The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

જ⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!)  ➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz (Know your type so you do the right work)   10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship)  If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★ These are the sneaky little habits that wire your nervous system into ALERT MODE before you even speak to him. And no  it’s not always your partner. Sometimes it’s your life, your routines, your tiny micro-stressors… and they make your anxious attachment feel LOUDER.    Think: waking up + grabbing your phone… scrolling emails before coffee… seeing a cute couple video that makes your chest tighten… or drinking coffee on an empty stomach that tricks your brain into panic mode. Your nervous system remembers old patterns. It fires BEFORE your mind even notices what’s going on. And suddenly his “I’ll call you later” feels like danger. ⛈️ Inside this episode, I walk you through 13 micro-habits that unknowingly spike your relationship anxiety and keep you stuck in anxious patterns even when your relationship is actually fine. And yes… I give you TINY homework at the end so you can actually create change and start becoming your secure, calm, grounded self NOW… not “one day.” 🖤✨ ★   Homework inside the episode: pick 3 habits → track your body → switch 1 thing → watch your anxiety soften. Tiny shifts = BIG emotional regulation. 📓✨       💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching (Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching (Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Relationship Anxiety 02:23 Habit 01 03:20 Habit 02 04:29 Habit 03 05:03 Habit 04 05:55 Habit 05 06:44 Habit 06 09:49 Habit 07 10:52 Habit 08 12:11 Habit 09 13:43 Habit 10 15:07 Habit 11 *bonus 16:37 Habit 12 *bonus 17:16 Your HOMEWORK *to create REAL change and regulate       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   💎 Courses ON SALE:  ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     This episode blends my three most downloaded lessons on how to detach  from someone you love, from your ex, from the person whose approval you keep chasing, and from the outcomes that keep you anxious. Inside this replay you’ll get a mix of: ➞ how to detach from someone you love or loved ➞ how to stop chasing validation + approval ➞ how to detach from outcomes so your nervous system can breathe again If you’re stuck in that exhausting loop of: checking your phone waiting for a text replaying conversations craving reassurance attaching to their approval or feeling like your day depends on how someone else responds… …this episode will feel like a warm, honest reset.   Here’s what we go into together: ✶ why your brain stays attached even when YOU want to move on ✶ the belief that creates the most emotional pain ✶ 10 micro habits that make detachment feel doable, realistic, and natural ✶ how to communicate without spiraling or over-attaching ✶ why your anxiety has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your attachment system ✶ how to stop making everything personal ✶ how to choose your own approval first ✶ simple tools like the energy bubble, the validation vault, and the 30-second self check-in ✶ what real inner detachment looks like (without going cold or pretending you don’t care)   And I remind you of the truth: This isn’t about their reply speed, their energy, or their “mood.” This is about your anxious brain, your wiring, and your patterns  which YOU can change. If you want deeper support detaching from the obsessive thoughts, the texting anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance, both courses mentioned in this episode are still available in beta at a reduced price. You’ll get email support from me during the beta round too.     💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching (Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching (Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     CHAPTERS: 00:47 4 Steps to Detach emotionally from outcomes and people you love the most 35:07 How to detach from validation and others approval 1:09:15 How to detach from your EX (and people you loved)   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄 In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode and exactly how to flip the script 💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can feel powerful, magnetic, and fully YOU 🌙   🌟 What you’ll discover in this episode: Why your partner is just a chapter, not the whole book ✨ How to make tiny everyday actions feel cinematic and magical 13 practical rules to channel Main Character Energy immediately 💎 How to shift from anxious attachment to a secure, confident vibe Real-life examples and micro-moments to claim your power today   Think of your life like a movie 🎬 You’re the lead. You decide the plot. You control the energy. Not your partner. Not your past. Not anyone else 🦄 If you’re ready to stop reacting, stop shrinking, and show up fully as the main character of your life, this episode is your blueprint 🌙✨   💛 Free Stuff 🧠 Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz (Know your type so you do the right work) ➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🌙 Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   💬 Work 1:1 with Me 💎 Personal Coaching (Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy 📱 WhatsApp Coaching (Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Main Character Energy 01:35 Benefits of not being the side Character in your Story for your Anxious Attachment 03:16 Myth: "Main Character only works for Influencer or if you have time"" 06:36 Questions to Channel your MAIN CHARACTER energy 07:01 Secure Attachment And Main Character Energy 08:12 13 Practical Steps to Main Character Energy 08:36 Rule 01: Your partner is a chapter, not the entire book 09:10 Rule 02. Choose one signature thing. 