Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women

Do you ever feel like your mind has no "off" switch? Like you’re perfectly composed on the outside, but wrestling with an internal storm of overthinking, pressure, or intrusive thoughts? You are not alone. Today, we’re diving into the reality of living with "invisible" challenges and how to transform that internal prison into a life of creative freedom.In this episode, Cindy sits down with artist and creative mentor Sarah Edwards. Sarah’s journey began with a premature birth that led to physical limitations and early childhood bullying—challenges that eventually evolved into a high-pressure career on Wall Street and a battle with undiagnosed OCD.Sarah opens up about the "prison mentality" of intrusive thoughts, the exhaustion of masking anxiety behind professional success, and the breaking point that finally forced her to rebuild her life "down to the studs."You’ll discover:A powerful cognitive tool for navigating intrusive thoughts and reclaiming your mental space. How questioning the "system" and refusing low expectations can open a new path forward. Why strategic intention in your daily routine is the secret to moving out of burnout. How translating your world through art can rewire your nervous system for safety and success.Connect with Sarah:Website: Set Apart Company — Shop Sarah’s art, including her famous glass cutting boards.Instagram: @setapart_company — Reach out to Sarah directly; her DMs are always open.Podcast: The Creative Clarity ShowWork with Sarah: Explore the Creative Catalyst Academy for creative entrepreneurship and nervous system support.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if the reason you’re avoiding self-care isn’t laziness—but the pressure to do it perfectly? If you’ve ever felt stuck between needing rest and feeling like you have to “earn” it or do it the “right” way, this episode will resonate deeply. For those navigating trauma and perfectionism, self-care can feel overwhelming, rigid, or even unsafe. This conversation reframes self-care into something approachable, flexible, and actually supportive of your nervous system—no perfection required.You'll discover:How small, imperfect self-care actions can help regulate your nervous system and create a sense of safetyA new “menu-based” approach to self-care that removes pressure and increases flexibilityHow to break free from perfectionism so you can finally rest, recharge, and reconnect with yourself Press play to discover how embracing “any care over no care” can transform your healing and help you feel safe in your own body again.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if the self-care you’ve been relying on is actually keeping you stuck in exhaustion? If you’re someone who is disciplined, driven, and used to pushing through, self-care can feel frustratingly ineffective. You check all the boxes—exercise, routines, “me time”—yet your body still feels depleted. This episode unpacks why that happens, especially for those navigating complex PTSD, and reveals how traditional self-care advice often ignores what your nervous system actually needs to feel safe and restored.You'll discover:Why perfectionism keeps your body locked in a constant stress responseWhy common self-care practices may leave you feeling more drained instead of relaxedA new, flexible approach to self-care that helps your body truly downshift into safety and healing Press play to discover how to redefine self-care in a way that finally helps your body relax, restore, and feel safe again.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

Are you unknowingly over-functioning just to avoid feeling grief during life’s biggest transitions? When life shifts—whether it’s empty nesting, career changes, or evolving relationships—it’s natural to crave certainty. But for many, especially those navigating CPTSD patterns, that desire can turn into over-functioning: doing more, controlling more, and staying constantly “on” just to feel safe. This episode speaks directly to that experience, helping you recognize how these patterns show up and why they may be keeping you stuck instead of supported.You'll discover:how over-functioning operates as a nervous system response—not a personal failure a simple, in-the-moment somatic practice to reduce tension and reconnect with safety clarity on how to gently process grief instead of avoiding it through control Press play now to learn how to soften your nervous system, release the need for certainty, and begin reclaiming your inner sense of safety—one small moment at a time.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

