In All Honesty

It's the first episode of this brand new era for In All Honesty... and Michelle is getting more honest than ever before and revealing the truth behind the headlines about her post-engagement break-up.She's opening up her diary and spilling it all: from the proposal all the way to the Instagram DM that changed her life. Michelle tells the true story of wedding bells to nightmare as she discovers her partner had cheated on her and how she navigated the days, weeks and months since.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you criticise others a lot?Do you find it difficult to have intimacy?Do you tend to see the bad before the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why criticism is so destructive for your personal relationships and why it breaks both trust and intimacy. She discusses why criticism is a habit and share with you how to break that habit. She talks you through how to focus on the bigger picture in order to ignore unnecessary conflict and shows you how to comment on someone's behaviour without making it personal or embedding shame.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get nervous before a job interview?Would you love to be more confident public speaking?Do you wish you had more control over your mood?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares her top secret way she prepares for public speaking, live TV interviews and any big work moments. It's a technique which can calm your nerves and boost your confidence and minutes and she takes you through it step by step. Alongside the impact it has had before big work moments, she also uses it in her personal life when there are potential volatile situations and she shows you how you can use your past experiences to make sure you can draw on the best version of you when you need it.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you have a big temper?Do you find it difficult to stay calm in conflict?Do you get heated really quickly?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares three quick tips that you can use in the moment when you lose your temper. She talks about how our relationship with anger is warped and the way we discuss it in society isn't helpful. She discusses how you can give yourself permission to feel angry and how you can slow down so you can choose your reaction.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find it hard to let yourself rest?Do you struggle to stop working?Are you guilty of doing one small task on your day off?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares a workplace boundary that her friend told her about and why it's such a brilliant company policy. She shares with you her policy on 100% work and 100% rest and how watching 6 hours of TV allowed her to have the most productive day she's had in a while. She talks about how different methods of numbing serve the same purpose and what being a workaholic really says about you.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel forced to be more positive?Do you feel pressure to make meaning out of trauma?Do you find it hard to see the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about the phrase she hates most in the world and how it's laced with toxic positivity. She discusses how toxic positivity doesn't help use especially in the context of trauma and shares the phrase that she hates most and why it's unhelpful to say to people going through a tough time. She shares the alternative to toxic positivity and an alternative phrase that is more helpful.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find it hard to do something new?Do you worry about asking for favours?Do you want to feel more confident in work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares with you one question she used to help her do the scariest part of being an author. She talks you through how embodying someone else can be a really useful tool and discusses how other people can help drive that motivation. She shows you how you can use comparison to your benefit and shares the concept of a future memory that can help you to get more things done.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you worry about what you look like?Have you been told you've let yourself go?Do you feel sad for no reason?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about what 'letting yourself go really means'. She talks about how your external appearance can reflect how you are feeling internally and how that can actually liberate you. She discusses what to do when you feel sad for no reason and how to sink into that feeling and stop worrying about how you are perceived by others. She talks you through her own sad week and discusses why putting a deadline on emotions doesn't workFor more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get too intimidated to go to the gym?Do you worry people are judging you when exercising?Do you struggle to know how gym machines work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about an experience in the gym where someone laughed at her while she was trying to figure out how the machine works. She discusses how gym intimidation leads to people not entering the gym for the first time and she shows you how she fueled it into her workout and how you shouldn't let that person win. She talks about how she reframed the incident in order to motivate herself.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you make friendships really quicky?Do you find they rarely last?Do you want to know how to make friendships more sustainably?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how fast friendships are a recipe for disaster and why intensity plays a key role. She talks about how to build relationships more sustainably and shares Brené Brown's theory about the marble jar. She discusses why you might feel a need to overshare and where the desire to form friendships quickly stems from and why it's not a good idea.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to feel happier in life?Do you worry that others have a happier life than you do?Do you feel guilty if you don't feel grateful?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about happiness and why believing we deserve to be happy can have a downside. She talks about how the pressure to be happy can actually mean you ignore other emotions and why we need to allow ourselves access to all emotions. She discusses how toxic positivity can have a negative impact and why telling people they should be happy doesn't work.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you stop texting your friends to see if they will notice?Do you have difficulty asking your partner for what you need directly?Do you often think 'the grass is greener' when in a relationship?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why testing your relationships doesn't work. She talks about how shows like Love Island and The Ultimatum are not good demonstrations of commitment and that it is not indicative of the real world in terms of loyalty and fidelity. She discusses how running tests and seeing whether people notice is an inaccurate way of getting a solution to your problems and shows you the alternative.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you think your friends are making the wrong decision?Do you find it hard to keep your opinions to yourself?Do you want to know how to set boundaries around repeating the same conversation?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how we need to let the people in our lives make their own mistakes. She talks about how repeating your opinion over and over again is bad boundaries and shows you a better approach so that you can support the people in your life without feeling judged. She discusses how you can set a boundary around someone coming to you for advice but never listening and reminds us we have all been wrong before.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you believe setting a boundary is a threat?Do you give ultimatums when you don't get your way?Do you struggle to compromise?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about ultimatums and what the difference is between giving an ultimatum and setting a boundary. Michelle talks about how compromises often leave both parties unsatisfied and gives you a better option. She also discusses how you can get your needs met by looking under the surface level need.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you rely on external validation a lot?Do you need compliments to feel secure?Do you think you are needy to ask for reassurance?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how external validation and internal validation affect us. She discusses how you can do both and why external validation isn't a bad thing. She talks you through her personal experiences of learning how to build internal validation and why external validation isn't as reliable.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get bored easily?Do you take your boredom as a sign that you are dissatisfied with life?Do you struggle to finish what you've started?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how boredom creates room for creativity and why it's necessary in order to be successful in life, relationships and your goals. She discusses how boredom is an emotion and if you aren't able to utilise it, you will be tempted to leave a good thing. She talks through personal experiences and why boredom is not necessarily an indication of something wrong in your life.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok or Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel disappointed when someone does react the way you want?Do you find yourself getting annoyed at people for things you used to love in them?Do you assume people don't care about you?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how your reactions aren't always a good indicator of what you are feeling inside. She discusses the differences in how people express themselves and why it's important to understand this difference to not take it personally. She talks through personal experiences and why intense reactions will be intense in both a positive and negative way.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok or Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you still worry about letitng down your parents?Do you find it hard to make decisions without other people's inputDo you struggle to see your own opinion as important?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about waiting for your parents' approval will limit you and how it can impact your life if you aren't conscious of the fact that you are still searching for it. She discusses the importance of trying to not change people and gives tips on how to place your own opinion of higher importance than anyone else. She also gives you direct examples on how to boundary unwanted opinions.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you a perfectionist?Do you worry about looking silly?Do you feel guilty if you aren't being productiveThen this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle makes a case for why you need a hobby you are bad at and why it changed her life in so many ways. She talks about the different hobbies she has found and why being intentional about not improving your skill or trying to progress in any way is the key to it. She discusses how it changes your mentality around productivity and fun and shares how it has impacted her life more broadly to make it one of the best pieces of advice she gives out.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you wish you were more fearless?Do you find yourself declining opportunities because you are scared?Would you like to know the secret to managing fear?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how there is a myth around fearlessness that doesn't serve us and creates an unrealistic goal. She talks about how she overcomes fear herself and the tools and mentalities she used in order to do scary things like her TedX talk. She discusses how she has natvigated fear in her own career and why she doesn't let those feelings make the decisions or decide how the situation is going to go. She talks about how to gain control of your thoughts and why you might be making the fear worse than it needs to be. She also provides a book recommendation and a music playlist to help you in those scary moments.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.