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Decision Masters

Author: Kirsten Parker

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How do you make decisions? How do you feel about your choices? This podcast will help you SIMPLIFY decision making and empower you to TRUST every choice you make. (Yaaaas!)

I've been coaching big-brained high-achievers for years, helping them drop lifelong habits of overthinking & harsh self-criticism — so they can make powerful, authentic, self-honoring decisions every day.

And now I'm sharing the science-based, tried-and-tested strategies that will work for YOU. Tune in every Thursday for tools to get out of overwhelm, angst & confusion - and finally feel present in your life, grounded in who you are, and certain of where you're going.
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If you could only pack 5 podcast episodes for a trip to a deserted island for the rest of forever, this would be one of them. How do you deal with fear in the decision process. Concerns, worries, anxieties, worst-case-scenario'ing, fear of people's opinions (FOPO)... From the smallest choice about how to phrase a text, to the biggest life decision about your career or relationship - Fear will make all the difference in you understanding and loving your choice...or not.  This episode is a Masterclass in Conscious Decision Making. We cover: How to spot "fear" interrupting, delaying or misguiding your choices (even if it doesn't automatically look or feel like "fear") What it means to acknowledge a fear without judgment or arguing Why most fears come up (and what they want for you) The vital importance of validating fears (yup, even if you think they're f****ng irrational or infuriating) And TWO methods of having a thorough, efficient, effective (self-compassionate) conversation with yourself about these fears One is using the Four Fear Questions from Episode 16 (see free downloadable in the Show Notes!) The other is "handing that Minion the mic and letting him be heard by your Mind Committee" I also walk you through a real-life example of using these tools to arrive at a clear, confident decision - instead of angsting about it for a year: my own choice to start the very first Decision Masters Program back in 2021! Building up a fluency in your fear will let you feel so much more conscious and in charge - which means you'll make decisions in a different way than you would have otherwise, if you didn't know what to do with these fears. That level of ownership will save you time, energy, and angst. And open up more decisions that are in alignment for you, Which is, of course, the dream.   Links! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Download your free guide to the Four Fear Questions Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
If you're an overthinker, people-pleaser, indecisive or anxious...guess what. Fear is getting in the way of a lot of your decisions. Don't worry, I'm here to help! Wouldn't it be nice to have a formula for dealing with fear?  So when you went to make a decision and got worried, anxious, self-conscious, uncertain, or any other flavor of scared...it wasn't a big deal? What if you knew what do to when "fear happens" - and you could land on a clear, confident choice anyway? YES PLEASE. This is the second episode in a series all about fear in decision-making. Today, we focus on the DON'Ts.  Listen in for: How fluency in your fear is going to make your decisions 10x easier for LIFE What it looks / sounds / feels like for fear to influence your choices The 3 most common ways we unskillfully respond to fear when making a decision   Links! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
How to make a clear, confident decision when you're confused?  Well, that might not be the most useful question to ask here...Lemme try a rephrase.  How do you solve the problem of confusion? (Insert thinky emoji here) Feeling stuck in confusion is such a normal, human, no-need-to-judge situation.  But there's an easier solution than a) waiting for the answer to suddenly become clear or b) forcing a choice through basically-random selection. It starts with asking a better question: What might I be afraid of here? Today I propose that confusion isn't always the straightforward feeling we think it is. Sometimes, it's a subconscious an escape attempt to avoid using up energy and/or getting vulnerable enough to declare a choice! This episode kicks off a series on FEAR. By the end of the next few weeks, you'll be so fluent in your own personal language of fear that you'll cut decision time in half - starting with wherever you've been confused!   Links! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
The decision is DONE, hooray!...But wait. You're not doing the thing you decided to do. (Ruh-roh.) Whether it's sending a simple email or putting a large deposit down, implementing a choice can be the toughest part of this whole "deciding" process. Today we break down 3 specific issues that can contribute to this (super common) stall-out scenario, and how to get yourself into action. Listen in for how to: Make sure you truly ARE decided (and how to get there if you're not) Check if sneaky perfectionism is creating unnecessary obstacles (aka if you're "shoulding" all over yourself) Create an actionable plan for even the biggest, scariest decisions   Links! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
