Awake & Aligned

This month Dr. Phyllis is doing something meaningful for National Family Caregivers Month with a three part series, and today’s episode is the second conversation in that series. Dr. Phyllis leans into a topic that so many people overlook when they are stretched thin and overwhelmed. Your attitude and the heart posture God calls you to hold on to in the middle of hard seasons.When life feels heavy it becomes easy to slip into survival mode. Your perspective gets blurry, your reactions feel bigger than usual, and your sense of direction gets a little lost. In this episode Dr. Phyllis talks about how God uses these tough seasons to slow you down and gently reset the way you think, respond, and show up. She explains how your heart posture can shift your entire experience, why this matters so much for caregivers, and how small attitude changes open the door to renewed clarity and peace.If you are walking through a challenging season, this conversation will help you see how God meets you right in the middle of it and uses it to bring your perspective back into focus.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

When life feels heavy and the days start to blur together, it’s easy to slip into survival mode without even realizing it. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares encouragement for anyone walking through a difficult season and wondering how to keep believing when life feels too much.God meets us in the hard places not to break us but to restore us. Faith is easy to talk about when things are going well, but it’s in the testing that our faith grows deeper. Even when you feel stretched or unsure, this season will not last forever.Dr. Phyllis also walks through a simple self-coaching practice called the 3 Rs to help you move from numbness to renewal: Recognize where you’ve gone numb, Remember God’s presence, and Rebuild through small, steady steps of faith.You’re not failing. You’re growing. Don’t rush to get back to normal. Allow yourself to move through the process, trusting that God is in control. With His guidance, you’ll continue to grow, and He will do a new thing in you.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

You might notice something different about the podcast—new name, new season, new energy. Welcome to Awake and Aligned, where Dr. Phyllis guides you to step out of auto-pilot and start living fully present in your life and purpose.In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her own journey of being out of alignment and what it taught her about living awake. Purpose isn’t about striving or checking off boxes—it’s about choosing alignment for yourself, noticing when life has been on auto-pilot, and taking intentional steps to live fully engaged.We explore what it really means to listen between the lines of your life, why auto-pilot isn’t just a scheduling issue but a soul issue, and how small, mindful choices can bring you into alignment.This week’s reflection: Find a quiet moment and ask yourself, Where in my life have I been running on routine and auto-pilot instead of being fully engaged?Key Takeaways:Alignment is a choice, not a chase.Auto-pilot is a soul problem, not just a schedule problem.Living awake is possible when you slow down, notice, and act intentionally.Tune in to hear Dr. Phyllis share stories and insights that will inspire you to step into your next chapter fully awake and aligned.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

We all have those days where nothing goes according to plan and life feels messy and out of rhythm. But what if those moments are not setbacks, but invitations to shift your focus?In this episode, Dr. Phyllis reminds us that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is keep showing up. It is not about being perfect, it is about being persistent.She shares how she had to let go of perfectionism and learn to realign with what truly matters. Through prayer, pause, and perspective, she invites us to reset, simplify our expectations, and focus on faithfulness instead of flawlessness.You will hear practical ways to pause and invite God into the moment, let go of unrealistic expectations, extend grace when you fall short, and refocus on what actually needs your attention today.God never asked us to be perfect, only present. When life feels like it is unraveling, choose to show up anyway. Breathe, reset, and remember that you cannot walk in peace if you are punishing yourself for being human.Listen in for encouragement, truth, and a reminder that persistence is its own kind of progress.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

When life feels heavy, our heads naturally bow. Our shoulders tense, our hearts race, and we try to push through. But what if the most sacred thing you could do in that moment isn’t to keep going — it’s to pause and look up?In this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to take what she calls a holy pause . A simple act of releasing control and reconnecting with peace. She shares her personal story of learning to breathe again when life felt out of control and how one intentional look up changed everything.Through her powerful B.R.E.A.T.H. practice:Be still. Release control. Engage your breath. Acknowledge. Thank Him. Hold peace.Dr. Phyllis reminds us that every breath can become a sacred reset for your soul.Before you dive into your to-do list, take a moment to pause and breathe. This short practice could transform the way you move through your day and remind you who’s truly holding it all together.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed or stretched thin, this episode will help you slow down, lift your gaze, and find peace right where you are.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

