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Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship.
Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on.
Cheers to learning about love!
Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on.
Cheers to learning about love!
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In this video, I share the 3 patterns I realized were holding me back, and how I’ve been working to reset them during Week 4 of The Artist’s Way (which, let’s be honest, took me way more than a week to get through… 😅).If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected from yourself, or just in need of a reset, I hope these reflections give you ideas for ways to reconnect and move forward (even when you don’t have it all figured out).Mentioned in the episode:Is it Anxiety or Is It Intuition WebinarAdditional Resources:Connect with me on IGGet The Relationship Anxiety ToolkitJoin the You Love and You Learn Patreon community Visit my website
I’m back for a (slightly delayed) recap of the Artist’s Way Chapter 3 - Recovering a Sense of Power. And to get your power back, Julia Cameron talks about bouncing back from feeling shame (unworthy, I am doing something bad or wrong, I am embarrassed of myself) and bouncing back from criticism (especially when the criticism is not helpful and leads to feeling more shame or ickiness!)—both topics I found SO helpful, especially this week.Later in the video, I get honest about my own feelings of shame this week, my aha moment about some criticism I received this week, and share how daily morning pages + my artist date went this week!Things mentioned in this video:Join the You Love and You Learn PatreonThe Artist’s Way bookOwaken Breathwork 7-Day trial (video I mentioned is Meeting Uncomfortable Emotions)Additional Resources:Connect with me on IGGet The Relationship Anxiety ToolkitVisit my website
Week two explores self-doubt and skepticism as big blocks to living a more creative + fulfilling life, the dangers of surrounding ourselves with people who don’t support our vision, the importance of paying attention to your life to make space for more delight, and gives advice for how to feel proud of ourselves as artists (or people who are healing + growing).I also share my serendipitous story from my Artist Date this week!Thank you for being here!Things mentioned in this video:The Artist’s Way bookAdditional Resources:Connect with me on IGGet The Relationship Anxiety ToolkitJoin the You Love and You Learn Patreon community Visit my website
I’m back with a recap of Week 1 of The Artist’s Way sharing my key takeaways that go far beyond creativity. This isn’t a book summary, it’s sharing what was most helpful for me because I imagine it will also be helpful for you, too!Week one dips into creating a sense of inner safety (for our inner artists, but also for general life), why we stay blocked even when we say we want to change), the importance of letting ourselves be a beginner (and suck at things), and how to be on our own team instead of self-sabotaging.Stick around to the end where I share my honest review of doing daily morning pages, and what I did for my first ‘Artist Date’ this week!I hope this video encourages you wherever you are in your own creative or personal growth journey + I am rooting for youuuu.Things mentioned in the episode:Instagram post I mentioned taking quick action onThe Artist’s Way bookGet The Relationship Anxiety ToolkitAdditional Resources:Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community Connect with me on InstagramVisit my website
After 5 years of building You Love and You Learn and focusing primarily on relationship anxiety... I’m feeling a pull I can’t ignore any longer! A pull to expand and share other parts of my life outside of feeling anxious in my relationship. More about joy, creativity, self-trust, and how to live a full life.This is the start of a new series where I'll take you behind the scenes as I explore what it means to evolve in my business and on social media (without burning everything to the ground!!)I'm starting The Artist’s Way in the hopes it will help me get out of the creative block I've been feeling (aka - resistance to try something new!). Excited to take you along with me for the journey!Things mentioned in this video:the DIY matcha video I mentionedThe Artist’s Way bookdoing the bare minimum Artist’s Way, thanks to MJ and Anna of @weare_internetpeopleAdditional Resources:connect with me on IG Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon communityVisit my website
This episode is an honest look at what it means to find your voice and show up authentically in life, relationships, and even on national television. Shauhin Davari, public speaking coach and cast member of Survivor Season 48, joins me to talk about how journaling, breathwork, and mindset shifts can help you stop performing and start being the fullest version of yourself.
Use code: “YLYL” for 20% off Shauhin’s offerings
Shauhin’s Website
Connect with Shauhin on Instagram
Additional Resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
This episode is an open-hearted reflection on what the quote “The love I give becomes the love I get” brought up for me, and how it inspired the creation of a new July 7-Day Challenge inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community. It’s a gentle reminder that even in overwhelming times, connection can be built through small acts of kindness and intention.
Whether you join the challenge or not, I hope this conversation helps you feel more connected to yourself, to those around you, and to the version of you that wants to show up with more love.
