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In the episode, I get to sit down with Bemen Piaro, a previous guest and talk about two of our upcoming events including Visioning as Self-Nurturing.The Whole Tantrum Party on Dec 27, 2025https://cordeliagaffar.com/services/personal-development/the-whole-tantrum-party-december-27th-150527445The Wholeness Visioning Retreat on January 10, 2026 If you’ve been moving fast, making decisions on the fly, or feeling stretched thin, clarity might be exactly what your mind and body are craving. And clarity doesn’t simply appear — it emerges when you slow down long enough to hear yourself again. That’s why we’re gathering for the Visioning Retreat on January 10 & 11 — a guided space to pause, breathe, reset, and design 2026 with intention, not pressure. You’ll walk away with a clearer vision, grounded priorities, and a renewed sense of direction for the year ahead. This Black Friday, choose the investment that truly transforms your year. With our early-bird Black Friday discount, you can save up to $75 — or as much as 30% off.✨ Grab this incredible offer through the link in the caption and join us for a visioning retreat designed to support the version of you you're becoming.In-Person Visioning Retreat• January 10, 2026 | 10:00 AM  at Tuft n' Up Studio & Social • Early Bird Rate: $175 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $250 • Reserve your place: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-visioning-retreat-pause-reflect-realign-tickets-1965651488516?aff=oddtdtcreatorGrateful to our venue partner @tuftnupstudio.social.Virtual Visioning Retreat• January 11, 2026 | 10:00 AM • Early Bird Rate: $125 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $200 • Reserve your virtual seat: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-virtual-visioning-retreat-tickets-1970033518285?aff=oddtdtcreator#TheWholenessCenter #VisioningRetreat #Mindfullness #visionboard #MindfulnessRetreat #Manifestation #BIPOCWellness #BIPOCWomenLead #PurposefulLiving #Goals #EmpoweredWomen #PersonalGrowthJourney #EntrepreneurMindset Bemene Piaro is trained in the pure coaching approach, which places you, the client, in the driver’s seat of your coaching experience. Bemene completed her coach training at International Coach Academy (ICA) which is accredited with the International Coaching Federation (ICF). She also holds a master’s in public health from Georgia State University. Her coaching is neither mentoring nor directing but is a true accompaniment which supports and holds space for you to find your way on your journey. She is a mindfulness practitioner and has been practicing meditation for six years, particularly in the Vipassana and Plum Village traditions. She believes that being exposed to alternative perspectives and cultures widens a person’s understanding and their ability to communicate and empathize with all sorts of people. As a third culture kid, originally born in a village in Nigeria, Bemene loves to travel.  She has traveled to 18 countries and hopes to visit every country in the world in her lifetime. As your coach, Bemene brings a wealth of empathy and understanding of how the experience of...

In this episode, I invite you into a tender yet rebellious conversation about what it truly means to de-center others and reclaim your own emotional, mental, and spiritual bandwidth.For so many of us—especially women—we were taught to give, give, give.To self-deprive.To silence our desires.To see ourselves only in relation to someone else, especially a man.But what happens when we consciously choose to break those patterns?This episode explores the courageous act of rebelling against what is expected and accepted, and choosing instead to build a life rooted in self-nurturing. I share how experimenting with small acts of care—receiving kindness, speaking gently to yourself, doing things simply because they feel good—begins to reprogram the negative thought cycles at the core of self-sacrifice.Together, we look at how to:✨ Stop centering your worth around others’ needs✨ Interrupt the patterns of self-deprivation you were taught✨ Reclaim the right to receive without guilt✨ Speak to yourself with softness, generosity, and truth✨ Choose new desires—ones that come from your body, your spirit, and your joyThis is your reminder that you are allowed to choose yourself.That you are allowed to want.And that you can rewrite the script of your life—one act of self-nurturing at a time.Tune in for a conversation that feels like a deep breath, a warm embrace, and a radical permission slip to center your own joy again.For resources join The Ultimate Joy Goddess CommunityWho is the Ultimate Joy Goddess? Cordelia Gaffar is a transformational leader guiding individuals and organizations to embody joy, deep healing, and authentic connection.  As the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and a private healing practice, she integrates somatic movement, intimacy coaching, and corporate consulting to foster self-mastery and well-being.  Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation.A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, amplifying conversations on self-discovery and emotional intelligence.  As a retreat facilitator and best-selling author of eight books, Cordelia curates transformative experiences and thought-provoking insights on pleasure, empowerment, and self-love.Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner.  She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose. Featured...