09:50 Rule 03. Turn a boring household task into a movie scene. 10:53 Rule 04. Your inner voice is the “voiceover” of your movie 11:39 Rule 05. You are both actor and writer of your life 12:44 Rule 06. Give yourself a soundtrack 14:31 Rule 07. Romanticize the missing 15:56 Rule 08. Link your mood to a character instead of a flaw. 16:46 Rule 09. Add one cozy upgrade. 18:27 Rule 10. Walk like someone is watching your 19:08 Rule 11. Ask: “What would people on the couch SCREAM at you?" 20:26 Rule 12. Pause before reacting - see it like a chapter. 21:11 Key takeaways to remember         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

💛 Free Stuff Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz (Know your type so you do the right work) ➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching (Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching (Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   Feeling anxious, overlooked, or way too focused on your partner this Christmas? 🎄 This episode shows you why putting yourself FIRST is the thing that actually brings your partner closer… not further away. If you’ve been carrying the whole holiday on your shoulders… If you’re replaying his texts… If you’re trying to “make Christmas perfect” so he doesn’t pull away… this is the episode you’ve been needing.  You’ll hear the truth about what happens when you stop centering him… and start centering YOU.   You’ll learn: 🎁 why your nervous system is so triggered during the holidays ☕️ why your anxious brain wants him to fix everything 🎄 how de-centering him stops the chasing cycle 🕯 how boundaries actually create connection 🧣 how micro-traditions make you feel grounded again 💛 why focusing on your own joy makes you more magnetic, not “selfish”   This is for you if you’re tired of: ✨ waiting for him to make plans ✨ walking on eggshells around his mood ✨ feeling like Christmas depends on how much he shows up ✨ shrinking yourself so you don’t “ruin the vibe” Inside this episode, you’ll get the deeper WHY behind all of it... the attachment science, the anxious-avoidant patterns, the nervous-system piece all explained in simple, calm, friend-to-friend language. ✨🧣 You’ll hear the exact steps to: ✨ regulate YOUR body first ✨ create micro-joy without waiting for him ✨ set boundaries without guilt ✨ build traditions that center you ✨ stop chasing, over-functioning, and people-pleasing   And yes… we talk about the magic part: how de-centering him is what actually makes him come closer. Not because you’re playing a game… but because you’re finally full, calm, grounded, and in your own power. ✨🎄 If you want a lighter Christmas… a calmer body… a deeper connection without pressure… and a relationship that feels less like survival mode… this episode is your reset. Let it play while you wrap gifts, take a walk in the cold air ❄️, light a candle, drink your warm coffee ☕️ and feel the pressure melt off your body little by little. And if this hits home and you want help healing your anxious attachment… my 1:1 coaching and entry-level offers are open. You don’t have to spend another Christmas feeling like you’re “not enough.”    CHAPTERS: 00:00 Putting Yourself First This Christmas 01:06 1. You can create magic without him 04:15 2. Boundaries are love 12:14 3. Regulate your nervous system first 13:36 4. Micro-traditions that center YOU 17:52 5. Decentering him actually brings you closer 19:19 Closing pep note     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

…and the last one will shock you 7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman   How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️‍🩹📱 https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine. I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again - now that I’m securely attached and no longer chasing crumbs 💋ྀིྀི Inside this episode, you’ll learn:   ★ Why dating multiple people at once keeps you in CHOICE instead of obsession ★ How dating slow protects you from falling for “potential” ★ The reason secure women show up authentic fast, instead of performing ★ Why I wait for emotional safety before ANY intimacy ★ How to actually date head over heart (and stop confusing chaos for chemistry) ★ What detached energy looks like when you’re not in scarcity anymore ★ Why keeping your life the main event makes you more attractive instantly ★ And the extra rule that would SHOCK old me: I don’t initiate or follow up after early dates - ever   If you want to attract a secure, emotionally available partner… If you’re tired of overthinking texts, panicking after dates, or getting attached to someone you barely know… If you want to date from your POWER and not your fear… This episode is your roadmap  I’m sharing real stories, client examples, and the exact shifts that turn anxious dating into secure dating. This isn’t fluffy advice. These are the rules that create healthy, grounded, actual connection — not fantasy bonds.   