Your inner dialogue is like a radio station that's always running. There are times you're super tuned into it and listening closely to your self-talk (usually when you're feeling really good or really bad about yourself!) But even when these messages aren't coming through loud 'n clear...the station's still broadcasting. Today I'm asking you to tune in on purpose, and find out what your Self-Talk Baseline is. Why? Because these messages you're consciously and subconsciously sending yourself all day long are the biggest contributor to your Self-Concept.  And your Self-Concept (the story you believe about who you are) is a huge driver of decisions! If you want to be the type of person who is (fill in the blank: successful, confident, self-celebratory), then you need to make decisions that kind of person would make. And there's no way to do that if you don't believe you ARE that kind of person. So to hack your Self-Concept, we're going straight to the source: your Self-Talk. Listen in for 3 ways to check what your Self-Talk Baseline is, and how to create an Anchor Thought to shift your inner dialogue on purpose!   Links! Download the on-demand Calendar Clinic What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
What Kool-Aid are decisive people drinking, and where can we get some? Look no further my friend. Today we reveal the "secrets" that give decisive people their superpower. Spoiler alert, they ain't hard, surprising or even out of your wheel house! Let's dig into these 5 things you're already doing (yes, you!) that make it easy to make firm, confident decisions in certain areas of life.  When you realize what you're already good at, you can transfer those skills to the choices that seem harder to nail down. Here are the 5 "secrets" we get into in this episode: Where decisive people focus when facing decisions The decisive person's stance on perfection How people's reactions affect decisive people The decisive person's winning perspective on "options" How decisive people deal with high stakes   Links! Download the on-demand Calendar Clinic What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
Today we're diving into what you can DO differently in order to experience different results. Specifically: The results of not feeling *behind* all the time. If you want to be on top of things, prioritize on purpose, and feel good about how you use your time - this is the episode for you! In Part 1 (Ep 85), we explored how you can THINK differently (so make sure to catch that, since half our problems can usually be solved in the mind!) For everything else though, we have to change our tactics. In this episode I ask you to consider key questions, to find out which solutions will make the biggest impact for you: Is your schedule written down, and is it in one place or 20? Are your larger goals making it onto your calendar? Are you being DECISIVE? This is a big one! Do you have "alternate universe To Do List time"? Are you a Rollover Tasker or Repeat Event Ignorer?   Each of these questions points to a game-changing...erhm...change you can make, to feel more control over your calendar and feel better about how you use your time!  Links! Download the on-demand Calendar Clinic What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Want to work together, to organize your time and clarify your priorities? Book your Make a Decision Package here or book your free consultation to explore your options!
GREAT. You're on board with the decision to stop living your life "feeling behind."  Let's do it. This episode is a two-parter because calendars can feel chaotic enough — We need a simple framework to de-behind-ify them. So we're going to look at your schedule thusly: To change your results — in our case, not feeling behind anymore) — you can either change what you're thinking, change what you're doing, or both. Today's episode explores what you might need to THINK differently, in order to stop feeling constantly behind. I ask you to consider these 3 questions (and go into mega detail about how to answer them!): Are you clear on what your hours are for (aka "have you defined "enough")? Are you setting kind and honest self-expectations? (note: there's a reason I didn't say "realistic") Who else is in your head (and trickling into those expectations we mentioned) Give these a good think and you'll be primed to make the most of the next episode (where we get into what you want to DO differently) — Goodbye, perpetual behind-dome! Links! FREE Calendar Clinic Friday 1/12: Clean up your chaos and make sure you don't get "behind" this year! The Decision Masters Program starts January 23rd: Get details here What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz!
There are two main reasons I want you to consider unsubscribing from the "I'm Behind" mindset: #1: What it does to your self-concept. #2: How it distracts you from real problems worth solving! Here's what we're covering in the first of this series on never living in this "I'm behind" story again: How your Mindset Atmosphere works (what letting one belief in can do to the entire system) Why this is a decision you need to make BEFORE you reorg your schedule How to stop living in the cycle of feeling behind, burning out to catch up, repeat Links! FREE Calendar Clinic Friday 1/12: Clean up your chaos and make sure you don't get "behind" this year! The Decision Masters Program starts January 23rd: Get details here What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz!
As the chapter of 2023 comes to a close, you may feel compelled to reflect on the year — but if you're like me, you may also be too tired and forward-focused for a big "reflect sesh" to sound fun right now. So as to not miss out on any valuable lessons, but also to make reflection doable enough to, erm, DO...I'm offering a simple but powerful practice to look back and make a game plan for what's ahead. Listen in as I share 3 toxic, unhelpful thoughts I'm leaving behind (and how you can locate the beliefs you don't want to invest in next year). And how I'm laying the foundation for an intentional mindset going into the New Year. Cheers to many powerful, authentic, self-honoring decisions to come in 2024! LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Ready to see if we're a fit to work together? 