Ever felt like you’re doing all the right things, serving, praying, showing up, and still feel spiritually tired? Like your faith is running on autopilot? You’re not alone. Many of us find ourselves moving through the motions, doing for God but forgetting to simply be with Him.In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares what happens when faith becomes performance driven instead of presence filled. She talks about that inner tension between our Martha and Mary selves, the part of us that loves to serve and the part that longs to rest at Jesus’ feet. Both matter, but sometimes one needs to pause so the other can breathe.Dr. Phyllis also shares her simple yet powerful SIT framework to help you slow down and reconnect with God in a meaningful way.S means Stop the SpinI means Invite God InT means Take a SeatThis isn’t about doing more, it’s about being more present. Because being busy for God isn’t the same as being with God. When we pause long enough to listen, stillness turns into strength, and faith begins to flow from a place of overflow instead of depletion.If you’ve been running on spiritual empty, this conversation will remind you that God doesn’t need your performance, He wants your presence.http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

Have you ever sat down, ready to rest — maybe with your coffee and Bible in hand — and before you know it, you’re scrolling through your phone, your mind already chasing the next thing? You wanted peace, but somehow ended up feeling more restless.In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about a struggle so many high-achieving women face: wanting stillness but finding it hard to stop. She shares how her own moments of “rest” often turn into distractions and how losing her mother deepened her understanding of what it really means to pause. Through honest reflection and gentle wisdom, Dr. Phyllis helps us see that rest isn’t the absence of activity but it’s the presence of awareness.You’ll learn practical steps for reclaiming rest in your everyday life: preparing your space, removing distractions, acknowledging the discomfort of stillness, uncovering the deeper “why” behind your urge to stay busy, and surrendering that constant search for more. Instead of resisting silence, Dr. Phyllis invites you to welcome it — to let God meet you there and fill those pauses with peace instead of noise.If you’ve ever found yourself reaching for your phone instead of your breath, or filling your quiet moments with more doing, this episode will remind you that true rest is possible and it starts with learning how to simply be still and know.Quotes from Today’s Episode:“When we fill our pauses with scrolling, planning or busyness, we unintentionally trade presence for distraction and call it downtime.""I believe that when we do this, we're avoiding stillness. Just like me, I was feeling the pause instead of feeling it. God was right there waiting for me at that moment. But I was looking everywhere else."http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

Have you ever woken up already exhausted, wondering how you’ll make it through a day that feels heavier than the one before? Have you ever felt like you’re walking in the shadows, carrying more than your soul can handle, and wondered if God even sees you there?Dr. Phyllis shares a deeply personal message about walking through the valleys of life and leaning on God’s presence when the weight feels unbearable. Drawing from her experience as a healthcare leader during the height of the pandemic, balancing unexpected caregiving responsibilities for her mother, and navigating the emotional fallout of personal and professional challenges, she opens up about what it truly means to hold on when life feels overwhelming.Through this story, Dr. Phyllis reflects on the autopilot mindset many of us fall into—reacting to life instead of being fully present—and the moment she realized she couldn’t carry everything alone. Psalm 23:4 became a guiding light.If you’ve ever felt overburdened, isolated, or unsure of how to move forward, this episode is a reminder that you are not forsaken. You’ll hear honest, heartfelt encouragement to pause, release the weight you’ve been holding, and lean fully into God’s guidance—even in the seasons that feel darkest.She introduces the “HOLD” approach for getting through tough seasons:Honor the weight you feelOpen your heart to God's presenceLean on small steps of faithDeclare the valley as temporaryWhether you’re juggling multiple roles, navigating personal loss, or simply need hope in a difficult season, this conversation will inspire you to keep moving forward, one step at a time, with faith that you are seen, held, and supported.Quotes from Today's Episode:“God's presence makes the difference in your life. And so I want you to remember that you may be feeling burdened, but you're not forsaken. It's just a season.”Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