🌷✨ Listen now if you want to stop chasing chemistry and start choosing compatibility.   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy     Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz       🖤 💆🏻‍♀️ How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     ▶️ Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Secure Dating Tips 00:34 7 Secure dating Tips (from an EX Anxious Attachment Girly) 00:44 Dating tip #01 03:57 Dating Tip #02 06:44 Dating Tip #03 08:40 Dating Tip #04 09:55 Dating Tip #05 11:41 Dating Tips #06 13:41 Dating Tip #07 17:23 Bonus Dating Tip #08 22:06 Remember THIS     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.   ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)   This episode might break your heart a little… but YOU need this little wake up call (because I would have THANKED anyone at least later realising this...) Because today I’m finally saying the part no one talks about. The part I wish someone told ME 10 years ago 🤎🔙 The REAL cost of anxious attachment 💔 Not the cute Instagram version. The actual impact. On your body. On your relationships. On your future. On the YEARS you can’t get back.     I’m sharing the stories my clients whisper to me. The things they regret. The “I wish I knew this earlier” moments that always hit the deepest. And the hard truth I learned myself… after becoming securely attached. Because anxious attachment isn’t just overthinking texts. It’s the rushing. The chest tightness. The stomach pain. The walking fast. The losing yourself in fear. The love you push away without realizing it. I’ll walk you through: the relationships people lose the friendships they break the years they spend chasing crumbs the life paths they delay the health issues no one connects to anxiety the moments you can’t re-do   And then… we go into the HOPE. Because it’s not too late. Not at 25. Not at 35. Not at 55. Not even at 80. ✨ You can STILL become secure. You can STILL feel calm. You can STILL create a life that feels like peace instead of panic. You can STILL rewrite your story. 🖤✨ If you’ve ever thought: “I wasted so much time…” “I ruined the best relationship I ever had…” “I don’t trust myself anymore…” “I don’t want to spend the next 10 years like this…” Then this episode is for you. 🤎✨ This is your wake-up moment. Your turning point. Your reminder that you deserve a life that feels soft, grounded, and safe. Listen now. Your future self is begging you to.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 The Journey to Secure Attachment 01:10 The COST of anxious attachment you DON'T realise.. 07:43 The everyday impact of Anxious Attachment 10:43 REAL life consequences that tear me up every time 14:46 What anxious attachment STEALS forever from you 15:35 What it takes to become secure 18:03 So is it too late be become securely attached?   FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.   ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   Ever feel like the SECOND your partner pulls away… your whole nervous system goes into full panic mode? 🖤✨ Like one canceled plan… one quiet day… one shift in tone… suddenly feels like the whole relationship is falling apart? I made this episode for you. Inside, I walk you through EXACT real-life moments my clients faced — the moments that used to send them into overthinking, people-pleasing, chasing, and feeling “not enough.” And then I show you how the secure version of you would handle those exact same moments. Simple. Calm. Clear. No drama. No chasing. Just grounded self-trust. You’ll hear: ★ What an anxious person does when someone cancels plans last minute ★ What a secure person does instead — even if it stings ★ How closeness freaks out your nervous system (not them) ★ Why avoidants pull away after intimacy ★ How to stop taking every shift personally ★ How secure people communicate… without fear ★ The small, everyday habits that turn anxious attachment into earned secure attachment   This isn’t a lecture. It’s literally the blueprint to becoming the secure version of you... the version who doesn’t panic, doesn’t chase, doesn’t assume the worst… and doesn’t lose herself just because someone else needs space. We’ll dive into: ➞ The FACTS vs. the stories your anxious brain makes up ➞ Why your body reacts like danger is coming (even when it’s not) ➞ How to soothe the panic BEFORE you text ➞ How to respond like someone who trusts themselves ➞ How to stop abandoning yourself when someone pulls back And I’ll walk you through my 4R Method... the exact steps that helped me go from anxious and terrified of being left… to fully grounded and secure in myself and my relationship. If you’re tired of feeling on edge, tired of overthinking the smallest things, tired of feeling like your partner’s mood controls your whole day… This episode will feel like a deep breath. Like someone holding your hand and saying, “Hey… you’re not crazy. You’re just scared. And here’s how we fix it.” 🖤✨ Listen in and tell me which “anxious vs. secure” moment hit home for you.     FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   CHAPTERS: 00:00 What does a Secure person do when an Avoidant Pulls away 02:52 ✶ SCENARIO 1: They cancel plans last minute 09:24 ✶ SCENARIO 2: They go quiet after an intimate weekend 15:44 ✶ SCENARIO 3: They’re distant during a hard week 19:05 ✶ SCENARIO 4: The Long-Term Pull-Away Avoidant 26:00 What’s REALLY Going On? 29:43 What To Do Instead     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.    

