to help individuals and families navigate recovery with clarity, confidence, and compassion: 👉🏻 https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/24-7-coaching-with-amber-ai Additional Resources: ✅ Free Downloadable Resources: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources ✅ Family Recovery Support Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/familyrecoverysupport ✅ Make an Appointment with a Specialist: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/make-an-appointment ✅ Learn More About the Invisible Intervention: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/invisible-intervention ✅ Get Advice Anytime with Amber AI: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/24-7-coaching-with-amber-ai

Have you ever been called too emotional, clingy, or even codependent because of the way you responded to a loved one’s addiction or betrayal? Here’s the truth: emotional reactivity in those situations isn’t codependency—it’s a trauma response. In this episode, we dive into the critical difference between codependency and PTSD caused by betrayal trauma. When you’re living with someone struggling with addiction, it’s not uncommon to experience broken trust, lies, and emotional chaos. The rollercoaster you’re on isn’t because you’re overly attached—it’s because you’ve been hurt by someone you trusted. You’ll learn: What betrayal trauma actually is Why trauma responses are often misunderstood (and mislabeled as codependency) How living with addiction impacts your nervous system and emotional responses First steps you can take to begin healing and reclaiming your peace If you’ve ever felt dismissed or judged for your emotions, this conversation will help you reframe your experience and remind you that your pain is valid. ✨ Resources Mentioned in This Episode Soberlink Alcohol Monitoring System https://www.soberlink.com/amber  Betrayal Trauma Healing Program (Dr. Debi Silbers) https://mypbtinstitute.com/~access/a14c2436f/  Free Downloadable Resources https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources  Family Recovery Support Group (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/groups/familyrecoverysupport  Schedule an Appointment https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/make-an-appointment  Learn About the Invisible Intervention https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/invisible-intervention  Get Advice Anytime with Amber AI https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/24-7-coaching-with-amber-ai

The Secret Life of High-Functioning Addiction On the surface, high-functioning alcoholics and addicts seem to have it all together—successful careers, stable families, and a polished exterior. But behind closed doors, there’s often a hidden world of planning, hiding, and emotional turmoil that most people never see. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the secret life of high-functioning addiction. You’ll learn: The subtle signs that are often missed The internal battles they fight daily The steps toward lasting recovery Whether you’re living this reality yourself or you love someone who is, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools you need to move forward. 🔗 Additional Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode Visit Our Website: familyrecoveryacademy.online FREE Downloadable Resources: Click here Advanced Skills Membership for Families: Learn more Amber's Free 30-Day Jump Start Series: Start today Amber AI - Your On-Demand Recovery Coach: Try it here Schedule a Consultation: Book now Strength-Based Recovery Coaching with Amber: Explore here Learn About the Invisible Intervention: Discover more Recommended Reads: View on Amazon

Why Your Efforts Aren’t Working—And What To Do Instead Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you're just not getting through to your addicted loved one? In this episode, Kim and Campbell from the Family Recovery Academy break down why your current approach might not be working—and what to do about it. You’ll learn: The psychology behind ineffective engagement When to lean in and when to step back How to shift your strategy to reduce stress and improve outcomes—for you and your loved one Whether you're just starting your journey or you've been at this for years, this episode gives you clear, actionable tools to move forward with confidence and compassion. 👥 Work with Kim and Campbell: ⭐ Kim’s Page ⭐ Campbell’s Page ✅ Join Their Advanced Recovery Group