​​In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about navigating a season of life that looks very different from what she once imagined—balancing the care of a loved one, managing her household, stepping into retirement after decades in medical practice, and tending to her own personal and spiritual growth. With so many demands pulling her in different directions, she’s faced the reality of an ever-growing to-do list.Dr. Phyllis shares how she’s learning to shift her perspective: rather than measuring her worth by what gets done, she’s embracing “grace for the gaps”—the space between what we plan and what actually happens. She encourages listeners to be fully present, release unrealistic expectations, and allow God’s timing to shape their days instead of living on autopilot.Dr. Phyllis reminds us that showing up with love, embracing interruptions, and serving others is deeply fulfilling and aligns with God’s rhythm.Practical guidance in this episode includes her FLOW method:F: Filter the frustration – acknowledge it, but don’t let it control your day.L: Let go of the list – your worth isn’t determined by unchecked boxes; release them to God.O: Open to the opportunity – notice what did happen and the ways God might be working through unexpected moments.W: Walk in grace – reset your day according to God’s rhythm, not resentment.Dr. Phyllis encourages listeners to journal one thing they need to release and one unexpected blessing they can be thankful for. She closes with Proverbs 16:3, a reminder that trusting God with our plans brings peace and purpose.This episode is a heartfelt reminder to give yourself grace, stay present, and trust that God fills the gaps with His perfect timing.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"It's so easy says to measure our worth by what got checked off instead of how present we were with what really mattered.""When we measure the day only by what didn't get done, we stay stuck in resentment and frustration. But when we shift into God's rhythm, we can reset, release the gaps, and recognize the grace and flow of life."Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams00:00 Unexpected Retirement Challenges04:35 "Finding Home and Presence"09:59 Embrace God's Rhythm for Fulfillment14:52 "Staying Joyful and Fulfilled"18:04 "Commit to the Lord's Guidance"

Ever feel like a past season of life was wasted? On this episode of the Own Your Yes Podcast, Dr. Phyllis reminds listeners that nothing is ever wasted when a yes is placed in God’s hands. What felt like a detour, delay, or dead end may actually have been preparation for a future breakthrough.Dr. Phyllis shares a story about a dying key fob battery that became a powerful example of how past “failures” or missteps can equip us for the present. Every skill, lesson, and challenge contributes to growth and readiness for what comes next, even when it isn’t obvious at the time.Listeners will learn the PREP approach—Perspective, Remember, Equip, Purpose—to reframe past seasons as seed time rather than wasted time. This episode encourages journaling, reflection, and reclaiming the value in past experiences.Romans 8:28 reminds believers that all things work together for good. Through this episode, Dr. Phyllis emphasizes that every yes, every effort, and every season in life has meaning and purpose.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"Practice speaking life into your past by affirming that season equipped me for today and the future."Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams00:00 "Embrace Life's Purposeful Seasons"05:01 "Revise Frustration: Embrace Preparation"08:49 "Nothing Wasted: Trust Your Journey"

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately wondered if you belong there? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how embracing your God-given worth allows you to show up confidently—without waiting for anyone else’s validation.She takes you through her personal story of feeling out of place and the moment it clicked: belonging isn’t about permission; it’s about recognizing the value God has already placed in you. Dr. Phyllis introduces her WORTH framework—Walk in truth, Own your space, Release the gaze, Trust God’s design, and Hold your head high—to help you step into every room knowing you belong.This episode will guide you to stop apologizing for your presence, release fear of judgment, and carry yourself with confidence grounded in truth. Dr. Phyllis also shares journaling prompts and a scripture from Psalm 139:14 to help you internalize your worth and speak it over yourself daily.You were created intentionally, and your presence matters. Say yes to your worth, trust God’s design, and watch how your confidence transforms every space you enter.Quotes from Today’s Episode:“To know your worth so deeply that you don't need anyone else's validation to take up space."Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams​​00:00 Unsettling Salon Stare03:37 Uncomfortable Stare Encounter06:57 "The Worth Approach: Embrace Self-Worth"10:39 "Self-Worth and Belonging Journaling"