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist Feeling anxious in your relationship? Always worried about texts, attention, or being enough? You’re not alone. 😬 In this episode, I share 5 skills my clients used to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment style, feeling calm, confident, and safe in themselves and their relationships. ✨   Here’s a sneak peek: ➞ How noticing your feelings and taking action helped them stop overthinking ➞ Why letting yourself feel scared or frustrated actually made them stronger ➞ How making themselves happy first shifted their power and confidence ➞ Why taking space without panicking made their connection closer ➞ How small, consistent daily actions helped them feel unshakable These aren’t “just breathe” tips—they’re simple, real skills that helped my clients go from anxious to securely attached faster than they ever thought possible   If you want to finally stop the worry, feel safe, and build earned secure attachment in your relationship… this episode is for you. 🖤🧠   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   CHAPTER: 00:00 5 SKILLS to become securely attached 00:44 01 Self-Awareness like a BOSS (not hyper-vigilance) 10:08 02 They Stopped Fighting Their Feelings 21:19 03 Fulfilling Their Own Needs FIRST 28:18 04 Taking Space Without Overthinking 37:36 05 Consistency Over Perfection 42:58 BONUS Skill   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨ In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still keep their distance? You’ll get insights into the hidden fears and early experiences that shape how avoidants handle intimacy, emotions, and closeness.. and how you can respond in ways that stop the cycle of frustration and overthinking. 💎 By the end, you’ll start noticing patterns you never saw before, feel less like you’re doing something “wrong,” and understand how your reactions can either calm or trigger their core fears.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding the Avoidant Attachments Style: Core wounds 02:47 Core wound 01: I am trapped 06:41 Core Wound 02: I am Bad (Defective) 11:29 Core wound 03: I am losing control 15:40 Quick Summary 16:32 Homework for the Anxious Attachment Partner: ✨📝     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   #avoidantattachment #anxiousavoidantrelationship #emotionalsafety

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨ This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment? Why do you overgive, over-apologize, or shrink yourself just to feel secure? We’ll explore the hidden patterns and past experiences that secretly shape how you respond to love today... and what shifts can help you finally feel safe, worthy, and capable without depending on your partner for validation. 💎 You’ll walk away understanding your triggers, seeing how your past keeps replaying itself, and learning the first steps to stop overthinking and start feeling secure in love.     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Core Beliefs 03:55 Core Wound 1: I Am Not Safe 12:54 Core Wound 2: I Am Not Worthy of Love 20:25 Core Wound 3: I Am Not Capable 25:11 How else the wounds can show up (personal story) 26:28 Homework to start rewiring your wounds   #anxiousattachment #limitingbelief #emotionaltriggers   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens. Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠 🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something inside you. I’m sharing 5 unexpected lessons my avoidant partner taught me that actually helped me feel safer, calmer, more confident, and more SECURE in love. And yes... this episode is about the good parts of avoidants. Because avoidants are not the villains here. They are humans with a completely different survival strategy. This isn’t an “avoidants are toxic” conversation. It’s the episode that shows you the side no one talks about: The parts of avoidants that make love gentle, grounding, freeing, magical… The parts that can grow you in ways you never expected. The parts your anxious brain might not see yet because fear is so loud. If you’ve found yourself late-night googling things like: “Why does my avoidant partner pull away after getting close?” “How do avoidants show love if they don’t express it like I do?” “Why do avoidants disappear then come back?”   This episode will give you answers but also a new perspective that feels like exhaling. We’ll talk about how avoidants love differently, why space is not rejection, how to stop taking distance personally, and how understanding them can actually calm your nervous system instead of trigger it. By the end, you’ll walk away with: 🤍 a softer view of avoidants 🤍 more empathy (for them and for you) 🤍 5 mindset shifts that bring REAL peace to your relationship Not by abandoning yourself. Not by shrinking. But by seeing the relationship dynamic with truth instead of fear. This episode gives you the perspective that finally lets the anxious-avoidant dynamic feel less like war and more like two humans trying to feel safe in very different ways. If you’re tired of demonizing avoidants or battling them… and you’re ready to understand the GOOD they bring too… this one is going to land deeply. Stay until