Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women

Do you struggle to feel at home in your own body after trauma? Are tension, restlessness, or disconnection making it hard to fully inhabit your life? If you’ve experienced complex PTSD or trauma, your nervous system may be stuck in survival mode—keeping you from noticing your body, breathing freely, or feeling safe in simple moments. In this episode of Reclaiming Me – Midweek Reframe, trauma specialist Cindy Payne shares tiny, safe embodiment micro-practices designed to help you reconnect with your body without pressure, guilt, or perfectionism. Even just a few minutes a day can send a powerful message to your nervous system: you belong in your body. By listening to this episode, you’ll learn how to:Tune into your breath and notice tension without judgment, helping your nervous system relax.Explore subtle, intentional movements that release stored stress and create a sense of safety.Reclaim agency and presence in your body, one small practice at a time, supporting trauma healing and CPTSD recovery. Press play now to try two simple, safe micro-practices that help you reconnect with your body, calm your nervous system, and reclaim your sense of home within yourself.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever felt constantly busy, successful, and yet completely disconnected from your own body? Many high-achieving women live life on autopilot—overachieving, controlling, and pushing past discomfort—without realizing that chronic disconnection is often the result of trauma, not a personal flaw. This episode explores how trauma shapes the body and why reclaiming embodiment is essential for healing, agency, and sustainable success.Understand why your disconnection from your body is adaptive, not a flaw.Learn how trauma rewires your nervous system and affects your daily experience of rest, emotion, and pleasure.Discover practical ways to begin noticing your body safely, creating space for choice, creativity, and self-agency. Press play to start reclaiming your body, reconnecting with your nervous system, and embracing embodiment without sacrificing your ambition.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

What if your body isn’t the problem you need to fix — but the home you’ve been disconnected from all along?Many women healing from complex PTSD were taught to override their needs, ignore discomfort, and push through at all costs. This episode explores how disembodiment becomes a socially rewarded survival strategy — and how that disconnect can quietly fuel anxiety, depression, people-pleasing, and burnout. If you’ve ever felt unsafe slowing down or listening to your body, this conversation will help you understand why — and how to begin shifting that relationship with compassion and choice.Understand why embodiment is a choice rooted in agency — not something you force or performRecognize how disembodiment is reinforced for women and how it impacts mental and emotional healthLearn why embodiment is the foundation for boundaries, creativity, play, and relational trustPress play to explore how reclaiming your body — at your own pace — can become the foundation for healing, safety, and self-trust.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

What if the beliefs you’ve held about your body, your responsibility in relationships, and your right to joy weren’t truths—but survival strategies you’re finally allowed to outgrow?Many women living with complex PTSD are deeply self-aware—yet still feel disconnected from their bodies, over-responsible for others’ emotions, and unsure whether rest, play, or creativity are truly allowed. These patterns didn’t come from weakness; they came from adaptation. In this episode, Cindy Payne shares how receiving a CPTSD diagnosis reframed her understanding of embodiment, boundaries, and joy—and why healing isn’t about fixing yourself, but expanding your capacity to live.Learn why disconnection from your body, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment are intelligent trauma adaptations—not personal failuresDiscover how reclaiming embodiment and boundaries creates nervous-system safety without guilt or shameUnderstand why play and creativity are essential tools for regulation, healing, and secure attachment—not indulgencesPress play to explore the three trauma beliefs Cindy has changed her mind about—and discover how you can begin reclaiming your body, boundaries, and joy at a pace your nervous system can trust.Resource: https://hillarylmcbride.com/ - The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

What if the push-pull you feel in attachment isn’t a problem to fix—but a place where kindness is needed most?For women with CPTSD and disorganized attachment, moments of closeness can bring both comfort and fear—often followed by shame. This Midweek Reframe offers a gentle pause to help your nervous system settle. Using a trauma-informed self-compassion practice inspired by Kristin Neff’s work, you’ll learn how to meet conflicting attachment needs with softness instead of self-judgment.Experience a short, guided self-compassion practice designed for trauma-based attachmentLearn how soothing and grounding the body can reduce attachment-related shameDiscover how to hold longing and fear at the same time without forcing yourself to chooseTake a few minutes to press play and practice meeting your attachment patterns with safety, steadiness, and compassion.Resources:Free research-based assessments: ECR/ECR-R questionnaires, Short-Form ECR, and my People-Pleasing Style Quiz at cindypayne.comBooks: Attached by Levine & Heller, The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk, Parenting from the Inside Out by Siegel & HartzellThe Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff, PhD and Christopher Germer, PhDSelf-compassion practice: Kristin Neff – Self-CompassionCommunities and education: CPTSD Foundation-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram:...