What if the stories that once held you back could actually become stepping stones toward healing and growth? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how rewriting old narratives doesn’t require a grand moment—sometimes it starts with something as simple as trying avocado toast after decades of avoidance.Through her personal story, Dr. Phyllis shows how small acts of courage, curiosity, and self-compassion can help us shift the way we relate to our past. You don’t have to erase what’s happened—you only need to reclaim your present.She also introduces her REDO framework:R – Revisit with curiosityE – Extend yourself compassionD – Do one small brave thing at a timeO – Open to new possibilitiesWhether it’s in a relationship, your career, or everyday choices, the old narratives don’t have to define you anymore. Healing starts with just one small step.Ask yourself: What story are you still letting define you? This week, take one small step to let go of the past and rewrite how it shows up in your present.Quotes from Today’s Episode:“You don't need to erase the past. You just need to reclaim your present”“When you give yourself permission to take small steps of healing in the present, you allow the past to lose its power over you”Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams​​00:00 "Finding Peace in Avocado Toast"05:54 Overcoming Childhood Avocado Misconception08:03 "Embracing Avocado: A Vegan's Journey"12:49 "Rewriting Past Narratives"17:21 "Reclaim Your Story: Small Steps"18:56 Purpose and Response

Ever notice how heavy life feels when everything on your list turns into a “have to”?I have to get up early. I have to go to work. I have to make dinner. I have to take care of everyone else. When life is framed this way, it can start to feel exhausting and joyless.In this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to flip the switch—to shift from living in obligation to living with opportunity. Instead of “I have to,” you begin to say, “I get to.” That one small change can completely reframe how you see your day.She walks you through practical steps to help you do this: grounding yourself in gratitude, noticing where you’re feeling depleted, filtering and triaging what’s really important, and making space for what God is calling you to do.What if instead of saying, “I have to go to work,” you reframed it as, “I get to use my skills”? That mindset shift can open the door to peace, presence, and even joy—right in the middle of everyday life.This conversation will encourage you to slow down, breathe, and remember that joy isn’t found in the hustle of checking off your to-do list. It’s found when you choose to flip the switch.Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

Life doesn’t always go as planned, and it’s so easy to get stuck in frustration, discouragement, or regret. But joy isn’t something you have to wait for—it’s something you can choose today. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how to say yes to joy and gratitude, even in the middle of the chaos.She talks about what it looks like to anchor yourself in joy when everything feels overwhelming, how to break through the clouds of gloom that try to overshadow your peace, and why gratitude is the daily voice that can shift everything.Dr. Phyllis explores what it means to own your yes—to stand in who you are, own your story, and stay present. And even when life feels heavy, we can choose the declaration of “yet”—yet I will rejoice, yet I will be grateful, yet I will find joy.If you’ve been feeling depleted or disappointed, this episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and ask yourself: Where can I say yes to joy today?This conversation with Dr. Phyllis will empower, inspire, and remind you that God is always present—guiding you to gratitude, joy, and transformation.Quotes from Today’s Episode:“Joy doesn’t have to be something you wait for”Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

In this 100th episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the truth that joy is not found in perfectly executed plans, but in presence, purpose, and flexibility. Drawing on decades of experience in medicine, personal reflections, and wisdom from her late mother, she shares how to release control and adopt a “flex and flow” mindset that creates space for authentic joy—even when life goes off-script.Through stories from her own journey and insights gained from serving as a hospice physician, Dr. Phyllis reveals the importance of focusing on what truly matters, letting go of the illusion of control, and opening yourself to the present moment. She introduces the FLOW framework:F: Focus on what truly mattersL: Let go of the illusion of controlO: Open yourself to the momentW: Weigh the worth of your “yes”This episode is especially relevant for high-achieving Christian women navigating the tension between doing and being. It offers practical ways to shift from rigidity to flexibility, fostering fulfillment in both personal and professional roles.A milestone episode dedicated to growth, resilience, and living a life aligned with God’s calling.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"Joy doesn't come from everything going as planned. It comes from the moments we stop forcing and we start flowing and we allow space for what truly matters."(00:00) "Finding Fulfillment and Letting Go"(05:06) "Matriarch's Legacy and Reflection"(10:51) Finding Joy in Life's Transitions(12:57) Embracing Change and Saying Yes(18:56) "Balancing Parenting and Personal Growth"(22:12) "Creating Quality Family Time"(24:24) "Embrace Flow, Find Joy"(30:33) Presence Over Perfection(32:24) "Embrace Flexibility in Unexpected Times"(35:05)"Celebrating 100 Episodes Together"Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