the end.. I’ll give you simple steps to feel more secure today, without chasing or overthinking. Ready to see avoidants with new eyes? Let’s shift the narrative.. and maybe your heart too 🤍🧠✨   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Why Your Avoidant Partner might be an inspiration 03:00 01 – Stop taking it personally 🖤 07:57 02 – Being selfish isn’t selfish 13:01 03 – Lightness, fun, and adventure ✨ 18:53 04 – STOP trusting others so fast ★ 24:41 05 – "Cutify" your fears 📓 30:04 Mini Summary 30:52 Your Homework   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤 Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there. What changed, what worked, and what no one tells you about leaving anxious patterns behind. I decided to share my answers with you.. everything I revealed about my journey from anxious to secure. The things I did daily, the mindset shifts, and the practices that rewired my nervous system so I could stop spiraling over texts, stop over-giving, and finally feel safe in love. If you’ve ever wondered why you attract avoidants, why your anxious brain can’t stop catastrophizing, or how it actually feels to go from panicking in love to calm, grounded, and confident, this episode is your insider look. Think of it as me giving you my secret roadmap, the exact insights I shared with a survey of people who’ve done the work and truly become secure.     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles 01:04 What is Attachment Theory and Why does it matter? 06:25 Going deeper into the ANXIOUS attachment style... 10:09 10 Question about Healing my Anxious Attachment 10:38 1: What changed when you became more secure? 12:30 2: Does it feel different to be attracted to someone now? 14:40 3: What were the key turning points or breakthroughs in your transition? 19:47 4: What was the biggest barrier or challenge you had to overcome? 23:01 5: What specific actions or strategies did you take to shift from insecure to secure? 25:31 6: Which strategies were most effective? 26:08 7: How did your relationships change? 29:38 8: What mindset or belief shifts happened during your transformation? 30:23 9: How did you cultivate self-regulation and self-soothing? 32:43 10: How do you maintain secure attachment daily now? 34:53 Bonus Question (busting the biggest MYTHS)   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

Welcome back to back 02: Do you ever check your phone twice just to make sure they didn’t ignore your last text? Over-plan a date, then feel stressed when it doesn’t go perfectly? Rehearse what to say next instead of actually being in the moment? There’s nothing wrong with you. 🖤 Your nervous system has just learned to protect you — and right now, it’s overworking. In this episode, I share tiny daily habits that help you step out of survival mode and feel safe in love again. No overthinking. No chasing. No controlling outcomes. Just calm, soft, grounded energy that feels secure. You’ll learn: ✨ Why anxious attachment is actually wounded masculine energy (and how to shift back into your feminine flow) ✨ Tiny nervous system habits that calm your anxiety in real time ✨ How to detach from outcomes, timelines, and “I need to be married by X” pressure ✨ How to create micro-moments of feminine joy that rewire your brain for safety and trust Because anxious attachment is about control — and you can’t feel safe while you’re controlling. Safety comes from detaching, softening, and trusting. By the end, you’ll understand the nervous system “why” behind your anxious patterns — and have practical ways to regulate your body, not just your thoughts. 🌻   Inside this episode, I also share my 4R Method — the exact process I used to go from anxious to secure. It’s simple, real, and it works. You’ll walk away knowing how to: — Feel and release anxiety safely — Rewire limiting beliefs like “I’m too much” or “People always leave” — Meet your needs without over-giving — Build calm, secure connection that lasts ✶ New episodes every Tuesday + Thursday Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one 🖤 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which habit you’re trying first!     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: TEXT ANXIETY COURSE How to STOP needing so much reassurance via TEXT (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Healing Anxious Attachment with feminine micro habits 01:29 Understanding Energies: Masculine vs. Feminine 03:50 Micro Habit 1: Practice Receiving 06:20 Micro Habit 2: Embrace Imperfection 09:15 Micro Habit 3: Slow Down Mentally 14:17 Micro Habit 4: Detach from Outcomes and Timelines 18:13 Micro Habit 5: Create Feminine Joy Moments 22:33 Micro Habit 6: Create White Space 26:45 the KEY message 28:33 why Healing Anxious Attachment MATTERS 31:47 My 4R Method to go from Anxious to Secure 35:22 Consequences of Unhealed Attachment Styles     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much “inner work” you do… your anxiety still runs the show.. this episode is going to change how you see healing 🖤 In this episode, I share 6 tiny feminine micro habits that helped me rewire my anxious brain and finally feel SAFE in love. No huge routines. No big life changes. Just small, daily shifts in how you do things, not what you do.     