Real & Raw by Unsetting Expectations

Rashmi is a psychiatrist and coach who has worked across academia, the humanitarian sector, and tech start-ups. She is currently running her coaching practice, supporting female tech CEO in running company operations & founders in early-stage tech start-ups to identify their personal values and translate them to company values and is proud to be in a group of 28 international leadership coaches on the TRIUM EMBA program and a coach on the Imperial College, London Coach and Coffee program. We talked about meeting expectations, worrying about mistakes and what to do when you've been feeling like you're stuck! Hope you'll enjoy this fruitful interactive conversation! Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Rashmi Narayana: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rashminarayana_/ web: https://linktr.ee/rashmiln Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

In this Real & Raw we're having a conversation with Jo Hooper, a mental health at work consultant and a founder of Mad And Sad Club. We're talking about the importance of sharing our honest experiences right in the moment where we are with our mental health and our business. we also touched upon what it's like to live and work in a box that society thought us we should and about setting boundaries in a way that help other people understand our expectations in order to learn and grow together. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Jo Hooper: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/madandsadclub/ web: https://madandsadclub.co.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

In this Real & Raw episode we had a conversation with Rachel Emma Waring, a stylist turned strategist who she runs her own business. As a business owner, she makes her own assumptions of her business (like so many of us), which end up causing burnout and overwhelm! We talked about these made-up assumptions, how to overcome the critical voice and all the fears, doubts and lessons learnt on her own journey to unset expectations. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/  Rachel Emma Waring: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelemmawaring/ web: https://www.rachelemmawaring.com/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

Today we welcomed Hanna Andersen from As We Are to talk about her journey of getting made redundant after 13 years (she started when she was 19!) and what that meant for her in her journey to becoming self-employed. In the second half of the conversation we touch upon the differences of being in a traditional vs. Founder jobs and how does the society view them, what makes it harder etc. The key thing for me in this conversation was the realization how Founder businesses are treated unfairly when we decide to change ideas or move from it after 2 years. Not a lot of people would judge you if you were to change your regular job after 2 years, right? So why do they do it here? Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Hanna Andersen: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asweare.uk/ web: https://www.asweare.org.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

Today we're speaking with Rachel Walker, a Whole Person Certified Coach, Self Discovery Facilitator, ex-Primary School Teacher, and Psych grad and we're going to talk alllll things relationships! Hope you enjoy the talk! Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Rachel Walker: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courageouslyyoucoaching/ web: https://www.courageouslyyou.co.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

Today we're speaking with burnout and mental wellbeing at work expert Katie Phillips about the triggers, signs and  symptoms of burnout, how to recognise them, what to do if you're there already and how to support your mental wellbeing. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Katie Phillips: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiephill/ web: https://kdp.coach/links/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1

Nicola Charlotte is a mindset and confidence coach. We discussed what are the "shoulds" that you are living by? Are you conforming to society and shrinking yourself to fit in to what is "traditionally successful"? If these questions pique your interest, you'll definitely love the conversation. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Clubhouse. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. Join Unsetting Expectations today! See what we're up to on Instagram.

Jill Skulina is an "artist, writer, mentor, DISRUPTER and emotional work in progress." The disrupter in caps gets me every time. We speak about emotional safety, motherhood and other life narratives. Join us for a real and raw, warm and heartfelt conversation.  Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Clubhouse. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. Join Unsetting Expectations today! See what we're up to on Instagram.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. I’ve been thinking back about things that had been a huge problem for me when I worked for different companies over the past couple of years, and I suddenly realized that many of the troubles have resulted from over analyzing my menager's or my colleagues' emails and replies. I immediately started to internalize and feel fear inside of me when I saw a question mark in it, because I thought there was something I hadn't done right. Crazy, isn't it? Technology has undoubtedly made our lives easier in many ways, but I’m not so sure I like the effect it has on communication and understanding those written messages. It's especially present in communication between a manager and their employees, and a huge problem is not even hearing something each of them has to say.  And I've realized that people had never thought of listening as an important subject by itself. Now that I'm a business owner and having people working for me, I have realized that listening to what they have to say is one of the most important parts of our communication and of me getting to understand how they feel and what they need so that they can feel more comfortable working and communicating back to me. Listening to what they have to say may be more than an eye-opening experience for them, as well as for me and the business. It could mean more understanding of their needs, more progress and possibly innovation when they are being heard and valued. I'm kind of in the midst of a journey of reframing and reparenting myself  I also run two social businesses and I have a small team working together. And the roles are different so I need to be able to recognize how my team is feeling that day just based on their messages and their replies. And then I moderate my replies to them based on understanding what they need to hear, or what they might think. Because I know that sometimes they can also feel the same fear from a message that I sent that has a question mark in it.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Do you feel guilty when you even think of setting boundaries? Well, I'm here to tell you that you're not alone! One of the main reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re rude and controlling and that we'll get characterized as being mean and selfish. For many of us the problem is being stuck in a people-pleaser mindset, letting other people tell us what's right for us instead of deciding for ourselves. We have all these negative beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. And this is especially present in dysfunctional families where people may feel guilty or unjustified in asking for what they want or need and never getting their needs met. Personally, I didn't have boundaries for a lot of reasons and when I met people who had them, I always thought "Oh my God, what a rude person!". The relationship with my parents, and their parents was really dysfunctional and it was especially hard for me as a child to look at and to grow up in such environment. I didn't have anyone  kind of role-modelling that it's okay to stand up for yourself, that it's okay to say no to things and that it's okay to, not to raise your voice but to speak your truth. And by getting raised by a family that acts a certain way, I just thought that I should be quite all the time and let people use me however they want, because those were the behaviors that I saw for such a long time. When I moved to Zagreb, for University, I figured that people were acting differently here and I quite liked it. It was a transitioned period of me realizing that having boundaries is not rude at all, that's what should be the bare minimum of common courtesy to yourself. Setting boundaries means, for once, putting ourselves first. And what it really does is, it protects us from being hurt and taken advantage of.  In fact, setting clear boundaries creates healthy relationships and clear expectations as long as we learn how to set them properly and don't feel guilty. Therefore, we have to figure out how to find ways to set boundaries that work for us. Listen to the whole conversation and pick up some of the tips for yourself!

