Do unanswered texts or subtle shifts in connection send your nervous system into overdrive—and leave you questioning yourself?

If you have an anxious attachment style, moments of uncertainty in relationships can quickly turn into self-doubt, shame, or the urge to people-please. This short midweek reframe helps you slow that cycle by learning self-validation—so instead of judging your reactions, you can understand them, soothe your nervous system, and respond with compassion.

1. Understand why anxious attachment feelings are meaningful signals, not personal flaws
2. Learn how self-validation can calm your nervous system and reduce emotional reactivity
3. Practice simple, trauma-informed self-compassion tools based on Kristen Neff’s research

Press play to learn how self-validation can help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more secure in your relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.

Resources:

1. Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in Practice
2. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight
3. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score
4. Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached
5. Dan Siegel, The Developing Mind
6. Kristen Neff, Self-Compassion, Fierce Self-Compassion

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Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?

This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.

Listen each week to learn how to:

• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.

• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.

• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.

Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.

Work With Cindy

Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com

Connect With Me

Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

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