Because anxious attachment is actually stuck masculine energy  always controlling, chasing, fixing. Safety doesn’t come from control. It comes from letting go. From softening, trusting, and allowing life to move through you.  You’ll learn how to: ✨ Slow your body + mind so your nervous system feels safe again ✨ Stop over-managing others and finally breathe in your relationships ✨ Use your voice + movement to regulate your anxiety ✨ Shift from “doing” to “being” — the feminine way   One tiny habit at a time, you’ll begin to feel more secure, calm, and connected...both with yourself and your partner.   Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro: Why changing how you do things changes everything 01:43 Micro Habit 1 — Slow Down Physically 04:06 Micro Habit 2 — Release Control of Others 05:58 Micro Habit 3 — The “What If Positive” Hack 08:32 Micro Habit 4 — Use Your Voice in New Ways 10:36 Micro Habit 5 — Shift Your Physical Activities 14:24 Micro Habit 6 — Slow Down Mentally 17:43 Closing Thoughts 19:29 Why Becoming Secure Really Matters   🎧 Next up: Part 02 dives into the emotional side of feminine energy.. letting go of perfectionism, embracing vulnerability, and fully receiving love. ✶ New episodes every Tuesday + Thursday Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one! If you loved this episode, take a screenshot, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which micro habit you’re trying first 🖤       🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz     Listen back to EPISODE 46: "How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)" Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Ever wondered how to SPOT an avoidant early on, or what a securely attached partner actually looks like? Dating can feel like a minefield when you have an anxious attachment, right? 🧠 You meet someone, start to get attached, and only later realize they’re emotionally unavailable. They pull away. You overthink. Suddenly, you’re stuck in the same anxious spiral, replaying the same patterns again and again.  In this episode, I’m showing you how to spot avoidant tendencies early, understand attachment patterns, and recognize what a secure, emotionally available partner actually looks like.   Because the goal isn’t to judge... it’s to create awareness, so you stop chasing mixed signals, stop overextending emotionally, and start investing in the people who actually make you feel calm, seen, and safe. 🖤✨ By the end of this episode, you’ll know: How anxious and avoidant patterns secretly show up in early dating Why you keep feeling pulled into the same exhausting cycles How to spot secure energy so you can attract healthier connections Ways to protect your nervous system and emotional wellbeing while dating   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles in Dating 01:42 Question 01 04:49 Question 02 09:21 Question 03 13:40 Question 04 18:20 Question 05 20:50 Bonus Question 23:02 Key Questions to Identify Attachment Styles   🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment You chase, they pull away. You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨 Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if they’re okay? Or over-explaining something you said just to keep them from pulling away? Or maybe you plan three dates in one week because you’re scared they might lose interest? If any of that sounds like you… you’re not alone. And it’s not your fault. In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden connection between masculine and feminine energy and anxious attachment patterns  the part no one talks about.  You’ll discover: Why anxious attachment isn’t actually feminine energy How both anxious and avoidant partners get stuck in survival masculine energy The nervous system secrets behind your tiny fight-flight reactions in love  Practical ways to rebalance your energy so you feel safe, grounded, and fully yourself  Real examples for anxious women and men showing what “secure energy” really looks like By the end, you’ll know how to: Pause before reacting Notice your micro-chasing behaviors Reconnect with your natural energy balance Break the anxious-avoidant rollercoaster for good  Stop overthinking. Stop panicking. Start holding space for yourself and your partner in a way that actually works. Hit play and start seeing the hidden energy dynamics that are running your relationships  and how to finally take back your calm and confidence in love. 🎧   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   CHAPTER: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Energy Dynamics 02:46 What Are These Energies Really? 04:20 The big myth: feminine = anxious, masculine = avoidant 07:30 The Nervous System Connection 09:44 Finding The Perfect Balance (with the 80/20 rule) 13:58 Breaking The Cycle 14:31 How to support your Avoidant Partner 16:10 For The Anxious Attached Men 21:14 Real Transformation 22:53 5 STEP ACTION STEPS TO REBALANCE 28:21 Reminder + Summary   Listen back to EPISODE 46: "How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)" Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41     🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.    

