Do you find yourself always trying to manage and control parts of yourself through fear of them coming out and then being judged and rejected?Do you have a belief that you are bad and unlovable and then spend every waking hour trying to prove your 'goodness' and lovability?Well that was me for 30 years and it led me down a dark path of isolation, loneliness and unfulfillment!What I discovered over these last 6 years was that these parts 0f me that I was trying to hide from the world (which then come out in unhealthy ways) just wanted my acceptance and love, instead of everyone else's that I was trying to gain by presenting a socially acceptable version of myself.Once I started to invest in myself and work with people that were able to offer me the safety I needed to open up, I began recognising that I CAN show up in my wholeness and express myself authentically and as a result of that, I no longer needed to waste so much energy trying to hide parts of myself and instead could use my energy to have fun, invest in those people closest to me, what I want to create in the world and THAT is what has brought people into my life that are open minded, kind and are also on their own inner journey!As cliché as it sounds your vibe really does attract your tribe.Much love,Dan.
throughout my 20's I wasted so much time 'living for the weekend' and in this episode I reflect on what was really going on for me and what I really wanted in my life.I share how I feel on a day to day basis as well as how I am experiencing life now compared to in my 20's.As always if you'd like to connect in any way then drop me a message at either danreader2@gmail.com or authentically_dan (instagram)Dan.
In this episode I talk about the pain I experience every day and what it is exactly i'm struggling with as well as my thoughts and feelings behind it.I also discuss it's origin story and why this is absolutely vital to us as human beings!As always i'd love to connect so if you have any thoughts, have struggled with similar or just want to chat about something then please just drop me a message at either danreader2@gmail.com or authentically_you on instagram.speak soon,Dan.
In this episode I wanted to talk about the stigma around male sexuality, as I believe it's the very thing that men struggle with the most, certainly true for myself!On one hand our sexuality is vital to further the species and on the other hand our sexuality is 'dirty' 'perverted' 'seedy' 'sleazy' oh and not to mention dangerous!Think that may affect the way men view their sexuality...Fucking right it does!This leaves men feeling like they can't bring that raw, primal 'I want to fuck you and make you my little slut' sexual identity into a loving relationship and this leaves our partners feeling like we're just not fully in (no pun intended).I want us men to be able to express our sexuality and open up about it just as freely as women and that is just one reason why I have felt called to work more with men!So...Yes we ARE sexual beings AND we can bring all of ourselves into a loving relationship with someone that WANTS to really get to know ALL of us and it all starts with YOU being willing to do the work around really owning ALL of yourself!Enjoy,Dan.
In this episode i'm joined by my fiancée Charis.We discuss our own individual journeys and what we have struggled with along the way, what we have learnt in our relationship together so far and what we continue to work on.We also go into detail about the importance of taking responsibility for your insecurities instead of expecting your partner to solely be responsible for them.The impact that NOT taking responsibility for your insecurities has on the relationship, as well as some vital things to get clear on before getting into a relationship.As always my inbox is open and i'd love to chat about anything you may be struggling with.If you are ready to dive in head first and really commit to the relationship you have with yourself then drop me a message on https://www.instagram.com/authentically_dan/ and we can chat further about my 3 month therapy programme AuthenticallyYOU.
YOUR refusal to take ownership of YOUR insecurities is causing you to constantly try and control your partner. Not only that but it is absolutely draining always looking for 'proof' that they are up to something, because of the 'fact' that you are clearly not good enough.I know because i've been there!'She could be with someone far better than me, what do I have to offer?!' Was what I used to believe about myself.After the breakdown of my second relationship 6 years ago I started to notice a pattern...The way I felt about myself had created the same result in both of my previous relationships!I realised that if I wanted to create a different result, then I had to start taking responsibility for the way I felt about me.One of the most powerful questions I asked myself was 'what kind of partner do I want to be?' We all struggle with the relationship we have with ourselves,But...Do you want to be the kind of partner that doesn't take ownership, blames the other person and tries to control their experience of life so that you feel better about yourself,OrDo you want to be the kind of partner that is able to communicate how you feel, without trying to control your partners experience of life and together support eachother to enjoy life to the full?!Remember the way you show up WILL and DOES create a very specific result in your relationships.You deserve to experience love and life to the full and it starts the moment you decide to take ownership of how you feel about you!As always, my inbox is open.Dan.
If you ever feel like you're not good enough then you NEED to listen to this episode!I go into detail about where this belief comes from and what you need to do as an adult any time you feel this way.This will change your life!!As always, if you'd like to dive in deep or would like to just discuss anything at all regarding your journey then please drop me a message on either Instagram or Facebook.In this together,Dan.
