deeper with dani

Today’s episode unpacks the now-deleted post from Low Brow Casual Restaurant, who should probably change their name to Low Blow. Besides this issue, I share how you can obtain a PWD ID, who qualifies, and what bigger concerns face us in this mandated system that’s supposed to look out for people living differently. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/therapyfortakeout for podcast suggestions/messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com

happy new year! today’s episode is a collection of reflections on friendship, from making friends, to maintaining them, to even ending them. ⁠jusdani.substack.com⁠ ⁠instagram.com/therapyfortakeout⁠ for podcast suggestions/messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com

Yet another audio recording of a blog post from my Substack. This month will be spent uploading audio recordings of my favorite posts this year. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani instagram.com/therapyfortakeout

Online communities have become an avenue for people to seek emotional support, and the internet turns into a public jury that determines whether what we are feeling is valid or not. While this can be helpful, focusing on how valid our feelings are in the eyes of others can get in the way of trusting our own judgment. On this episode, I share some introspective questions you can ask yourself instead of, ‘Are my feelings valid?’ For inquiries and collaborations: dearjusdani@gmail.com instagram.com/therapyfortakeout

What’s an occupational therapist for? How do I tell my therapist that I might be neurodivergent? And when exactly are we supposed to start medication? These are some questions that I answer on today’s episode :-) dearjusdani@gmail.com instagram.com/notjusdani

Here are some of my thoughts on how using therapy speak becomes a problem, and what we could do to address the hyper-individualism that comes out of exploiting the language of mental that we learn from therapy and social media. Is Therapy-Speak Making Us Selfish? The Rise of Therapy Speak

Happy Valentine’s Day! In this week’s episode, I talk about three studies that aim to understand the whimsical dynamics of intimacy, closeness, and relationships among adults. References: Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E., Vallone, R., & Bator, R. (1997). The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Personality and Psychology Bulletin, 23(4). 363-377. https://doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167297234003 Villafuerte, S. (2023). ‘To grow old with you’: Mentally healthy behaviors of older adults. 10.31124/advance.23642922.v1. Hudson, N., Lucas, R., & Donnellan, M. (2020). The Highs and Lows of Love: Romantic Relationship Quality Moderates Whether Spending Time With One’s Partner Predicts Gains or Losses in Well-Being. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 46(4). 572-589. For inquiries/collaborations: dearjusdani@gmail.com Follow the pod on IG: instagram.com/therapyfortakeout

Today’s young adults face a loneliness epidemic. In this episode I talk about how it’s affecting us and what we can do to deal with it. For collaborations and suggestions, email me at dearjusdani@gmail.com.

Taken from the Substack archive, this is a voiceover of one of the earliest pieces I have for my advice column, Dear Dani. In this episode, I talk about dealing with conflict as an avoidant and wanting to be there for your friends when you don’t have the emotional energy for issues outside of your own. Interested in having me process your situation and provide some insight? Send a voice message here or email me at dearjusdani@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram for updates: instagram.com/therapyfortakeout

The advice column is now on the pod! Occasionally I open my ask box on Instagram to have people send in their problems so that I can offer advice. On today's episode, I share what I think of new year’s resolutions (do they work?), shifting to a different program, and knowing your potential but not feeling motivated to realize it.

Why the saying “you deserve what you tolerate” is total bs, what we’re getting wrong about providing emotional support, and how we can be there for our stubborn friends without sacrificing our own mental health. instagram.com/therapyfortakeout dearjusdani@gmail.com

Happy new year! I have resurrected. This is a trailer/reintroduction, because it has been so long since the last episode and so much has changed. I’ve found a better direction for this project and I have new goals that I want to achieve here. In this episode, I share reasons why I’m rebranding and what you can expect from the pod in the coming weeks. Cover art by: @trashbin_machine on instagram

This week’s podcast episode is an attempt to understand the psyche of certain Aldub fanatics who recently went viral for exhibiting odd, cultish behavior. We now ask the question: where do we draw the line between fan clubs and cults? The journal I talk about in this podcast is called “FANatics: Systematic literature review of factors associated with celebrity worship, and suggested directions for future research” published in 2018 by Dr. Samantha K. Brooks.

Is it really your villain era or are you just learning to stand up for yourself? In this episode, I talk about what people pleasing is, signs of people pleasing behaviors, and ways to overcome this longstanding desire of putting other people’s needs above your own.

In celebration of being in therapy for over a year now, I talk about how you can prepare for your first therapy session, what my first session looked like, and other tips on how to make the most out of meeting your therapist for the first time.

So much talk about red flags, so little about green ones! Here I discuss 12 green flags in relationships to make sure that the grass is always green in places you choose to pour your presence into. I also gush about Dr. John Gottman, a modern psychologist who specializes in marriage and relationships and founder of the Gottman Institute.

Forgive me, Mother, for I have sinned! In this episode, I talk about Catholic upbringing: how it has affected my mental health, why people use faith to cope in trying times, and what research has to say about religion and spirituality in regard to overall wellbeing.

And we are back from the unannounced hiatus—I am back, rather! Sorry if that triggered anyone's abandonment issues. Though the internet is saturated with information about abuse, this episode lists down common signs of abuse that people don’t immediately notice until later on. Justine Danielle talks about why people stay in these kinds of relationships as well as what we can do to help that one friend to escape their toxic, manipulative, narcissistic partner.

In this episode, we talk about one of best things that bring people together: fandoms! We explore Jus and Shai's One Direction days as well as the world of K-Pop with Alex, and discuss how being part of a fandom gives us the serotonin boost we need.

TW: physical and psychological abuse One of the most interesting and easiest concepts to understand in psychology is the attachment theory. The idea is simple: our relationship with our primary caregiver in childhood shapes the way we explore our relationships. Depending on how much of our needs were met, this leads to 4 outcomes in our attachment: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. In this episode, we discuss how attachment styles impact all our other relationships, as well as how we can cope with problems that arise from insecure attachment. For inquiries and collaborations, hit us up at: plssaypsych@gmail.com. Follow us on instagram for updates: instagram.com/pleasesaypsychpodcast