Why does attachment feel comforting one moment—and overwhelming or unsafe the next for trauma survivors?If you’ve experienced early relational trauma and struggle with attachment in adulthood, this episode offers clarity without judgment. Disorganized attachment is not a flaw or dysfunction—it’s a trauma-based survival response shaped by inconsistent or frightening caregiving. When attachment figures were both safe and unsafe, your nervous system learned to hold closeness and fear at the same time. This episode explores how trauma shapes attachment patterns, why shame often follows, and how understanding your nervous system can open the door to healing.Understand how trauma biologically and relationally shapes attachment patternsRecognize why attachment-related shame develops—and how to soften it with compassionLearn how nervous system awareness supports healing trauma-based attachment woundsPress play to understand how trauma shaped your attachment—and how healing begins with safety, not self-blame.Resources: People-Pleasing Style Quiz at cindypayne.comBooks: Attached by Levine & Heller, The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk, Parenting from the Inside Out by Siegel & HartzellSelf-compassion practice: Kristin Neff – Self-CompassionCommunities and education: CPTSD Foundation-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

What if the part of you that pulls away isn’t something to fix—but something asking for compassion?For many women with complex PTSD, avoidant attachment brings shame, self-judgment, and the belief that needing space means something is wrong. This midweek reframe invites you to slow down and meet distance differently—through the lens of Kristin Neff’s self-compassion framework—so your nervous system can integrate insight without turning it into criticism.In this episode, you’ll experience:A trauma-informed reframe of avoidant attachment as protection, not emotional disinterestHow self-compassion can soften shame when the urge to withdraw appearsA simple, body-based Self-Compassion Break adapted specifically for avoidant nervous systemsPress play to practice meeting your need for space with kindness—so distance becomes information your nervous system can trust, not something you judge yourself for.Want more on Dr. Kristen Neff's work? https://self-compassion.org/-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com----------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Have you ever been told you’re “so independent” while secretly wondering why closeness feels exhausting instead of comforting? If you’ve learned to rely on yourself because emotional support wasn’t consistently available, this episode speaks directly to you. Through a trauma-informed lens, Cindy unpacks avoidant attachment not as a flaw or personality trait, but as a nervous-system survival strategy—especially common for women living with complex PTSD who feel torn between craving connection and needing distance to stay regulated.By listening to this episode, you’ll gain:A clear understanding of how avoidant attachment forms as an intelligent response to emotional absence, not a lack of desire for connection.Insight into how avoidant attachment shows up internally and in adult relationships, including overwhelm, numbness, and the need for space after intimacy.Clarity on the difference between avoidant attachment and CPTSD shutdown, so you can stop mislabeling protection as “not needing anyone.”Press play to discover why your distance makes sense—and how greater safety, choice, and self-trust can open the door to healing without forcing vulnerability.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Do unanswered texts or subtle shifts in connection send your nervous system into overdrive—and leave you questioning yourself?If you have an anxious attachment style, moments of uncertainty in relationships can quickly turn into self-doubt, shame, or the urge to people-please. This short midweek reframe helps you slow that cycle by learning self-validation—so instead of judging your reactions, you can understand them, soothe your nervous system, and respond with compassion.Understand why anxious attachment feelings are meaningful signals, not personal flawsLearn how self-validation can calm your nervous system and reduce emotional reactivityPractice simple, trauma-informed self-compassion tools based on Kristen Neff’s researchPress play to learn how self-validation can help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more secure in your relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.Resources:Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing MindKristen Neff, Self-Compassion, Fierce Self-Compassion-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comConnect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comC

Do you ever feel like you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop in your relationships—reading into texts, tone shifts, or moments of silence? If you’ve noticed that connection can feel intense, fragile, or anxiety-provoking, this episode speaks directly to that experience. Anxious attachment isn’t about being “too much”—it’s about how your nervous system learned to stay safe in relationships, especially if you grew up with inconsistency, emotional neglect, or trauma. In this episode, you’ll gain:A clear, compassionate understanding of how anxious attachment forms and why it’s so commonInsight into how anxious attachment shows up in adult relationships, including texting anxiety, over-giving, and fear of abandonmentA trauma-informed lens to distinguish anxious attachment from disorganized patterns, especially in the context of CPTSD Press play to finally make sense of your relationship anxiety and learn how understanding attachment can bring relief, clarity, and self-compassion.Resources:Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing Mind-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever caught yourself overthinking a text, pulling away to protect yourself, or feeling flooded with emotion in relationships—and wondered why it feels so hard to pause? If you’re a woman healing from C-PTSD, attachment triggers can show up fast and feel overwhelming, pulling you into people-pleasing, shutdown, or anxiety before you even realize what’s happening. This episode meets you right in those moments, translating attachment theory into a simple, nervous-system–aware practice you can use in real time to create safety and choice. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize attachment triggers as they happen instead of after the fact. You’ll discover a step-by-step grounding tool to calm your nervous system and interrupt reactive patterns. You’ll gain clarity on what you actually need in triggering moments so you can respond with self-trust and boundaries. Press play to learn the Attachment Pause and start responding to relationship triggers with calm, clarity, and compassion instead of old survival reactions.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Why do you keep choosing the same kinds of partners—even when you know they’re not good for you?If you struggle with people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, emotional shutdown, or that confusing push-pull feeling in relationships, this episode connects the dots between attachment styles and complex PTSD so you can finally understand why your nervous system reacts the way it does—and why it makes so much sense.Gain clarity on how the four attachment styles actually show up in real-life relationships, especially for women with C-PTSDLearn to identify your own nervous system triggers, people-pleasing patterns, and survival responses without shameDiscover practical, trauma-informed ways to move toward secure attachment, stronger boundaries, and deeper self-trustPress play to feel validated, understood, and equipped with insights that can help you break old relationship patterns and start building safer, more secure connections—beginning with yourself.Resources for this episode: Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing Mind

