Confessions of a Facilitation Artist

Hello again wherever you are today, mentally, physically or emotionally! I am really excited about this post. If you’re curious about how AI is truly transforming the workplace, not just in theory, but in the day-to-day reality of our jobs, you’ll be excited about this post too! Today, I’m diving into Ethan Mollick’s Co-Intelligence: Living and Working with AI, focusing on the insights from Chapter 5: “AI as a Coworker.” This chapter is absolutely packed, and after several read-throughs (and a lot of reflection), I’m excited to distill the key points and anecdotes for you. Let’s go!The New AI Revolution in the WorkplaceLet’s start by busting a big misconception that Mollick starts off with: Many people assume the AI revolution is about automating the most tedious, repetitive, or dangerous tasks first. After all, that’s how previous automation waves have worked. But this time, it’s different. Research shows that “AI overlaps most with the most highly compensated, highly creative, and highly educated work.”As someone who leads product at a software company, I see this firsthand. AI isn’t just about outsourcing the boring stuff. It’s touching the heart of what many of us do best (and love to do). This is a fascinating paradox, and it means we need to rethink both our jobs and our organizations.Rethinking Jobs: Beyond Roles, Toward SystemsMollick reframes jobs not as single, static roles, but as bundles of tasks within larger systems. To make the most of AI, leaders need to understand their organizations as interconnected systems and look for opportunities where AI can make a real difference. Buying AI tools without a strategy? That’s a recipe for confusion and missed opportunities.Here’s a quote from Mollick that really stuck with me:“The systems within which we operate play a crucial role in shaping our jobs as well.If left to our own devices, people often misuse AI, making themselves redundant or trusting AI too much in the areas that require more human oversight. This can lead to carelessness, skill atrophy, and even risk for the organization. Disclaimer: This paragraph may have been a quote directly from the book, but I can’t find it now. However, it’s an important point that I took away from this chapter. I just don’t know if it’s a direct quote! Below is legit proof I read and take handwritten notes (like a non-AI using psychopath) when I create this substack.So, it’s essential for organizations to provide thoughtful guidance and leadership in the rollout of AI tools. One of Mollick’s core principles: Always invite AI to the table. This means intentionally bringing AI into collaborative sessions to see where it adds value (and where it doesn’t).The Three Types of Tasks: Just Me, Delegated, AutomatedMollick introduces a wonderful framework for thinking about tasks in the age of AI:* Just Me Tasks: Deeply personal, authentic, and sometimes ethical tasks that make us human. Think creative writing, sharing personal anecdotes, or anything that needs your unique touch. For me, creating the podcast is mostly as a “just me” task!* Delegated Tasks: These might be tedious or complex, but you’re happy to hand them off to AI, BUT with oversight. You’re still accountable for the results, so your decisiveness and discernment matter. For me, creating the blog version you are reading is mostly as a “just me” task but has a lot of delegated tasks too! (e.g. This sentence was NOT written by AI!)* Automated Tasks: Fully automated, no supervision needed (think spam filtering). These are reliable, scalable, and don’t need your attention.A lot of people assume AI is all about automated tasks, but most of the value (especially in creative, educated roles) comes from a blend of “just me” and “delegated” tasks, where humans SHOULD stay in the loop.Side note: When I hear human in the loop, I literally think of a hoola hoop!Organizational Systems: Why Policy MattersProblems often start with policy. When organizations are too restrictive or slow to adapt, people find workarounds. Hello, shadow IT! I’ve experienced this myself. When my company initially prohibited AI use, I started blogging and podcasting outside of work to keep up with the technology. It was a perfect way to dabble and up-skill with AI because I could not at work. Mollick points out that the usual top-down, centralized approach to rolling out new tech doesn’t work for AI. Instead, the best results come from partnering with your most advanced users and encouraging experimentation—while providing some strategic guardrails.Four Tips for Effective Organizational AI AdoptionMollick offers four practical tips for organizations looking to adopt AI effectively:* Recognize and Celebrate Early AdoptersThese are the people figuring out how to use AI best. Bring them to the table and let them help shape your approach.* Reduce Fear and Stigma Around ExperimentationLeaders should make it safe for people to talk about and try AI without fear of getting in trouble. Ethics and safety are important, but so is fluency and comfort.* Incentivize AI Use and InnovationConsider offering rewards, promotions, or other incentives for employees who drive AI productivity. This one might be controversial, but it can spark creativity!* Prepare for Structural ChangesWithout rethinking how organizations work, the benefits of AI will never be fully realized. Be ready to evolve your structures and processes.Opportunity Mapping: A Practical ApproachOne of the most valuable tools I’ve learned recently is opportunity mapping! Huge shout out and thanks to a certification with 33A and mentorship from Judith Cardenas at Strategies by Design. Here’s how it works:* Start with your org chart (or part of it).* Identify core business values, pain points, and where AI is already in place.* Overlay different AI technologies to find the biggest opportunities.* Use tools like 33A’s AI cards to educate and spark ideas—tying them directly to business needs.This isn’t just about brainstorming; it’s about connecting AI opportunities to real pain points and business values.A Manager’s Experiment: Mapping Genius and FrustrationRecently, I piloted an AI opportunity mapping session with my product team. I adapted the Organization Opportunity Mapping framework I learned to the specific context of product management competencies and jobs to be done. Here’s what we did:* Identified each person’s “working genius” and “working frustration” (using Pat Lencioni’s, Six Types of Working Genius framework). This was a continuation of the the previous retreat I facilitated with my team and wrote about here. * Mapped competencies to these geniuses and frustrations, not just tasks, but the relationship to personal joy and frustration.* Brainstormed ways AI could help, either by turning frustrations into delegated or automated tasks, or by protecting the “just me” tasks.* Created a system of accountability, pairing people up as accountability partners to run experiments and track progress.In just one hour, we saw how powerful it can be to start mapping opportunities at the organizational level, starting with our product competencies and jobs to be done.If you are curious, I made a video capturing my excitement before I rant the workshop and overviewed it. The workshop was EVERYTHING I hoped for, my team loved it, and one week out I am seeing their growth and experimentation with AI come to life! Some products managers went from 0 to 1 or even level 3 quickly!Wrapping Up: AI Is Changing the Fabric of WorkAI isn’t just about automating the boring stuff, it’s changing the very fabric of our work. I’m weaving it into my creative process and daily routine, and I encourage you to experiment, reflect, and keep yourself in the loop as you explore AI in your own work.If you’re interested in learning more or want to see how opportunity mapping could work for your team (or even as an individual), let me know! I’m planning FREE, LIVE TRAINING soon and would love to have you join. It will have limited spots so COMMENT if you want to be the first to know!Until next time, keep experimenting, reflecting, and staying curious!Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping and Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

The Power—and Reality—of NetworksHey, everyone. I am dropping this one today because it compliments some hard news I shared on Facebook today. This week’s blog is going to be short and honest (which may be a better version to listen to!) I’ve been up to some pretty cool things (more on that later), and this episode is inspired by Questlove’s “Creative Quest,” especially the chapter 4, The Network.Why Community Matters to MeWhen I moved to Grand Rapids in 2019 and started working remote, I knew I needed real local connections. I found a monthly agile lunch group that was the antidote to Zoom burnout. It was powerful—and genuine—to meet with people, talk about our problems, and realize we share so much even when our contexts look different. After COVID, that product group faded away. About a year ago (actually I have realized it’s been almost 2 years now), I told myself: If the community I want doesn’t exist, it’s on me to build it. So, I started the West Michigan Product Community on LinkedIn, hunted down anyone in the area with a product-related title, and just started reaching out. Then I hosted meetups. My first in-person product coffee meetup? Literally nobody showed up. It was awkward and weird. But here’s the lesson: Real networking isn’t instant Instagram success. It’s slow, persistent, and—if you’re lucky—a little bit fun. And fast forward to today, we have a vibrant product community with well attended meetups!Collaboration and Facilitation TipsNow, I partner with Jason and Rebecca to run these meetups, and what makes them special isn’t attendance—it’s meaningful connection. We use facilitation tools like Liberating Structures’ “one-two-for-all,” where folks reflect alone, pair up, then join groups and share. Prompts like “How do you use AI?” become our jumping-off point. In just 25 minutes, 25 people bond; it feels intentional, not awkward. Making those spaces comfortable and real is key. If you want to build your own network, get messy, try facilitation games, and know persistence pays off.Here’s a little video I took of the community at our meetup the other day! That’s the power of liberating structures and facilitation right there! When Networks Really MatterThis episode is especially personal to me. Recently, my sister, Annie’s breast cancer came