Road Least Travelled - A journey of the Soul

Covert narcissism, narcissistic abuse and scapegoating are under-researched. Many therapists, psychologists and mental health clinicians don't know much about covert narcissism and scapegoat abuse. As a result they re-traumatize the client over and over. They do not understand the insidious nature of scapegoat abuse, especially from a covert narcissist. Scapegoating can happen in any dysfunctional family, not only in narcissistic families. If you suspect you're a scapegoat suffering narcissistic abuse or abuse from a dysfunctional family, here are some tips to help you choose the right therapist or mental health clinician. Do not fall into the trap of unethical therapists or therapists that are not experts at narcissistic and scapegoat abuse. ⁠Website⁠ ⁠If you'd like to support my channel⁠ ⁠Letters to my goddaughter⁠ Music: Aesthetics Musician: SoulProdMusic URL: https://pixabay.com/music/-aesthetics-138637/ #unethicaltherapists #therapist #dysfunctionalfamily #genuinetherapists #narcissisticfamily #scapegoatrecovery #scapegoat #scapegoatabuse #familyroles #spiritualjourney #spirituality #spiritualgrowth #psychologist #therapy #therapytools #therapyvideo #emotionalabuse #howtofindagoodtherapist #therapyforscapegoats #therapyfornarcissisticabuse #goodpsychologists

Beware of scams. Meditation is simple. Meditation is about clarity of mind. It's about clearing past baggage and thoughts of the future so we can receive messages from our higher self. Here I give you a 2-step tutorial on how to do it. When we don't complicate the concept of meditation, and when we don't put gurus and spiritual "experts" on the pedestal, simple meditation clears your mind so you have a direct connection to your Higher Self. When your mind is clear, all the answers will come to you. When all the answers come to you, you can manifest easily. Website To support my channel Letters to my goddaughter Music: Aesthetics Musician: SoulProdMusic URL: https://pixabay.com/music/- aesthetics...#meditationforbeginners #meditationformanifesting #meditationmadesimple #simplemeditation #whatismeditation #clarityofmind #clarity #higherself #higherselfawareness #spirituality #manifestation #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #journeyofthesoul #jayshetty #jayshettyfraud

Website Letters to my goddaughter If you'd like to buy me a coffee You’ve suffered for most of your life as a scapegoat. You stuck with them, you were loyal, you tried so hard to help them, tried so hard to have a healthy relationship with them. Tried so hard to protect them from each other. Don’t you deserve at least some financial compensation? Some considerations of staying in a toxic and dysfunctional family versus leaving for good: If you stay because you deserve your share of the pie, you’ll have to play their dysfunctional game. You’ll have to outsmart the dysfunctional people. Can you? Are you willing to invest more time and energy into this toxic dysfunction? Are you strong enough to play a game on their turf, by their rules? The flying monkeys and enablers are on the side of the abusers. They are following the money. They will never support you. If you leave, you have to be extremely focused on your healing, on those who do love you, focus on raising your spiritual vibration to an even higher level. So that you can shift your reality to a better one. So you can attract better people and life circumstances. Either scenario is possible, but both are difficult. Which would you choose? If you’ve tried your best, and they continue to ostracize you, don’t see it as losing something, see it as the universe pushing you out of a morally bankrupt environment. Scapegoats have two choices - die or fly. Is the possibility of losing your inheritance worth your mental, spiritual and physical health? Music: Aesthetics Musician: SoulProdMusic URL: https://pixabay.com/music/-aesthetics-138637/ #inheritance #scapegoat #flyingmonkeys #narcissisticgaslighting #narcissisticenablers #enablers #dysfunctionalfamily #spiritualawakening #blacksheep #emotionalabuse #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #scapegoatrecovery #recovery #recoveryjourney #spiritualjourney #selfrespect #selfrespectvideo

They have lived the lives they wanted at your expense. It’s now time to live yours. Create a dream life for yourself. Scapegoating need not be a life-sentence. Your life is worth living. The injustices of being given the role of the scapegoat are hideous and cruel. But you remain strong, compassionate and kind. At the core, you are intelligent and wise. Those are the traits of a scapegoat. Break the shackles that have prevented you from living your full potential.  You have given them everything. Now give all that to yourself.  #scapegoating #dreamlife #lifeworthliving #lifeofpurpose #afternarcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuse #dysfunctionalfamily #dysfuntionalfamilyroles #familyroles #scapegoat #goldenchild #spirituality #spiritualjourney #spiritualawakening #awakening #dreamcometrue #yourlife #natureheals #healing #healingjourney #healyourself #abuse #emotionalabuse #mentalhealth