Ever wondered what it's like to have a Coaching conversation?  What do we talk about? How's it look to talk through an issue or goal?  This is the episode for you! We talk a lot about the benefits of coaching (clearer head, easier decisions, less angst, yes please!) — but I haven't shared a behind-the-scenes look like this before.  In this episode, I walk you through examples of coaching convos, to paint a clearer picture of what it looks like to work together. AND you get a 3-step Framework for hiring help or adding a support system into your life, that will take all the drama, indecision and avoidance out of the process.  Enjoy! LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Ready to see if we're a fit to work together?
I like to think of goals as mountains we wanna climb. An obstacle "at the trail head" for a lot of people is this big misunderstanding. That you need a perfect routine and/or to go 110% HAM in order to achieve a goal. If you've been frustrated at your lack of progress on a goal (or starting, period) - but you also can't (or don't want to!) get into systematized daily routine, or take a week off to laser-focus on one thing only, this episode's for you. We get into: When *consistent* is better than *perfect*  How to create faster results with "spread out effort" Why focusing on how you SHOULD be able to do it is a waste of time   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Let's talk 1-on-1 about Coaching (free).
MONEY. Love it? Hate it? Prefer to ignore it?  Today you're getting 4 Fundamental Tips to work through a money decision in a brand new way. So you don't have to a) wait 'til you find out later if it was a "good or bad" choice, b) keep making money decisions out of reactivity to fear, or c) limit yourself from things you really DO want to invest in. I'll walk you through: How to figure out what you want (and how to trust how much you think you want it) Why you should look at numbers even if you're convinced "you can't afford it" A 180 perspective on "affording stuff" that'll guarantee empowered money decisions for the rest of time How to stop letting your *feelings* and *norms* from unconsciously dictating your choices, so you can make NEW choices, to create NEW results and experiences in your life!   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Let's talk 1-on-1 about Coaching (free).
Thinking it might be time for a career change?  Whether you're pretty happy but curious about venturing out of your Comfort Zone, or you're burnt out and one spicy interaction from quitting on the spot - this episode's for you. Listen in on my conversation with fellow Coach and Career Changer, Shyloh Brown, as we talk about: The messy, unsexy, real way a "pivot" usually looks (hint: it's not what you think and you may not like it) How to respond to real-life fears about paying bills and feeding your kids when you're contemplating career change Ways you can interact with your anxiety that aren't "just calming down" or "just jumping off the cliff already" What knowing your WHY will give you fuel to do (and how it'll help you make the best decisions for you!) We also explore the question "Do I need to change my career or just my mindset?" - and use real client examples to demonstrate how to go about answering it!   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters small group Coaching Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Talk 1-on-1 about Coaching with Kirsten (free). Follow Shyloh on IG: @shylohbcoaching Learn how to work with Shyloh
Here's the truth about STUCK: It's a form of indecision that can become a habit. We can get so used to not taking a step forward into "decided" that Stuck becomes a normal place to hang out! If you have an idea you really want to take action on (like...you're sick of hearing yourself talk about it and NEED to do the damn thing) -or- if you're worried the only way to get yourself into gear is to activate Ye Olde Burnout Methods of Yore, you're in luck. This episode's for you. What's inside: 3 simple questions to ask that'll move you out of Stuck and into Decided How to get into action even if you aren't 100% fully decided on the "big issue"  A quick tangent that'll help you LOVE your holiday conversations with otherwise predictably negative people (you're welcome)   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here. Let's talk 1-on-1 about Coaching (free).
Ahhh, holidays. The time of year when otherwise confident, assertive, boundaried people tend to switch into some other gear. This is when we can all of sudden become wildly susceptible to stressful decision-making! NOT THIS YEAR, friend-o. I'm cluing you into 3 mistakes you may be at risk of making in these final weeks of the year, so instead, you can have the best. damn. season. of 2023. What's inside: What about this time of year makes stressful, disempowered decision-making easier How groupthink can cost you time, money and experiences you don't have to surrender A simple but game-changing trick to filter decisions throughout the season, so you can trust you're choosing right every time (and move the heck on with your life)   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! Get your free ticket to the Decision Style Workshop! Ready to prioritize yourself, make decisions easier for life, and do it alongside a community of like-minded supporters? The Decision Masters Program is BACK and enrolling now. Learn everything here.
