From a Girl's Girl

December romance is often romanticised as fun and flirtatious, but for many, the festive season comes with anxiety, disappointment, ghosting, and hard relationship truths. In this episode I unpack the realities of December romance: the unspoken rules, the festive personas we adopt, and why so many connections formed in December struggle to survive January. From premediated flings driven by fear of loneliness, to being the partner who doesn't get chosen for the holiday, this episode explores how scarcity mindset, alcohol, expectations, and festive pressure shape our dating decisions. IG: fromagirlsgirl

We all know December has its own romantic ecosystem...LOLSome people disappear from their relationshipsSome get ghostedOthers prefer flings over anything seriousSome actually find love in DecemberBefore I record the next episode on December Romance, I want to hear your do's and don'ts, your experiences, lessons, chaos, December drama, wisdom about December relationships and festive flings.I'd love to hear from all sexualities, all genders, EVERYONE. Whether you are married, single, or in a long-term relationship, I want to hear your experiences.You can submit your answers through IG stories (@fromagirlsgirl or @didi_masita) or TikTok stories (@didi_masita).Your responses will be grouped into themes and shaped into a community-led episode.Let's turn the last episode of the year into a mini "research study" togetherRESPONSES WILL REMAIN CONFIDENTIAL

It's December! A whole lifestyle in South Africa, but before the vibes sweep us away, let's talk about why your 2026 goals should be set before January. In this episode, I talk about why the best time to set your goals isn't January, it's right now. December comes with vibes, chaos, bonuses, and a whole lifestyle of its own, but it's also the month where we lose momentum without even realising it. I share how planning my year before January completely shifted my 2025, how my vision board came to life, and why strategy matters more than aesthetics. Whether you had an amazing year or a painful one, this episode reminds you that your timeline is scared, your pace is valid, and you are not behind.

Too many women give up their dreams, lower their standards, or lose themselves trying to be chosen by men. In this episode, I talk about the importance of building your identity, your dreams, and your foundation before you build with a man. From societal pressure to timelines, to women abandoning their goals for relationships, I explore why prioritising yourself isn't selfish, but necessary. I dive into self-worth, standards, financial independence, emotional grounding, and why being single is no longer seen as a "tragedy". It's a reminder that men are additions, not definitions, and that the life you build for yourself will always be your greatest power.

We often talk about knowing our worth in romantic relationships, setting boundaries, walking away from mistreatment, and refusing to shrink ourselves just to be loved. But what happens when we forget to carry the same self-worth into our friendships?In this episode, I explore 'selective people pleasing' - when you've healed enough to have boundaries in relationships but still struggle to choose yourself in friendships. If you're tired of performing, overextending, or being the only one trying..this episode is for you. IG: fromagirlsgirl

Have you ever entertained someone you knew you weren't compatible with, just because it felt good to be wanted? Especially after a dry season where no one was pursuing or chasing you?In this episode, I unpack the intoxicating feeling of being desired and how the need for attention can lead us into place holder relationships. I talk about why attention feels like validation, how it can blur our judgment, and the emotional labour that comes from settling for someone who simply filled a dry season,IG: fromagirlsgirl

Remember when you were a little girl, and there was a woman you admired, maybe she lived in your neighbourhood, or maybe you saw her on TV. You admired her style, her career, the way she carried herself, and the life she created for herself. Looking at her, you saw a glimpse of your own future. Do you remember her, the woman of your dreams?Society often tells us a woman's true success is measured by whether she gets married or has children. So, many of us grow up chasing 'the man of our dreams' adjusting our behavior to fit what we think he would want or approve of. Along the way, we lose sight of the WOMAN OF OUR DREAMS; the version of ourselves we once imagined becoming. In this episode, I talk about how to reconnect with the vision of the woman of your dreams, and why it's time to chase her, instead of the man of your dreams IG: fromagirlsgirl

When someone ghosts you, walks away, or doesn't fight to keep you in their life, it's easy to feel like you've taken a loss. You start questioning your worth, wondering what's wrong with you, and comparing yourself to people whose partners "fought for them". But the here's the truth: their lack of effort is not a reflection of your value. In this episode, I break down why not being fought for doesn't mean you're not enough, how social media fuels this false narrative, and how to reclaim you power when someone doesn't show up. It's not your loss...it's their loss.