Most of us spend our lives trying to get that metaphorical pat on the back to let us know that we're enough. We waste so much of our lives trying to fit into a mould of who we think we should be and who we think is more acceptable and lovable.Unfortunately this causes us years of suffering because we end up creating a life that isn't really what we want.We settle for much less than we want and deserve and then can't work out why we feel unfulfilled.I done this for 30 years of my life until I was faced with the truth that I just didn't love myself.5 years on and thousands of pounds invested in help and support I have now got the kind of peace in my life I craved for all those years!You really can create the kind of life and relationships you truly desire but it all starts with the relationship you have with yourself!If you'd like more info on my 6 Month Deep Dive then reach out to me on Facebook or Instagram.Much love,Dan
In this episode I am joined by Luzia Eisenhut who I connected with in our compassionate inquiry year long psychotherapy training which was created by Dr Gabor Maté.We discuss how and why compassion is vital when it comes to healing and liberation from our trauma responses.If you're just beginning your healing journey, or find yourself struggling with anything at all then this episode will really help you understand why and how to move forward.As always if you have any questions then please reach out as i'm here to support YOU.In this together,Dan
In this episode i'm joined by Hayley Perkins who is a food addiction recovery therapist.We discuss our own therapeutic journeys and how therapy has positively impacted our own lives personally and also how we are now able to create the kind of safety that our clients need in order for them to be able to open up and truly be seen and heard.This is an amazing conversation that delves into childhood wounds and how to reparent our inner child.As always if this episode brings up any thoughts or feelings you'd like to explore then my (and i'm sure Hayley's) inbox is always open.Much love,Dan.P.s. to be continued...
From childhood I was being taught indirectly and directly that who I am at my core is unlovable.As a result of this I spent my whole life trying to gain everyone else's love and acceptance by just trying to fit in.This caused me so much pain because I always had this feeling of loneliness inside of me, like I was different, yet terrified of owning my differences.When I started therapy back in 2020 that's when my whole life changed because I was able to open up about the parts of myself that I had shame around and was able to really start accepting them, owning them and have come to really love them.Now the judgment and the gossiping I get behind my back by those people I used to call 'mates' carries zero weight, because I don't need anyone else's approval anymore.Finally I'm free to enjoy being me!
In this episode me and Charis's discuss our experience of learning to accept and let go of relationships since moving away in 2020.
In this episode I talk about a few of the ways in which we avoid potential rejection from our partners and prevent ourselves from being loved and supported exactly how we need to in the moment.Tomorrow (1st Nov) the doors open to AuthenticallyYOU and I can't wait to welcome you in to the most transformative 3 months of your life!
In this episode I discuss what came up for me lastnight while I was smoking a joint. I also discuss one of the huge benefits of 'doing the work' and the difference between 'I am lonely' and 'I am experiencing loneliness.'As always if this brings anything up for you that you'd like to explore then please just reach out to me on Instagram as my inbox is always open.Much love,Dan.
In this episode I discuss how we (myself included) create identities to try and gain others peoples love and approval.I talk about why this is detrimental in the long run and what we need to be doing to really feel loved for who we really are.As always if anything comes up you'd like to discuss in more detail then please just reach out via Instagram where my inbox is always open.Much love,Dan.
In this episode I talk about how I recently chose to handle some judgements from people that I used to get on with.I also discuss why it's so important that we give ourselves compassion when we feel triggered and learn how to start getting curious about our triggers, instead of just reacting as soon as we feel that discomfort.I also speak about how toxic our society and this culture is and how its to blame for so much of our suffering.As always if any of this resonates please subscribe and take a screenshot and tag me on instagram, it would be hugely appreciated!In this together,Dan
Today I had no clue what I wanted to talk about so I just hit record on my voice memo app on my phone while laying on the sofa cuddling my cat.This it's really what i'm all about, if you want to do something just do it!Often times we come up with so many obstacles that actually WE have just put in our own way and unfortunately this keeps us from just being seen and heard for who we really are.So if you want to know what I spoke about on this episode, then you'll just have to have a listen ;)!Much love you beautiful human,Dan.
In this episode I discuss exactly why you have a fear of rejection and the only way to get over that fear.See so many of us play small in our lives because of this fear of being rejected and unfortunately we limit ourselves from the true beauty of life.If you never actually commit to working through this fear then you'll never experience the love or the life you truly desire because you will always remain in hiding.This podcast episode really will shine a light on why and how to literally take back control of your life so that the fear of rejection NEVER enters your mind.In this together,Dan.
In this episode I discuss my own struggles with addictive behaviours and dysfunctional coping strategies as well as go into depth about how toxic our society is.If someone you love is struggling with addiction and you have NO clue what to do, then this podcast will be absolutely lifechanging for you, by offering you the tools to support your loved one.As always if this podcast brings up some painful and challenging feelings, please don't hesitate to reach out and allow yourself to be supported, my inbox on Facebook and Instagram is always open.In this together,Dan.
In this episode I am breaking one of my fundamental rules...Using a label to define someone. We are so much more than a label and human beings can NOT and should NOT be boxed in to a narrow definition.I help you take back your power and recognise how to see your pain in a way that is deeply empowering and will literally transform your life!If you have any questions or would like to connect personally then drop me a message on instagram @danreadercoaching where i'm very active.In this together,Dan.