In this episode, Coach Sandy B, my guest, opens her heart about the journey of learning to tell the truth—especially with the people who raised, shaped, and challenged us the most: our family. We explore what happens when we begin to communicate honestly after years of silence, suppression, or saying only what we believed others could handle.I share my personal reflections on accountability, the complicated layers of family dynamics, and how self-awareness invites us to show up differently. And yet—when we do show up differently, not everyone applauds. Sometimes, honesty feels like an attack. Sometimes, growth threatens the familiar. But life is wise. It circles us back to the conversations we avoided, the wounds we hid from, and the lessons we weren’t ready to learn—until now.This episode is an invitation to stand in your emotional truth with compassion. To remember that conflict is not failure—it’s a doorway to deeper intimacy. And to trust that the discomfort of communication can be the very thing that allows us to move forward with greater understanding, maturity, and love.What You’ll Hear:Why avoiding communication ultimately holds us backThe moment honesty shifts family dynamicsHow accountability transforms relationshipsThe emotional intelligence required for difficult conversationsLife lessons that return until we are ready to face themWhether you’re navigating the holiday season, healing generational patterns, or reclaiming your voice—this conversation is for you.Sandy B Limiting ourselvesSandra Barker-McIntosh, widely known as Coach SandyB, is an accountability coach, podcaster, speaker, and author with over five years of experience in coaching and podcasting, as well as more than twenty years in corporate accounting and finance. She combines her sharp analytical background with her ability to motivate high-achieving professionals to follow through, stay focused, and execute their goals with confidence. As the creator and host of the 90 Day Wins Podcast, Coach SandyB guides listeners through practical strategies rooted in her signature 90 Day Wins methodology. Her framework helps individuals and organizations build momentum, overcome procrastination, and stay committed to meaningful goals. Through insightful solo episodes and powerful interviews with thought leaders, she offers listeners a blueprint for personal and professional growth. As an accountability coach, she has supported entrepreneurs, creatives, and corporate professionals in turning vision into action. Her coaching goes beyond surface-level motivation. Coach SandyB is known for helping clients achieve clarity, organization, and consistent, aligned action that leads to real results. On stages, she speaks with energy, authenticity, and real-world wisdom, inspiring audiences to reset limiting beliefs, build self-trust, and create a plan they will actually follow. Her approach is rooted in clarity, accountability, and bold confidence. Sandra is also a wife, mother, and adventurer at heart. Whether she’s completing 5K mud runs or road-tripping with her family, she believes in living fully and enjoying the journey.Guided by Proverbs 21:5, “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,” she continues to champion the mission of helping people win daily through planning, disciplined execution, and unwavering faithConnect with her at https://90daywins.com/#communication #honesty #accountability #family dynamics #personalgrowth #relationships #self-awareness #emotional intelligence #conflict resolution #life lessons

Let's Talk Respectability PoliticsIn this episode, I open a heartfelt conversation about respectability politics and the myth of imposter syndrome. We’ve been told that imposter syndrome is something we must “fix” within ourselves—especially if we are women, mothers, creatives, or leaders who dare to do life differently. But what if the real issue is not within us at all?I explore how the world we move through was not designed with all of our identities, expressions, or cultural truths in mind—and how the pressure to “perform” acceptance, professionalism, or palatability can make us feel like we don’t belong in our own bodies.This is not about striving to fit in.This is about coming home to yourself.Together, we examine:How respectability politics show up in our daily choices—from how we speak to how we love ourselves.Why imposter syndrome is not a personal flaw but often a symptom of environments that do not know how to receive us.The radical power of nurturing your identity as sacred—your culture, your sensuality, your joy, your voice.What it looks like to honor yourself as the authority of your life, rather than seeking permission to be.This episode is an invitation to soften the edges you’ve sharpened to survive, to breathe into your individuality, and to remember that you are not here to prove yourself—you are here to embody yourself.May this conversation support you in reclaiming your wholeness, in public and in private.Let’s talk about it. Let’s remember ourselves.If this resonates, join the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community

