Parenting Autism and ADHD

Cliff speaks with Dr. Mohita the Founder & CEO of The Cognitome Program. During their conversation they explore an evidence-based approach to supporting children with ADHD and autism. If you're interested in helping your child build cognitive flexibility through mindfulness, movement and creativity, this episode is for you today. Dr Mojito explains how understanding the brain helps us connect, not correct, and shares practical strategies you can try at home. EPISODE REVEALS The Cognitone Program is a holistic, neuroscientific approach that is designed to gently train and strengthen cognitive functions for children with ADHD and autism The program uses techniques like mindfulness, neurokinetic exercises, art, and music that are designed to be enjoyable, flexible, and tailored to each child’s interests and needs. The programme is grounded in neuroscience and focuses on supporting each child´s unique brain wiring rather than attempting to fix perceived deficits. You can access the program from anywhere in the world and it can be delivered remotely. Parents are fully involved and treated as partners. Brain mapping/EEG and regular, supported sessions can also be arranged online. Simple routines like the stoplight practice give children tools for emotional self-regulation by engaging both their emotions and logical thinking. Use the Plan A Plan B game to help your children to problem solve, accept that plans change, prepare for the unexpected and stay engaged. BEST MOMENTS "ADHD and autism are not deficits. They are just different patterns of our neural connectivity." "The goal isn't to fix a child; it is to provide them with tools to understand their own magnificent brains." "When they feel safe and connected to you, their brain is far more capable of learning and adapting." "Mindfulness is far more than just relaxation, you know, it’s a form of focus, attention and cognitive flexibility training." GUEST RESOURCES https://cognitomeprogram.me https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mohita-shrivastava RESOURCES Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

In this episode, Cliff dives into one of the most emotional topics for teens on the spectrum - friendships, dating and how to connect with others in a world that can feel confusing, overwhelming or even isolating. He is joined by Jeff Carroll, author, Comic Book Creator and dating coach, who brings humour, empathy and some seriously powerful advice for building confidence and communication skills. Eva is also back on the mic, sharing her own challenges and experiences navigating social life as a young autistic girl. Whether your child is already asking questions about relationships or they're still trying to figure out how to make that first friend. This conversation is full of ideas, laughs and real-life tools to help them take the next step. EPISODE REVEALS Bear in mind that all teens experience peer pressure and anxiety about fitting in, making friends and dating. You are not alone in your struggle. Dating, like any other life skill, takes practice. Face to face clubs are great places to hone the skills you need for dating. After school, church led, art, creative and gaming clubs are particularly good places to go. Be brave, volunteer or get a job that means you have to talk to people. Know what you want from someone you are going to date, make a contract with yourself, so you don´t end up dating people who are wrong for you. Understand the potential dangers and pitfalls of dating so you can spot red flags early and safely exit the relationship. Set boundaries and stick to them. BEST MOMENTS "Anything you can do to get you to talk to people is a step forward." "You might not like anybody in the club, but you're not there to like them. You're there to get your skills up on how to talk to people." "You don’t want peer pressure to guide you either. You want to naturally find somebody." ABOUT THE GUESTS JEFF CARROLL For one-on-one dating advice and coaching, contact Jeff via - coachyojeff@gmail.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_22asKR-3-Y https://www.facebook.com/CoachYoJeff The Hip Hop Dating Guide — available on https://a.co/d/gwDdKTH Fangernails (comic series) — available direct from Jeff The Last Harlemite (comic series) — available via Amazon and comic bookstores EVA KILMISTER Eva´s YT channel Inspire With Us - https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT Eva Kilmister - Art Sketch Book - Blank Pages Sketch Pad - https://amzn.eu/d/i8v4VkA RESOURCES Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw Cliff Kilmister - The Mandela Effect - https://amzn.eu/d/0jWpc2H CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Today, Cliff is joined by two incredible ladies who know the world of neurodiversity inside and out. They share powerful personal stories, professional insights and practical tools to help families thrive without trying to fix anyone. Together, they explore the power of coaching and community, how mindfulness helps, why supporting neuro-divergent children starts with understanding and why labels should be celebrated, not feared. You will see from their real-world examples that lasting change happens when the triangle of support is in place, when parents, teachers and children all have a voice. EPISODE REVEALS It’s not about fixing what’s “wrong,” but about understanding, celebrating and directing your unique brain. Life skills coaching teaches practical tools and strategies that can be used right away to handle real-life challenges. Suicide rates are incredibly high amongst the neurodiverse, so connection with others is essential. With the right support