Do you ever wonder why you cling harder when someone pulls away—or shut down the moment intimacy feels possible?If relationships keep triggering anxiety, withdrawal, or emotional whiplash, this Midweek Reframe connects the dots between your attachment style and your nervous system so you can understand why these patterns show up—and how to respond to them with compassion instead of self-blame.In this episode:Understand how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns form and why they feel so automaticLearn how your nervous system drives relational reactions like people-pleasing, shutdown, or hypervigilanceDiscover a simple, trauma-informed awareness practice to gently move toward more secure attachment.Press play to gain clarity on your attachment style and take one grounded step toward calmer, more secure relationships.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever wondered why the same painful patterns keep showing up in your relationships—no matter how hard you try to change?If you’ve struggled with emotional triggers, boundary issues, or feeling misunderstood in relationships, this episode connects the dots between attachment styles, core wounds, and real-life healing—showing how awareness can turn chaos into clarity.In this episode:Understand the four attachment styles and how they shape communication and conflictLearn how unhealed core wounds drive emotional reactions—and how to regulate themDiscover practical ways to set and respect boundaries for healthier, more secure relationshipsPress play to hear a powerful, real-life story and gain practical tools that can help you begin transforming your relationships from the inside out.To connect with Bryan Power and/or learn more about his work with the Integrated Attachment Theory, visit: https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever felt your stomach drop or your chest tighten—and suddenly you’re people pleasing, apologizing, or overthinking without knowing why?This Midweek Reframe exposes the subtle moment trauma takes over: the instant an emotional flashback begins. You’ll learn how these body-first responses activate people pleasing and attachment wounds long before your mind catches up, and how to spot the shift before it spirals.In this episode, you’ll discover:• The three early signs of emotional flashbacks—“the drop, the story, and the pull”—and what they reveal about your trauma history.• Why naming the sensation in real time reconnects your thinking brain and stops the people-pleasing reflex.• A 10-second three-sentence grounding tool that helps your adult self step in before overwhelm takes over.Press play now to learn how to recognize the earliest moment trauma hijacks your system so you can stop people pleasing at the root and begin healing lifelong attachment wounds.Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a Monday episode (solo or guest) and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Do you ever feel a sudden rush of shame, fear, panic, or people-pleasing — and instantly wonder, “Why am I reacting like this?”For women with childhood attachment wounds and relational trauma, these intense emotional waves aren’t overreactions. They’re emotional flashbacks — a trauma response wired into your nervous system long before you had language for what you felt. In this episode, Cindy explains how emotional flashbacks form, why they're so common for women, and how they link directly to patterns like fawning, self-silencing, and chronic people-pleasing.In this episode, you’ll learn:• How emotional flashbacks differ from classic PTSD flashbacks• Why attachment wounds make you react to subtle cues like tone shifts or silence• How trauma wires your body to respond before your adult mind can step in• A compassionate grounding skill to soothe emotional flashbacks in real timePress play to understand emotional flashbacks with clarity — and learn a gentle, trauma-informed way to interrupt them and reconnect with your grounded, adult self.Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a Monday episode (solo or guest) and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. New Episodes Every Week: Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy: Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comConnect With Me: Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

