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Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety.
Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches.
After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy.
Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving.
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In this episode, Carrie sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Together, they explore why betrayal is unlike any other trauma—and what it really takes to move from shock and survival into genuine healing, self-love, and transformation. Debi shares how her own betrayals led to the discovery of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, an evidence-based framework now used worldwide.
If you’ve ever wondered, Will I always feel like this?… this conversation offers both language and hope for what’s possible on the other side.
Connect with Debi Silber:
Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/
TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU
Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership
✨Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
In this episode, Carrie and David dive into what it really means for the body to feel safe after betrayal — and why that sense of safety can’t be forced, faked, or found through willpower alone. Through a powerful metaphor, they explore the unseen ways you subconsciously experience safety or danger.
They share honest stories from their own healing, moments of tension and tenderness, and insights that help you see why sometimes your body reacts even when your mind says, “everything’s fine.” This conversation will help you understand safety in a deeper, more embodied way — one that invites curiosity, compassion, and the kind of awareness that leads to lasting change.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
🌿 Resiliently Rising Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode, we break down denial and betrayal blindness, two common responses in betrayal trauma that can make it hard to recognize what’s happening even when the signs are there. We explore how the nervous system chooses protection and attachment over awareness, and why both the betrayed partner and the partner acting out can struggle to see the truth clearly. We talk about the role of gaslighting, self-betrayal, and attachment needs in creating confusion and self-doubt. You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting to your body’s signals, rebuilding self-trust, and taking the next steps toward clarity and healing.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
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🌿 Monthly Membership - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
Carrie talks with trauma and addiction psychotherapist Jan Winhall, author of Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model. They explore how trauma lives in the body, why self-destructive behaviors are survival responses, and how safety—not shame—is the key to healing.
Together, they discuss betrayal as a root wound, rebuilding safety in relationships, and how reconnecting with the body helps restore self-trust and connection.
Connect with Jan Winhall:📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
🌀 Website: https://www.fspminstitute.com/
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode, we unpack what to do when one partner seems “all in” on healing after betrayal and the other looks hesitant. We explore some of the reasons for this mismatch, and you’ll learn three practical moves to navigate it. Note: this conversation is for couples where both partners genuinely want to rebuild; chronic dismissiveness or defensiveness needs a different approach.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode of Resiliently Rising, Carrie and David walk through the Gottman Institute’s three-phase Revival Method for healing a relationship after betrayal—Atone, Attune, and Attach. They share how each phase rebuilds trust, emotional connection, and intimacy, weaving in their own lived experience to make the roadmap feel practical and hopeful. Carrie also introduces her new course, Rebuilding Us, which brings these concepts to life with guided somatic practices, partner exercises, and tools for nervous-system-based healing.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
Noticing someone’s attractiveness isn’t betrayal—it’s human biology. In this episode, we unpack the difference between a neutral glance and lingering/objectifying, why the betrayed partner’s nervous system can go on high alert, and how couples can co-regulate in the moment. We share simple tools that rebuild safety through consistent “trust bank” deposits. Hopeful, practical, and research-informed, this conversation shows how repeated safe experiences can rewire fear into trust over time.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌿Anchored After Betrayal mini course - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
Episode Summary:In this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David dive into a raw listener question: Can a marriage be repaired without forgiveness or trust returning? Together, they explore the difference between patching a relationship and truly rebuilding, the toll of living in a guarded nervous system state, and why “staying for the kids” may not provide the safety parents hope for. They share personal experiences, research insights, and reflective questions to help you weigh the real cost of staying versus leaving after betrayal. This conversation is both honest and compassionate, offering guidance for anyone sitting in the tension of not being ready to forgive, yet unsure of what comes next.
Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus-waitlist
🌿Whole & Held (Group Coaching Program) – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/whole-and-held
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode of The Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David unpack the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” and explore why it feels protective—but can actually keep both partners stuck. They share personal insight, the neuroscience behind real change, and a more helpful reframe: “An unhealed cheater will remain an unhealed cheater.” Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to rebuild trust, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a grounded path forward.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Whole & Held (Group Coaching Program) – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/whole-and-held
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💡30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
Episode Summary:
In this episode, I’m joined by my friend, former colleague, and Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner, Meg Schnetzer, to talk about why healing in isolation keeps so many of us stuck. We share personal stories, explore the power of being witnessed without judgment, and talk about how co-regulation helps calm shame and fear. This is exactly why we created our group coaching space—to offer the kind of community we wish we had when we started healing.