Love Awakened: Healing the Blockages That Keep You From LoveLove isn’t something we chase—it’s something we remember.In this soul-stirring conversation, I sit down with Renee Miller, Founder of The Love Camp and my co-creator of the Love Awakened Retreat for Women, to explore the invisible barriers that keep us from experiencing the fullness of love. We unpack how trauma, self-protection, and cultural conditioning can quietly shape the way we give, receive, and even define love.Set against the lush, transformative backdrop of Bali, we reflect on the deep emotional labor that unfolds when women reclaim their softness, learn to trust again, and choose joy as a conscious act of healing. From self-awareness to self-respect, from boundaries to belonging—this episode is a sacred invitation to remember that the journey back to love always begins within.✨ You’ll discover:How identifying your love blockages opens the door to real growthWhy trauma and conditioning can distort your relationship with loveThe role of self-love as the foundation for every connectionHow emotional labor and vulnerability build authentic intimacyThe transformative power of healing in community💫 Your seasons of love are sacred. Which one are you in?Ready to join us in Bali next year? Join our waitlist https://join.thelovecamp.co/page/black-women-retreat-waiting-list#LoveAwakened #UltimateJoyGoddess #SeasonsOfLove #FromSurvivingToSavoring #PleasureIsHealing #BodySoulShift #EmotionalFreedom #FeminineRebirth #SacredJoy #SelfNurturingSunday

SummaryIn this conversation, Zaha Aljabri and James Faghmous discuss the various factors that rob people of their joy, particularly focusing on capitalism and its associated beliefs. They explore the importance of recognizing one's true nature and spiritual intelligence as a means to reconnect with joy. The discussion also touches on parenting in a capitalistic society, cultural expectations, and the role of joy in spirituality. Ultimately, they emphasize the need to reclaim joy amidst chaos and the importance of community and connection.Zahra is an author, award-winning entrepreneur, lawyer, and life coach who helps Muslim professionals unlock their highest potential—spiritually and strategically. As the former Founder & CEO of Mode-sty, the world’s first multi-brand modest fashion platform, Zahra’s work has been featured in Forbes, Vogue Arabia, MPR News, and USA Today.She now coaches her clients to overcome self-doubt and lean fully into divine support, showing that success in business and deen can go hand in hand. You can follow her on Instagram @practicalmuslim James H. Faghmous, Ph.D. is the trusted advisor to world-class Executives, top CEOs & public figures who want to amplify wealth in all areas of life, on their terms.As an entrepreneur, author, 2X Most Influential Muslim Award Recipient, former CTO of a $30M company and pioneer behind one of the first AI consultancy businesses, I've walked the path from technical excellence to transformational leadership. My greatest breakthrough came when I realized the key to sustainable success was through becoming Spiritually Intelligent - where more life meant more faith (not more work, more skills, or more degrees). The executives and public figures I advise crave more meaning, not more money. They understand that when you align your success with your deepest values, you don't just build a business; you build a movement.Limitless Life is the exclusive advisory program for top executives, CEOs, public figures, and world-class founders who refuse to settle for excellent when limitless is within reach. This is the only life transformation system you need to go from excellent to limitless, so you can amplify wealth in all areas of life, on your terms.The private mastery & expansion circle has already reshaped 1000+ of the most powerful Muslims globally, helping them create lives that honor their faith while expanding their influence, impact, and legacy beyond what they thought possible.TakeawaysCapitalism instills false beliefs that rob joy.Recognizing our true nature is essential for joy.Spiritual intelligence helps transition from doing to being.Parenting in a capitalistic world creates cognitive dissonance.Cultural expectations can diminish self-worth.Joy is a spiritual practice and connection to God.AI cannot replace the inherent value of humans.Finding joy is a revolutionary act against capitalism.Community and connection are vital for joy.We must challenge the systems that rob us of joy.joy, capitalism, spiritual intelligence, self-worth, parenting, cultural expectations, AI, community, spirituality, connectionChapters00:00 Introduction to Joy and Capitalism02:48 The Impact of Capitalism on Joy05:56 Understanding Our True Nature08:45 Spiritual Intelligence and Self-Recognition11:28 Parenting in a Capitalistic World14:22 Cultural Expectations and Self-Worth17:26 The Role of Joy in Spirituality20:42 Navigating Capitalism with Joy23:23 The Illusion of AI and Human Value26:15 The Future of Humanity and Capitalism29:15 Finding Joy Amidst Chaos32:27 The...