When it comes to Decision Styles, People-Pleaser might be the one with the most judgment attached to it.  In this series on the Decision Styles, and with the Decision Style Quiz, my goal is to help you make the MOST of how you operate. And in that spirit, I don't want to simply accept all the historical & societal criticisms we can assume about what it means to "be a people-pleaser." In my opinion, the world would lose a lot of its brightness without people making decisions that take others' happiness and comfort into account.  So how do you get the best of both worlds? How do you keep your considerate nature WITHOUT feeling like a doormat?  Listen in for:  How to maximize the good about your "people-pleasing" habits What the same decision can look like when it's People-Pleasing vs. Empowered The one thing to focus on for the next 24 hours that'll kickstart massive habit change!   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! The Ivy Sisters Summit happens Nov 9! It's free, it's virtual, and over 500 Ivy League Women from all over the world are coming. Are you?  Get your free ticket to the Decision Style Workshop! Fun update (fupdate?)...! Decision Masters is now on YouTube. Watch the Interviews and Episodes here!
How often have you put yourself down for your Perfectionism?  "UGH there I go again, needing everything to be perfect, SIGH." Ok, yes I agree sometimes this habit feels like a runaway train that costs you hours you never wanted to give to a project because who even is gonna notice that the background color of the PowerPoint is 4% off your normal brand colors........ But I want to help you look beyond the obvious hiccups of Perfectionism and embrace what's AMAZING about it. Today we're talking about: What's embrace-able about Perfectionism that you need to celebrate more Where this decision-making style might be causing more issues than you realize in your life One easy tool that'll help you take control of wielding your Perfection Wand   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz! The Ivy Sisters Summit happens Nov 9! It's free, it's virtual, and over 500 Ivy League Women from all over the world are coming. Are you?  Get your free ticket to the Decision Style Workshop! Fun update (fupdate?)...! Decision Masters is now on YouTube. Watch the Interviews and Episodes here!
If you like raw, real and inspirational AF, this interview's for you. I'm joined by Lauren Balukjian, fellow Ivy grad and founder of the Ivy Sisters. She's the mastermind behind the Global Virtual Summit (that I'm lucky enough to be a Panelist for - see below). It's all about dropping the veil of perfection and getting real & raw about success, vulnerability, imposter syndrome and so much more. She also shares the personal, powerful story of her career pivot (preview: a surprise pregnancy, a surprise divorce and a giant leap of faith - read: Experiment - make appearances). All you over-workers who aren't asking for what you want or don't feel totally aligned in your jobs...you're gonna want to hear this!   IVY SUMMIT INFO: Are you an Ivy League woman who values community, growth and embracing IMPERFECTION?  You'll love the Ivy Sisters Global Summit - and bonus...I'm one of the featured speakers this year! Register now free and catch my section on the Power of Self-Authority: How stop needing approval or permission and own your choices. We go LIVE (online) November 9th.     More links! Grab Lauren's 7x7 Cheatsheet to Regain Control and Harness your Power Find out your Decision Style: https://www.kirstenparker.com/quiz Are you a woman with an Ivy League education who values community, growth and embracing IMPERFECTION? You'll love the Ivy Sisters Global Summit - which I'm a Speaker for this year! Register FREE. The Decision Style Masterclass will teach you how to make the most of your overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectioning and (yup!) even procrastination! Register free here.    About Lauren:  A former Division-1 athlete who struggled with fear of failure, Lauren’s purpose is to empower women to liberate themselves from society’s expectations and reclaim their true spark. After graduating from Dartmouth College and then working in Silicon Valley for more than a decade, she traded the comforts of Corporate America for a riskier path that aligned with her passion to lead women. Today, high-achieving, professional women come to Lauren when they’re feeling stuck and can’t stop getting in their own way. Through her 7x7 methodology, she helps them break old patterns and upgrade their mental operating system, so they live a more fulfilling, purpose-driven life. Lauren is a mother to a blended family of 7 children and is passionate about building global communities for women and youth.  
Have you taken the Decision Style Quiz yet?  It'll tell you your default Decision Style, how to avoid its most common (most annoying) pitfalls, AND how you can use it to your advantage.  Welcome to Decision Style #2: The Procrastinator! Wait, Kirsten, procrastinating is bad, evil, and actually any human's most condemnable character flaw...Isn't it??? NOPE. Just because we have a default way of thinking that feels like a a problem, that doesn't mean it has to stay a problem. In this episode, you'll hear: What "procrastinating" means about your productivity superpowers Why every overthinking over-worker in the world is jealous of you The only thing you need to do to take control of your project pace (no, it isn't working on something every hour every day until it's done)   More links! Find out your Decision Style: https://www.kirstenparker.com/quiz Are you a woman with an Ivy League education who values community, growth and embracing IMPERFECTION? You'll love the Ivy Sisters Global Summit - which I'm a Speaker for this year! Register FREE. The Decision Style Masterclass will teach you how to make the most of your overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectioning and (yup!) even procrastination! Register free here.
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