Are emotional needs important in a relationship? In this episode I explore what emotional safety means, how it impacts intimacy, femininity, and self-worth. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or like you're walking on eggshells with your partner, this episode will help you understand why.

Hi guys! I know I have been MIA for a while. Life got hectic with a new job and a big move, but I'm back. In this episode I talk about how many of us were forced to choose ourselves, not out of self-love, but because the people we chose or wanted didn't choose us back. When you are discarded or replaced, choosing yourself can feel more like survival than self-worth, and that can keep you stuck in victim mode, chasing validation anywhere it shows up.

In this episode, I delve into how emotional pain, particularly after a breakup, can reshape our behaviour and sense of self. From drinking to distract ourselves, to changing our appearance, or chasing the same person in a different body, heartbreak can push us into survival patterns that often masquerade as personality. I explore the danger of romanticising the past, and how hope can quietly hold us hostage, and the slow journey of finding ourselves again.

At what point do boundaries and standards turn into high defensive walls stopping you from forming romantic connections you desire?In this episode, I explore how boundaries can morph into barricades and high defensive walls that keep out the love we desire, making us emotionally unreachable and unable to recognise genuine love. Maybe, being single for a long time isn't about luck -maybe you're just emotionally unavailable.Episode inspired by https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMSA3T91q/

We're officially a year old!! YAAAAY! Cheers to us! In this episode, I talk to you as if I am talking to my best friend. I share a personal story of how I recently escaped a financial grooming trap that could have led to an abusive relationship. I also discuss how being an impressionable woman can make you vulnerable to manipulation tactics such as financial grooming. Financial grooming: a form of manipulation where someone creates a false sense of trust and security by offering access to money or gifts in an attempt to gain control of the person's financial decisions, thus leading to psychological, emotional, or financial abuse.IG: fromagirlsgirl

Hi guys! In this episode, I'm unpacking NEGGING, how it's often mistaken for flirting in romantic situations, disguised as "constructive criticism" and/or "praise" at work, and even dressed up as "support" in friendships.NEGGING is a subtle form of manipulation used to gain psychological control, making you feel like you constantly have to prove your worth. I also share a personal story about how my boundaries protected me from a relationship that could've had me right back in therapy twice a week!IG: @fromagirlsgirl

In this episode, I talk about the shame that surfaces whenever something- be it a business, career move, passion project or relationship- doesn't go as planned. Shame hurts because it isn't only about what failed; its about the stories we tell ourselves afterward. And as you'll hear, failure can be the very spark that ignites a brand-new beginning. If something doesn't work out, something else will!

Dating for validation is a real thing! In this episode, I explore the overlooked motivation for seeking validation in relationships. Dating for validation can manifest in codependent behaviors such as "pick me" tendencies and rescue behaviors. Many of us are dating for validation, we just aren't aware. PS: sending strength and healing to all the girlies triggered by everything happening in the country.

Vulnerability is a beautiful and complex concept. It deepens connections, and great friendships and relationships thrive because of it. In this episode, I explore the important distinction between vulnerability and oversharing. Vulnerability builds intimacy and cultivates empathy and understanding. However, it requires boundaries and discernment to avoid oversharing or putting yourself in harm's way.IG: fromagirlsgirl

Resilience is a strong and positive quality, but actually being resilient is tough. In this episode, I share my personal experience and insights on building resilience, and the importance of showing up for yourself during difficult times. TedTalk link : https://www.ted.com/talks/lucy_hone_3_secrets_of_resilient_peopleIG: fromagirlsgirl

A little something for the emotionally exhausted lover girl who loves love and wants to be loved, but constantly finds herself torn between choosing herself and her desire for love and connection, and her need to protect herself from heartache. The lover girl who knows when to leave, yet feels emotionally drained from repeatedly doing so.IG: fromagirlsgirl

It's almost Valentine's Day! How are you spending the day?The cheat code to healing is healing in a relationship. In this episode, I explore the different ways people navigate healing. I discuss how simply staying single or taking a break from relationships doesn't necessarily lead to healing. I also discuss the self-damaging effects of making someone else's healing your responsibility. Solitude and healing within a relationship accelerate your healing journey while avoiding relationships and isolating can hinder your healing progress. IG: Fromagirlsgirl