In this enlightening conversation, Willie J and I delve into the concept of pleasure, exploring its foundations, the importance of awareness and responsibility in seeking joy, and the transformative power of detachment. How do you do that in these times?Are there practices that you are missing or could deepen?You will enjoy this riveting exchanges between mature believers of different dogma choosing the joy of spirituality as a role model of what is possible.Write me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com and let me know what is robbing you of your pleasure? And what you are doing to change that?Choose joy and pleasure. When you do you become upstoppable.#pleasure,#joy, #awareness, #detachment, #gratitude, #fulfillment, #spiritual growth, #innerpeace, #self-awareness, #responsibility

The Whole Tantrum Party Feeling with Community. Subscribe here. In this opening season episode, I outline reasons to have a whole tantrum. You may think that is not very mature or sensible and I beg to differ. Listen to the six reasons you need to have a whole tantrum and my further invitation to experience that with me.  This episode also serves as the guide for season 2 and the conversations you will hear with varying spiritual and religious filters. Feel into your body as you listen. Do you feel ease, release, constriction, increased or decreased heart rate? This is somatic practice in words. I am always curious to hear your heart so please feel free to schedule time with me https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddessCordelia Gaffar is a powerhouse of transformation, guiding individuals and organizations toward deep healing, embodied joy, and authentic connection. She is the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and runs a thriving private healing practice. A passionate healer and thought leader, she seamlessly integrates her expertise as a somatic movement facilitator, intimacy coach, corporate consultant, and philosopher to help people unlock their fullest potential.A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, a platform where she amplifies profound conversations on self-discovery, emotional mastery, and human connection. Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner. She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose.Keywordstantrum, joy, peace, self-regulation, inner child, emotional health, personal growth, surrender, pleasure, curiosity

Why Rage is Required for Your Ultimate Joy! This episode is about extreme feelings that are available to open you up to your core for your ultimate joy. How are you using your rage? Are you using it?I also wrote more about this in my substack. Subscribe, comment and enjoy!https://open.substack.com/pub/cordeliagaffar/p/why-rage-is-required?r=1z8t8j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=trueRage and Joy: The concept of rage as a necessary emotion for ultimate joy, and how to liberate and redirect it through practices like belly dance and somatic movement.Sometimes life can be infuriating. You want to throw rocks, scream to the top of your lungs, smash stuff, and all the ways you can possibly express rage. But why don’t you?#rage #joy #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #community #emotional abuse #emotional wellness #sexuality #sensuality #somatichealing #healing #selfnurturing #detachedlove