and practical skills, you can gently reprogram your mindset, focus on your strengths instead of what you don´t have, and learn to thrive and function well in the world as it is. You are not alone. Having a coach makes a huge difference. It enables you to be a parent - to be the safe space for your child. BEST MOMENTS "We're not life coaches. We are life skills coaches.” "Accept your child for who they are, ok with a different brain. Celebrate them. Don't be ashamed, don't be embarrassed. Don't make it about you. This is about your child." "We've lived through it, and we really want to empower and equip parents and teachers who can really make a difference in our children´s lives." GUEST AND EPISODE RESOURCES Unlocking Potential: ADHD Through the Lens of Strengths This October, Neurodiversity Life Skills (for parents) and The School of Life SA (for teachers) are teaming up! Let’s celebrate ADHD for what it truly is — a source of creativity, resilience, and brilliance. ✨ Daily tips, 🤝 Support Group, 🎙️ podcasts, 🎤 live events, and 📚 free resources — all designed to celebrate ADHD strengths and uplift parents, empower educators, and support teens – All Free 👉 Join us this October to learn, connect, and thrive together. Just click here to join us, for free : https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com/adhd-month-2025 Emails : Tracey@theschooloflife.org.za and hello@neurodiverselifeskills.com Websites - https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com and https://www.theschooloflife.org.za RESOURCES Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff speaks with Karen-Jane (KJ), a parent from Falkirk, Scotland, whose autistic son stands to lose his vital support if the local council moves forward with its imminent plan to close enhanced provision units for the education of children with complex needs. KJ shares her family’s struggles to secure the right educational environment and their battle to fight the closure. The episode highlights the flaws in the consultation process, and how mobilising through a grassroots movement can be leveraged to protect these essential services. EPISODE REVEALS Every child in the UK has the right to an education. Yet, children with special needs are repeatedly failed. It is important to keep up to date with local policy changes and consultations that may affect your child’s support. Don´t rely on the authorities sending you a notification. Often, they act behind your back. Don’t hesitate to question and get involved as soon as you hear about changes. Joining together with other parents and professionals through petitions, support groups, or social media amplifies your voice and drives change. Don´t rely on the mandated consultation processes being followed. Stay alert. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed—seeking support from others who understand your journey can help you cope and persist. BEST MOMENTS "Typically, you would expect them to letter all these parents. No, they didn't letter them. They apparently did a group call, which is an email that goes out, that didn't actually reach any of the parents." "If we were forced back to our mainstream school, I don't think Gabe would cope." "Please join the fight and sign that petition and really make a difference." EPISODE RESOURCES Please sign the petition:- https://www.change.org/p/stop-the-closure-of-enhanced-provision-units-for-asn-kids About KJ KJ is a Mum who is leading the fight against the governments proposition to close Special Educational Needs units. All she is asking is for your support to sign and share the petition supporting these special educational needs centres staying open. Facebook group - Action Against Falkirk Council Enhanced Provision Proposals - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1292003289370470 No school places for 10 special needs pupils in Medway - BBC News - https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cy9ngg0w4wdo RESOURCES Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw Join our free community on Discord: Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, lets continue the supporting conversations here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

How do you know if your child is truly thriving in their current school environment—and what can you do if they’re not? Cliff shares his family’s journey of navigating the challenges of mainstream education for Eva and the emotional and practical hurdles of transitioning to a special needs school. He explains how to effectively advocate for your child and navigate the assessment and support processes. I’d love for you to join our new Discord community. Meta is shutting down Facebook Messenger community chats in Oct 2025— so this is where we’ll carry on the conversation. This isn’t just another chat room. It’s a space for parents raising kids with Autism and ADHD to connect, share, and support each other EPISODE REVEALS Explore alternatives if your child is struggling. Open communication with schools, dressing formally for meetings, and presenting clear solutions can help parents advocate more effectively for their children. But be ready to meet and overcome resistance. Parents need to trust their instincts. Remember you are not alone in this journey. Transitioning to a special needs school can be life-changing, leading to improved happiness, confidence, and well-being for children who don’t fit in well into mainstream settings. BEST MOMENTS "We spent five or six years fighting for our daughter to have her diagnosis to start with, and then the HCP, which was continually declined." "I'd like to get across to anyone who's listening to this, always advocate for