Are your childhood attachment wounds still shaping how you think, feel, and move through the world—often without you even realizing it.If you’ve been living in a constant state of overthinking, perfectionism, or hypervigilance, this episode helps you understand why your body learned these patterns and how you can gently unwind them. You’ll see how trauma impacts your nervous system and discover simple practices that help you reconnect with your body so you can finally feel grounded and safe within yourself.In this episode:Learn how survival strategies like vigilance and disconnection formed—and how they can become pathways back to healing.Discover grounding practices that calm your nervous system and help you rebuild a healthy connection with your body.Gain practical tools to increase self-awareness, emotional regulation, and a deeper sense of inner safety.Tune in now to explore simple, body-based practices that help you regulate your nervous system and begin reclaiming yourself from the inside out.About the show:This podcast explores the real, human side of growth — from navigating anxiety, imposter syndrome, and codependency to rediscovering presence, confidence, and authenticity. Through honest conversations about vulnerability, leadership, and letting go, we dive into the balance between purpose and rest, mindfulness and action, boundaries and connection. Together, we unpack the layers of trauma, stress, and exhaustion that keep us from fulfillment, and explore how healing begins when we choose awareness, compassion, and alignment over overwhelm.New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing.Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

What if the symptoms you’ve spent years blaming yourself for—hypervigilance, overthinking, guilt, emotional exhaustion—are not personality flaws at all, but signs of a trauma you were never given permission to name?If you’ve ever felt “too sensitive,” “too reactive,” or “not enough,” this episode helps you understand why your nervous system responds the way it does. By finally naming the chronic, relational, often-invisible trauma that shaped you, you can begin untangling patterns that once kept you safe but now keep you stuck.• A clear understanding of what Complex PTSD actually is—and how it differs from both Big T and little t trauma.• Validation that your survival patterns (like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence) are adaptive responses, not personal shortcomings.• Language, clarity, and compassion that help your nervous system soften so healing can finally begin.Press play to learn the language, validation, and nervous-system insights that will help you finally understand yourself with clarity instead of self-blame.About the show: This podcast explores the real, human side of growth — from navigating anxiety, imposter syndrome, and codependency to rediscovering presence, confidence, and authenticity. Through honest conversations about vulnerability, leadership, and letting go, we dive into the balance between purpose and rest, mindfulness and action, boundaries and connection. Together, we unpack the layers of trauma, stress, and exhaustion that keep us from fulfillment, and explore how healing begins when we choose awareness, compassion, and alignment over overwhelm. New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy: Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me: Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

Episode SummaryIn this Midweek Mindset Shift, Cindy introduces a foundational DBT concept—Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind—and explains how these three states shape your reactions, patterns, and nervous system responses. This short, trauma-informed episode guides you in recognizing which mind state you're operating from and how to shift into Wise Mind, the centered place where intuition, clarity, and grounded decision-making meet.This episode is especially supportive for women healing from childhood attachment wounds, people-pleasing patterns, chronic overthinking, and complex PTSD.The difference between Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise MindWhy trauma and attachment wounds make emotional flooding and overthinking more commonHow Wise Mind supports nervous system regulation and balanced decision-makingA practical DBT tool called S.T.O.P. for pausing and choosing a grounded responseHow small shifts in awareness help you break old survival patternsYou are not your emotions or your thoughts. Observing them creates space for choice.Emotion Mind and Reasonable Mind each offer something valuable, but Wise Mind brings balance and clarity.Wise Mind is a practice, not a destination. Consistent small pauses strengthen self-trust and emotional regulation."The body keeps the score, but the mind can learn to guide it." — Bessel van der KolkWebsite: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedWork with Cindy to heal childhood attachment wounds, CPTSD, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, and to reconnect with your true Self.Consider listening to Monday’s full-length episode for a deeper dive into healing attachment wounds, understanding trauma responses, and reclaiming your nervous system.

What if your trauma, people pleasing, and attachment style weren’t signs that something is wrong with you—what if they were the exact reasons Reclaiming Me needed to exist?In this deeply personal rebrand episode, Cindy Payne shares why her own trauma history, lifelong people pleasing, and misunderstood attachment patterns inspired her to transform the podcast into Reclaiming Me. She reveals how her late-life CPTSD diagnosis finally gave language to the survival patterns that shaped her childhood, relationships, and identity—and why women deserve a trauma-informed space built specifically for their healing journey.In this episode, you’ll discover:• Why the shift to Reclaiming Me reflects a deeper mission to support women healing trauma, people pleasing, and attachment wounds• How Cindy’s upbringing, CPTSD diagnosis, and nervous system journey shaped the heart of this new podcast direction• What to expect from Reclaiming Me moving forward, including trauma tools, attachment insights, somatic practices, and weekly grounding episodes designed to help you reclaim your identityPress play now to experience the story behind the Reclaiming Me rebrand and step into a trauma-informed space created to help you stop people pleasing, understand your attachment style, and finally reclaim who you’ve always been.Work with Cindy:Instagram: @CindyPayneRootedWebsite: www.CindyPayne.comPractice: Rooted Counseling & WellnessInformation on therapy and trauma-informed support: www.CindyPayne.comStay Connected: Weekly episodes on trauma, attachment styles, nervous system healing, and people pleasing patterns.Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational use only and does not replace therapy or mental health treatment.