JOIN THE 7 DAY CHALLENGE HERE
Mentioned in the episode:
Curry and Rowland, 2018
Post, 2005
Additional Resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Life Coach & Consultant and former therapist Mollie Birney to discuss the role identity plays in all aspects of our lives. We talk about why letting go of the labels we put on ourselves is often the scariest (and most freeing) thing we can do. Molly shares her personal journey from licensed therapist to coach, the concept of “freedom work,” and how we can stop trying to fix ourselves and instead be in relationship with the parts of us we’ve tried to avoid.
Mentioned in the episode:
Mollie’s Website
Get The Freedom Coursebook
Connect with Mollie on Instagram
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with returning guest Kiyomi, with Awaken Into Love, to talk about her journey into motherhood and the powerful inner transformations it brought with it. She opens up about the spiritual and emotional journey of becoming a mom, and how she navigated postpartum challenges while maintaining a sense of self. We explore the parallels between motherhood and relationship anxiety, and how both call us into deeper compassion and trust. Whether you're a parent, on the path to becoming one, or simply going through a big life transition, this conversation is for you.
Mentioned in the episode:
Episode #15: Is Resistance Blocking Your From Healing Relationship Anxiety/ROCD? With Kiyomi LaFleur of Awaken Into Love
Connect with Kiyomi on Instagram
Kiyomi’s Website
Awaken into Love Youtube Channel
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in May 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
In this episode, I address questions like:
“Did I fall out love with my partner?”
“What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?”
“What if we fall out of love in the future…then what?”
“If you fall out of love…can you fall back “in love”?
I explore what the differences are between being “in love” and “love” and give you new ways of thinking about love that can expand your perspective.
Excited to hear what you think of this one! DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your thoughts :)
And if you are enjoying the podcast, it would mean the world to me if you can leave a review + rate the podcast. I appreciate you!
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Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
It's officially wedding week! 🎉💍
In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season — from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me.
I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning — the pressure that builds, how I’m handling human moments (yes, even with years of personal growth work!), and why setting boundaries has been a key theme during this busy, exciting season.
Whether you’re planning your own big event, navigating milestones, or just curious about the real emotional side of wedding prep, I hope this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with a friend.
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal?
In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relationship.
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity.
Whether you’re navigating a big life change (like a wedding!) or simply noticing that things feel a little too much lately, this is your invitation to pause and reflect on where you can invite in some compassion and be more gentle with yourself.
Additional resources:
Apply for private coaching
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. She’s the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs.
In this episode we dive into the heart of Anna’s Brilliance Experiment and how small, intentional actions can reclaim our joy, vitality, and sense of connection to ourselves, which in turn can help us connect to other relationships in our life more intentionally. Anna opens up about how she’s been cultivating joy in her life through these simple experiments each week that encourage mindfulness, self-care, and personal growth.
Mentioned in the episode:
Join the Brilliance Experience on Anna’s Substack
Anna’s Podcast: Internet People Podcast
Connect with Anna on Instagram
Anna’s Audio Course - 17 Principles of Soft Ambition
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore:
How the need for certainty in her decisions fueled her relationship anxiety
The struggle of knowing if it is anxiety or intuition and how to navigate
Moving from black and white thinking to accepting things can be “both, and”
Ways she works with her anxiety (not against it) as it shows up
If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or overthinking in your relationship, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that growth is possible.
Mentioned in the episode:
The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul
“Is it Anxiety or Intuition?” Webinar
Additional resources:
If this conversation resonates, apply for private coaching
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your nervous system, breaking toxic cycles, and shifting from control to connection can create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership
Connect with Becky:
Becky’s Instagram
Free Training: “4 Somatic Secrets to Secure Love”
Podcast: Your Breakthrough Blueprint
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
In this episode, I’m exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfy—but is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships.
I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my relationship with Nate, my past anxieties around it, the boundaries we’ve set, and open conversations we’ve had in order to create a mutual understanding around our alcohol consumption.
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
The Messy Middle — a space we all find ourselves in at some point. It’s that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and we’re searching for answers that don’t seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you don’t have a clear path forward.
Mentioned in the episode:
Anxiety Rx by Dr. Russell Kennedy, M.D.
The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal story—from her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation.
This episode is for anyone who struggles with overthinking, self-doubt, or the need to control every aspect of life. Join us as we dive into how to embrace all emotions and learn to live in the present moment (instead of an unknown future).
Mentioned in the episode:
Listen to Samantha’s Podcast, Spiraling Higher
Connect with Samantha on Instagram and TikTok
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the best sex of your life (even if that’s something that currently feels intimidating).
Mentioned in the episode:
Susan's Website
Connect with Susan on Instagram
Susan’s Youtube Channel
Additional resources:
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)
Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
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