What if the way you show up in the world—on stage, on camera, or even in your daily life—wasn’t about performing… but about being fully, unapologetically YOU?In this powerful and soul-nourishing conversation, I sit down with Lucy Devi Hall, a visibility and public speaking coach who helps entrepreneurs fall in love with how they show up. Lucy’s unique approach blends emotional strategy, embodied confidence, and parts work, guiding leaders to be seen without shrinking or shape-shifting to fit expectations.But Lucy’s story is more than professional expertise—it’s deeply personal. From surviving childhood sexual abuse, losing her parents, navigating eating disorders, and experiencing racism, Lucy learned to hide as a survival strategy. Now, she teaches us that true visibility isn’t just about showing up—it’s about reclaiming your freedom to be who you were born to be.We talk about: ✨ Why visibility is personal, political, and profoundly liberating ✨ Healing the parts of you that feel too “much” or “not enough” ✨ Shifting from performing for approval to embodying your truth ✨ How to fall in love with your presence—on stage, on camera, and in lifeLucy is also a published author, vegan, animal lover, and music enthusiast who’s sung on three albums—proof that visibility can be both deeply healing and joyfully creative.If you’ve ever felt invisible or struggled to share your brilliance with the world, this episode is your invitation to step into the light, exactly as you are.📲 Connect with Lucy Devi Hall: Instagram: @lucydevihall Facebook: Lucy Devi Hallhttps://lucydevihall.com/ 🎙️ **"Thank you for listening to What People Miss. If this conversation inspired you to savor your life a little more, I invite you to continue the journey with me.Visit CordeliaGaffar.com to explore more ways to reclaim your joy and confidence. And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us in the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community—where we practice radical self-nurturing, pleasure, and presence together.Because you deserve to live free, liberated, and fully alive. I’ll see you there."**

“Joy is a lifestyle, not something you buy.” – Richard NoelIn this week’s What People Miss, we’re talking about how to live joyfully, intentionally, and in alignment with your true self. My guest Richard Noel — sound therapist, musician, and joy advocate — reveals how:✔ Incantations reprogram your mind faster than affirmations ✔ Your mood is your Wi-Fi (it affects every connection you have) ✔ Emotional baggage blocks your natural state of happiness ✔ Worrying is a form of negative meditation you can stop todayThis is more than a conversation — it’s an invitation to choose joy daily, manage your vibration, and give yourself permission to live blissfully.🎧 Listen now, and then ask yourself: What joy practices can I start today? joy, harmony, lifestyle, emotional well-being, personal growth, self-care, mental healthCordelia GaffarThe Ultimate Joy GoddessWho am I? Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment. Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah, Somatic K.A.P. Facilitator.  Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection. Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/

 "We Can Catch This Healing" – A Conversation on Wholeness, Vulnerability & Black Masculinity 🎙️✨In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with Bernard to reflect on my guest-hosting experience at King’s Corner—the virtual sanctuary created by Black Men Heal in Philadelphia. Together, we open the door to raw, liberating dialogue on what it truly means for Black men to feel safe in their bodies, reclaim their dignity, and allow themselves to heal. 💔💫🛑 We challenge the grind. 🌀 We redefine productivity. 💗 We honor rest, emotional safety, and radical self-care. 💬 We say: "You deserve to be your full self."This is not just a conversation—it’s a movement toward collective healing. We speak on receiving as sacred, vulnerability as strength, and how community can be the container for transformation.🎧 Tune in to hear: 👉 “We have to fight for our dignity.” 👉 “We can catch this healing.” 👉 What emotional intimacy, self-love, and reparenting look like in real time.This is for the brothers walking their path, and for those who love them.#PersonalGrowth #SelfCare #HealthyMasculinity #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ConsciousRelationships #EmotionalHealing #RedefineProductivity #BlackMenHeal #IntimacyMatters #CommunityCare #MentalHealthAwareness #MenAndEmotions #WholenessJourneyAbout my guest:Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.To learn more about his work visit https://transformandthrivesolutions.com