Have you ever felt weighed down by grief, perfectionism, or expectations that were never really yours to carry?In this milestone 100th episode of Reclaiming Me, Cindy Payne shares a deeply personal journey of grief, healing, and transformation. She reflects on loss, CPTSD, and the evolution of self over decades, inviting listeners to explore their own stories and reclaim the parts of themselves that have been buried or overlooked.You'll discover how to:Recognize grief as a natural and vital part of healing, rather than a sign of being “stuck.”Let go of shame, expectations, and burdens that don’t belong to you.Reclaim your sense of self through small, intentional daily choices that honor your needs and feelings.Press play to join Cindy in this reflective, heartfelt episode and take the first step toward reclaiming your energy, your voice, and your peace.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if the habits that helped you succeed for decades are the very ones holding you back in midlife? Many women reach midlife feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure of who they are outside the roles they’ve always played. The patterns that once helped you stay safe, responsible, and accepted—like people-pleasing, perfectionism, and constant busyness—can suddenly stop working. In this midweek reframe, we slow down and explore why this shift happens and how midlife can become the beginning of a more honest and compassionate relationship with yourself.You'll discover:Understand why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and hyper-independence often develop as survival strategies rooted in trauma and attachment patterns.Learn why midlife commonly brings an “unraveling” of long-held roles and identities—and why that’s a sign of awareness, not failure.Discover simple micro-practices that help rebuild trust with yourself without needing to dramatically reinvent your life. Press play to explore how small, compassionate shifts can help you release old survival patterns and begin creating a more authentic next chapter in midlife.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What happens when the strategies that once worked in your life suddenly stop working in midlife?Many women reach midlife feeling exhausted, disconnected, or stuck—especially if they’ve spent years people-pleasing, striving for perfection, or putting everyone else’s needs first. The habits that once helped you feel safe, loved, or successful can begin to feel heavy and unsustainable.In this episode, Cindy sits down with Heike Yates, a midlife fitness expert, author, and creator of the SPARK Framework. With more than 35 years of experience in fitness, nutrition, and mindset coaching, Heike helps women navigate the season when routines feel harder, identities begin to shift, and the question becomes: Who am I now—and what do I actually want?Together, they explore how midlife can be disorienting, how people-pleasing and perfectionism often show up in our health habits, and how women can begin rebuilding self-trust with small, realistic steps.You'll discover:Why midlife often triggers identity shifts—and how to move through them without feeling like you’re starting overHow perfectionism and people-pleasing quietly influence our relationship with fitness, health, and self-careSimple ways to rebuild trust with your body and rediscover what truly sparks joy and curiosity againWhy “good enough” self-care may be exactly what your nervous system and body need right nowHow movement, breath, and small daily practices can help women reconnect with themselves in a compassionate wayAbout the GuestHeike Yates is a Midlife Fitness Expert, speaker, podcast host, and author of Pursue Your Spark. She helps midlife women navigate seasons when what used to work no longer fits—rebuilding strength, energy, and confidence with practical fitness, nutrition, and mindset strategies designed for real life.With over 35 years of experience and certifications in personal training, Pilates, nutrition, and running coaching, Heike blends science and lived experience to help women rebuild self-trust and move forward without guilt, extremes, or the pressure to start over.She is also the host of the Pursue Your Spark Podcast, where she shares honest conversations and actionable steps for navigating midlife with strength and curiosity.Connect with HeikeWebsite: https://heikeyates.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heikeyates/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pursueyoursparkLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heike-yates/Substack: https://substack.com/@heikeyatesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQIeOesGLGAOD5RhI2KYjcAPodcast: Pursue Your Spark PodcastBook: Pursue Your SparkPress play now to discover how small, compassionate shifts can help you reconnect with your strength, rebuild self-trust, and rediscover your spark in midlife. ✨Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

Have you noticed the small moments this week where you chose courage—even while fear and anxiety were present?For many women with CPTSD, anxiety and shame can feel like constant companions. Your nervous system may have learned early that staying quiet, invisible, or agreeable was the safest option. But what if the path toward healing isn’t about eliminating fear altogether—what if it’s about recognizing the small, brave choices you’re already making? In this short midweek reflection episode, we explore how noticing tiny acts of courage can begin to interrupt shame-driven anxiety and gently retrain your nervous system to feel safer expressing your needs.You'll discover: How small acts of courage can disrupt the anxiety and shame cycle common in CPTSD.A simple reflection exercise to help you recognize and honor your brave moments from the week.How courage—even when fear is still present—can slowly retrain your nervous system toward safety and self-trust.Press play to reflect on your week and uncover the quiet moments where you chose courage over fear—because those moments may be the key to lasting healing. 💛Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

