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Hope for Spouses

Author: Kim Pullen

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If you are suffering in the wake of your spouse's adultery or sexual addiction, you will find a supportive community here.

Hope for Spouses is a ministry focused on nurturing and growing in intimacy with God and a safe circle of others. As the betrayed, we chose not to be victims but to own our healing, recovery, and ability to thrive regardless of our spouse's choices.

Kim Pullen is the host of Hope for Spouses. Thriving in a 27-year marriage traumatized by adultery and a four-year separation, Kim shares hope and healing with spouses who feel isolated due to sexual sin in their relationship, but don't know how or where to begin their journey.

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In your recovery, when you find yourself dropping your boundaries prematurely, reacting in anger, or getting caught back up in “the dance” with your unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, the shame can be overwhelming. “Why did I blow it again? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just do this right?”In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about how making mistakes in the betrayal recovery process—“three steps forward, two steps back”—is actually good for us. Kim will discuss how stumbling through the healing journey exposes our hidden motives, forces us to stop trying to prove our worth to others, teaches us to rely on God and not ourselves, and helps us to wisely and biblically extend grace to ourselves and to others.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you been praying for your unrepentant sexually addicted spouse for months or years and instead of changing, they’re more selfish, abusive, and uncaring of how much they’re hurting you? If so, you may be asking yourself, “Why isn’t God changing my spouse? Doesn’t see what I’m going through? Can’t he hear me crying out? Does he even care?”Have you considered you might be asking the wrong questions?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why the question (“Why isn’t God changing my spouse?”) has left you paralyzed, confused, and doubting God’s love. She’ll also share the “better” and the “best” questions you should be asking yourself to see real transformation in your life…and possibly in your marriage.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
What are your motives for staying in a marriage marred by sexual betrayal? Is it to safe your marriage, to keep your family together, or to protect your family’s reputation?If you’re separated, what are your motives for setting boundaries, saying “no” to an unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, or seeking your own recovery?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses why some motives that can feel right in the moment can actually lead us down a road with more hardship and pain. Kim will also discuss the only motive for those recovering from either betrayal or addiction that ultimately benefits everyone because of its eternal consequences.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
When you find out about your spouse’s sexual betrayal, the war inside your home and inside yourself never seems to end. Sure, there may be momentary truces where life almost feels normal. Then, it happens again. And again--the triggers, the chaos, and the trauma. You’re fighting a battle, but it feels like you’re losing ground every day.Did you ever think you might be fighting the wrong battle or the wrong enemy?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the only battles we can ever win following sexual betrayal—the battle in our head and the battle in our heart. Kim shares from her own recovery and from the scriptures how betrayed spouses can master their thoughts and tame their emotions to win the only battle that matters, and ultimately change the outcome of their life.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Adultery, addiction, mental health, illness, abuse, lack of spirituality are just a few reasons there may be pain and struggle in our marriage. How we choose to look at our pain—particularly emotional pain—our purpose, and this elusive thing called “peace” makes all the difference in the world.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares God’s view and the world’s view of these three areas. Using scripture, she reveals God’s plan for the pain in our lives, how our purpose is directly linked to our identity, and why peace eludes us when we run after it. ________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
You and your spouse have been separated for months or even years. They’re still heavily involved in sexual sin with no end in sight, yet they also shows no signs of wanting to divorce?This leaves you lost in limbo: Should I divorce them even though I know how much God hates divorce or should I wait? You may have family ranting, “What are you waiting for? Divorce the #*@%!” while church leaders are telling you divorce is a sin.What do you do when you don’t even know what you want except to stop hurting?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the quandary betrayed, separated spouses feel when their partner is still actively and flagrantly engaged in sexual sin but making no effort to pursue a divorce. Kim will offer some possible reasons why an unfaithful spouse doesn’t want to end their marriage, and she’ll present practical options available to betrayed partners.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
What are core wounds? Do I have them? Where do they come from? How do they impact my relationships with my spouse, my kids, my friends, and my relationship with God? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about “core wounds” and how they impact every single human being on the planet.She’ll also discuss where these wounds come from, how we got them, the huge role they play in all our relationships, and how we can break the trans-generational chains of sin in our family’s life so our children and our children’s children have a chance to be free.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Has the shame over your spouse’s sexual sin isolated you from friends and family? Or have you chosen to isolate because you shared your pain with someone you thought was trustworthy only to be treated like a project they needed to fix or further shamed because of your choices?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how we were created for intimacy, how we can identify safe others into which to trust our deepest secrets and shame, and exactly why intimate relationships with safe others are absolutely imperative for our successful recovery from our spouse’s sexual betrayal.Kim will also share about the intimate relationships she built with a circle of safe others and a special resource you can use to create your own personal support system.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
It’s like the world implodes around you.Some are mild, keeping us in a low state of anxiety. Others are sudden and paralyzing. The world calls them panic or anxiety attacks. In the realm of sexual betrayal trauma, we call them emotional triggers, and they can threaten to overwhelm us with fear and the dreaded feeling of no control of our immediate circumstances.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what emotional triggers are and where they come from. She also talks about how triggers are a normal part of the recovery process, how we can manage them, and—when we’re ready—how we can embrace them as teachers for our own growth and to promote healing in others.Link to seated breathing exercise: https://vimeo.com/244280100Link to an explanation of EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/Link to an explanations of Neural Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy: http://www.cresendajones.com/________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
In this Special Edition of the Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen, founder of the Hope for Spouse’s ministry talks directly to friends and family members of betrayed spouses who are looking for ways to help their loved ones navigate one of the most difficult journeys of their life.Whether you’re a parent, sibling, child, brother or sister in Christ, pastor, co-worker, neighbor, or friend of a betrayed spouse, there are practical things you can do to support your loved one even if you’ve never experienced sexual betrayal yourself.In this episode you’ll learn what your betrayed friend is experiencing and feeling in the wake of the disclosure, exactly what they need to do to start and successfully complete their recovery process, and what they need—and don’t need—from you. Kim will also leave you with some resources you can use to get yourself educated on the betrayal recovery process.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
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Cristal Hughes

Just what I needed to hear today. Great message!

Jun 5th
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