back and spread quickly. It’s everywhere…liver, lungs, spine, femur, hips, colar bone, and the skull. We really don’t know how long she has so naturally she is checking off her bucket list with her kids, and we’ll also travel to New York state more. When she found out in the ER a few weeks ago, I flew out as soon as we realized how serious it was. I bought a one way ticket. I stayed for a week…a long time to leave your kids and spouse with no notice. I got to spend time with her at the hospital—and take her home, care for her (even celebrate my birthday with her). It reminded me that we barely get this kind of time together as adults with kids. She shared this to her network yesterday on Facebook, the only time social media can really be useful. But this is the power of the network…my friends, my collaborators, my local community (including my product meetup collaborators) turned out in all the best ways, checking in, sending cards, showing up. Even social media, which often feels fake to me, became a way to see love and care pouring in for my sister. Networks matter not just for professional success, but because when life gets hard, these are the people who show up for you.My Next ChapterI want to be real: I’m taking a pause to focus on my family and healing. The book club and podcast may slow down, but everything I’ve learned about networks—from product meetups to deeply personal support—reminds me it’s worth building relationships intentionally, one coffee at a time. Get out from behind your screen, show up messily and authentically, and watch your community form in surprising ways.So you may or may not get consistency leading up to the holidays, and I have decided that I will not finish Creative Quest via this substack. I will read it, and might document ideas and inspiration from it…but am not going to formally guide you through the book like I have in the past. Thank you for sticking with me. I hope these honest reflections spark something for you—about your own network, or how you show up for others. I’ll be back when it’s time, and in the meantime, keep nurturing your connections and yourself.Whenever you’re ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Welcome back to Confessions of a Facilitation Artist. This week I’m sharing some deep insights from Chapter 3 of Questlove’s Creative Quest—all about Getting Started with creativity, igniting ideas, capturing inspiration, and embracing even the wildest thoughts.Whether you’re new here or following the series, you don’t need to have read the book or listened to previous episodes to get value from this post. My aim with these reflections is to spark your own creative journey and share practical ways to show up for your creative self.The Creative Process Is Always in MotionCreativity is always a process—not just the product we finally hold in our hands or share with the world. As Questlove writes, “ideas swirl around us in a constant stream, moving fast through our brains.” The real challenge? It’s capturing those flashes before the muse moves on.This reminds me of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, which I discussed early this year in this post: creative impulses come to us, but if we don’t act on them quickly—if we don’t capture them—they vanish. I’ve felt that challenge deeply, and today I want to share some ways we can meet it head-on.Igniting Creativity: Simple Practices That WorkWhen people ask me how to get inspired or spark ideas, I often say it’s about creating space for your mind to wander. Questlove highlights that coffee alone won’t do the trick—though I admit caffeine helps!One of my favorite methods is taking a 10- to 15-minute walk, often multiple times a day. Sometimes I put on music that sparks my thinking, but mostly I let my mind roam freely, not filling it with constant information or podcasts. It’s during these walks that connections form, and ideas start to surprise me from nowhere.In fact, when I facilitate strategy sprints, I offer participants a choice: sketch ideas for 15 minutes or step outside for a walk to let those ideas percolate. Guess what most choose? Walking. It sparks fresh thinking that writing alone can’t always ignite.And while many of you get ideas in the shower, I have this dream of having a whiteboard everywhere for all the thoughts that come unbidden!Finding Inspiration Through ObservationFor those moments when you need a creative jumpstart, Questlove suggests honing your observation skills. One powerful practice? Visit a garden. There’s something life-giving about being among growing plants—pausing to notice details and growth nurtures creativity. I live in Grand Rapids, Michigan, near the Meijer Sculpture Garden, and I’m planning a trip there soon to soak in inspiration.Another favorite of Questlove’s is attending an athletic competition like a basketball game. Watching athletes train, prepare, and compete reminds him that creativity also needs preparation. When you observe carefully, you’re priming your brain to create.Lastly, Questlove does “MP3 pruning”—reflecting on old music collections, album art, and stories. This sparks ideas by reconnecting with meaningful sources. I look at my own bookshelf and feel a similar pull to revisit and seek inspiration.Capturing Ideas: The Missing LinkIgniting ideas is only half the battle. Often, ideas come in fleeting moments on walks, in the shower, or during meditation—and if you don’t capture them, they disappear.In facilitated team settings, we do quick exercises called Lightning Ideas or “10 for 10” where people rapidly write ideas for five minutes, including bad ideas. This “crap storm” encourages brain play and leads to new good ideas.But what about solo moments? I confess: I don’t have a perfect system yet, and I lose ideas all the time. So I’m experimenting with idea stations in places where ideas strike: a post-it note, pen, and Mason jar in my bathroom, by the bed, and near the door after walks. When inspiration hits, I just jot it down and drop it in the jar—no pressure, no immediate action. Then I review those notes weekly during focused “tiger time” sessions.Having some system, no matter how simple, is crucial to capturing ideas before they slip away.Embrace the Crazy IdeasA major insight: many of us immediately shut down wild or unconventional ideas. We judge them as impractical or ridiculous and discard them.Questlove challenges us to spend extra time with those ideas, experiment, and riff on them. Sometimes the seemingly crazy idea is the one that propels us forward.As an entrepreneur, I’m constantly asking: Is this worth my time? But I’ve realized limiting beliefs often cause me to dismiss good possibilities.You Are Both Creator and AudienceThis was a profound moment for me when I read Questlove’s quote about “when you create work, you are also the eventual audience.” We often imagine the audience as someone else, cooler or more critical, and discredit our own ideas.But your creations will come back to you. Sometimes months later, I listen to past podcast episodes and feel like my past self is speaking directly to my future self. It’s powerful and healing.For example, after my neighbor John died earlier this year, I recorded an episode about grief that I still return to when I need it. I’ve also shared about my sister’s illness and the early stages of grieving through this podcast—it’s become a way to process life’s real challenges over time.So, if nothing else: create for yourself. Life is short and immediate, and your creative work has value for you, helping you grow and show up fully in the world.Flip Your Perspective: “Through the Looking Glass”Questlove offers a final challenge: start each day by “believing the opposite of everything you think you know.”I’ve tried exercises like doing my entire morning routine with my non-dominant hand to break autopilot. It forces presence and fresh thinking.More importantly, we can flip our mindset about the week ahead. Instead of succumbing to the “Sunday scaries” and dreading boring meetings or obligations, imagine your week as your best week ever. Picture feeling energized, accomplishing important things, and making space for what matters.During my corporate years, my walking breaks saved me from dreary days packed with “brown meetings”—meetings I color-coded because they often felt soul-sucking. But I didn’t let them stop me; I started walking during meetings, sometimes wrapping Christmas presents, often more engaged when moving than sitting passively.This kind of creative problem-solving—challenging constraints and finding ways to do what matters—is what I encourage you to embrace.Your Takeaways* Ignite creativity with simple acts: walks, observation, and gathering inspiration from diverse sources* Capture your ideas with systems that work for you—even a Mason jar and post-it notes will do* Don’t dismiss the crazy ideas; nurture and experiment with them* Create for yourself; you are both creator and audience of your work* Challenge your assumptions and believe the opposite to reframe your perspective and open possibilitiesI hope these reflections from Creative Quest inspire you to start—or continue—your own creative journey. Capture those ideas, create bravely, and make your life your masterpiece.I’ll be back soon with Chapter 4 and more insights. Until then, keep creating and figure out your own path.Whenever you’re ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

