Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady! How are you taking care of you these days? Are you ready to elevate your wellness and give your nervous system the support it needs?This week, Emily Butts, owner of InnerGreat Lymphatic Care Practice, stops by to share how incorporating holistic healing into her self-care practice changed her entire life and redefined her purpose. Emily explains why modalities like lymphatic drainage, Pulse Electromagnetic Therapy (PEMF), neurofeedback and other techniques can help reduce inflammation, fatigue and improve the overall quality of your life. While these healing modalities may seem radical they are proving to be important remedies of dealing with the challenges that modern living offer. The question is, how can we make them more accessible to our communities? Tune in because Emily has insights that you won’t want to miss.We all know by now that it is up to us to make the daily changes to our lifestyle to keep us upright and well. Lady, find us on Instagram and let us know what healing techniques you employ to keep you healthy and strong. Quote of the Day:“Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion,” – bell hooks  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Where to find Emily Butts:Website: InnerGreat Lymphatic Care PracticeInstagram: @innergreat_lymphatics  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! We love you, for real. There’s so much going on in the world right now. Everything from the election to multiple genocides on Black and Brown people to the high price on groceries. On top of that it can feel like Black women are being mistreated across the board and disrespected at levels that are often disappointing. What was it that Malcolm X. said about the most disrespected, unprotected, and neglected person in America? Yep, it’s us. But, that is not the entirety of our story – in fact it barely scratches the surface of the wonderous, beautiful, and amazing experience of being a Black woman.This week Terri and Dr. Dom pour into each other and you with a love letter to Black women. This heart affirming, soul understanding episode is meant for the ladies who need a quick reminder that girl, you are the shit and don’t let nobody tell you different! Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their experiences being loved on, supported, and uplifted by Black women in the hopes that if ever there is a low moment in your journey to reflect on the ways that you’ve been supported by your community of Black women. Save this episode and tap in on Instagram. What’s one of your favorite memories of your sister circle? Quote of the Day:“Embrace what makes you unique, even if it makes others uncomfortable. – Janelle Monáe  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! It’s officially Fall and the temperature is starting to cool. All of you Autumn girlies are ready for your pumpkin spice and chunky sweaters, but is your home ready for cozy time? This week Terri and Dr. Dom uncover all of the elements that make their homes a place of sanctuary, rest and rejuvenation. Whether it’s placing a decorative faux plant or throw blankets soft as pillows, how you accentuate your home tells the tale of not only your personal style and vibe, but also your mental health and vibration.By sharing their favorites the two have been able to elevate their home space so that they can carry their unique energy into the world. We want to hear from you, lady. What does your comfy home checklist include? Tune in to the Aftershow for more styling and décor tips for your most inviting home experience! Quote of the Day:"Your home should tell a story of who you are and be a collection of the things you love." – Michelle and Steph, the founders of Blk and Home  Learn more about our advertiser, BiOptimizers, by visiting the link below. Use promo code herspace at checkout to enjoy 10% off your purchase!  URL: bioptimizers.com/herspace  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

The temperature is cooling down and it’s time to get cozy. Aside from the stack of books you’ve been meaning to read, the new soup recipes you’re excited to try, and the movies and shows you’re planning to watch, how else do you plan on finding comfort this Fall?If turning up the…ahem…heat is on your list of things to do this Autumn, then Terri and Dr. Dom have the essential list for you to plan a safe, fun cuffing season. Whether you are looking for a winter boo or the start of a long-term relationship, every gal in the know has a set of agreed upon boundaries that can keep every situation on the up and up until the temperature thaws. Hit us up on Instagram and holla at us about how you plan to keep it hot while it’s cold outside. Quote of the Day:"It's cuffin' season and now we got a reason..." – Sza  Learn more about our advertiser, BiOptimizers, by visiting the link below. Use promo code herspace at checkout to enjoy 10% off your purchase!  URL: bioptimizers.com/herspace  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Have you ever found yourself in a tense predicament where you and another person are at odds and have differing perspectives on how to find a solution? These everyday occurrences, also known as conflicts, are natural parts of life and when handled skillfully can increase your ability to relate to others and improve your self-respect.Conflicts can range from things as simple as asking a neighbor to stop blocking your parking space to much larger issues such as how to parent a child you share. There is no right way to handle conflict, but there are ways to improve your chances of finding a peaceful resolution. This week Dr. Dom and Terri have a framework to add to your toolkit when disagreements and troubling situations arise. Head to Patreon to grab your downloadable copy of the framework so you can review it and adapt it to your personal style. Once you understand how you can navigate conflict with this framework you’ll be in the driver’s seat of your experience and more able to meet life as it is. Quote of the Day:“The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.” – Thomas Crum  Learn more about our advertiser, BiOptimizers, by visiting the link below. Use promo code herspace at checkout to enjoy 10% off your purchase!  