Connect with Meg:
📲 Instagram:@_healwithmeg_
📲 TikTok: @megschnetzer
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
Explore My Courses:
💛 Whole & Held (Group Coaching Program) – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/whole-and-held
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💡30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode, Carrie and David speak directly to the ones who’ve caused harm—offering an honest, compassionate look at what it means to feel the weight of shame and still choose to grow. They unpack the difference between wanting forgiveness and becoming someone who is ready to receive it, and share personal insights about the quiet, steady work of repair. If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is a powerful place to begin.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛 30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
After betrayal, even moments of calm can feel threatening. In this episode, we explore why it becomes so hard to trust yourself, how protective parts show up to shield you, and what true intuition actually feels like. Using the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems, we’ll help you begin to tell the difference between fear and knowing—and share practical tools to reconnect with your inner wisdom.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 Embodied Connections Voxer Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/voxer
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
After betrayal, it’s not just trust in your partner that breaks—it’s trust in yourself. In this episode, Carrie and David explore the three core pillars of rebuilding self-trust and why this inner work is essential to healing. They share personal stories, somatic insights, and practical ways to reconnect with your inner knowing after it’s been shattered. Whether you're walking this path alone or alongside a partner, this conversation offers powerful guidance for learning to trust yourself again.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 Embodied Connections Voxer Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/voxer
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
After betrayal, one of the hardest and most haunting questions is: How do I know I can trust them again? In this episode, Carrie and David unpack what trust really means after it’s been broken—beyond just behavior change and apologies. They explore the difference between sobriety and recovery, how the nervous system responds to safety, and the subtle signs that trust might be starting to rebuild. With real-life examples and somatic insight, this conversation offers hope, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what it takes to feel safe again.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after betrayal: boundaries. We explore what boundaries really are (and what they’re not), how they help us stay connected to ourselves and each other, and why they often feel so uncomfortable—especially in the aftermath of broken trust. Whether you’re learning to set boundaries, honor them, or receive them with less defensiveness, this conversation will help you see boundaries not as barriers, but as bridges to deeper connection.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In this episode, we’re diving into the world of triggers—what they are, why they feel so intense, and how they’re connected to the body and nervous system, especially after betrayal trauma. We share personal stories of being blindsided by triggers and explain what’s really happening beneath the surface when you suddenly feel like you’re right back in the pain. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of your body’s response and some compassionate tools to help you stay grounded when the past shows up in the present.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
In Part 2 of this conversation, we’re continuing to explore the common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild after betrayal—because awareness really is the first step toward doing things differently. We talk about the impact of overpromising and under-delivering, using betrayal as leverage, neglecting your own healing, and why grand gestures don’t rebuild trust—consistent actions do. If you’re in the thick of repair, this episode offers honest insight, personal stories, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone—and that real healing is possible, even when it’s messy.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media
Part 1 of 2: Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is possible, but it’s also incredibly complex. In this episode, we’re sharing four of the most common mistakes couples make during the healing process that can actually slow down or sabotage trust repair. We talk about why acknowledging the betrayal matters, why rushing healing backfires, how avoiding hard conversations creates more disconnection, and the importance of setting clear boundaries.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media
1In this episode, we unpack what it really means to prioritize your nervous system in relationships—especially after betrayal trauma. We explore the difference between safety and comfort, self-abandonment vs. healthy compromise, and why true healing and connection require discomfort.
We also talk about people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and the deep fear of being “too much”—and how learning to stay with yourself, even when things feel hard, is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship with yourself and your partner.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media
In this episode, we dive into why talk therapy alone isn’t always enough—especially when it comes to betrayal trauma. We talk about how the nervous system is the lens through which we see everything, why your body responds before your brain does, and what it really means to be a bottom-up being.
We’ll break down the science in a simple way, share personal stories, and explore how somatic work helps create felt safety—so you can finally shift out of survival mode and into true healing.
If you’ve ever thought, “I know better, so why don’t I feel better?”—this episode is for you.
Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
💬 1:1 Coaching & Support: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
Explore My Courses:
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
💛30 Day Anchored After Betrayal Mini Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/anchored-after-betrayal
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media
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