I’m back with the blog version if you prefer to read! This blog post distills insights (yes, this week with the help of AI because I am really short on time) from my latest podcast inspired by Chapter 2 of Questlove’s Creative Quest, exploring the subtle and surprising power of mentors and apprentices. The podcast has many more insights and stories (and was not created by AI), so it’s worth a listen at 1.5 speed.

Mentorship: Not Always What You Expect

Questlove’s second chapter dives into mentors and apprenticeships. The most striking lesson? We often don’t realize who our mentors are until we look back. Many years in small arts organizations to higher ed and even edtech left me asking, “Where are the mentors?” I have often felt I am left to figure it out alone.

Mentorship isn’t always an official role or always your boss. Often, it’s often a person who influences your work by example or casual advice. If you feel mentor-less, look beyond your immediate circle. Influence can—and often does—come from unexpected places.

Lessons Heard, Lessons Applied

“It wasn’t the lessons that were taught, it was the lessons that were heard.”

- Questlove

The heart of apprenticeship is being open and receptive to what’s offered. In my world, attending Voltage Control’s Facilitation Lab Summit introduced me to the power of learning from fellow facilitators. Last year, my colleague, JJ presented. Through his session and our workshop collaboration, his style and approach has since influenced my own, even though the relationship wasn’t formal mentorship.

Channeling Influence, Honoring Voice

Here’s an exercise I’ve used since my twenties: before big presentations or interviews, I channel people I respect, borrowing their clarity and confidence (my version is “What Would Jonathan Courtney* Do?”). It’s not about imitation—it’s an act of honoring influence while trusting that my unique voice always comes through.

So don’t apologize for reflecting your mentors or influences. Your originality is always present, no matter whose echo you carry.

*I reflect on my journey of his mentorship a little in this post.

Growth by Subtraction

Sometimes clarity comes from knowing what you don’t want. Questlove knew early on he didn’t want to be “just a drum machine.” In my art—especially paper cutting—I create by removing what doesn’t belong, letting the shape emerge. Growth is often subtraction, not addition.

Creative Blend: Becoming Your Own

We are all “Frankenstein’s monster”—a unique blend of influences, not copies. AI can’t replicate your context or lived experiences. The act of blending influences into something new is the essence of creative power.

Reciprocity and Abundance

True mentorship isn’t top-down. Jay Dilla, a key influence for Questlove, modeled generosity and mutual exchange—making everyone feel valued. In my work as a facilitator, and in conversations with peers like David, Mimi, Lindsay, Tim, Sebastian, Andy, and Cat (and SOOOOO many more), I’ve learned to treat colleagues as comrades, not competitors. The world is big, and there’s room for all of us to contribute meaningfully.

And, of course, let’s consider Questlove’s final thought: “The mismatch is the match. Attach yourself to people who understand things you don’t quite understand.” Look for mentors who stretch your perspective, not just those who share it.

Homework & Reflection

Here’s your invitation:

* List something you created recently whether it be art, a presentation or a successful yet crucial conversation with your spouse or kids. Close your eyes and reflect on who influenced you directly or indirectly? Reach out and say thank you.

* Define your role as apprentice. What’s one core thesis statement you’re living by from learning from others?

* Seek out people who know things you don’t—and let curiosity guide you.

Final Thoughts

Sharing what you learn is powerful. It documents your own growth and quietly ripples outward—someone else will be influenced by your honesty and reflection. Progress is better than perfection. Let’s learn, share, and evolve together.

If this resonates, let me know—share with someone who’s influenced you, or reflect in the comments about your own learning journey.

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