I’m back with the blog version if you prefer to read! This blog post distills insights (yes, this week with the help of AI because I am really short on time) from my latest podcast inspired by Chapter 2 of Questlove’s Creative Quest, exploring the subtle and surprising power of mentors and apprentices. The podcast has many more insights and stories (and was not created by AI), so it’s worth a listen at 1.5 speed. Mentorship: Not Always What You ExpectQuestlove’s second chapter dives into mentors and apprenticeships. The most striking lesson? We often don’t realize who our mentors are until we look back. Many years in small arts organizations to higher ed and even edtech left me asking, “Where are the mentors?” I have often felt I am left to figure it out alone. Mentorship isn’t always an official role or always your boss. Often, it’s often a person who influences your work by example or casual advice. If you feel mentor-less, look beyond your immediate circle. Influence can—and often does—come from unexpected places.Lessons Heard, Lessons Applied“It wasn’t the lessons that were taught, it was the lessons that were heard.” - QuestloveThe heart of apprenticeship is being open and receptive to what’s offered. In my world, attending Voltage Control’s Facilitation Lab Summit introduced me to the power of learning from fellow facilitators. Last year, my colleague, JJ presented. Through his session and our workshop collaboration, his style and approach has since influenced my own, even though the relationship wasn’t formal mentorship.Channeling Influence, Honoring VoiceHere’s an exercise I’ve used since my twenties: before big presentations or interviews, I channel people I respect, borrowing their clarity and confidence (my version is “What Would Jonathan Courtney* Do?”). It’s not about imitation—it’s an act of honoring influence while trusting that my unique voice always comes through.So don’t apologize for reflecting your mentors or influences. Your originality is always present, no matter whose echo you carry.*I reflect on my journey of his mentorship a little in this post. Growth by SubtractionSometimes clarity comes from knowing what you don’t want. Questlove knew early on he didn’t want to be “just a drum machine.” In my art—especially paper cutting—I create by removing what doesn’t belong, letting the shape emerge. Growth is often subtraction, not addition.Creative Blend: Becoming Your OwnWe are all “Frankenstein’s monster”—a unique blend of influences, not copies. AI can’t replicate your context or lived experiences. The act of blending influences into something new is the essence of creative power.Reciprocity and AbundanceTrue mentorship isn’t top-down. Jay Dilla, a key influence for Questlove, modeled generosity and mutual exchange—making everyone feel valued. In my work as a facilitator, and in conversations with peers like David, Mimi, Lindsay, Tim, Sebastian, Andy, and Cat (and SOOOOO many more), I’ve learned to treat colleagues as comrades, not competitors. The world is big, and there’s room for all of us to contribute meaningfully.And, of course, let’s consider Questlove’s final thought: “The mismatch is the match. Attach yourself to people who understand things you don’t quite understand.” Look for mentors who stretch your perspective, not just those who share it.Homework & ReflectionHere’s your invitation:* List something you created recently whether it be art, a presentation or a successful yet crucial conversation with your spouse or kids. Close your eyes and reflect on who influenced you directly or indirectly? Reach out and say thank you.* Define your role as apprentice. What’s one core thesis statement you’re living by from learning from others?* Seek out people who know things you don’t—and let curiosity guide you.Final ThoughtsSharing what you learn is powerful. It documents your own growth and quietly ripples outward—someone else will be influenced by your honesty and reflection. Progress is better than perfection. Let’s learn, share, and evolve together.If this resonates, let me know—share with someone who’s influenced you, or reflect in the comments about your own learning journey.Whenever you’re ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Hey friends! First, thank you all who reached out to me the last week after I shared I needed to take a break for a family emergency.This week, Confessions of a Facilitation Artist is shifting to podcast-only mode, at least for now and perhaps a while longer. There won’t be a full blog version. Instead, you’ll find these episodes kept intentionally short (<20 min) and personal, with just enough time carved out to share real, imperfect progress rather than striving for perfection. Life has been unpredictable, and time is tight—but the goal is to deliver value and authentic connection through each podcast, with a real person (not AI) sharing the journey in their own voice.Main Points & InsightsI Ramble About* The concept of “The Spark” (Chapter One from Creative Quest by Questlove): Creativity begins as a flicker—an idea, an instinct, sometimes a stubborn hope—and nurturing it is an act of survival and meaning.* The question “Is everyone creative?” sparked reflection; True creativity is about making things, not identity—it can show up in daily actions, small moments, and personal connections.* Recent events highlighted the courage it takes to keep showing up for what matters, especially in the face of fear, doubt, and the pressure to quit when life is tough.* Simple daily rituals, like tending to the garden or appreciating a small vignette at my sister’s house, are meaningful manifestations of creativity.* Key practice for the week: Micro meditation—brief moments to step back, breathe, and rekindle creative focus. Recommended: Watch “Jiro Dreams of Sushi” to appreciate devotion to craft, and find even one minute to pause and nurture your creative spark.* I encourage you to honor your spark, take gentle care of yourself and those you love, and remember (via Questlove): “Being creative is proof that we can leave an imprint on time.”Hope you tune in, nourish your own spark, and keep taking those imperfect but meaningful steps forward. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Hey, everyone! This week we’re exploring Chapter 9 of Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo. The chapter, Refuse to Be Refused is really hitting me and here’s why… (vulnerability alert)Yesterday, I wrapped up my free training—”Creating Impactful Solutions in Less Than Three Hours Without Months of Meetings, Research, and Debate”—with roughly 90 people registered and about 45 who actually attended. The turnout was fantastic, the feedback was warm, and there’s already a handful lining up to learn more. By every measure, it was a success.And yet, as I sit here today, what lingers are big, raw emotions. Exhaustion, vulnerability, and self-doubt seem to always ride shotgun after every milestone. If you’ve ever done something that stretched you, chances are you know exactly what I mean.Real Criticism vs. Imagined RejectionDespite all the positivity, there’s a curious thing that happens: the silent pause in between. The radio silence from those who didn’t book a call, didn’t show up, or didn’t respond. That silence morphs so easily into imaginary criticism, a stubborn belief that maybe, just maybe, I wasn’t enough—for them, for the moment, for the promise I made.Marie Forleo nails this feeling in Chapter 9:“Sometimes, figuring things out requires that you refuse to be refused. Just because someone else says, ‘No, you can’t do that,’ or ‘No, that’s not possible,’ or ‘No, that’s not how it’s done around here,’ doesn’t mean that you must agree with their version of reality.”It’s tempting to let the faintest “no” grow roots in your mind. But the truth? The more we do hard, scary things, the more often this mental battle surfaces. As Marie says,“This is a practice that must be repeated again and again.”Judged, Criticized—and Still Showing UpHere’s an unavoidable fact: The limiting belief “I’m not good enough” isn’t something that vanishes. It’s a lifelong companion that reemerges with every new challenge. In Marie’s words,“When you’re blazing new trails and making change—expect a steady stream of criticism, judgement, and even ridicule.”Whenever we create—an artwork, a business, a podcast, or simply try something new—criticism is part of the territory. “As long as there is creativity, there will always be criticism of it,” Marie reminds us. The more we care what others think, the more they own us. And yet, everything you love is likely despised by someone else. There’s freedom in letting go of chasing universal approval and instead using feedback that actually helps, leaving the rest behind.Three Tactics for Handling CriticismMarie Forleo offers three sanity-saving tactics for navigating criticism:* Consider the Source.“The harshest critics are often insecure, unaccomplished cowards.” Sometimes, those who offer unsolicited criticism aren’t necessarily the ones out there bravely doing the work themselves.* Feel Sad, Not Mad.Criticism often reveals more about the giver’s pain than your own shortcomings. Opening up empathy can help soften those impacts.* Have a Good Laugh.Sometimes, the best thing to do is let trolls be trolls. Make memes out of the ridiculous feedback. Laugh it off—you’re still moving forward.Response-Ability and Golden RulesWe’re human. We feel things deeply, and sometimes react when angry or emotional. Marie’s golden rule?“Never reply when angry, emotional or buzzed.”Instead, get curious and compassionate—respond from a place of strength, not reactivity. The next time you get criticism, turn it into an opportunity for growth or creative fun. And remember, it’s okay to aim for “C” work right now—not everything has to be A-plus, especially when A-for-action is what counts most.“You Weren’t Built to Be Contained.” (Read This Twice)One of Marie’s most powerful affirmations:“You weren’t built to be contained. You’re here to create, to heal, and to make change. Never apologize for that. You can’t make a difference without making waves.”If you needed to hear that today, so did I. We’re not here to tuck ourselves in the corner or shrink at criticism. Impact comes from embracing big feelings and taking even bolder actions.And this, perhaps, is the biggest shift:“Striving to be your best is one thing, but when you do your best for the betterment of others, you’ll be virtually unstoppable.”From Insight to Action—Try This TodayMarie ends the chapter with a challenge, and I’m passing it forward:* List at least one time you refused to be refused—and what you learned from it.* Think of a moment you were told “no” on your journey. Brainstorm seven creative ways to work around that refusal and keep going.* Imagine the criticism you fear actually happens. Identify three healthy, constructive responses your highest self would choose. Maybe—don’t reply in anger or after a glass of wine.* Write down ten actions you’d take if you had no fear of judgment or criticism. Pick one and do it.