URL: bioptimizers.com/herspace    Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Dr. Dom and Terri welcome Bianca Ordoñez to Cultivating H.E.R. Space to discuss a topic that affects one out of every 54 Black women in their lifetime. Bianca is a HIV awareness advocate and uses her light to discuss how contracting and living with the infection has shaped her life and allowed her to write her own narrative.Bianca’s journey is a harrowing series of events that began with inconceivable family shame that led to her escaping sex trafficking and being diagnosed with HIV at the age of 23. She shares her unique insight on how to build a life one can be proud of despite significant challenges. While today’s topic is serious, Bianca offers both a sobering perspective on finding your worth and hope for those who may feel that their life choices, predicated by events that may have been out of their control, do not have to define their destiny. This is a can’t miss episode and a reminder about the importance of health in every facet of your life. Be sure to take care of yourself through it. We love you, lady! Quote of the Day:"The pain of healing today is worth the peace and freedom you'll feel tomorrow.” – Bianca Ordonez  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Where to find Bianca Ordoñez:YouTube: Bianca OrdoñezInstagram: @bianca.ordonez_TikTok: @bianca.ordonez_Facebook: Bianca Ordoñez  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Calling all of the foxy cowgirls to the floor! If Beyonce’ got you excited with Cowboy Carter let Cultivating H.E.R. Space keep the good times rolling by introducing you to the dynamic trio making waves in country music. Chapel Hart is a Nashville-based country group with roots in Mississippi taking the genre by storm.The two sisters, Danica and Devynn Hart, and their cousin Trea Swindle join Terri and Dr. Dom for a lively, spunky, real conversation about the ups and downs breaking into a traditionally white, male genre. They talk about how getting their start in church gave them a solid foundation to not only keep themselves motivated, but also to keep their eyes on their own paper and run their race. This advice has taken the group far as a self-funded indie group letting their voices be heard on the America’s Got Talent stage (leading to them making it to the finals in 2022) and on the Grand Old Opry stage (where they received four standing ovations).They drop gems about what it means to own your dreams and not let anything deter you from being as successful as you want to be. Tune in for a fun and inspiring episode! Quote of the Day:"Don't you try to please no one except the one inside." – Chapel Hart  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Where to find Chapel Hart:Website: Chapel HartApple Music: Chapel HartAmazon Music: Chapel HartYouTube: Chapel HartInstagram: @chapelhartbandTwitter: @ChapelHartBandFacebook: Chapel Hart  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Checking in here to ask you one important question – how’s your self-talk these days? We know how hard it can be to keep yourself uplifted during these turbulent, unprecedented times. The truth of the matter is that the only way to get through the day is by staying true to yourself and doing YOU! How? Dr. Dom and Terri offer practical tips for increasing your self-regard, self-compassion, and authenticity. Listen to this episode when you need a boost or incorporate it into your daily affirmation playlist and allow yourself to believe in your greatness. Let Dr. Dom take you to church as she reminds you that your worth is not dependent on external validation even when it may seem as though your livelihood depends on it. Head to Patreon for more tips on how to create a lifestyle of positive self-image that will keep you anchored during the storms of life.Quote of the Day:“The best thing I can do for myself, my loved ones, and my community is to heal myself, love myself, and be true to myself.” – Terri Lomax  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri welcome a truly inspiring guest who will bring a bright smile to your face. Dr. Trudy-Ann Frazer is a pediatric dentist, wellness expert, and social media influencer.She stops by Cultivating H.E.R. Space to drop words of wisdom and wise practices for dental hygiene. Dr. Trudy-Ann shares her inspiring story of how staying true to herself opened doors that allowed her to grow into a successful pediatrician and wellness practitioner. Dr. Trudy-Ann shares why she believes finding your sister tribe – the group of women who can walk with you as you strut into your best self – should be a high priority. And, she offers some of the health and wellness gems she shares with guests of her I Am Worthy retreat. She also shares pro tips on how to develop healthy dental hygiene habits for yourself and your little ones. Trust us, if you’re ready to elevate your oral care you won’t want to miss these tips! Quote of the Day:"Invest in yourself like you're the most valuable asset" – Dr. Trudy-Ann Frazer  Where to find Dr. Trudy-Ann Frazer:Website: I Am Worthy RetreatInstagram: @drtudyann  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! We know you know you’re a baddie, but do you really know the power you hold? Pretty privilege is often discussed on social media as an ideal, but it’s an actual concept with real consequences – good or bad.Pretty privilege is the notion that society favors people based on if and how they are perceived as conventionally attractive. Often, it can result in extra favors or treats because of your beauty, but sometimes the implication of extra favor for attractiveness can make for uncomfortable situations. After all, we want to be valued for our worthiness and merit over beauty, but being appreciated for having that je ne sais quoi doesn’t hurt either.Terri and Dr. Dom sit down and talk about when they first realized they were beautiful, ways that they’ve experienced pretty privilege, and how they’ve maintained control in their experience of it. They offer some reflection questions for you to dive deep into your own experience of it so that you can anchor why your level of hotness is top tier no matter what anyone says!Remember lady, true beauty does, indeed, start within. So, hold your head up high and strut through life like the Goddess you are! Quote of the Day:"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Are you ready to step in the future? Well, even if you are not the future is here.Artificial Intelligence, once