your child.” "If you control, try not to control with fear, all you will get is either a shutdown, a meltdown or a refusal to comply.” “Too many rules and too much strictness will break your children.” EPISODE RESOURCES https://www.senachieve.co.uk Episode 1 of Parenting Autism and ADHD podcast and access to all other episodes mentioned - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-needs-to-change-in-the-education-system-wendy/id1810681675?i=1000716399709 “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff speaks with Andrew Baker of joined by Andrew Baker, trainer, podcaster and author, who's worked for over 25 years in health, social care and education, he specialised in behaviour management and neuro diversity. Today, they discuss executive function and what really helps children to thrive at home and school. Disclaimer : Please remember this podcast shares professional guidance and lived experiences, but it's not a substitute for personalised medical advice, so if you do have concerns, always consult your GP or healthcare professional, as every situation is unique, but hopefully there's lots of nuggets of information in here that you can extract what works for you and always leave what doesn't. I’d love you to join our new Discord community. Meta is shutting down Facebook Messenger community chats in Oct 2025— so this is where we’ll carry on the conversations. This isn’t just another chat room. It’s a space for parents raising kids with Autism and ADHD to connect, share, and support each other. 👉 Be quick if you want one of the first 10 spots. The first 10 parents who join will get a Founding Member badge in Discord — first 5 will get a private Zoom call with me. Just DM me a screenshot that you’ve joined first to unlock it. As a founding member, you’ll have a hand in shaping how this community begins — setting the tone, suggesting features, and helping build the kind of space we all need. EPISODE REVEALS Most kids with ADHD have a 30% deficit when it comes to executive function. Early support radically changes lives. Focus on strengths, not just struggles. Use tools like mood thermometers to help kids express emotions. Join your children where they are at, advocate for them, but also help them to understand the world that they live in and to make reasonable adjustments. BEST MOMENTS "Building self-esteem comes through mastery." "De-shaming is massive." "We want to praise the thing that we want repeated." "Go into “so let's look at the benefits.” What could be the actual benefits of treating people kindly?" Andrew Baker 📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast 🌐 Website: http://linktr.ee/abletocare Andy’s book: "Targeting the Positive with Behaviours that Challenge: Empathic Strategies for Working with Children and Adults" https://amzn.eu/d/4s08NQT RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff is joined by Connor Johnson for part three of their miniseries. Today, the focus is on sensory development. Does your child have shutdowns over clothing labels? Do they struggle with noise, busy environments, bright lights? Do they crave constant movement? If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Connor and Cliff discuss the different sensory issues a child can have and how to recognise the signs and help e.g. replacing unsafe stimming or using specific play activities. This episode is packed with practical techniques you can use anywhere to help your child. There´s far too many highlights to be able to include in these notes, so please listen. 💡 Disclaimer: This mini course shares professional guidance and strategies, but it’s not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If you have concerns about your child, please consult your GP or healthcare professional. EPISODE REVEALS You are not alone. Help is available. Sensory issues can affect not just sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell, but also a child’s sense of balance, body position, and internal signals like hunger or pain. They may be extra sensitive or less responsive in any of these areas. Encourage your child to describe their feelings. Be encouraging and patient, as it may take time to work out exactly what they are trying to tell you. You don´t need special equipment to use sensory circuits at home. Sensory diets are powerful. Movement breaks really help. Allow safe stimming but replace the unsafe ones. BEST MOMENTS “People (with sensory issues) can still go on to learn and do lots of different things. They just need a bit of support in certain areas.” “If you know your child is seeking a certain type of stimulation, provide it throughout the day or throughout the week.” EPISODE RESOURCES Part 1 of the course - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adhd-and-autism-pre-assessment-mini-course-pt-1-of/id1810681675?i=1000725797148 GUEST RESOURCES Connor Johnson - Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on: Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc. Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions) Asthma Diabetes Epilepsy and other chronic conditions Behaviour Emotional well-being Supporting you and your child as they grow 🎧 Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD: 👉 Apple Podcasts Also available on Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms. RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. He to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Does your child have shutdowns and meltdowns that feel impossible to manage? Does their anxiety creep in at school, or they mask and bring it all home to you, and nobody believes you in school? If any of this sounds familiar, this is for you. Cliff is once again joined by Connor Johnson, an NHS assistant practitioner supporting families with autism and ADHD. In this, the 2nd episode, they move beyond the foundations and focus on behaviours and anxiety. What's really happening beneath the surface? Why certain types of punishments don´t work, and practical strategies you can use to help your child regulate their emotions and navigate daily challenges. 