* Connect your dream or goal to a reason bigger than yourself—a community, cause, or family member. Reasons power results.Let’s Make Waves TogetherIf you’ve ever found yourself crushed by self-doubt or weighed down by criticism—real or imagined—know that you aren’t alone in those emotions. What matters is showing up with your raw, imperfect self, taking action, and turning criticism into a catalyst.Let’s keep creating, keep healing, keep making change—never apologizing for the waves we make. Comment below, send an email, tell your story on social if any of this resonates. Share one courageous thing you’ll do this week, with zero fear of criticism.Let’s make some waves—together.Whenever you’re ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Happy Fall, y’all! I must confess that I am truly enjoying documenting my journey and sharing insights with you week after week. It’s hard to believe we’ve already reached the final quarter of the year. I have shown up for myself—and for you—EVERY single week since the beginning of 2025. I press record, share my raw stories, and publish—cracks, coughs, and all—and then transform them into the blog post you’re reading right now!Why do I do this? Because I am all about progress, not perfection. And that’s the big wisdom I want to dive into this week, inspired by Chapter 8 of Marie Forleo’s Everything is Figureoutable.High Standards Aren’t PerfectionismMarie Forleo writes, “Holding yourself to high standards is not the same as perfectionism.” I’ve always resonated with this. People sometimes assume I’m a perfectionist because my workshop boards look polished, but for me, it’s more about caring deeply and showing up fully when I’m able. True perfectionism is sneaky; it’s fear in disguise. Marie says perfectionism is less about excellence and more about anxiety—a fear of failing, looking silly, or being judged. That fear creeps up every time I start something new, but I’ve learned it’s an opportunity to listen and move forward, not a reason to freeze.Progress Over Perfection—In Real LifeMarie adds, “Perfectionism isn’t a set behavior, it’s a destructive way of thinking about yourself.” That lands for me. I experience self-doubt every time I try something unfamiliar. I just ran a pilot for a leadership facilitation training yesterday. All week I was consumed with wanting to cancel it because some of the course elements were FAR FROM PERFECT. I was consumed with doubts I documented in my morning journaling. “What if people aren’t satisfied? What if they think it’s a joke? What if they think I am a joke and wonder why I would literally quit my FT day job for this?” When these thoughts bubble up, I thankfully can recover. I remind myself, as Marie prompts, that action and learning matter more than waiting for every detail to be perfect. Failure simply means a “faithful attempt in learning.” Growth only happens in the messy middle. The only way I am going to learn is to move forward and learn!By the way, the pilot was FANTASTIC, and I once again affirmed…this is what lights me up. This is what I meant to do in life! Here’s a few of the quotes when they where asked to describe their experience. * Interactive session that models best practices and hands-on application of meeting facilitation.* I would describe it as a fantastic method for collaborating on what problems to solve and how to go about solving them, as a way to get consensus with the approach, and begin to socialize the vision.* This was a fun-filled, interactive course that got us to challenge our own preconceptions about problem-solving.* All too often we quickly identify a problem and try to quickly solution it without doing the work to fully understand and analyze the problem. Why? I know for me its the fear that this analysis will take too much time and energy (both of which I’m short on). This session gives you a framework for identifying and analyzing a problem. Generating some ideas that might help and creating an action plan for next steps. The framework does not require 3 months of research before even coming to the table. I love that it’s giving me a tool that I can use or adapt to even an hour long meeting. * It is a fun and informative 3 hours packed with facilitation techniques and tools you can apply at your next meeting.The Zig-Zag Path of GrowthMarie Forleo reminds us, “Progress is never a straight line.” My career, art, and facilitator journey confirm this. Whether I’m perfecting a paper-cut piece or navigating a big life change, I often fall short of my own vision. As Ira Glass explains, there’s always a gap between that spark of inspiration and your current skill. The antidote? Keep showing up, even when your taste exceeds your abilities. Especially when your taste exceeds your abilities. Volume and momentum create growth—show up and the gap will close over time.Letting Go and Moving OnOne of the biggest lessons Marie teaches is to experiment with “positive quitting.” Sometimes, moving forward means letting go instead of pushing through. I’ve experienced this myself—leaving roller derby years ago when I knew it was no longer serving me. Marie suggests asking yourself, “If I end this right now, will I regret it in ten years?” That perspective shift can be liberating and clarifying.Also, I am happy I quit derby but I still love to roller skate!Six Practices That Make Progress PossibleHere’s how I’m applying Marie’s advice in my own journey, and what you can try as well:* Take small daily steps, and ignore the drama. Marie says, “Real change is practically invisible as it’s happening.” Even five minutes a day adds up.* Plan ahead for problems. Give yourself grace, anticipate setbacks, and pivot as needed; this works for parents, managers, creatives—everyone.* Expect and embrace self-doubt. Pause, breathe, and remember: feelings are not facts.* Ask, “What’s the next right move?” Break projects into micro-actions that take under ten minutes.* Use the power of positive quitting. Honor what’s no longer aligned, and choose what supports you best.* Above all, cultivate patience. Progress takes time, and most “overnight success” is years in the making.Your Turn: Insight to ActionInspired by Marie Forleo’s prompts, here’s a mini challenge for you (and me!):* What’s one thing you’re scared to start, simply because you want it to be perfect?* Who could you become if you focused on progress, not perfection?* What obstacles could you plan for in advance?* Try turning self-doubt into productive self-talk by adding “yet” to a limiting belief, as Marie suggests: “I don’t know how to do this…yet.”* Write down five small tasks you can do today. Pick one, circle it, and take action.I hope these reflections encourage you to get messy, keep moving, and embrace every imperfect step. Progress is the point. Let’s keep showing up together, and see where the journey leads next.If you are curious…about my next steps and about how you can find more joy…JOIN ME!I’m hosting a free online training, “How to Create Impactful Solutions in Less Than Three Hours Without Months of Meetings, Research, and Debate!” If you’re dreaming of less collaboration chaos and more joyful results, you’ll love this fast-paced, practical session.* When? October 2nd at 2pm ET. Register here.* Can’t make it live? Sign up anyway to get a bite-sized recap video in your inbox (and maybe a free gift!).* This isn’t just about facilitation tips. It’s about choosing action over analysis paralysis and reclaiming your time, joy, and creativity. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Hello, wonderful people! I owe you all a little bit more insight. Last week’s podcast and blog included some big news, so I figured I’d throw in a bonus episode to explain why and what is happening.Spoiler: I didn’t fully quit my job, I transformed it with the collaboration with the company leaders. So I am sorry to disappoint you if you were hoping for a rage-quite story. It’s really about shifting gears, owning my impact, and blending joy with meaningful change. My story is really about how I transformed my full-time job into a role where I can maximize my impact within, and outside of, just one company!And also, if you really want to know what I’m up to, I have a live training coming up on October 2nd at 2pm EST. It’s free and jam-packed: 60 minutes of fun and impactful learning, where you’ll discover “How to Create Impactful Solutions in Less Than Three Hours Without Months of Meetings, Research, and Debate!” Come support me and learn by signing up here!First Things First: Thank You for Being Part of My StoryFirst, a huge THANK YOU. Whether we’ve geeked out over facilitation, swapped DMs about product innovation, or simply crossed paths on LinkedIn or Substack, your support matters more than you know. My journey wouldn’t be what it is without every high five, message, or bit of encouragement you’ve sent my way.The Headline: Yes, I Quit. But Here’s the TwistLast week’s big news had some jaws dropping. Before you imagine me throwing papers in the air, hear me out: this move is all about stepping toward more of what lights me up, not running away from where I’ve been. As of October 1st, I’m moving into a part-time, fractional lead role in AI product strategy and innovation at my company. It’s a job title that’s more of a mouthful, but also a better fit for where my head and heart are headed.Why Now? The Real Reasons* Making space for connection: I’ve been craving more room for meaningful work and more time with my family (my youngest son just graduated daycare a few months ago, and suddenly freedom feels possible again!).* Taking imperfect action: This leap wasn’t something I meticulously planned. Life served up opportunities, including new facilitation contracts and consulting gigs. It was sooner than expected.* Living my legacy: The why runs deep. I want to make a bigger, more joyful impact, inside and outside my company, and model the courage it takes to say yes to change.Permission to Pivot: Not a GoodbyeSome folks wondered if this was a “see ya!” move. Not even close. I still care deeply about my team, my company, and all the amazing product people I’ve mentored there. I’m just trading daily management for big-picture strategy and shaking things up and shaping impact far and wide.What’s Next: Training, Experimenting, and Plenty of JoyAs I mentioned before, if you’re curious about my next chapter, I’m hosting a free online training, “How to Create Impactful Solutions in Less Than Three Hours Without Months of Meetings, Research, and Debate!” If you’re dreaming of less collaboration chaos and more joyful results, you’ll love this fast-paced, practical session.* When? October 2nd at 2pm ET. Register here.* Can’t make it live? Sign up anyway to get a bite-sized recap video in your inbox (and maybe a free gift!).