In this deeply nourishing conversation, the Queen and I embark on an intimate exploration of what it truly means for Black women over 50 to reclaim their wholeness. Together, we dive into the rich layers of Black women's sexual liberation, the healing power of community and co-regulation, and the often unspoken impact of colorism on self-identity and desirability.We unravel the myth that worthiness is something to be earned, instead affirming that self-worth is a radical choice—one Black women must prioritize unapologetically. Our dialogue weaves in the tender integration of grief as a sacred portal to joy, the spiritual practice of multi-orgasmic living, and the beautiful dance of duality in self-compassion.This episode invites you to release societal distortions, embrace your desires, and remember that your liberation is your birthright. Whether you’re beginning this journey or deep in the work, you’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and empowered to live fully, sensually, and authentically.✨ Key Takeaways:Sexual liberation is essential at every age.Healing thrives in community and co-regulation.Colorism shapes self-perception and desirability.Self-worth is a choice that fuels empowerment.Grief and joy are both necessary companions.Multi-orgasmic living is a path to spiritual wholeness.Duality in self-compassion is where true growth begins.Social media can distort your sense of self—reclaim it.Your desires are sacred; honoring them is revolutionary.Wholeness is not a destination—it’s a lifelong journey.🌸 This episode is a love note to Black women over 50: You are worthy, desirable, and whole—right now.Chapters00:00 Celebrating Liberation and Wholeness05:44 Community and Co-Regulation in Healing10:12 Navigating Colorism and Self-Identity18:18 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Desirability24:26 The Journey of Choice and Emotional Labor28:50 Navigating Grief and Breath Work31:41 The Journey Through Discomfort33:49 Multi-Orgasmic Living and Spiritual Wealth36:42 Reconnecting to Wholeness39:23 Embracing Dualities and Shadow Work42:38 Reclaiming Power and Sexual Agency46:29 Living in Liberation and Joy#Blackwomen, #sexualliberation, #community, #self-worth, #colorism, #healing, #empowerment, #spirituality, #joy, #wholenessCordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment. Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts. Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim...

In this powerful and liberating conversation, Cordelia sits down with Mx. Queen, LCSW, M.Ed., a somatic sex therapist and founder of the Erospirituality Centre, to explore the depths of Black sexual liberation, erotic intelligence, and the sacred intersection of spirituality and sexuality. Together, they unpack the critical distinctions between sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation—and why understanding these differences is essential for both personal healing and collective freedom.This episode dives into how emotional and erotic intelligence shape our ability to experience pleasure, self-trust, and authentic connection. Cordelia and Queen examine how religious conditioning, societal norms, and the politics of desirability have limited sexual expression, especially within Black bodies. They illuminate the path of co-regulation, discipline, and the ongoing work of decolonizing sexuality.At its core, this conversation is a loving invitation to return to your body, embrace pleasure as a form of resistance, and reclaim your erotic self as a vital aspect of Black liberation.Key Takeaways:The personal always informs professional healing.Erotic intelligence guides us through chaos toward clarity.Sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation are distinct, vital layers.Liberation requires intentional discipline and deep understanding.Pleasure is not optional—it is essential for healing and joy.Religion often restricts full sexual expression.Emotional intelligence and co-regulation are the foundations of healthy relationships.Desirability politics deeply shape our experiences of freedom.Decolonizing sexuality is a lifelong practice of liberation.About Mx. Queen:Mx. Queen (they/Queen) is a licensed somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, and breathwork facilitator. As an erotic liberation author and healing guide, they center Black sexual liberation through their signature program, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), and the Erospirituality Centre. Their work helps people cultivate embodied safety, self-trust, and intuitive lovership.Learn more about Queen’s masterclasses and healing experiences at Erospirituality.com.#WhatsPeopleMissPodcast#ConsciousConversations#LiberationTalks#HealingDialogues #SacredStories#BlackJoy#BlackLiberation#BlackHealing#QueerHealing #SexPositive

In this powerful and timely episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I sit down with Coach E., a seasoned Functional Movement Specialist who has helped over 3,000 clients reclaim strength and ease chronic pain. Together, we dive deep into the layered intersections of functional movement, emotional wellness, and the often-overlooked impact of racism on the body.Coach E. shares his lived experience as a Black man navigating discrimination, and how those encounters leave an imprint—not just on the mind, but deep within the muscles, breath, and posture. We explore how trauma and emotional stress manifest physically, particularly in the shoulders, chest, and gut, and how mindful breathing, nourishing food, and intentional movement can offer profound relief.This episode is a call to action: to slow down, tune in, and honor what’s still alive in your body. Your healing begins with presence.🎧 Listen in and savor your return to wholeness.🌐 Learn more: ElevationHealthErgo.com✨ Key Takeaways:Functional movement is a medicine for the nervous systemRacism and emotional labor create chronic stress in the bodyPain is the body’s last languagePresence, breath, and community are healing toolsWomen often carry invisible emotional loadsNourishment and movement support emotional freedom#JewelsOfJuneteenth #LeadershipInWellness #FunctionalHealth #TraumaInformedLeadership #MindfulMovement #EmotionalWellness #RacismAndHealth #HealingThroughPresence #BodyWisdom #Empowerment