💡 Disclaimer: This mini course shares professional guidance and strategies, but it’s not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If you have concerns about your child, please consult your GP or healthcare professional. EPISODE REVEALS If your child’s shutdowns and meltdowns feel impossible to manage, you’re not alone. Meltdowns are a sign that your child is overwhelmed and no longer in control, not that they are simply refusing to listen. Learn to spot the early signs and redirect. Most of the time punishments don’t work because they don’t address the root causes of behaviour. What you can do instead is covered, in detail, during the episode. Practical strategies like behaviour ABC logs, positive behaviour support plans, and sensory tools can help identify patterns, reduce anxiety, and support your child’s emotional regulation. Modelling healthy emotional responses and giving children time and space to process feelings really helps. BEST MOMENTS “Their behaviour is not your fault.” “You and the child will both be picking up new skills throughout this journey. Updating the plan regularly is really important for that child.” “Think, What do I do when I'm stressed? Do I shout and slam things? – If that's how I'm behaving, then obviously that's how the child's going to behave.” “Routine and structure are a big part of that predictability, that consistency from parents and caregivers.” GUEST RESOURCES Connor Johnson - Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on: Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc. Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions) Asthma Diabetes Epilepsy and other chronic conditions Behaviour Emotional well-being Supporting you and your child as they grow 🎧 Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD: 👉 Apple Podcasts Also available on Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms. RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. He to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Are you struggling with behaviours? Do you feel like a bad parent? Can’t cope? Don´t worry it’s not you. This free mini course will help. In Part One of this special 3-part mini-course, NHS practitioner Connor Johnson joins Cliff to discuss the foundational knowledge every parent needs while awaiting or undergoing assessment for autism and ADHD. They explore the importance of sleep, nutrition, and exercise as the building blocks for supporting your child’s development, as well as providing practical strategies you can use right away. Disclaimer - This mini-course shares professional guidance and strategies for parents, but it's not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If you have any concerns about your child, please speak to your GP or healthcare professional, as each situation is unique. EPISODE REVEALS Working with your child´s circadian rhythm makes improving sleep easier e.g. light exposure. Temporarily moving bedtime routines closer to when your child naturally falls asleep can help. Try eating at the table. It helps your child to see others enjoying different foods. Use some of Connor´s gamifying ideas to help them to try more foods. Sometimes food issues are related to sensory perception e.g. a hard green apple and a soft red apple are very different - some children will eat one but not the other. Let your child decompress before mealtimes. Swimming can be a good form of exercise. When a child acts out, ask yourself, "What is my child trying to communicate?" Regularly check in with your child to keep lines of communication open. BEST MOMENTS "Anxiety can be massively related to behaviour and some of the difficulties we see with sleep." "Stay calm and calmly bring them back to their room. Maybe have a little script in your head of just one or two sentences." “It might not always be clear what is being communicated, but behaviour is communication.” GUEST RESOURCES Connor Johnson is an Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on: Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc. Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions) Asthma Diabetes Epilepsy and other chronic conditions Behaviour Emotional well-being Supporting you and your child as they grow Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/parenting-autism-and-adhd/id1810681675 https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD It's also available on all major podcast platforms. RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV Cliff´s book - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. He to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff speaks with Victoria Burmeister, a resilient single parent and wheelchair user, who shares her powerful story of raising children diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD. Victoria opens up about navigating the challenges of parenting with limited support, working through the US school system, advocating for her children’s needs and finding natural remedies that actually made a difference. Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. We are not doctors, medical professionals, or licensed healthcare providers. The views expressed are based on personal experiences and research. Always do your own research and consult with your physician or qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your health, lifestyle, or treatment plan. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you’ve heard on this podcast. EPISODE REVEALS Victoria´s children were clever about outsmarting her and using the fact she was in a chair to get around the boundaries she set. She shares how becoming more creative about discipline enabled her to solve this issue. As early as possible, teach your children to recognize and communicate their own needs, instead of always relying on adults to advocate for them. This builds independence, confidence and resilience. Be open-minded, try things to find out what works for your family. Victoria had great success with natural remedies, dietary changes, LifeWave patches and other alternative therapies. Use humour and pick your battles. Sometimes, letting your child “win” a small battle can defuse tension and, over time, can reduce power struggles. Friends, caregivers, or online communities can also provide backup and emotional support, especially when you are raising your children as a single parent. BEST MOMENTS "Being validated means a lot… it helps you to know that you're not going batty ." "My kids aren't brain surgeons, but … they help people, they care and they're not a menace to society. They both have good jobs, and my daughter is doing an amazing job raising her kids." "I'm a firm believer in the patches. I would go to those … over taking anything over the counter." Victoria Burmeister: https://www.facebook.com/VAllen5 https://www.tiktok.com/@lady_vick68 Find out more about the LifeWave patches Victoria used here: Affiliate Link - LifeWave.com/victoriaallen Thisisitinfo.com RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff speaks with Tem Ezimokhai, a teacher who is also the host of the brilliant podcast Helping Teachers Thrive. She helps teachers level up and become the best educators they can be. Tem shares some powerful insights into teachers identifying special needs and how parents and teachers can work together more effectively. They also discuss masking, EHCPs, classroom routines and why, often, it´s the little things that make a difference. Whether your child has a diagnosis or you're still trying to figure this out, this conversation is packed with heartfelt perspectives that can really help you feel more informed, empowered and connected. EPISODE REVEALS • Real collaboration between parents and teachers can be life changing.  • Build bridges between home and school. • Children are really good at masking, especially at school. Better than many parents realise. • Teachers in the UK need much better training to help them identify ADHD. • Many teachers have no idea how coping strategies work. If they don´t understand, they don´t always buy in and are less supportive. • Securing the right EHCP is still unbelievably difficult. Cliff shares some tips. • Address breakdowns in communication with specific teachers early on. Once both parties truly understand each other things drastically improve. • With the right training and support teachers can get the best out of every child. BEST MOMENTS “The strength is in numbers, so if we can get more teachers on board, more parents on board, together we can achieve so much." "Influence those leaders and get some positive change.”  "A happy student is one that learns better." "Teachers need to be themselves and have fun." “If there's anyone out there that is going through an immediate mediation. Make sure your child attends that meeting. Don't do it on your own.” RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV EPISODE RESOURCES Tem Ezimokhai  Link to podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/helping-teachers-thrive/id1681843058 Email: tem@helpingteachersthrive.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/temsteachingtips Instagram: instagram.com/temsteachingtips LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tem-ezimokhai-23306a263 Instagram: @helpingteachersthrive Facebook: Helping Teachers Thrive TikTok: @helpingteachersthrive CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

In this episode, Cliff and Eva sit down together to talk about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). Whether you’re a parent, educator, or young person navigating life, this episode offers valuable insights and practical understanding of RSD’s daily effects.   Eva and Cliff share personal stories to help you explore the impact RSD has in social settings, at school, and when forming new relationships, including finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. They also address the most common RSD myths.   EPISODE REVEALS   ·  What Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) actually is. ·  Why RSD is not simply about being “too sensitive” and how RSD differs from the relatively fleeting feelings of rejection most people experience. ·  People with RSD are not choosing to melt-down, it happens because their brains register rejection as a threat. ·  Why even small rejection cues, e.g. A look or silence can trigger spiralling into emotional overwhelm. ·  How to put a light spin on things if someone starts bullying you, even if you have RSD. Eva shares how she does this. ·  Recognising that you have RSD is the first step to understanding and learning how to manage things to minimise the impact it has on your life. ·  Being able to talk about your day is important. Tech-free family dinners are a great way to make sure your child or partner can do this.       BEST MOMENTS "RSD stands for, rejection, sensitive, dysphoria, and some real-life examples of that would be over reactions, over thinking and emotional spirals."   "You're not overreacting on purpose .…People with RSD aren't choosing to melt down. The brain registers the rejection as a threat."   "One of the other misconceptions was being dramatic for attention. People with RSD often feel ashamed after episodes. It's not performative, it's painful, often followed by self-criticism."   “The other misconception is - everyone feels rejected sometimes, this is no different. But the reality is, while rejection does hurt everyone, RSD causes a disproportionately intense and lasting reaction. Like a burn instead of a bruise.”   RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV   Eva's YT channel InspireWithUsYT  - https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT   Eva's Art Sketch Book - https://amzn.eu/d/iClQiFq     Late Bloomers episode about RSD - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4IzuuE1MwWCDZcaButNUEC   CONTACT ME   Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister   X - @KilmisterCliff   HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school, refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff speaks with Harry Houghton, a digital forensics examiner, as he shares how online predators work and what parents can do about it. They talk about the reality of digital investigations, including why that school uniform photo might be more dangerous than you think and how groomers use apps like Roblox to target kids. Harry explains when to call 999 for online threats, introduces the CEOP website that most parents don't know about and shares why talking openly with your children works better than blocking everything. Whether your child is neurotypical or neurodivergent, this conversation covers practical steps for staying safe online. Episode Reveals • How digital forensics work is evolving rapidly. Police now examine terabytes of data, extracting messages, location data, and web history to build criminal cases and protect victims. • Why open communication beats restrictions. Honest conversations about online dangers are more effective than simply blocking access or imposing limits without explanation. • CEOP is a free National Crime Agency resource that provides age appropriate education materials for all key stages and includes vital online reporting functions for suspected abuse. • Many social media posts reveal dangerous information, creating digital footprints that predators can exploit. • Why Parents shouldn't hesitate to call emergency services if they suspect grooming or inappropriate contact with their child, as immediate action prevents evidence destruction. • Why Neurodivergent children face additional risks. Children with autism may struggle to recognise social cues or manipulative behaviour, making them potentially more vulnerable to predators who exploit misplaced trust. • The future brings new dangers, including AI-generated imagery and encrypted messaging apps, making prevention and education more crucial than ever before. BEST MOMENTS "If you are sharing a photo of your child in their school uniform to Facebook or to Instagram or to TikTok... now the whole internet knows what school Johnny goes to." "It is an emergency, so it do, you can ring 999 for that, that is a valid thing to do. You’re not gonna get penalised for saying, I think someone is abusing my child over the internet." "Communication is the key, the best thing, and it really did make a difference." RESOURCES linkedin.com/in/harry-hought0n https://www.ceopeducation.co.uk/ 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME · Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 · Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Cliff is joined again by his daughter Eva. They discuss teaching methods in school, including why phonics doesn't work for her and how she actually learns to spell. She explains what makes classrooms work better for her needs and why different methods are effective for neurodivergent students. Eva also talks about her imaginary friends who give her advice, support and can help regulate her. Episode Reveals • Why phonics methods can be counterproductive for neurodivergent learners. Teaching sounds versus spelling creates confusion when the two don't match, leading to frustration rather than learning. • Memory techniques using phrases and repetition work better than standard methods for many students. • Why stimming objects and comfort items can enhance focus and learning for many neurodiverse pupils. • How imaginary friends and spirit guides can provide emotional regulation. • Why classroom management through humour can be more effective than harsh discipline. • How sensory processing needs impact learning environments. • How teacher recognition builds confidence and motivation. • Why flexible teaching approaches are needed to accommodate different learning styles. BEST MOMENTS "I do not like phonics at all... it's frustrating because it's confusing because it teaches how to say the words... but I spell it how it sounds." "You can stand back and do nothing and watch him have a go at them, or you can step in and try to calm him down." "I was really chuffed that the teacher liked what I was drawing." "The methods that they use in the curriculum don't suit your learning style." "That's very nice. So they're giving you options as well. So it's not like they're controlling you at all. They're helping you regulate your thoughts." RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME · Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 · Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/9yYaIM6⁠Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Cliff is joined in this episode by his mum to explore three