* This isn’t just about facilitation tips. It’s about choosing action over analysis paralysis and reclaiming your time, joy, and creativity.Parting Encouragement: Move Forward CourageouslyAs always, if these honest pivots and playful experiments resonate with your own journey, take this as your nudge to move forward courageously. Keep connecting, keep creating, and say yes to mixing intention with joy.Thanks (again!) for reading, listening, and walking alongside me. I’ll be back in a few days to dig into Chapter 8 of “Everything is Figureoutable” by Marie Forleo. Until then, keep experimenting, keep loving the process, and never be afraid to shake things up.Love,Monica!Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Yes, I am releasing this post early with a quick note: Yes, there is some big news at the bottom of this post but I encourage you read and listen to this week’s substack anyway! I am am here to support you on your journey through big and small moves. I believe the insight from this chapter are important for your growth!Start Before You’re Ready — From Fear to ActionHey, friends! We’re right in the heart of our “Everything is Figureoutable” book club, and today we’re diving deep into Chapter 7: “Start Before You’re Ready.” The podcast episode is especially personal, and the blog you are reading might be too. We’ll see. I have been confronting the essential question Marie asks in this chapter. “In 10 years, will I regret not doing this?” It’s a biggie, and let me tell you, it’s been swirling around in my head almost non-stop lately. If things go perfectly, obviously—no regrets! But what if things fall apart? That fear—the fear of not having it all figured out—can be paralyzing.Belonging Beyond the OrdinaryMarie pulls us back to the classic Island of Misfit Toys (yes, Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer!) and the character Hermie, the elf who wished to be a dentist instead of making toys. I could relate instantly. Like Hermie and like Marie, I haven’t always felt like I fit in neatly. There’s this deeper driver in me—maybe even a bit “semi-narcissistic”—to create impact in a way bigger than any job title, family role, or even artistic identity.Sometimes, I’ll admit, I ask: does wanting more make me ungrateful for what I already have? Then my heart reminds me—dreaming bigger can be an act of service and love.It’s Okay To Be Multi-PassionateMarie coined the term “multi-passionate entrepreneur,” and discovering that language made me feel seen. Her words: “When I had that phrase, it gave me a new context. And in doing so, I began to see myself in a new light, which surprisingly led to new opportunities”. YES! That’s what so many of us are searching for when we want to weave together artist, facilitator, product manager, and mom—all in one human.Being multi-passionate doesn’t have to mean we’re scattered. It means we’re alive, curious, and ready for impact!Truth Time: We Never Truly Feel ReadyMarie gets real (as usual): “You never feel ready to do the important things that you’re meant to do”. It’s normal to feel fear and uncertainty. What matters and what creates momentum is this…taking action, not waiting for the perfect moment.She drives it home: “All progress begins with a brave decision,” and “action spawns courage, not the other way around”. So many of us are guilty of letting “I’m not ready” sit in the driver’s seat. I do it, too! Sometimes, my so-called research is really just procrastination dressed up in smart glasses.Bust Through Research ParalysisMarie offers this big tip: be wary of procrastination disguised as endless prep or research. My friend Jakub (hey, Jakub) recently posted on LinkedIn about the 1:4 rule: one hour of learning should lead to four hours of doing. That hit home. If this resonates, try asking yourself: How much am I consuming versus creating? How can I get more skin in the game and commit with action, not just intention?Loss aversion can get you moving. Make a commitment. Put time, money, or social accountability on the line. Whether that’s investing in a course, posting your intention, or DM’ing your dream to someone for accountability, the step matters more than the size of it.Growth Lives In DiscomfortHere’s the kicker that Marie writes: “Everything you dream of becoming, achieving, or figuring out exists in the growth zone, a.k.a. the discomfort zone. You must let go, at least temporarily, of your need for comfort and security. You must train yourself to value growth and learning above all else.”I asked myself this. Would I rather have my kids see me chase comfort OR see me be “courageously terrified” and growing? I want to teach them both are possible. We get to show our loved ones that figuring things out is part of life, even when it’s scary.Your Insights to Action Challenge (Join In!)Let’s put this wisdom to work. Here’s this week’s “Start Before You’re Ready” challenge pulled right from the podcast and Marie’s book:* Recall a moment you started before you felt ready, and gained something valuable. Jot down an example—big or small. For me, pressing “record” on this podcast every single week is a practice in starting before I’m ready. Imperfection is part of the process!* Reflect on times you delayed, waiting for ‘ready’—and discovered it wasn’t so scary once you acted. I recently had to have a courageous conversation with my husband about my dreams and some changes coming. I was terrified. But as soon as we talked, I wondered: why didn’t I do this sooner?* Answer this (quick!): What is one bold step you feel called to take right now—even if it scares you? Write it down, say it out loud, make it real. If it’s too big, break it into a micro action you can finish in 10 minutes. The point is starting—taking action builds that “courage muscle.”* Commit and get skin in the game: How can you invest time, money, or social accountability to take your next step? Sign up for the thing, share your intention, or DM it to me for a little extra nudge! No pressure for a reply—but I’ll cheer you on if I can.If sharing publicly feels brave, drop a comment! If you prefer quiet accountability, DM me or just tell a close friend. Name the fear and step anyway.BIG, BREAKING NEWS: My Next Chapter Begins!You’ve made it this far—and here’s the reveal. This week, after nearly 12 years at my company (from scrappy startup, through merger, through six acquisitions…whew!), I announced a huge change. I’m officially moving from my role as Sr. Director of Product to part time.Yes, it’s shocking. Yes, it’s bittersweet. This company journey has been wild. I’ve often felt like a second-generation founder (without the official title) and helped stitch together our products with a unified vision. This step is scary and surprising, but it’s all about practicing what I preach: stepping into the growth zone—before I feel “ready.”Why now? Because I’m building what’s been calling me for years: my own training and consulting business. I can’t wait to pour energy into work that lights me up and makes the positive impact I want to see in the world.Watch for a special post with all the details soon. To everyone who listens, reads, and supports me, thank you for walking this wild road together. Let’s keep doing it scared, and doing it anyway!What action will you take today, even if you don’t feel ready? Share, reflect, and give yourself the gift of starting—just as you are.Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

It’s time to define our dreams! Maybe this sounds cheesy but this is what Chapter 6 of Marie Forleo’s Everything is Figureoutable is all about. If you’re new here, welcome to my ongoing experiment. This podcast and blog is about showing up. I show up to myself and my dreams. I speak out loud about what I’m learning, and hope that it helps you do the same. On the Trap of OverthinkingIf there’s one thing that Marie Forleo makes abundantly clear in this chapter, it’s how paralyzing it is to endlessly ponder your dreams and never act. She writes:"I'm still shocked at how much time and energy we humans can waste being indecisive, talking about ideas in our heads or out loud, but never doing anything about them."She then goes on to say "Clarity comes from engagement, not thought."This insight hit home for me. My tendency to learn hard towards action is real. I’d rather leap into a micro-experiment than get stuck in a loop of analysis and anxiety. For me, thinking too much breeds self-doubt and overwhelm (and debilitating depression), but experimenting and doing (even imperfectly) breaks the cycle and brings real learning.Action Is the Shortcut to ClarityPerhaps you are more of a thinker or over-thinker, sometimes mistaking thought for action. While being thoughtful and intentional is important, we should time box this to avoid indecision and analysis paralysis. Marie Forleo urges:"When you're stuck in a paralyzing thought loop of indecision, stop thinking and start doing. Make a move, no matter how tiny. Find or make a way to do a real world experiment. Action is the fastest and most direct route to clarity."I absolutely resonate with this. Sometimes my impulse to act raises questions. I wonder, “am I being strategic enough, or am I just keeping busy?”But experimenting in small bursts lets me reset, recalibrate, and see what truly resonates for me. I notice my own rhythm: sometimes I feel deeply and act impulsively; other times, I need to slow down and check if my actions are meaningful or leading toward burnout.The Power of Getting Clear (for You and Your Brain)Defining what you want isn’t always easy. It’s scary (as F***!). It pulls up waves of anxiety, BUT it’s empowering too. A few weeks ago I was freaking out and then I read Marie’s advice in this chapter:"You wouldn't have the dream if you didn't already have what it takes to make it happen."Read that again to yourself. Read it again. Read it again! Feel that in your heart!Whenever doubts pop up now, I remind myself of this. Neuroscience even backs up the idea that clarity fuels action. Ever heard of the Reticular Activating System (RAS)? It’s essentially your brain helping you filter in the right opportunities and cues, making it far easier to move with intention. Think about how much your brain filters out noise to help you when driving, to literally ensure that you get from one place to your destination! That is your RAS!Here’s a practical tip that changed my routine: I now write my goals down daily. This nudge helps my brain remember what’s important and activates my focus every single day. For me, my vision is more than a revenue number. It’s about creating freedom, spending time with my children, and living my passions and offering my gifts to the world. It takes less than a minute to write down, and I write it down now EVERY DAY!Insights to Action: Your Weekly ChallengeIf you want to try something powerful, here’s what Marie suggest in this chapter’s Insights to Action section:* Spend 15 minutes listing every dream, project, or goal for the next year (multi-year is fine, if you’re serious about making progress now).