Have you ever spiraled for hours over a small mistake — not because of what happened, but because of what it might mean about you?If you’re a woman living with CPTSD, anxiety can feel constant, unpredictable, and exhausting. You replay conversations, overthink texts, panic after speaking up — even when nothing “bad” actually happens. But what if your anxiety isn’t random? What if it’s not a flaw in your coping skills, but a survival strategy your nervous system built to protect you from shame, rejection, or exposure?In this episode, we move beyond symptom management and explore the deeper relational roots of anxiety — especially how identity-level shame, as described by researchers like Brené Brown, June Tangney, Judith Herman, and Kristin Neff, shapes the way women with CPTSD experience hypervigilance and fear of exposure.This conversation will help you understand what your anxiety is actually protecting — and why lasting relief requires addressing shame at the root.You'll discover:Understand the difference between behavior-based guilt and identity-level shame — and how that distinction fuels anxiety.Recognize when your anxiety is acting as relational damage control rather than signaling real present danger.Learn practical, research-grounded tools for building shame resilience and softening anxiety at its source.Press play to discover how your anxiety may be trying to protect you from shame — and how to finally give it permission to stand down.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

In this episode, you'll discover why asking yourself the question, "Who am I?" won't help you heal from CPTSD.For many survivors of CPTSD, identity can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even unsafe. When your nervous system has been trained to prioritize survival, conflict avoidance, and other people’s needs, accessing your authentic preferences can feel foreign. This episode explores why that happens — and how a simple present-moment question can help you reconnect with your internal compass and begin building real self-trust.You'll discover:Learn how to distinguish between your survival reflex and your true preferences in real timeDiscover a micro-practice that gently rewires your nervous system toward safety and autonomyBegin strengthening internal authority through small, daily choices that build authentic identityPress play to learn the simple question that can help you move from survival mode to self-trust — one small, powerful moment at a time.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if people-pleasing isn’t who you are — but a survival strategy your nervous system learned long ago?If you’re a woman healing from CPTSD, you may notice your body tightening the moment someone makes a request — planning your response before you’ve even checked in with yourself.This episode helps you move beyond survival patterns and begin reclaiming your identity through curiosity, awareness, and choice.You'll discover:Understand why people-pleasing is an adaptive nervous system response — not your identity.Learn how small, body-based choices begin rebuilding internal authority.Practice simple exercises that help you act from preference instead of reflex.Press play to start reclaiming your identity one small, embodied choice at a time.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What happens after you understand why disappointing others feels unsafe — but still struggle to say “no” without over-explaining?In Monday's deep dive, we explored how attachment trauma and people pleasing patterns wire your nervous system to interpret disappointment as danger. In this mini episode we explore 1 practical tool to interrupt the fawn response and strengthen emotional regulation in real time.You'll discover:• A simple boundary script that reduces over-explaining and people pleasing• A clearer understanding of how attachment trauma shows up in everyday requests• A repeatable micro-practice to expand nervous system capacity and build self-trustPress play to practice turning insight into action — and strengthen secure attachment one clear boundary at a time.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