Attachment Style QUIZ 3 min FREE https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz     Breakups with avoidant partners can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and stuck wondering: Will my avoidant ex ever come back? 🖤   In this episode, I dive deep into what avoidant partners do after a breakup, including the 3 stages avoidants go through when they pull away, how they process space, and why they sometimes reach out again.   You’ll learn: ★ How avoidant exes think and feel after a breakup ★ Signs your avoidant ex might be missing you ★ What happens when avoidants need space ★ How to stop the push-pull cycle with an avoidant partner ★ How to protect yourself emotionally while an avoidant processes their feelings   If you’ve ever Googled “why does my avoidant ex pull away but still care?” or “do avoidant partners come back after a breakup,” this episode is for you. Understanding these stages helps you set boundaries, stay grounded, and take control of your healing—no guessing required. ✨     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment After Breakup 02:21 Stage 01: Emotional Shutdown 07:30 Stage 02: Quiet Reassessment 11:32 Stage 03: “I Actually Need This Person” ✨ 16:15 What you should consider IF you get back together with the avoidant 17:52 Final Thoughts on Healing and Relationships       ✅ The Anxious TO Secure CHECKLIST https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   📓✍🏻Attachment Library (30+) FREE resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach     COURSES ON SALE STOP OBSESSING OVER TEXTS📱🧘🏻‍♀️ In 21 days or less https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     🧑🏼‍❤️‍🧑🏻 STOP Overthinking Your Relationship (4 STEPS) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse       1:1 COACHING SUPPORT: ➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤 https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     ➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤 https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.   This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.       Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship 🚫 🌀 (EVEN with your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   Attachment Style QUIZ 3 min FREE https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   Think it’s the world… your partner… the people you date… making you feel unsafe in love? 🖤 What if I told you most of that emotional unsafety actually starts with your own thoughts the ones you barely notice, the inner critic running nonstop in your head? In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, I show you how anxious attachment and your inner critic create the emotional chaos in your relationships and how you can finally take back control. We dive into: ★ How anxious attachment triggers the inner critic and makes you question your worth ★ Why your inner voice gets so loud when you feel judged, unseen, or rejected ★ The roots of self-criticism   from parenting, culture, media, and social comparison ★ Step-by-step ways to soften your inner critic and reparent yourself ★ How to build emotional safety with yourself first, so you can connect from a place of calm in your relationships If you’ve ever Googled: “how to feel emotionally safe in my relationship”, “how to quiet my inner critic”, “how to stop overthinking in love”, or “how to be less anxious in a relationship”, this episode is for you.   You’ll learn practical ways to notice your inner critic, get curious about what it’s trying to protect you from, respond with compassion, and use actions...not just words—to show yourself safety. This is about retraining your nervous system, reducing anxiety, and creating secure, loving connections with yourself and others. ✨ Whether you’re navigating dating, marriage, or friendships, understanding and soothing your inner critic is key to creating emotional safety in relationships and finally feeling truly seen, valued, and loved.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding the Inner Critic 01:56 My personal Inner Story 04:35 Connect your Inner critic back to your Roots 06:44 Realise your Inner Critics Protective Drive 07:22 What the Anxious Attachments Inner Critic Notices 09:06 Visualisation to become your own Inner Parent 11:13 3 Steps to Reparent Your Inner Critic 21:01 Before + After: From HATE to LOVE 23:44 Quick Recap     ✅ The Anxious TO Secure CHECKLIST  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   OFFERS: 🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less"  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     Want more support? ➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤 (daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   ➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤 (2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

ow to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)   Attachment Style QUIZ : Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   Do you ever meet someone new and suddenly feel like he’s the one just because he’s nice, attractive, or gives you a few compliments? 🖤✨ If you’ve noticed yourself rushing into relationships like this, it’s not a coincidence.. it’s a sign of anxious attachment. In this episode, I’m breaking down why your nervous system craves instant closeness, why you attach too fast, and how that speed can leave you anxious, overthinking, and ignoring red flags. We’ll talk about the real difference between healthy interest and anxious over-investment, plus the biggest dating mistakes anxiously attached people make (texting too much, oversharing, canceling plans, imagining a future too soon). ✨ Ready to learn the secret behind anxiously attaching too fast, the hidden consequences in dating vs. how securely attached people actually date? This insight can shift how you see yourself, your patterns, and the kind of love you’re building. You’ll also learn how to slow down dating without losing attraction, how to build self-trust and emotional safety, and how to notice if someone is actually secure.. or just giving you temporary reassurance. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Why do I fall too fast in relationships? Am I attached to the person, or just the comfort they give me? How do I stop overthinking texts and rushing for labels? …this episode is for you. Tune in now to discover how dating at a steady, grounded pace helps you protect your energy, feel secure, and finally choose someone for who they are: not just the safety they represent. Welcome to the Anxious-to-Secure Podcast with, me - Jula   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment in Dating 02:15 What Anxious Attachment Looks Like 03:23 Mistakes That Happen When You Attach Too Fast in Dating 07:19 How does Securely Dating + Slow Dating look like? 08:22 How to date slowly when you first meet (Stage 01) 10:02 How to date slowly in the TALKING Phase of dating (Phase 02) 14:10 How to date slowly when you are officially DATING (Stage 03) 16:38 How to date slowly when you're EXCLUSIVE (Stage 04) 19:12 Tools to Stay Grounded During the Dating Stages 20:13 Recap and Final Thoughts on Healthy Dating   Attachment Style QUIZ : Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   ✅ The Anxious TO Secure CHECKLIST  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   OFFERS: 🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less"  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     Want more support? ➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤 (daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   ➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤 (2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) "What happens when a dismissive avoidant realizes they lost me?” 🖤✨ A question I get asked as relationship coach a bunch of times. If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the breakup in your head, wondering: “Is he thinking about me? Does he even care? Will he ever come back?” this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through the hidden emotional timeline of the avoidant partner after a breakup..the relief phase, the delayed grief, and the subtle breadcrumbs they drop instead of saying “I miss you.” We’ll explore why they seem fine right away, why their emotions hit them months later, and the indirect ways they try to reconnect when vulnerability feels too dangerous. Think of it like opening a locked safe..their feelings are inside, but the timing of when they surface might surprise you. You’ll learn: ★ Why avoidants really pull away when things feel “too close” ★ The difference between breakup relief and delayed grief ★ How to spot those tiny breadcrumbs that mean more than they let on ★ Why their suffering shows up AFTER you’ve already cried your tears ★ Four powerful steps YOU can take to reclaim your energy and move forward with confidence This isn’t about waiting for them to change—it’s about understanding the avoidant attachment style better, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally put the focus back on YOU. If you’re anxiously attached and stuck in the “what ifs,” this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a path to heal while they’re still wrestling with their locked-away emotions. Press play, and let’s unpack what really happens when the avoidant realizes they lost you. 📓🖤✨   CHAPTER: 00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment After a Breakup 01:10 What is an Avoidant Attachment Style? 02:13 How This Leads to a Breakup 03:59 Why They Pull Away 06:35 The Breakup RELIEF and Delayed Grief 09:43 Indirect Ways They Show They Care 11:15 Why Anxious hurt DURING relationships, Avoidant’s AFTER 13:14 Empowering yourself after a Breakup 4 Steps 16:28 Step 01 17:25 Step 02 18:12 Step 03 18:49 Step 04 19:32 Remember THIS   Attachment Style QUIZ : Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   ✅ The Anxious TO Secure CHECKLIST  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Want more support? ➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤 (daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   ➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤 (2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.