* Get real: choose the one that matters most and answer honestly. How important is it? How hard? What past attempts have you made, and what will you do differently?* Pick just one goal to start. Remember, supporting habits like health or organization can help your bigger dream, but focus on the goal that matters most.* Make it specific, measurable, and actionable. Think SMART goals. Skip the vague. Go for real, concrete outcomes.* My personal favorite! Write down the next three micro-steps, each under 10 minutes. Then do one, immediately.As Marie (and maybe Mark Twain) says:"The secret of getting ahead is getting started. And the secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks and then starting on the first one."This micro-action approach unblocked me and helped me move forward. When I did this, I got all three tasks done in less than 20 minutes with momentum and clarity growing with each mini-win.If You’re Stuck…If you’re not sure what your dream is, don’t keep pondering it forever. Take one small action, time-boxed for 10 minutes, that moves you toward clarity. Even if it’s just a Google search for a class or jotting down a handful of ideas, get started and see what opens up.This is the messy magic of figuring out what matters and moving toward it, day by day. Keep writing those daily goals and try out this Insights to Action practice alongside me. Let’s make it happen, one tiny experiment at a time.I’ll be back next week with Chapter 7 and some BIG NEWS!Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Hello, all! Welcome back to Confessions of a Facilitation Artist. In this series, I’ve been sharing my reflections from Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figureoutable. Last time, we unpacked the four-letter word “can’t.” Today, we’re onto another four-letter word. It’s still not profane but very paralyzing: FEAR.Fear is such a quiet constant in our lives. It slips into our late-night loop of doubts. It shows up in meetings, in blank pages, in hard conversations, in art, in parenting (oh my goodness, especially in parenting). At its worst, fear shrinks us into something smaller than what we’re capable of becoming.But here’s the big secret: Fear isn’t what truly holds us back. It’s waiting or hesitation that keeps us stuck. As countless authors and speakers have noted, WAITING is the real barrier.Fear Has Kept Us Alive — But It Also Keeps Us StuckFear is ancient. It’s why our ancestors didn’t wander into danger unprepared. It’s part of the survival kit hardwired into our nervous system. Respecting fear is important. But in our modern context, when saber-toothed tigers aren’t chasing us, fear shows up where it doesn’t serve us anymore.On LinkedIn not long ago, I admitted, “I was scared.” One of my mentors pulled me aside in a conversation. They cautioned that maybe clients would lose confidence if they saw me leading with fear. For a moment, I second-guessed myself.But then I realized something important. When I deny fear, I deny authenticity. The truth is, everything great I’ve ever done has involved fear. Sharing it has helped people feel less alone. Over the years, I have had countless parents, entrepreneurs, and leaders navigating hard things thank me for the comfort that my honesty and vulnerability has brought them.When we admit we’re scared, we’re also admitting we’re courageous. As psychologist, Susan David wrote, “Because courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is fear walking forward.”A few weeks ago, I watched my 5 year old comforting his friend. She said she was scared of starting kindergarten. He told her that she can be “scared AND brave” at the same time. I had small tears of pride since he learned that from me, as I have supported him through scary things like learning to swim. You can be scared and you can be brave—both at the same time. Shout out to Becky Kennedy and her book, Good Inside where I learned the “Two Things Can Be True” insight…which is one of the most helpful parenting books on the planet.Fear as Information, Not a Stop SignMarie Forleo reminds us: fear isn’t bad. It’s neutral. It’s information.Sometimes we confuse fear with danger, when really, it’s a signal of opportunity. What if fear isn’t a red light at all, but a neon arrow pointing: This way?One story Marie wrote in this chapter was particularly inspiring. Bruce Springsteen famously reframes stage fright as a sign of readiness. All the shaking, all the butterflies? That’s his body saying, gear up—it’s showtime. What if we saw our own fear as fuel waiting to be transformed?Listening to the Body: Fear or Intuition?One of the trickiest questions: how do you tell the difference between healthy intuition that says don’t, and fear that says yes, leap here?Marie suggests tuning into your body with a simple check: Does this decision feel expansive or contracted? Expansive often signals growth; contracted may point to a misalignment.Personally, I’ve learned to reframe choices using the “heck yes or no” filter. Thank you, Derek Sivers for this in “Hell Yeah or No.” If an opportunity or task doesn’t feel like a solid “heck yes,” then the answer is probably no. That clarity is liberating.From Failure to Faithful AttemptsOf course, one of our biggest fears is failure. But as Judge Victoria Pratt once said: “Failure is an event, not a person. People can’t be failures.”My friend, Tim Leake (hi, Tim if you listen or read this!) put it beautifully: “I didn’t fail. The idea failed. And I can always come up with more ideas.” That perspective has stuck with me.Marie gives us another reframing tool. What if FAIL actually stands for Faithful Attempt in Learning? Every time we stumble, it’s new wisdom. We don’t lose. We build our understanding.This Week’s Practice: Befriending FearHere’s how I’m working on turning fear into fuel (and how you can experiment, too). The full prompts are located at the end of Chapter 5 in Everything is Figureoutable.* Worst Case Scan: Write down the absolute worst thing that could happen. Then rate how likely it actually is (from 1–10). Create a recovery plan so you’ll know how to bounce back.* Best Case Scenario: Flip it. What’s the absolute best outcome? Write it down in detail. Let yourself imagine boldly.* Listen to Fear: Instead of shutting it out, ask: What’s the message here? Could this be pointing me toward growth?* Shift Your Language: If words like “terrified” feel paralyzing, try renaming the sensation with something gentler or even playful. (Marie uses “shushi” or “noony.” I find that quirky, but I’ll be experimenting with it this week.)* Mine Failure for Gold: Write down a past failure. Then list three real positives that came from it. Remind yourself: that moment was a faithful attempt in learning.My Mantra Right NowWhen people ask how I’m doing, my honest answer is, “I’m courageously terrified.” Both things are true. Fear is always there, but so is possibility.The real question is: which one will I let take the driver’s seat?I’m choosing possibility. I’m choosing to act. I’m choosing to shift fear from enemy to teacher.And as poet Emily Dickinson so simply put it, “I dwell in possibility.”Closing ThoughtsFear will always be at the table. Let’s not banish it, but welcome it as a voice. It’s a voice we can question, be curious about, and grow alongside.If you, too, feel courageously terrified right now: good. You’re exactly where you need to be.So tell me…what fear are you facing right now? And what could it look like to turn that fear into fuel?Be brave, be compassionate, and keep creating…especially when it scares you.Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Happy almost Fall y’all! Well, if feels that way in Michigan. This week we’re going to crack open Chapter 4 of Marie Forleo’s “Everything is Figureoutable,” zeroing in on one of the biggest barriers to dreams: Excuses.Setting the Stage: The Lie We Tell OurselvesMarie opens this chapter with a quote by Richard Bach, which my sister Annie loves his book, Illusions (hi, Annie, if you are reading this):“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves.”The ways in which we tell lies is with not just out thoughts but also the words we use. We often sabotage ourselves when we say I “can’t.” Whenever we say “I can’t,” what we usually mean is “I won’t,” or “I’m not willing.” This may be uncomfortable for you to read. We’ll address in a few minutes.Take a moment. This week, intentionally notice each “can’t” that springs from your lips. Try swapping it for “I won’t” or “I’m not willing.” Watch your perspective shift. This simple wordplay can kickstart real, honest responsibility.Reminder: Three Rules to Facilitate Your DreamsFor anyone new (or craving a refresher), here are Marie’s three Everything is Figureoutable rules:* Every problem or dream is figureoutable.* If a problem can't be cracked, maybe it’s not a real problem (think: gravity or death).* Sometimes a problem is technically figureoutable—you just don’t care enough, and that’s OK! Find what lights you up and commit to figuring that one out.This Week’s Confession: My I “Can’t” StoryYears back at a self-development retreat, I said to a group, “I can’t forgive my brother.” The facilitator invited me to say, “I haven’t been willing to forgive my brother.”That little tweak hit me like a ton of bricks! “Can’t” felt powerless, but “not willing” handed me back the keys. Self-help and success books all circle back to this: You are 100% responsible for your life.Yes, sometimes it’s easier to blame others, slip into old habits, and play victim. At that retreat, the mentor described it as being “asleep” or not fully awake to our ability to choose a response.You can’t control every event, but you can always shape your beliefs, reactions, and results. Jack Canfield’s E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome) nails this point. Responsibility isn’t meant to shame. It’s a chance to decide who you want to be, every day.Excuses, Excuses! Marie’s Top ThreeSo let’s dive into the three most common excuses Marie identifies:* I don’t have time* I don’t have money* I don’t know how (or where to start)Time to break these down and step into some practical action.1. “I Don’t Have Time.” →Make Time, Don’t Find It!Marie says it’s not about having time, it’s about making time. Personally, my productivity obsession was forged in the fires of life! * The retreat decades ago shifted my perspective: I trained for a marathon having never run a mile much befor. My big lesson? I made time; I didn’t just find it. And yeah, I also learned I could do it. * Parenthood ramped everything up: my husband was away 80% of the time while I solo-parented in Austin, working full-time without family nearby. The only way through was to get creative: groceries? Sleep? Self-care? Survival meant making systems to make time, and asking for help remained my biggest growth area.