only imagined in sci-fi movies, is now a part of daily life. Whether it’s speaking into Siri for basic information or prompting ChatGPT to write your emails and official communications, AI is here and it looks like it is here to stay.So, is this a good thing? Dr. Dom and Terri explore their apprehensions about the technology and offer a few perspectives on the evolution of technology from the analog days until now where technology drives innovation. Still, questions linger about job security, privacy concerns, and keeping the use of data ethical. Lady, this is going to be an ongoing conversation and we want to hear from you about your stance on AI! Find us on Instagram and let us know are you ready for the technological revolution or does the idea of AI make you feel uneasy? Quote of the Day:"AI is not about man versus machine, but rather man with machine, complementing our strengths and compensating for our weaknesses." -ChatGPT  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Are you ready to expand your perspective? This week Terri and Dr. Dom welcome Esther Ikoro and Darren Calhoun, hosts of the podcast Second Sunday, an Ambie-nominated podcast about Black queer people finding, keeping, and sometimes losing faith in the Black church. The hosts gather to dive deep into all of the issues that Queer folk have as they navigate their relationship with faith, religion, and building community. Esther and Darren tackle nuanced conversations with depth and skill while also managing to keep it fun and sexy. Not sure what we mean by that? You’ll have to wait until the OhYouBlatchet! segment to find out.The two hosts offer strategies for overcoming church hurt, insight as to why finding community in church is as important an issue as ever, and possible solutions on how churches can energize their offerings to attract a younger crowd. Can we get an Amen? Tap in and find out how you can grow your faith community or support someone who is looking to find more like-hearted people with whom to fellowship! Quote of the Day:"The saints ain't ready for this...but we're still gonna talk about it." – Second Sunday  Where to find Second Sunday:Podcast: Second SundayInstagram: @secondsundaypodInstagram: @estheralreadyInstagram: @heydarren  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Have you ever been gaslit and traumatized by a toxic, narcissistic so-and-so who abused your trust, violated your boundaries, and caused you to doubt yourself? Does that sentence trigger you? Well, if it does then tune in to this week’s episode so Dr. Dom and Terri can help take the sting out of those words and give you the context around what certain terms mean so you can accurately assess and process events in your life.The Internet is a wonderful tool, but certain words and phrases can catch on and become buzzy and slowly their meaning can become distorted. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom identify terms that are trendy and provide accurate definitions and examples so that you don’t confuse lovebombing with something more benign. And, if you want to dive deeper into some of these concepts check out these previous episodes: ✓ S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Diving into Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Narcissism Quiz✓ S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner with Dr. Ramani Durvasula✓ S11E1: Getting Back to Dating After a Toxic Relationship✓ S17E3: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and, Manipulation Sound Like✓ S17E4: How to Stand Your Ground and Hold Gaslighters Accountable✓ S23E1: Trauma Bonding: Protecting Yourself From Unhealthy RelationshipsWords to Use Instead:1. Gaslighting→ Manipulating, lying2. Toxic→ Unhealthy, difficult3. Traumatized→ Upset, embarrassed4. Triggered→ Activated, reminded5. Narcissist→ Selfish, self-centered6. Boundaries → Limit, rule, guidelineQuote of the Day:“Language is the road map of a culture. It tells you where its people come from and where they are going.” – Rita Mae Brown  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Doesn’t it seem like 2024 took off in a full sprint? This year has moved rather quickly, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom invite Ashley Menzies Babatunde, host of the No Straight Path podcast, to discuss the power of the pause, and why honoring the moments when life slows you down can be your biggest asset and opportunity to find and strengthen your authentic self. Ashley shares her inspirational story of advocating for herself after a major life event showed her the beauty in her present, albeit difficult, circumstance so that she could create a life rich with meaning. Her decision to embrace where her life took her next with curiosity and wonder opened possibilities that were better than she could have imagined. Join Dr. Dom and Terri for a motivating conversation about finding the blessings and beauty in your life stage.Quote of the Day:"The pauses in life taught me how to live." – Ashley Menzies Babatunde  Where to find Ashley Menzies Babatunde:Website: ashleymenzies.comPodcast: No Straight PathInstagram: @ms_menziesInstagram: @no_straight_pathLinkedIn: Ashley Menzies  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with Terri Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri step in their bag and talk about the tender topic of trauma bonding and why it can cause serious harm to you if you let it go unchecked. What is trauma bonding? Social media has a way of amplifying new trends and concepts, but sometimes those new concepts are buzzy but inaccurate. Dr. Dom and Terri delve into what trauma bonding actually is so that you have a framework of how to navigate situations where the potential for harm is high. Break out your Cultivating H.E.R. Space journal, located in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, and create a safe space for you to identify the areas where you can heal so that those who aim to trauma bond with you have nowhere to hook into you. And, remember take care and go at a pace that feels supportive while you listen – we love you, lady!Quote of the Day:"Our virtues are wrapped inside of our limitations. It is only when we are in close proximity to others that we begin to intimately explore the boundaries of our virtues by slamming into our limitations."– Resmaa Menakem  Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com