An addicted or unfaithful spouse isn’t the only person in our lives who may not be safe for us when we are trying to recovery from betrayal trauma. Often, family members, friends, and co-workers who have the best of intentions may unwittingly re-traumatize us with their noble but naïve hearts and advice.

So how do we recognize the difference between safe and unsafe people?

In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares a simple assessment strategy to easily identify “helpful” individuals who are unsafe to include in our intimate circle of advisers. She’ll also share how we can respond kindly and respectfully to unsafe friends and family as well as how to resist overwhelming safe individuals with our pain.

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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:

Matthew 7:6-7

Matthew 10:11-13, 16

1 Samuel 16:7

James 1:19

Isaiah 42:3

1 Corinthians 12:22-26

Luke 16:10-12

Proverbs 22:3, 27:12

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 

Philippians 2:3

VIDEOS (three options):

How to Support Someone Who's Been Betrayed by their Spouse (https://youtu.be/hUWBejYezMI), 27 minutes

The Real Reason Betrayed Wives Come Across Like Raging Lunatics...And How to Respond, 42 minutes(https://youtu.be/SnsOZEDMcl4)

Betrayal & Grace: How Leaders & Laymen Can Support the Victims of Sexual Sin, 100 minutes(https://vimeo.com/480590408/1b664d8807)

RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

Leslie Vernick’s “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” (https://amzn.to/34kvpZq)

Cloud & Townsend’s “Boundaries in Marriage" (https://amzn.to/3B76og0)

Stephen Arterburn’s “Worthy of Her Trust” (https://amzn.to/3rzRDza)