Dr. Chris Maria

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.Today I'm continuing my conversation about the YMCA as a great community resource to keep children safe. Listen to learn more. 

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In today's show, I continue my series When You Didn't Get What You Needed from a Mother to Have a Good Start in Life. This is Part 4. Today I talk about the hole in a child's heart when a mother is emotionally absent. I talk about the effects of living with an emotionally absent--what you miss and don't get. I talk about the difference between emotional neglect and emotional abuse, and finally, I address what causes a mother to fail her child. In today's show, I reference the book:The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jasmin Lee Cori.CORRECTION - No fewer than one-fourth and as many as 50%-80% of teen mothers are in violent or abusive relationships before, during, or after their teen pregnancy. Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In this episode, I'm continuing my series on How Trauma Affects the Body; specifically, I'm talking about the basic physiology of trauma and what the body needs to right itself. In today's show and the entire series, I'm referencing Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In today's episode, Part 3,  I'm continuing my series on How Trauma Affects the Body. Specifically, today, I'm talking about the footprints of trauma and how it shows up in our bodies and behaviors. Today I'm referencing the book Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori.Listen to more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.Today I'm talking about Becoming a Trauma-Informed Church.  I'm going over what that means and what it looks like. I'm referencing a report by The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, an agency of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. I'm referencing their report on the Concept of Trauma and Guidance for a Trauma-Informed Approach.I'm going over the 4 Rs of a Trauma-informed Approach, the 6 Principles, and 10 Implementation Guidelines.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.I finish my series on How Trauma Affects the Body in today's show. I recap what trauma is and what makes an event traumatic. I recount what happens in the body when we experience a traumatic event. I talk about trauma-related disorders like PTSD, Depression, Anxiety Disorders, Addictions, Eating Disorders, Dissociative Disorders, and Borderline Personality Disorder.For today's show and this entire series, I referenced the book, Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show. Today I'm continuing my series on How Trauma Affects the Body; specifically, I'm talking about trauma-related disorders or disorders we develop as a result of enduring a lot of trauma. Some trauma-related disorders include Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Depression, Anxiety Disorders, Addictions, and Eating Disorders.Today I'm referencing the book, Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.Today, I'm talking about a gift trauma survivors can give themselves this Christmas. That gift is to practice Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is a coping skill when you have difficulty accepting a situation you have no control over. Radical Acceptance is not agreeing with the situation or saying it was right. Instead, it's saying this is my reality. I can't change it, so let me stop fighting reality and accept the situation to move on.Listen to learn more.What is Radical Acceptance? - Very Well Mind

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In today's show, I talk about ACEs- Adverse Childhood Experiences and how it is to all our advantage in the faith community to learn as much as we can about ACEs - what they are, how they impact our children, how we can combat the effects of ACEs for our children and youth who have endured high doses of ACEs, and how to prevent ACEs with our children and youth. Again, it's to all our advantage in the faith community --from church leadership to congregants - Bishops, pastors, elders, Sunday School teachers, youth directors, and choir directors to understand ACEs so we can better support our children and youth.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.I continue talking about Raising Awareness of ACEs in The Faith Community in today's show. In particular, today, I coverHow to buffer against the effects of ACEs -Adverse Childhood Experiences and How to Prevent ACEs.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery trauma recovery coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen to this prior show here.Today, I begin a new series on How Trauma Affects the Body in this episode. I provide basic facts about trauma and how it impacts us so much. Trauma is, by nature, terrifying and completely overwhelming. Something is happening that you can't control, and it feels big enough to destroy you. It overwhelms you and by overwhelming you, it changes your physiology--it affects your nervous system and your experience of yourself and your world.Listen to learn more.I'm referencing the book Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori for this entire series.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In today's show, I discuss one practical way to build a co-parenting relationship: A weekly Parenting Phone call scheduled at the same time and with agenda.  First on the Agenda should be all the good stuff that has happened with your child(red)-- that sets a positive tone for you and your ex to compromise and make decisions that are in the best interest of your children. Other topics to discuss as it relates to your child(ren) include:Medical issues School-related issues, activities (what’s coming up in activities? whose taking them or picking them up)Behavior issues either at home or at school, and Scheduling –birthdays, holidays, vacations, and more. Today I reference The Co-Parenting Survival Guide Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce or if you were never married after a difficult breakup or separation. The Co-Parenting Survival Guide was written by Dr. Elizabeth S. Thayer and Dr. Jeffrey Zimmerman –they are Co-Founders of Beacon Behavioral Services, and the P.E.A.C.E. program –PEACE stands for - Parents Equally Allied to Co-parent Effectively.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.In this episode, I talk about Black Women and Domestic Violence.  I recently did two shows on Domestic Violence, and a statistic my guest gave on Black women and domestic violence really grieved me. That statistic was, nationwide,  the rate of Black women murdered by intimate partners is more than three (3) times that of white women.Today, I share my perspective on the issue of domestic violence and how many (not all) Black men treat Black women. I then share why I think many Black men treat Black women the way they do, and I offer three solutions to the problems and how we can reduce the number of Black women murdered by their intimate partners due to domestic violence.Listen to learn more.National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community. Black Women and Sexual Assault - Fact Sheet Domestic Violence and Gun Violence in The Black Community - Fact Sheet

 UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.This episode is Part 2 in a 2-part series on Domestic Violence. The focus today is on getting help. I have a special guest, representatives from Safe Harbor. Safe Harbor is a nonprofit organization providing safe shelter, counseling, advocacy, and support services for victims of domestic violence and their children, and domestic violence prevention and education for the Upstate of South Carolina.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery trauma recovery coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air.  You can still listen to this prior show here.In today's show, I begin a 2-part series on Domestic Violence. The focus for today is on explaining domestic violence. What it is, the different types, who’s impacted, the legal issues involved, how to keep you and your children safe, and how to prevent Domestic Violence.  I have, as special guests, representatives from Safe Harbor, a nonprofit organization providing safe shelter, counseling, advocacy, and support services for victims of domestic violence and their children, and domestic violence prevention and education for the Upstate of South Carolina.Listen to learn more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.Today I’m still talking about co-parenting, but I’m talking about how to re-establish a relationship when one parent has been absent, when there has been estrangement, or if there has been broken trust between the parent and child. When this has happened, How do you begin to repair that relationship?One strategy to begin rebuilding or repairing that relationship is a type of family therapy called Reunification Therapy. This type of family therapy–Reunification Therapy– aims to reunite or re-establish a relationship between a parent and child. Reunification Therapy emphasizes attachment, promotes healthy communication, and works to heal relationship injuries. It aims to improve relationships within the family or treat alienation.This is what I'm talking about today. Listen to Learn more.What is Reunification Therapy?    --Very Well Mind

 UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery Trauma Recovery Coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen here to this prior show.I talk extensively about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) on my show. One way to prevent ACEs is for a responsible adult to supervise children at all times. But what if your child gets out of school at 3 pm and you don't get off until 5 pm or later? How do you ensure a responsible adult supervises your child at all times? Or,  What about when your child is on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or spring break, and you still have to work? How do you ensure a responsible adult supervises your child at all times?When I was teaching, I faced these challenges, and to ensure a responsible adult supervised my son at all times,  I enrolled him in the local YMCA. That was a great decision.Listen to learn how the YMCA can help with after-school care, drop-off during Thanksgiving and Christmas break, and more.

UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery trauma recovery coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen to this prior show here.Today's show is Part 2 of 7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother and How to Cope. Last week I went over 7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother and they include:She doesn’t respect your boundaries. She lacks empathy (or seems to turn empathy on and off).She seemingly competes with you.She gaslights you. She only treats you well in public.She often presents as the victim.She takes advantage of others. Today I focus on  How to Cope with a Narcissistic Mother.Educate Yourself on Narcissism.Stop Blaming Yourself.Implement Boundaries Firmly.Practice Grey Rocking.Find Support.Stop Trying to Change Her.Consider No-Contact. Consider Finding a Therapist.Listen to Learn more.For today's show, I reference an article by Choosing Therapy - 7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother and How to Cope. I also reference Jasmin Lee Cori's book, The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect. Two additional books that are great resources include: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say Yes, To Take Control of Your Life by - Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John TownsendWill I Ever Be Good Enough? --Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride, Ph.D.

 UPDATE: Pills and Skills Recovery trauma recovery coaching service is permanently CLOSED:  This radio show is no longer on air. You can still listen to this prior show here.  In today's show, I deviate from my normal show format. Today I share with you what my life growing up was like and the role church and my faith has played in my life. Today, I have my mom joining me in the studio. Correction: Communion was not every Sunday; it was only the first Sunday. Listen to learn more.