* Then came baby number two in 2020 (hello, pandemic!), a tough work environment, and even less time. Somewhere in the chaos, I realized waiting for retirement to chase my dreams was not an option. I started using the early hours—4:00 to 6:00 AM—as my “magical window.” Art, writing, learning facilitation, launching new careers…all happened while most of the world slept. You don’t have to get up that early, but you DO have to make the time for what matters—even if it’s just for five minutes.Below is a little video from my past self (December 2021) reminding you to take 5! I look much younger then.2. “I Don’t Have Money.” →Prioritize Growth Over ConsumptionLet’s get real: I’ve lived hand-to-mouth. It’s even trickier with kids. Many of us still manage to spend resources on fleeting experiences or stuff not aligned with our goals. Reading Dave Ramsey and embracing “the baby steps” helped our family build savings and prioritize spending on growth opportunities, not just instant gratification. Check in with your own spending—are you investing in your dreams or accidentally trading them away?Money is a very interesting blocker for many. If you are interested in me going deeper into money mindset books, I can consider this being another book we read. If your income is light, you have debt, and/or no savings, I would start with Dave Ramsey. I also think these basics are good for most everyone. Then you can adventure into other books that I have dabbled in by Denise Duffield-Thomas, Kate Northrup, Amanda Francis and a bunch more. 3. “I Don’t Know How.” →Breaking the Boulder Into PebblesMarie’s take is that “I don’t know how” is weak, but I’m more empathetic here. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed! My trick? Break big rocks into tiny pebbles: small, bite-size first steps. If “where to start” is your roadblock, tackle the “time” excuse first. Sometimes just spending a week carving out time, even if you get nothing tangible done proves you can move forward. Milestones don’t need to be epic. Just keep moving those pebbles!If you want extra help, I did create a guide you can download for my self-guided workshop. Weekly Action Challenge - Make Excuses DisappearReady to make it real? Marie’s Insight to Action Challenge (page 84 in my edition) goes like this:* List instances where you thought you lacked time, ability, or resources—but figured it out anyway. No example is too small!* Identify the most important goal you want to achieve.* Write down your top three excuses for not making progress.* Make a slash through each excuse. For every one, write out why it’s no longer valid and what you’re now willing to think, say, or do instead.* If “time” is a biggie, track your time (or screen time) for a week for full visibility.* Bonus: If your life depended on finding two free hours a day, what would your plan look like? For me, this means self-care including baths, fitness classes, anything to avoid burnout and keep the long haul sustainable.Wordplay Challenge: “Can’t” vs “Won’t”Again, here’s your bonus mental exercise for the week: Whenever “I can’t” pops up, pause. Change it to “I won’t” or “I’m not willing to.” Or get even more real: “I’m choosing to prioritize [X] right now.” This simple switch can radically shift the narrative and break excuse cycles that keep us feeling stuck.Final Words—Radical ResponsibilityEliminating excuses isn’t about being perfect; it’s about owning the power of choice. Step out of “I can’t” and into “I’m willing,” “I’m choosing to,” or “I’m prioritizing right now.” Whether your dream is a job change, five minutes for art, or epic family moments, make time for it.And remember, the only person who needs to believe you can figure it out is… you.Let’s go figure it out—together!Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. 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Brutal title right? Just testing to see if the title got you to open the substack email or post! But really, I recently read an Instagram post from Jay Papasan that said “Growth happens in your comfort zone…said no one ever.” That is EXACTLY why I gave this an edgy title. This series is intended to smash through the “B*llsh*t” as Marie Forleo would say, and guide us on a transformative journey through her book, Everything is Figureoutable. Last week, we laid the foundation with chapters one and two, reflecting on the mantra and the roadmap it offers. This week, we’re diving into something really important, beliefs!The Magic Behind All the Magic: BeliefMarie nails it when she says belief is the true magic behind change. It’s the starting point of an amazing chain reaction that shapes how we experience the world and what we create.Here’s the powerful framework she shares, which I want you to hold close:Belief → Thought → Feeling → Behavior → ResultWhat you believe directs what you think. Your thoughts influence how you feel. Your feelings guide what you do, and your actions create your results. This cycle then deepens and reinforces your beliefs—sometimes for better, sometimes for worse.Even if we’re not conscious of our beliefs, they’re always there, guiding our outcomes in ways we might not realize. That’s why it’s so important to check in: Are your beliefs opening doors, or quietly keeping them closed?When Beliefs Outlive Their UsefulnessOne of the biggest realizations I’ve had is that many of our beliefs (and the behaviors that come with them) once served to protect us. They kept us safe, secure, or comfortable in an earlier context. But often, we don’t stop to question if they still serve us.One of my favorite quotes is by leadership coach, Marshall Goldsmith: “What got you here will not get you there.”You have to challenge your beliefs in order to change your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and ultimately, your results. This is actually a core part of what we do in workshops and what I deeply love about facilitation: helping people uncover locked assumptions and open up new possibilities.The Creativity BeliefMarie shares her story of wanting to do deeply creative work but feeling boxed in by traditional ideas of what creativity looks like. I deeply resonated with her story here. I once believed creativity was only about art-making. I even perceived my roles in product management as the opposite of creative—dry, technical, and “uncreative” on paper. Even though I love “backlog prioritization” it sounds far from creative.But I’ve learned that creativity shows up in so many ways. It shows up in problem-solving, in collaboration, and in figuring things out in real life. I’m a maker in many forms, and that mindset shift was a big breakthrough for me.Since I changed that belief, so much of my life looks and feels different!Let’s Unpack The Power of Belief!Look around you right now. See everything you have in sight. What’s in your hands? What are you sitting on? What are the the objects nearby? Here’s the truth Marie shares that changed my perspective: almost everything around us was once a thought, a wild, unimaginable idea. Someone solved a problem, and figured out how to bring it to life.Our minds create our reality.This ties into the law of attraction or manifestation—if that resonates with you. I like to frame it as taking responsibility for setting things in motion. I’ll give you two real examples:* When I was a teenager, I told my brother in Boston’s Harvard Square, "I’m going to live here someday." Ten years later, I did.* When I lived in Chicago in my late 20’s, I wanted a treadmill. After searching online, sometime later that day, a perfectly good treadmill mysteriously appeared by next to my neighbor’s garbage can. I snagged it for free and was running on it that evening…literally the same day I had the thought! The story is better in the podcast version of this substack by the way.Coincidence? Maybe. Manifestation? Possibly. I call it responsibility—the idea that you have to take action and keep your eyes open to opportunities.The Brutal Reality About Our BeliefsEvery belief has a consequence. Empowering beliefs grow you and open doors. Limiting beliefs shrink and restrict you. For decades (and even today), I’ve wrestled with beliefs like:* I’m not good enough.* I’m too emotional.* I’m too weird.* I’m too selfish.* I’ll never be worthy.Even now, those thoughts pop up, especially when I am facing with new challenges. The difference is that I can recognize them as just thoughts, not truths, and choose not to let them control me.So the next time that you feel this (which happens anytime you do hard things or when you chicken out before doing them), notice them and ask yourself if they are really true? What if you choose not to believe them and choose a more empowering thought that leads to action? Your Homework Challenge: Rewire Your BeliefsMarie encourages us to start rewiring our beliefs now. Try saying it with me (out loud if you can):Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Everything is figureoutable. Say it enough until it sinks in.Then, here’s an exercise to make the change tangible. Grab a pen and paper:* Why did you pick this book?* What negative or limiting beliefs have stopped you from figuring this out until now?* Cross each limiting belief out and write "b*llsh*t" next to it.* Briefly explain why it’s b******t.* Who would you be without those beliefs?* Design a creative, playful plan to embody that everything is figureoutable belief.For example:* Why this book? To build my business despite my fears.* Limiting beliefs: I’m not good enough, too emotional, too weird, too selfish, unworthy.* Why these beliefs are b*llsh*t?: People love me, value my work, and I’m surrounded by evidence of my worth.* Without those beliefs: I’d be living my dream life, traveling, thriving in relationships, and sharing my gifts confidently.