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. So many of us go through life disconnected from our inner self, not paying attention to our core, looking for someone or something to complete us. And it's almost like we're waiting for some kind of outside approval for things we should or shouldn't do, we begin to lose control of what we truly want and feel like doing. We miss out so much on vital information that could be shaping our life choices and daily actions by not trusting ourselves and our inner feeling. Sometimes you get really caught up on looking so much outwards and comparing ourselves and our businesses with how businesses of other people work so much that we lose that inner connection and trust and you're like "Oh, I'm actually not feeling really aligned with this, I don't feel like I have the energy to launch this now even though I already had that planned." And that can create a lot of resistance and judgement and a lot of those negative emotions. For the most part of my life I struggled with a poor relationship with myself. I used to have a critical, judgmental inner dialogue. My perfectionist tendencies made me feel like I was never good enough which made me feel completely disconnected from my inner self. Over recent years, so much of this has changed. I have practiced acceptance, forgiveness and unconditional self-love, which made me realize, I'm on my own journey in this life and it's completely fine to take a step back, tune in and be like "it's okay if I don't do this at the moment because it doesn't feel right". The key is to develop the connection with the source of guidance, the sense of self that lies within you, to discover that you're able to rely on your inner feeling, your inner guidance. And just like anything, it requires dedication and a lot of patience. It's important to let yourself receive any information that comes from within, and give yourself time to process it and understand what is it trying to tell you.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Many of us have been in a place where we are in a constant resistance to what we feel inside ourselves, our internal state where we're holding off, and it's almost like constant pushing or pulling back. Being too hard and resistant to ourselves makes us feel angry, miserable, frustrated and even overly restricted. It makes us blame ourselves for things we didn't do, we even blame ourselves for things we did and how we did them, almost like we have no control over ourselves and our emotions towards ourselves. Whether it's a trauma response, whether it's the discomfort that you're feeling, the resistance where you're resisting against your own nature, it's important to figure that out, and see if you can get yourself to a space where there's just less shame and it doesn't feel as heavy. We need to be light. You cannot be limitless when you're just like "I'm going to apologize for everything I am and everything I do and everything I didn't do." You don't want that version of you showing up in the world. Personally, I don’t believe it’s really healthy to fight or judge yourself, and I also don’t believe it’s healthy to just give in to every impulse either. There should be a healthy balance between the two. It’s about compassionate self guidance and self discovery, so that we can get where we want to go in life, as well as feel free and be able to enjoy the journey.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. So much of our time we spend trying to keep up and fit everything into our days that we can't even enjoy them as we want to. In a world like this that often seems to get busier and fast-paced than ever, it’s easy to get swept up by the feeling of needing to do more and do it faster, just to keep up with the world. It has become a societal norm that being busy equals more productivity. It leads us feeling overwhelmed, stressed and it makes us feel like we're not good enough, like we're not doing good enough. We're running ourselves into the ground, almost. And I'm kind of feeling that in all our busyness and constantly running around, we're missing out on the most important and most beautiful parts of our lives. It is important to make slowing down a priority and focus on what's really important for you at the moment. And it isn't the easiest thing to do, it takes time and practice and a lot of discipline and self control to take it easy. You need to learn to pay attention to the things that are in front of you in the moment, to stay present and right where you are. "How could I slow more today?" Okay, I'm going to sit and I'm going to journal for five more minutes. So my thing today is like, how can I keep slowing down? And every time I've noticed that I've started getting a bit more stressed, everything speeds up for me. I talk a little bit faster, I move faster. And, so rather than just telling myself to slow down, if I can slow down my body movements, I start to cultivate a feeling of slowness and everything suddenly my day has felt a little more spacious. And it feels like I have room to move. - says Vix Anderton. Whenever you’re feeling overly busy, stressed or simply overwhelmed, try some of these small tips to help you slow down and just follow the pace of yourself. Every small change throughout your day can slow down your pace without killing your productivity. If you find a more peaceful process, you’ll be both happier and more effective. If you're interested in learning how to slow down and still get things done, I highly suggest you to listen to this episode!

