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Sometimes we are not aware that we have been programmed to strive for mediocrity.  We have been told;     “ do not  shine too brightly so you don’t seem like you are boasting or bragging.” It is a program that we spend a lot of our lives struggling with.  On the one hand, we do not wish to seem like braggarts, on the other hand, we want to soar and let our gift come out to shine and bless the world.  The question then is how do we bridge the gap? First, we realize that we are all the same, in that No one is better than another.  But we also must accept that we are unique. With unique gifts that only we can give.  We all have a place of honor and we must be aware of that and act accordingly while honoring others and their gifts. Gratitude for who we are and appreciation for others' gifts is another way of elevating our mindset.  When the right mindset is achieved ideas form, and we open doors for ourselves.  Bringing others up. Striving for mediocrity keeps us from moving forward and gifting others with ourselves and the good that we came here to share. What does mediocrity look like?  It looks like -just enough.  Not too much struggle, very little uncomfortableness, and staying inside the box.  Growth happens when we get out of that comfort and dive first into struggle.  The courage we need can come from knowing that the one thing we can count on is change.  Nothing stays the same all must move and evolve.  So if we make mistakes we can correct them. Each time moving closer to the goal.  What happens when we reach the goal?  We raise the bar!!! That is why we are here.  To be the best that we can be and the only way to do that is to jump without a net and know that we are our own safety. That if we fall it will not kill us but it will make us stronger.  We will evolve and with perseverance will reach the goals we set for ourselves.As long as we STOP thinking small and mediocre. Join our community Get Down To The Brass Tacks

Harvard review describes Imposter syndrome as: “ A collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evidence of success.  “imposters” suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence.”One of the first things we need to accomplish is to recognize and name this phenomenon.  How do we do this?  How is it different from everyday self-doubt? Look for patterns,  When do you feel it? Is it when we are tired, or when we have been stressed already. Look back to past experiences to see if there’s a connection.  Was something said in our childhood by someone in authority, such as a parent aunts, uncles, or a teacher?  Is it possible that we may have experienced a label that was unfortunately and more importantly inaccurately use to describe us? We can make the connection and use the awareness of it to help us to overcome the feeling of deep inadequacy that we may feel even though we are 100% qualified for the task.We can then proceed to replace the negative feeling with facts.  For Instance, remember getting praised for doing a similar task well in the past. Or remember our supervisor giving us praise for a job well done in the field. Go over accomplishments that we have earned and listen to friends and family who know us well tell us about the times that we soared.It is not a completely bad thing if we look at it from another perspective. A little self-doubt can be a good thing.  We learn from it by implementing a plan B or C or however many are needed. Look at the people who are giving us negative feedback harshly in a different light as well. The boss might be going through something personal.  Or a rough time.Be aware of negative self-talk.  Visualize doing well before starting and not concentrating on impending doom.   Be prepared.  Learn to be proud of ourselves.  Remember courage comes from risk. Sometimes it seems we fail.  But if we learn from it is always a win.Join us in the community "Get Down To The Brass Tacks"

Are you looking for an outcome or are you looking for a result? In this episode, we zoomed in on the differences between looking for an outcome vs looking for a result. The emotions behind the desire vs undesired outcome drive our behavior and future sucess. 

We hear a lot of talk about confidence such as we must have the self-confidence to succeed in any endeavor. We must cultivate confidence.  Confidence is the key to achieving everything and winning your special person or a job, even friends at times. But what is this thing called confidence?   Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities. Not in an arrogant way, but in a really secure way.  Confidence isn’t about feeling superior to others.  It is a quiet inner knowledge that we are capable of.  Confidence, although it seems as if it were an emotion, it is not. It stems from emotions or feelings. Confidence comes down to “faith” in a very NONE religious way. One can have faith that although they are not familiar with a situation they have faith that they can figure it out.  Lack of confidence then comes from feeling inadequate to figure things out. To know that even if we cannot succeed in a particular event we can shift and learn and come back at it with the faith to conquer it.   Confidence is also an action.  As in not giving up.Getting in touch with our feelings, knowing where we feel inadequate, and working to strengthen our resolve gives us confidence.  Confidence, or lack of it, stems from feeling good or bad.  So we must feel feelings that will cultivate confidence in any situation.  Bearing in mind that we can still feel nervous and be possessed of confidence. As in “we feel the fear and we do it anyway” we go forward anyway, not in spite of or even because of.  We have the fear but the outcome is more compelling than the inaction.  We could fail, but what if we don’t try? What feels worse?  Confidence stems from the feeling of the possibility of regret as well. In this episode, we are ALL about CONFIDENCE. Is confidence an emotion? Join us in the Get Down To The Brass Tacks community 

Sometimes will power works but often in short terms gains. Think of diets we have started, that extra beer we imbibed in when we promised ourselves to only have one, or skipping assignments to hang out with friends.When faced with choices between pleasure now or reward later, we most often choose the former.  Because making hard choices is costly in terms of cognitive resources.  For instance, the more we resist temptation the more primed we are to give into it.  We are setting ourselves up to fail.  The brain is constructed to avoid pain in any form and that includes being uncomfortable. Sacrifices in the present works if the future is guaranteed which they seldom are, and seem less so if one grew up in a difficult environment.Follow us on Facebook Get Down To The Brace Tacks