* Playful plan: Create a screensaver and paper art reminding me daily that everything is figureoutable. - DONE! (see below)Final ThoughtsNotice your beliefs this week. Trace their origins. Challenge and choose new ones if needed. Remember, transformation starts not with hustle or beautiful planners or journals, but with a new belief.I look forward to hearing what’s working for you or where you get stuck. Next week, we’ll dig into chapter four.Until then, keep saying it with me: Everything is Figureoutable.Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Welcome, friends, to the brand new book club series! If you’re reading (or listening) to this for the first time, I’m Monica Joy Krol. I’m a full-time working mom who chooses progress over perfection. This substack, now a book club again for the next several episodes, is about learning and growing together. It’s raw, real, and unedited with some help from AI. Over the next few weeks, we’re diving into one of my favorite new books: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo. This book is already making me think bigger, deeper, and with so much more possibility. Today we’re unpacking the insights and wisdom from Chapters 1 and 2. Let’s go!The Origin of “Everything is Figureoutable”Marie opens with her backstory and the mantra’s source: her mother, a pre-YouTube, pre-Pinterest wonder woman who fixed things and simply “figured it out.” Marie recalls asking her mother, “How do you know how to do so many things?” Her mother’s reply:“Nothing in life is that complicated. You can do whatever you set your mind to if you just roll up your sleeves, get in there, and do it. Everything is figureoutable.”This mantra is the foundation of Marie’s success, and now, the heart of this book.There’s a passage that really struck me and I want to share with you:“Despite what society, your family, or your mind may have led you to believe, you are not broken. Nothing is intrinsically wrong with you. You’re not a mistake, a fraud, or a fake. You’re not weak or incapable.”When I first read and heard that, it sent chills through my body. Why don’t we ever learn the tools to overcome these doubts? Maybe, just maybe, that’s exactly what this book is: a toolkit, and our work starts now.Big or Small: What Do YOU Want to Figure Out?In the spirit of reflection, here’s my own list of things I want to figure out:* How to build my business, support my family, and create the life I want* How to inspire and support my friends, my family, and you in your journey* How to raise children who know how powerful they are and have the confidence to do anything* How to enjoy motherhood—guilt-free* How to accomplish my “secret dreams” (maybe I’ll share them here… someday)* How to help my son become a confident reader, even if it’s a struggle at first* How to (finally!) take the car mats out to clean them. Believe me they are really gross and I can’t figure out how to detach them…yet!* Maybe, on days like today when I feel low energy, just how to honor that and chill the heck out without guiltWhat about you? No ambition is too big or too small. Write yours down, or just think on it as you read.Update: Since I wrote this, I figured out how to remove my car mats and I cleaned them. I feel like a new woman with a brand new car. <3Your Roadmap to ResultsMarie gives us a toolkit—a roadmap—to tackle life’s challenges. These stood out to me:1. Train Your Brain for GrowthMarie warns that one of the most self-sabotaging thoughts is, “I know this already.” I have some colleagues who fall into this trap after trainings, and honestly, it triggers me because it feels like a wasted learning opportunity. Truth is, there’s always something new to learn, even if it’s just a new layer of an old lesson.For example, at a recent webinar with Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky, the content wasn’t new to me, but I paid attention to their presentation style, how they framed problems versus solutions, and it unlocked new insights for me. Marie’s advice: Instead of “this won’t work for me,” ask, “How can this work for me?” Or, swap “I know this already” for “What can I learn from this?”2. Try It Before You Deny ItBe open to experimenting! Marie’s three Rules of Play:* Rule 1: All problems (or dreams) are figureoutable.* Rule 2: If a problem isn't figureoutable, it’s probably not actually a problem—it’s a fact of life (like death or gravity).* Rule 3: If you don’t care enough to figure it out, that’s okay. Find something else that lights a fire in your heart, and start from rule one again.Reading these, my heart just overflows. What if the reason we never solved a problem or chased a dream is simply it wasn’t as important to us as we thought?3. Don’t Offend YourselfMarie’s a straight-talker, sometimes with “buttloads” (her word) of swearing and sass. If her (or my) style puts you off, maybe what you need to figure out is how you’re getting in your own way. The wisdom is worth it. Disclaimer, next week’s episode will be explicit since one of her homework items involves using the work, “B**sh*t” multiple times. 4. Do the WorkMy natural bias is toward action, not just thinking or researching (which can masquerade as action). I’m committing to doing each prompt and exercise with you over the coming weeks. Marie advocates for doing the work by hand—to slow down and let clarity emerge. But however you do it, just do the work.5. Connect With Our CommunityMarie says, and I wholeheartedly agree:“The figureoutable philosophy becomes geometrically more powerful (and fun!) when applied in collaboration with others. You’ll reach your collective goals faster and with a greater sense of joy, creativity, and camaraderie than ever before.”That’s why this Substack is now a book club. Learning together is way better, easier, and more fun.Are You In?This week we kicked off with Chapters 1 & 2. Each week we’ll focus on one chapter. Next up, Chapter 3, where we’ll be digging into insights and exercises as we go. Jump in the comments and let us know: are you with me? Write “HECK YEAH!” if you’re in.We’ll roll through all ten chapters (plus the epilogue), aiming to finish by early-to-mid October. And if you stick with me, I promise to reveal some big news that terrifies and excites me. Stay tuned and stay curious!So, what will YOU figure out this week? Let’s go on this journey together. Everything is figureoutable.Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping, Strategy & Design Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com

Hello, all! I admit this post is brought to you by a less than organized self, but I am determined to get this episode/entry across the finish line. If you’ve been following along with my book club journey through Ethan Mollick’s Co-Intelligence: Living and Working with AI, welcome to our final chapter: Chapter 9: AI as Our Future.I have to admit, tenacity is not my working genius. If you’ve been around for my “Six Types of Working Genius” series, you know this about me! So it’s a minor miracle (and a testament to progress over perfection) that I’m writing this from my hotel, the morning after a late night of Full Stack Facilitator fun and deep-dive conversations.But here I write, committed to consistency and wrapping things up and reflect on what Mollick sketches out as the four big scenarios for how AI might unfold in the coming years. The Four Possibilities for AI’s FutureMollick breaks it down like this:* As Good As It GetsMaybe what we have today, incredible as it is, is pretty much it. Maybe this is as good as AI will get with only small tweaks and improvements from here. this would be likely to exist if we are not able to overcome technical barriers, expensive scaling, and any new legal and regulatory walls. But, honestly, can you imagine AI not leaping forward for at least a few more rounds? I can’t.* Slow GrowthIn this scenario, AI keeps getting better, but more slowly. Think 10% improvements vs. the 10X revolutions (and almost dizzying) growth we’ve experience. Again, some of the reasons for slow growth would be the reasons in scenario one such as technical barriers, cost and legal/regulatory walls. * Exponential GrowthThis is where it gets exhilarating (or terrifying, depending on your mood). Mollick says that this growth invokes the “flywheel effect.” This means “incremental progress and persistent effort build momentum over time, eventually leading to self-reinforcing growth that becomes easier and more powerful with each cycle.” In this scenario, it’s hypothesized that AI will help to create more advanced AI, compounding gains, and speeding up improvement. The “self-accelerating” loop makes things powerful, fast.* Machine God / AGI ScenarioThis is where we cross into science fiction (Matrix or Black Mirror, anyone?). AI becomes “Artificial General Intelligence” and potentially matching human intellect and creativity with some sentience. This doesn’t necessarily mean humans are in a distopian world. Mollick says that it could lead approach a utopia, where humans are empowered and liberated. My personal opinion is that I am terrified that humans consume more than create these days. I worry that this utopia for some would be my personal hell! Does anyone remember the obese humans on the space cruise ship in WALL-E? (Personally, I’d like to avoid becoming a lounge-chair human sipping endless sodas while AI does everything.)So, What Do We Make of All This?My personal take? There’s a lot to consider, and a lot still up in the air. I feel the “AI fatigue” and skepticism setting in, constantly second-guessing whether what I’m seeing or reading was generated by a fellow human or a silicon intelligence. But even if the future feels uncertain (and a bit sci-fi), it’s clear that staying curious, creative, and connected to our own learning journeys is more valuable than ever.Well, that’s all for Co-Intelligence. I am glad we had this learning journey together. I’ll be taking a quick regroup—and then I’ll be back with our next book: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo. Stay tuned for more reflections, misadventures, and book-club-fueled creativity.And if you enjoyed this series, I’d love to hear from you! Drop a comment or message me. We’re all figuring this out together.Here’s to progress, over perfection, always. Also, keep investing in yourself! Listen to my mom! (see video below). Whenever you're ready, I can help you with:* Workshop design and facilitation* Facilitation and workshop training, including AI Opportunity Mapping and Sprints* Intention setting, planning, and incremental progress for success This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit facilitationartist.substack.com