Have you ever felt your stomach drop at the slightest hint of someone’s disappointment?For many women with Complex PTSD, disappointing someone doesn’t just feel uncomfortable — it feels unsafe. If you’ve ever overextended yourself, avoided setting boundaries, or replayed conversations late into the night just to make sure you didn’t “mess up,” this episode speaks directly to that experience. We explore how these patterns are not character flaws or oversensitivity, but adaptive nervous system strategies that once protected connection.You’ll discover:Why the fear of disappointing others is rooted in early relational learning rather than personal deficiency.How the fawn response functions as a survival alignment strategy — and how to begin interrupting it safely.Practical tools to expand your capacity for boundaries, tolerate discomfort, and respond with grounded intentionality instead of reflexive appeasement.Press play to discover how to move from survival-based appeasement to regulated choice — and build the capacity to disappoint someone without abandoning yourself.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comThis podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t something you need to fix — but something you need to release?If you live with complex trauma, people pleasing, or anxious attachment, your energy is often spent before the day even begins. Overfunctioning, emotional labor, and constant alertness can quietly drain you — even when everything looks “fine” on the outside. This midweek reframe offers a gentle pause to notice where your energy is going and explore what it might feel like to let one small thing take less effort today.In this episode, you’ll learn:How overfunctioning shows up at work and in relationships — and why it feels so exhaustingWhat “release” actually means for trauma survivors (without quitting, collapsing, or forcing boundaries)How small, nervous-system-safe shifts can soften resentment and restore energy over timePress play to experience a calming midweek reframe that helps you release just enough to feel lighter today — without pressure, fixing, or forcing change.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com**Ready to begin your healing? Start with the rebrand episode of Reclaiming Me: E66: Why You Can’t Heal Your Attachment Style Without Trauma Work (The Truth Behind the Rebrand of Reclaiming Me). **This podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if your fatigue isn’t a health mystery, but a trauma response your body has been carrying for decades?For many women, chronic exhaustion shows up in midlife with no clear explanation. Doctors say your labs are “normal,” rest doesn’t feel restorative, and pushing through only makes things worse.This episode explores how trauma, attachment patterns, and people pleasing quietly shape your nervous system, hormones, sleep, and energy over time—especially if you’ve spent years overfunctioning, managing emotions, or staying in survival mode. What feels like burnout may actually be long-term adaptation.In this episode, you’ll discover:A clear understanding of how trauma and insecure attachment affect energy, sleep, and recoveryWhy people pleasing and emotional labor are so deeply exhausting—even when you’re “not doing much”A compassionate reframe of fatigue that replaces self-blame with insight and careListen to this episode to finally make sense of your exhaustion—and begin relating to your body not as something broken, but as something that has been surviving for a very long time.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.Connect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com**Ready to begin your healing? Start with the rebrand episode of Reclaiming Me: E66: Why You Can’t Heal Your Attachment Style Without Trauma Work (The Truth Behind the Rebrand of Reclaiming Me). **This podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.

What if play doesn’t have to feel fun, expressive, or healing—and what if neutral was actually the goal? If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed when asked what you like, resistant to “play,” or pressured to know how you’re supposed to heal, this episode speaks directly to that experience—especially for those with complex trauma or attachment wounds who learned safety through adapting, not choosing.Understand why play can feel unsafe or confusing when your nervous system is wired for survival, not preferenceLearn how to approach play as low-pressure information rather than self-expression or performanceDiscover how neutrality, stopping early, and removing demand can support real attachment repair Press play to explore a gentler reframe of play that helps you feel safer with yourself—without needing clarity, commitment, or emotional breakthroughs.Is this podcast for you? Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com**Ready to begin your healing? Start with the rebrand episode of Reclaiming Me: E66: Why You Can’t Heal Your Attachment Style Without Trauma Work (The Truth Behind the Rebrand of Reclaiming Me). **