 In this episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I get to discuss segregation, the dreams we lost, and the power we may be missing today with E. Bernard Alexander.Whilst everyone is up in arms about the future of DEI, we ask a challenging and thought-provoking question: Are we missing the gifts of segregation—the ability to empower ourselves, heal our communities, and align with our divine purpose? Could we pull from history and see what we created on the heels of Emancipation to move forward today in a more purposeful and unified way?E. Bernard brings a rich blend of expertise and lived experience to this conversation. As a transformational health and wellness professional, counselor, coach, actor, and creative, Bernard highlights the necessity of shifting from a framework of mere “equality” toward true “equity”— honoring the unique roles we all have in rebuilding strong, thriving communities.Together we explore: ➥ Why we’ve gotten it backwards by focusing on separation instead of unity ➥ How understanding our divine rights can empower us to create lasting change ➥ The roles men and women can play in strengthening their communities ➥ The power of dialogue, understanding, and collaboration across genders ➥ Why local economics and community solidarity matter more than we realize ➥ The importance of transformation, self-discovery, and honoring a higher purposeBernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us that we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.About My Guest: E. Bernard Alexander is a transformational health and wellness professional specializing in trauma healing, holistic wellness, and empowering individuals and communities to achieve lasting growth. His expertise is grounded in a unique blend of cognitive, behavioral, and spiritual perspectives, supported by his education (Temple University and Biblical Theological Seminary) and lived experience.Bernard is not just a healer; he’s a storyteller, actor, musician, and former celebrity barber — a creative soul who advocates for unity, transformation, and communal rebirth.Keywords: #segregation #equity #divinerights #community #transformation #localeconomies #empowerment #gendercohesion #dialogue #healing

What People Miss is a podcast about living life by noticing the subtleties. Like Mozart said, "The music is not in the notes, but in the space between them". The theme for the month of June is the Jewels of Juneteenth. In this interview, I am interviewing Tiffany Wright, the Founder of BOBC, Blacked Owned Business Community.Highlights:Why is there a need for BOBC?How does the Black business community compare to 100 years ago?What are some of the challenges?Juneteenth Gala originsBlack ExcellenceAbout my Guest:Tiffany Wright is the founder of BOBC and Beyond Measure, a non profit for adults with learning difficulties. She is a New Jersey native who moved to the Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia in 2020. Currently located in Hagerstown, MD she is boots on the ground in the origin area of black excellence and booming businesses post JIm Crow.Get your tickets and join BOBC https://bobcwvmarketing.wixsite.com/bobcevents

Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you?Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react.As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map—revealing where we’ve been and where we still must go, especially within.What People Miss About JuneteenthJuneteenth is not just about the freeing of enslaved people—it’s about the delay of freedom. It marks the moment in 1865 when those in Galveston, Texas finally learned of the Emancipation Proclamation—two and a half years after it was signed.That delay? It mirrors the emotional delay many of us live with every day. Long after the trauma ends, the nervous system still doesn’t know it’s free. Long after the gaslighting, the heartbreak, the isolation, our bodies still flinch. Our spirits still whisper, “Am I safe yet?”So, what do we do?We don’t wait for someone else to give us permission to be free. We choose to be free.Emotional Freedom Is Our New EmancipationJuneteenth teaches us that truth and freedom are not always delivered—they’re discovered. They’re embodied.This June, I invite you to explore the Jewels of Juneteenth—lessons hidden inside hardship. Jewels are those moments or memories that once tried to crush us, yet became catalysts for our transformation. That’s what emotional healing is: the art of flipping pain into power.In this episode, I talk about the history of Juneteenth and connect the dots between emotional healing, wholeness and historical events.The Emancipation ProclamationThe Reconstruction EraHarlem Renaissance/ Jim CrowSelf-nurturingInvitationsFree Experiences RetreatAnd that’s the theme not only for the month of June, but for my podcast What People Miss, and my movement: From Surviving to Savoring.From Surviving to Savoring: A Radical ReclamationThis isn’t a cute quote or another checklist. This is a somatic shift. This is about activating the parts of you that forgot how to feel good… and reminding them: Pleasure is not a reward. It’s a right.Starting Tuesday, June 3 at 7 PM ET, I’m leading a 3-day virtual retreat called:From Surviving to Savoring: How to Rewire Your Body for Pleasure and Emotional FreedomThis is your sacred space to: 🌿 Let your nervous system finally exhale 🌿 Use your emotions as a map, not a mess 🌿 Reconnect your body to joy and truth 🌿 Remember the woman you were before the world told you otherwiseThis is the real work. This is the work that ends emotional abuse—not only in your partnerships or past, but in how you treat yourself.This is your Juneteenth of the soul.So, how will you walk into this week?Will you wear your crown? Will you meet your requirements instead of waiting for crumbs? Will you transmute pain into purpose?Because the other side of this work is joy. It’s embodiment. It’s multi-orgasmic living—not just sexually, but spiritually. Orgasm is the electric spark of life from your core, radiating out through every choice, word, and breath.Let June be different this year. Let it be your liberation.💫 You get to reclaim your joy. 💫 You get to savor your life. 💫 You get to become the woman you were always meant to be.🔗 Register Now for the 3-day virtual retreat:

In this conversation, Abeo Noel and I explore the multifaceted concept of self-care, emphasizing its importance in personal well-being and relationships. We discuss the necessity of recognizing one's own needs, the role of retreats in self-discovery, and the connection between self-care and pleasure. We also touch on cultural perspectives of self-care and practical tips for integrating it into daily life, ultimately advocating for a more mindful approach to personal health and emotional awareness.We also discuss different forms of retreats:VirtualHybridWithinDomesticInternationalMy next virtual retreat From Surviving to Savoring June 3-5 register here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndATakeawaysSelf-care is essential for emotional well-being.Women often lose themselves in relationships and need to reclaim their identity.Taking time for self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.Retreats can provide valuable space for self-reflection and growth.Listening to the body's signals is crucial for self-care.Self-care practices can be simple and accessible.Cultural perspectives shape our understanding of self-care.Self-pleasure is an important aspect of self-care.Carving out time for self-care is vital in a busy life.Self-care should be a natural part of daily living.About My Guest:https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/Abeo Noel, The Intimacy CoachWith 24 years of experience as a Nurse Practitioner at NYU Langone Health, Abeo Noel has identified a crucial gap in healthcare: the lack of integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Driven to bridge this divide, she has expanded her practice to include holistic and pleasure-centered care.Originally from Trinidad and Tobago and raised between there and the U.S., Abeo brings a rich cultural perspective that deeply informs her work. As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she offers a unique blend of clinical expertise and somatic healing, addressing the full spectrum of physical, emotional, and sexual well-being.Her work is rooted in the values of family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty. With a deep understanding of how these elements contribute to holistic health, she empowers her clients to embrace pleasure as a vital part of their healing and overall happiness.#self-care #emotionalawareness #relationships #retreats #wellness #health #pleasure #culturalperspectives #mindfulness #personalgrowth

Think of this episode as a blend of how you consciously and unconsciously make choices. Zai Miztiq and I were talking one day and this came up. You get to hear our thoughts and the psychology behind why beautiful women choose ugly men. That means behavior as well as looks. I am bringing levity to mental health awareness whether you are a beautiful woman or ugly man join us 😂🥰🎉According to Zai Miztiq, it is an A.R.T. Watch and find out how to magnetize the higher version of yourself!#romance #relationships #mentalhealthawareness She is the Founder of Step Up Journey and author, Speaker and coach living in Dubai.