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. We live in a world where not everything we see on the internet is true. And this is especially the case with social media. With so many opinions and information coming from all sides, people showing up with filters and masks on, it’s easy to just fall for everything that’s fighting for our attention. The most widespread use of augmented reality is the face filters on social media that are more and more used among women and even young girls. And I don’t think it’s just filtering an actual image, it’s filtering  their whole life. Nowadays, everything is all about portraying a perfect life to gain fame and a number of followers, people forget who they are and they pretend to be someone who they're not. And I think it’s very sad what’s happening more and more. So much of the things we see online is scripted and Unsetting Expectations is my counter medicine to that. It's because everything is so scripted, everyone shows up with a filter and with a mask, it feels like we're already living in the metaverse. It's already like we're showing up as different people than who we are because someone one day decided it's better because it earns them more status, more followers and more money. I remember kind of being left, standing like this time a year ago and thinking like "Who is showing up as a human being?", " Where do I find human beings?", almost only place where people share conversations like these is on communities like Reddit, for example. And my intention for this entire project is to raise that awareness that every experience as a human being is a normal experience, that it's okay to show up as who you truly are. We're consuming more online media than ever and people have become obsessed with seeking approval from millions of strangers online. It has led to creating an incredibly fake persona and not having a genuine sense of identity and purpose. This is why Unsetting Expectations came to life, to normalize the experiences of us as human beings, to normalize the conversations around them and to offer a safe and warm space to share your stories.

In this Real & Raw episode we're speaking to Alice Brown, a copywriter and website specialist who helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. We talked about self doubt, uncertainty, fear and all these emotions entrepreneurs encounter when starting their own business. As entrepreneurs, in all our efforts to get better and deliver as much value as possible to our customers, we often feel there's always something missing, and the added pressure from our family and friends isn't helping. To learn to accept all these challenges as well as to accept your uniqueness as a value proposition is what we'll touch upon in this very raw episode. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on YouTube. Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Being cut from your emotions, both positive and negative ones, can have serious and destructive impact on your life, your mental health and your relationships. Being detached from your emotions unables you to connect to your body, to recognize your body's needs, to process your emotions and to express how you feel in certain situations. Emotional detachment can happen due to so many different reasons, including a prolonged period of depression, an episode of anxiety, a long period of neglect as a child and other unexpected and pretty horrific events in your life. I was having trouble experiencing joy. If you had asked me 'Where do you feel joy?", I couldn't tell you, and I couldn't describe to you how joy felt to me. So I genuinely though, I'm incapable of experiencing joy. Because what I did for a very long time was by shutting down feeling the negative emotions, which unfortunately I had many especially throughout my childhood, I shut down all emotions. I didn't even know if it's possible to kind of shut the negative emotions and still be able to feel the positive ones. What was really difficult for me was to recognize when I feel happy, when I feel joy. Everyone has a different tendencies to feel emotions or turn them completely off based on how they feel about themselves and the world. It is important to be in touch with our emotions because they let us know where we want to set our boundaries, they inform us and protect us and they leave space for us to heal. We need access to all of our emotions in order to function in a healthy way. If you've caught yourself detaching from your emotions and being unable to express feelings, if any of this resonates with you, I highly suggest you to listen to the whole conversation. It is all about focusing on making change and understanding some important facts about our feelings before we learn to express them in an appropriate way.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. It's almost impossible for anyone to work every minute of every day without eventually burning out. People often sacrifice their lunch breaks in order to be as productive as possible or they even go into the office at the weekends when they're supposed to be out of office and take those days off for themselves. Eventually, in one way or another, it takes toll on them. It is often related with struggling to cope with stress at a workplace that may place people at high risk of burnout which then leaves them feeling exhausted, empty, and unable to cope with the demands of life and work. When you experience burn out,  you feel more drained, your motivation is killed and it makes you feel like losing interest in your work. And those are just a few of many signs of prolonged response to works stress. "It happened quite gradually over a few months. I became too busy for a lunch break. I was working long hours and I started to go into the office at the weekends." - says Vix Anderton. I only started to appreciate that there might be something wrong when I was working with a coach, we had a three hour in-person session and she asked me how stressed I thought I was. I paused and I thought and I was like "I don't know, maybe like four or five out of ten". And she looked at me and said "Vix, you've been in tears for this entire session, you might want to reconsider your answer." It blew my mind. Crying in the toilets and having panic attacks at work every day isn't normal. Taking breaks has a big impact on your ability to deal with work and life stress.  It's important to find ways to cope with your work tasks and especially when it comes to finding a work-life balance so that it doesn't interfere with your personal life. Prioritizing self-care and scheduling time for yourself is one of the most crucial strategies to fighting burn out. Don't stay silent. You can also reach out to someone if you’re experiencing or approaching burnout. It's a lonely place to be, but you don't have to go through it alone! Do you feel depressed as a result of work-related stress? How do you cope with it? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with us.