What if healing your attachment wounds didn’t require more insight or effort—but simply giving your nervous system new experiences of safety and repair? If you’ve been recognizing yourself in more than one attachment pattern—or noticing that your responses shift depending on the relationship—this episode speaks directly to you. Rather than labeling or fixing, this conversation explores what comes after awareness: how to gently support a nervous system shaped by complex trauma and survival, without forcing vulnerability or reliving the past.Understand how play therapy can support anxious, avoidant, and mixed attachment patterns in a body-based, compassionate wayLearn what safety, protection, and repair actually feel like in the body—not just in theoryDiscover gentle, doable practices that honor your pace while building more moments of self-trust and connection Press play to experience a softer, more forgiving approach to attachment healing that helps you stay connected to yourself without having to abandon who you are.Diane’s Bio: Diane Boehm is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist. She specializes in supporting young children and teenagers diagnosed with ADHD, autism & learning disorders. Much of her work focuses on helping parents better understand and support their children. Diane is married to her college sweetheart and together, they have three small children. To connect with Diane: https://www.insightstherapy.com/therapists/diane-boehmAmanda’s Bio: Amanda Sherman is also a Licensed Professional Counselor. She has nearly 10 years of counseling experience in the school setting ranging from lower elementary school to higher education. Amanda specializes in supporting teenagers and adults facing anxiety, depression, life transitions, self esteem issues, and child-parent relational concerns. Additionally, Amanda is a licensed supervisor, mentoring aspiring therapists after graduate school. Outside of work Amanda is married and a mother to two little girls. To connect with Amanda: https://www.insightstherapy.com/therapists/amanda-shermanResource: The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonIs this podcast for you? Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com**Ready to begin your healing? Start with the rebrand episode of Reclaiming Me: E66: Why You Can’t Heal Your Attachment Style Without Trauma Work (The Truth Behind the Rebrand of Reclaiming Me). **

Have you been showing up, achieving, and getting things done—yet feeling strangely disconnected or numb inside?If life feels muted right now, this episode meets you exactly where you are. Many high-achieving women experience disconnection not because something is wrong, but because their nervous system learned to protect them. This midweek reframe gently explores why numbness happens and how presence doesn’t require forcing yourself to “feel more,” but instead begins with small, safe moments of awareness that fit into real life.After listening, you’ll gain:A compassionate reframe that helps you see dissociation as adaptive rather than a personal failure.Simple, nervous-system-friendly practices that help you reconnect without overwhelm.A deeper sense of agency and safety through tiny moments of choice, noticing, and self-recognition.Press play to experience a calming, midweek reset that helps you gently reconnect with yourself—one small, safe moment at a time.Is this podcast for you? Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever felt productive, capable, and accomplished—yet strangely disconnected from your own body, emotions, or sense of presence?Many high-achieving women live in constant motion, mistaking numbness and detachment for focus, discipline, or resilience. This episode speaks directly to that experience, exploring how dissociation can quietly shape your nervous system, your relationship with your body, and your ability to feel fully present—without you ever realizing what’s happening.In this episode, you’ll gain:A compassionate understanding of dissociation as a protective nervous system response, not a personal flaw.Insight into how trauma, chronic stress, perfectionism, and over functioning keep survival patterns active long after danger has passed.Gentle, realistic ways to begin reconnecting with your body and inner world through awareness—without forcing change or slowing your life to a halt.Press play to discover how reclaiming presence begins with small, safe moments of awareness—and how your nervous system can learn that it’s safe to come back home to yourself.Is this podcast for you? Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comConnect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Do you struggle to feel at home in your own body after trauma? Are tension, restlessness, or disconnection making it hard to fully inhabit your life? If you’ve experienced complex PTSD or trauma, your nervous system may be stuck in survival mode—keeping you from noticing your body, breathing freely, or feeling safe in simple moments. In this episode of Reclaiming Me – Midweek Reframe, trauma specialist Cindy Payne shares tiny, safe embodiment micro-practices designed to help you reconnect with your body without pressure, guilt, or perfectionism. Even just a few minutes a day can send a powerful message to your nervous system: you belong in your body. By listening to this episode, you’ll learn how to:Tune into your breath and notice tension without judgment, helping your nervous system relax.Explore subtle, intentional movements that release stored stress and create a sense of safety.Reclaim agency and presence in your body, one small practice at a time, supporting trauma healing and CPTSD recovery. Press play now to try two simple, safe micro-practices that help you reconnect with your body, calm your nervous system, and reclaim your sense of home within yourself.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com