​​In this episode, Dr. Phyllis dives into a powerful message about the difference between good intentions and purposeful action. She explores how good intentions, while well-meaning, can sometimes pull us away from our true purpose—especially when they start to drain our energy, disrupt our finances, or take us off course.Dr. Phyllis shares how to honor your good intentions without letting them override what really matters to you right now. She guides you through an approach to discern whether your “yes” is truly serving your purpose or secretly draining your power.You’ll learn the POWER method to take back your energy and realign your choices:Pause before you purchase or pledgeOwn your intentionWeigh the costExamine for overloadRecommit to purposeThis framework helps you make decisions and say yes from a place of alignment — not anxiety.If you’re ready to stop letting good intentions drain your energy and start making choices that truly serve you, this episode is for you.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"Sometimes our yes is rooted in a fear of missing out, falling short, or failing someone we love. But what if those good intentions are quietly pulling us off our purpose?""Let your yes come from alignment with your purpose, not anxiety”(00:00) Balancing Life, Family, and Cooking(04:00) Appliance Overload Dilemma(10:27) Identifying Energy Drains(14:06) "Own Your Intentional Yes"(17:27) Embracing the Joy of Missing Out(18:40) "Overcoming Scarcity Mindset"(22:05) Empowered Decisions: Yes or Overload?(25:54) Farewell BlessingsLet’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey from constantly running on a treadmill of doing, achieving, and chasing the next crisis—toward a life that feels more peaceful, grounded, and fulfilling. She talks about the moment she realized work is just a means to an end, not the core of her identity, and how learning to slow down changed everything.When we’re always striving, we miss what’s right in front of us. Presence, she shares, isn’t just a nice idea—it’s how we actually experience the life we’ve been praying for. The joy, the peace, the fulfillment—it’s already here. We just have to stop long enough to notice it.Dr. Phyllis introduces a powerful approach to living in the moment using the acronym SAVOR:S – Slow down your thoughts. Be where your feet are.A – Acknowledge the moment. Ask: Where am I right now?V – Voice your desire.O – Open yourself to win. Celebrate even the small victories.R – Rejoice in the moment.This episode is an invitation to stop chasing and start savoring. Because presence isn’t passive—it’s something we practice. And it’s what helps us feel fully alive.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"Trying to be the martyr is overrated and underappreciated and just not sustainable as well.""Creating presence is the key to having joy, is the key to having joy. It's the key to finding moments of peace."(00:00) "Reclaim Purpose, Redefine Identity"(03:1) "Sustainable Productivity Over Frantic Martyrdom"(06:20) Embracing Life Beyond Work(10:21) "From Doing to Being Fulfilled"(15:30) "Embrace the Present Moment"(18:15) Celebrate Small Wins(22:48) Finding Fulfillment in PresenceLet’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