In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Emily Hodge, a psychologist and a qualified coach who helps other coaches and founders lead their service business with more ease, integrity and profit. We talked about lacking of self worth despite hard work and accomplishments and how it manifests itself in entrepreneurial activity. Emily also shared her story on this as she's writing a book that was also developed as a result of her own struggle with lack of self compassion and feelings of self worth. She talked about leading a business with more ease and flow and what it means to run a business that fits around your needs. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. There are so many reasons why we put limits in everything we do. From my perspective, most people limit themselves because they are scared of the unknown, they are scared of failing. More often we prefer to stay within our comfort zone because that is what we know and where we feel safe. Also, we often limit ourselves due to the fear of what people will think about us. What the society will think. All these limitations we put on ourselves are mind based. Our thoughts are being indoctrinated and manipulated from the moment of our birth and they have continued to be manipulated by the society we grew up in. When we were kinds, we were told we could be anything we want, but only if we were careful enough. Now as adults, we are missing out on those glorious moments of absolute freedom because our fear leaves us paralyzed as we hold out in the safety of what we know and where we feel comfortable. In a lot of ways it broke my heart, because it made me realize how easy it is for us to hold ourselves back to self-sabotage and do all these things quite unintentionally, says Jaz Broughton, a certified career coach. You have to get used to a certain level of uncertainty, you have to get used to a certain level of adventure, even if you really want that stability and you want that linear journey. Sometime we within ourselves don't know how to compute that because even from childhood we were taught to think in linear ways. It's no secret we all like comfort zone and we don't consider taking risks. But taking risks is the only guarantee for being truly alive. To take risks, we should have courage, and to have courage we should step out of our comfort zone. Our thoughts become our reality, and our mind soaks up whatever we focus on, the good and the bad. That's why it's important to stop putting limits on everything we do. And are you ready to step up and move beyond your own limitations?

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. In order to bring this perspective into your life and business, you have to keep that positive attitude and develop a growth mindset. It means that you take every opportunity with open arms, that you believe you can do anything you put your mind to and that you are willing to work hard for what you want.   Positive affirmations are a powerful tool as they can help improve your confidence and help you become better at a certain activity or skill. When we believe in ourselves and when we are confident in our own capabilities, it allows us to view and feel less threatened by anything. We become more confident which then boosts our performance.   We don't have those constant reminders or pieces of evidence, but that is what our brains crave. Our brains want evidence that just closes that feedback loop that tells us, yep, I'm doing something worthwhile. This is the right thing and something I do on an ongoing basis, says @alice_benham. When I have a testimonial, a nice message or someone says yes to something, I get a screenshot and put it in a folder, so when I have the very frequent wobbles, I can be like "no, this is why I'm doing it, and it's worth it!".   There are times when we all feel like not being able to deal with those tough situations that just keep getting in the way of all the things we love in our lives. It's almost like we forget about all our accomplishments and everything good that we've done. It can be due to so many different things related to being stressed and under pressure. But those aren't permanent conditions. They're temporary, and just like everything, it will eventually go away. What we can do to help ourselves feel better, we can learn to practice positive affirmations as they help us overcome negative thoughts and self sabotage.   Whether it's putting post-it notes around the house, repeating positive affirmations in your head or reading your testimonials or nice messages, whatever works for you. It's important to feed you brain with constant reminders and you can use them in any situation where you'd like to see a positive change take place in your life.    You can find some valuable tips and tricks in this episode, it's worth listening