generations of neurodiversity within their family. From his grandmother's unrecognised traits to his daughter Eva's current struggles with autism, ADHD, and sensory processing disorder, they discuss the hidden patterns that run through families. His mother shares stories about Eva's masking behaviours, the park incident that changed everything and even how food colourings can affect behaviour. Episode Reveals • How masking is very real and can be deceptive. Children with autism often appear perfectly behaved in public settings, making it difficult for others to recognise their struggles and leading to delayed diagnosis and support. • Artificial food dyes have been linked to hyperactivity, aggression, depression and meltdowns in sensitive children, making dietary monitoring important for behaviour management. • Transitions for neurodiverse children require advance warning. Autistic children particularly need preparation time before changes, using strategies like "five more minutes" warnings rather than abrupt transitions that can trigger meltdowns. • Meal times can create safe spaces for children to share problems and build trust with parents, which is essential for supporting children. • Tools like doodle pads, fidget items, and understanding of sensory overload are essential for learning, not distractions to be eliminated. • Parents don't need school referrals to seek autism assessments; going directly to your GP can prevent years of delays in getting proper support. • Private psychological assessments can provide the detailed evidence needed to win EHCP appeals when local authority assessments fall short. • Neurodiversity is hereditary and often unrecognised. Traits frequently pass through generations, with older family members only recognising their own autism or ADHD after grandchildren are diagnosed. BEST MOMENTS "It was like she wasn't there. It was like she wasn't in control." "I used to like the quiet. I still like it. I don't, I struggle with situations where there's lots of noise." "You are needed. We are all needed. " "It's not labelling, it's identifying that we need some different strategies to support her." RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff “What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME · Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 · Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Cliff and Eva talk about memory recall and why it’s common for those with autism and neurodivergence to struggle with memory. Eva shares how memory recall impacts her at school and they discuss the ways they have found to manage it, including with sensory input and making tasks more engaging.     Episode Reveals There are many ways schools can aid students struggling with memory recall, including simple things like handouts. It is common amongst neurodivergent people to find it easier to remember things that interest them, often to a very high level. A quieter class can help all students focus more and help those with memory recall challenges. Eva finds that when a class is calm and controlled, she feels less stressed and less impacted by her memory recall struggles. Different tools work for individuals and it’s important to trial and error things. For example many professionals suggest mind maps but this is something that doesn’t work for Eva. Routine is essential for many autistic people and Eva finds that this has an impact on her memory too. Mindfulness practices done in the right ways can be very effective. If students can focus on being in the moment it can help a lot with focus. Stimming and sensory input can also be part of this.   BEST MOMENTS  “It's the focus as well, isn't it? So with your ADHD, your memory, your mind might be kind of all over the place.” “Do you think when you're less stressed and the class is quieter, your memory works better?”  “Don’t get me started on mind maps. I have a burning passion for hating them. I think I've always hated mind maps ever since primary. They're just so messy and they go everywhere” “I think the important thing with mind maps and other things, all the things, all the tools and memory aids that you can get, it's important to try them, isn't it? Because otherwise you won't know.” “I definitely like routine. Because with a routine you know what's gonna happen." “Being in the moment and really that can help with your focus and your ADHD sort of conditions.”   RESOURCES Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/9yYaIM6⁠⁠ 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME ·  Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ·  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠ X - @KilmisterCliff   HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!  This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Join Cliff and Chris in the second part of their conversation about how to keep kids safe online. They discuss ways to ensure your child’s safety, including tools you can learn to use and how to foster an open and honest dialogue with your children about online safety. Episode Reveals • The conversations you need to be having with your child to help protect them online • How to engage with the online activities your child is participating in online • How to create an environment where your child doesn’t feel judged and can be open and honest with you • Apps you can use to help keep your child safe • How to spot online predators • How to help your child recognise manipulation online • How to restrict apps and websites • The conversations you need to be having with your child to help protect them online BEST MOMENTS “ Come from a place where you're wanting them to teach you.” “ You're talking to the two of them, like an adult, you're actually talking to them like a friend versus, ‘Hey, I'm putting you on the hot coals here’.” “ They're not gonna be in ‘Predator,’ you know an app that says we are predators.com and it blinks on their phone. I mean, that's not where they're gonna be.” “ You can actually stop apps being downloaded.” “ Look, if you know it's wrong, tell somebody about it. 'cause it ain't, it's not normal for, uh, people online to be sending you stuff.” RESOURCES Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adversity-institute/ Website: https://www.adversity.institute/ 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV CONTACT ME ·  Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ·  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/ X - @KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! CONTACT ME This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Cliff is joined by Chris Duff in this episode. In part 1 of their conversation, Chris shares his incredible knowledge about online predators, grooming tactics and the dangers of sextortion. He gives his own experiences and clear examples of how these things happen in reality sharing why it’s so important to stay vigilant and proactive as parents. Episode Reveals • The dangers every child faces online • The covert ways predators try to access children • How parents can keep their children safe online • Why sextortion is on the rise and how it happens • How to create trust with your child so they will come to you about difficult things they may see online BEST MOMENTS “It's invaded our lives and we've all become so dependent upon it and it has it's advantages for sure, but it also has a whole host of disadvantages.” “ I really just couldn't believe how, how under attack our kids are and the parents need to open up their eyes and understand this.” “It's not about me not trusting my children. I trust my children. I love my children. I want them to grow up and I wanna be their friend. I wanna be their best friend. But the reality is I'm here to be their parent, and I'm here to make sure that they grow up into a responsible adult that doesn't get abused before they get to an age where they can make logical decisions.” “ They figure stuff out and they're still gonna wanna be rebellious. They're kids. You know, I say all the time, I thank God I didn't have this technology when I was a kid. '” “ If there's an adult talking online with kids, that's a red flag.” EPISODE RESOURCES Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adversity-institute/ Website: https://www.adversity.institute/ 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! CONTACT ME  Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Cliff and Eva talk about the topic of stimming, including what it is, how it feels and why understanding it is so important. They share their own experiences of stimming and discuss how stimming helps individuals self-regulate, communicate and thrive! Episode Reveals • Common forms of stimming • Why stimming is so regulating for neurodiverse individuals • How stimming can aid learning for many pupils • How others can respond to stimming and how to manage it • The important distinctions between fidgets, sensory aids and ‘toys’ • How parents and teachers can help support stimming behaviours BEST MOMENTS “ Is it possible that the parents just haven't recognised it before?” “ If your child is flapping their hands around, there's a good chance that they're stimming.” “Auditory stimming, where we repeat sounds and noises such as humming or tapping, repeating words or phrases.” “ I've just gotten used to it. It feels normal for me.” “ Sometimes it helps you to focus on your learning.” “ They used the word toy instead of fidget, which annoys me a little bit because they're not toys, they're fidgets.” “Certain people, I can be myself, like with like with my best friend, I can be myself around him.” RESOURCES ⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! CONTACT ME  Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Most schools and many teachers do not properly understand the challenges and complexities in supporting children with additional needs. In this episode, Cliff and his daughter Eva talk about how systems within schools can inadvertently cause issues for children who are neurodiverse. They also discuss the lack of trust in many mainstream schools and the impact this has on the emotional wellbeing of students. Episode Reveals • The differences Eva found in mainstream -vs- private schools in accommodating her needs • How building a foundation of trust can aid in all students to feel at ease in school • The difference between mindfulness and mental health and why schools need to recognise this • Why respect goes both ways between teachers and students; students do not respect teachers if they are treated poorly BEST MOMENTS “ It certainly doesn't feel like a place that makes you feel welcome. Is this part of why you don't feel comfortable going to this school?” “ I've heard that term way too much, mental health used by the wrong people. Wrong people, meaning teachers. They use that word too much, some words are overused with teachers like mental health and mindfulness. They're used in the wrong way.” “ We're all being treated the same, in the mainstream school, we're all wearing the same uniform. We're all being told to have the same. Well, how it feels is we're all being told to have the same sort of personality.” RESOURCES 👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV ⁠⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! CONTACT ME  Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/