You can be loyal and still feel lost. Faithful but unfulfilled. Stuck in something that once felt right—but now just feels heavy.In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is talking about the quiet discomfort of staying in a role, relationship, or responsibility that no longer fits. When your “yes” begins to drain you instead of energize you, it may be time to pause and ask: Is this still aligned with what God is doing in me now?Recently on a walk, I was reminded that loyalty without inspiration starts to feel like obligation. That nudge led me to this simple framework to help process when it's time to release something—even if it still looks “good” on the outside.The A.C.T. Framework:A – Acknowledge the expired yesC – Clarify what inspires you nowT – Take permission to transitionLet this be your permission to reflect, realign, and take the next step—one that’s rooted in purpose, not pressure.Journal Prompts to Go Deeper:What am I currently saying yes to that no longer inspires or energizes me?Am I staying in this situation out of fear, guilt, or obligation?What part of me is afraid to let go—and what would help me feel safe to release it?What currently inspires me? What am I curious or excited about that I’ve been ignoring?If I believed God had something new for me, what would I begin to release to make room for it?Quotes from Today’s Episode:“Loyalty without inspiration becomes obligation. And obligation without alignment leads to depletion.”00:00 "Aligning Your Yes with Now"05:50 Thriving with Scleroderma: A Vegan Choice09:39 Vegan Dining Dilemma11:10 Choosing Fulfillment in Dining14:51 "Embrace Your New Season"18:14 Reflective Journal PromptsLet’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

Have you ever felt completely drained—even while doing everything “right”? You’re showing up, checking all the boxes, and still feel off. Dr. Phyllis calls this what it is: depletion. But depletion doesn’t always come from doing too much. It often comes from giving too much to the wrong things.We slowly get pulled into other people’s priorities, needs, and timelines—sometimes without even realizing it. Before long, we’re spending our energy on things God never actually asked us to carry. And that’s when the frustration, emptiness, and burnout show up. Depletion is often a sign of misalignment.In this episode, Dr. Phyllis offers a simple but powerful way to pause and reflect—a four-step process to help you realign your energy and return to what you’ve truly been called to steward.Step 1: Recognize what’s pulling at you.Step 2: Name what you’ve been handing over.Step 3: Reset the boundaries.Step 4: Refocus on what you’re called to steward.Dr. Phyllis reminds us that when God isn’t our GPS, we start handing our keys to the wrong drivers. And that’s when we lose direction. So ask Him again. Invite discernment back in. Reclaim your energy by keeping your yes aligned with your assignment.You weren’t made to run on empty. You were made to move forward—rooted in peace, fueled by purpose, and clear on what’s yours to carry.Quotes from Today’s Episode:“When you consistently give your energy to what God never assigns to you, you will feel overextended and under fulfilled."(00:00) Freedom Redefined Through Shared Keys(04:24) "Misalignment Leads to Depletion"(09:45) "Reclaim Priorities and Boundaries"(12:49) "God as Your GPS(18:10) Live Intentionally: Make Room

You’re the hero in everyone else’s story… but somewhere along the way, you became a ghost in your own. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is sharing a message that so many women need but rarely give themselves permission to hear: You are allowed to matter in your own life.When you spend your days caring for everyone else—your family, your team, your friends, your community—it’s easy to forget that you are a person with needs too. And if you're honest, sometimes meeting your own needs feels selfish. But it's not. In fact, you have to care for yourself if you want to keep showing up well for the people who need you most.Dr. Phyllis breaks down her powerful S.E.L.F. framework to help you reconnect with your purpose and joy:S – Silence your inner critic.E – Embrace your needs.L – Look for joy.F – Follow through.It’s not enough to just talk about caring for yourself. You have to take action.Dr. Phyllis knows what it’s like to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. But she also knows the power of deciding that your story matters, too. This is your permission to start saying yes to you. To stop running on empty. And to unlock the joy that’s been waiting for you all along.Quotes from Today’s Episode:"What if the key to unlocking true joy isn't about saying yes to more demands, but finally saying yes to you?""We as high achieving Christian women, we're always trying to pour into others and it can be very difficult for us to receive.(00:00) Revitalizing Routine: Makeup Boost(04:40) "Creating Personal Moments Amid Chaos"(08:33) Inclusive and Relaxing Salon Experience(11:57) "Prioritize Self-Care for Fulfillment"(13:57) "SELF: Silencing Inner Critic"(17:42) "Prioritize Self-Care and Joy"Let’s Connect:http://drphyllishayesreams.com/https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams