DiscoverThe Anxious To Secure PODCAST107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)
107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)

107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)

Update: 2025-12-11
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10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship) 


If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★


These are the sneaky little habits that wire your nervous system into ALERT MODE before you even speak to him.

And no  it’s not always your partner.




Sometimes it’s your life, your routines, your tiny micro-stressors… and they make your anxious attachment feel LOUDER. 


 


Think:

waking up + grabbing your phone…

scrolling emails before coffee…

seeing a cute couple video that makes your chest tighten…

or drinking coffee on an empty stomach that tricks your brain into panic mode.


Your nervous system remembers old patterns.

It fires BEFORE your mind even notices what’s going on.

And suddenly his “I’ll call you later” feels like danger. ⛈️


Inside this episode, I walk you through 13 micro-habits that unknowingly spike your relationship anxiety and keep you stuck in anxious patterns even when your relationship is actually fine.


And yes…


I give you TINY homework at the end so you can actually create change and start becoming your secure, calm, grounded self NOW… not “one day.” 🖤✨



 


Homework inside the episode:

pick 3 habits → track your body → switch 1 thing → watch your anxiety soften.

Tiny shifts = BIG emotional regulation. 📓✨


 


 


 


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CHAPTERS:


00:00 Understanding Relationship Anxiety

02:23 Habit 01

03:20 Habit 02

04:29 Habit 03

05:03 Habit 04

05:55 Habit 05

06:44 Habit 06

09:49 Habit 07

10:52 Habit 08

12:11 Habit 09

13:43 Habit 10

15:07 Habit 11 *bonus

16:37 Habit 12 *bonus

17:16 Your HOMEWORK *to create REAL change and regulate


 


 


 


DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.


This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.


This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.


 


Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.


 

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107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)

107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)

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