Scapegoats, you’ve spent most of your life wondering if your dysfunctional family and extended family members know what’s going on. You’ve done your best to please them to no avail. You start to believe that you’re the toxic, mean spirited, selfish, narcissistic and shameful failure that they see you as.  So you set out to heal yourself. To become a better person. You search online, you go into forums, you binge watch videos, and consume articles, and finally learn that you’re the family scapegoat. Your family fits perfectly into the model narcissistic family dynamics.  You discover that the narcissist of the family is like a cult leader. And everyone else - the enablers and flying monkeys - all toe the line because they’ve been trained to abuse the scapegoat and to project their shame and guilt onto the scapegoat. You get excited about your new discovery. You want to share it. You want to wake up the enablers and flying monkeys so they know they’ve been brainwashed, and their entire lives are based on lies. You want to help them.  You discover that most of them already know. And some don't want to know. Here's your 3-word answer - They don't care. They have a lot to gain by staying in the dysfunctional dynamic because they are richly rewarded by the narcissist. So they push you out, ostracize you, the scapegoat, to get more rewards. If the narcissist is old, the enablers and flying monkeys will be eyeing your share of the inheritance.  As the family scapegoat, you are the only one who can see that no amount of money dangled at you is worth your sanity, mental or spiritual wellbeing. #familyscapegoat #narcissisticfamily #narcissisticabuse #inheritance #scapegoatinheritance #enablers #flyingmonkeys  #narcissisticfamilycult #cults  #scapegoating #brainwashing #spiritualawakening #spirituality #scapegoatawakening #blacksheep #covertnarcissist #overtnarcissist #ego #control #scapegoatdestiny

Today I want to tell you a story that will stay in my mind for the rest of my life. I was on my way to the Taj Mahal, walking along the busy streets of Agra. The distinct smell of India, hot masala chai, golden deep-fried puri, cloves, aniseed, curry leaves, jasmine, sandalwood, the smell of decay and rotting garbage. Dogs, pigs, donkeys, peacocks adding to the already crowded streets. Cows lying in the middle of the road, the rattling of bells on anything that moves, the endless honking of traffic. Here, beauty surpasses ugliness and ugliness surpasses beauty. I think because India contains the polarities of life it offers us a glimpse into ourselves. I find India beautiful not only because of the physical beauty of its buildings, art, and the richness of its ancient culture, but that it tells the truth, in all its beauty and ugliness. True beauty is not superficial. It’s a mess, a tangle of both beauty and ugliness. My heart skipped a beat when I saw the first shimmering whiteness of the Taj Mahal in the distance. I wanted to prolong this anticipation so I stopped to grab a bite at a food stall. There was this street kid of about 10 stood nearby, watching me. She was in dirty rags. Her hair was thick and grey with dust. Every time I looked at her she lowered her eyes and concentrated very hard on peeling her orange. Finally when she glanced at me, I smiled and teasingly stretched out my palm to her, just like all the other street kids that had done that to me asking for money. Without hesitation she split her orange, and placed one half onto my palm. When I got to the Taj Mahal I couldn’t help wondering if this most stunning and elegant declaration of love in history would’ve been so lovely if it hadn’t been for that half an orange. In my travels to places most would consider filthy, ugly and poor, the one thing that struck me more than anything else was always this – I didn’t return to my comfortable life thinking how lucky I was. It wasn’t that I was ungrateful for what I had, but what kept nagging at me, always at the back of my mind throughout the years, was, what is the secret of these people’s peace of mind and happiness despite having so little? Now I know. They never drank the Kool-Aid. When you don’t have a mountain heap of money, no mansion in Monte Carlo, when your clothes are 20 years old and have seen 2 cycles of fashion come backs, when on some days you might even struggle to pay the bills, and yet most days regardless of circumstances, you feel that you have more than enough, you have stopped drinking the Kool-Aid. You have found yourself. And you’re no longer a part of this global scam. And ironically, abundance will come your way. Why do think that is? Because you know how to handle it without losing yourself. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

We all knew as very young children, what our purpose in life is. So it’s not about searching for your purpose. Rather, discovering it by peeling off all of society’s conditioning, peer pressure, family expectations, of all words that limit the inner knowing of your purpose. Our programming and conditioning are the shackles that bind us to small ideas, small concepts, small understandings of this big big thing that’s our soul. When you peel away all the ideas and other people’s opinions, you will discover that your purpose in life is just to be you. All else will fall into place. Your purpose in life is to just be you, because you are unique. There’s nobody on earth who is exactly like you. Why? Because this is how the world works. Everything is in equilibrium if each of us is being our authentic selves. Chaos happens when we’re not being ourselves. This is evident in everything we see around us. The ecosystem for example. We thrive on diversity. Look at monoculture and the chaos it brings to the ecosystem. We’re not made to be the same. Your purpose in this world is to be uniquely you. It’s that simple. But, who are you? Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

Here are some headlines on my feed the other day: "Why highly successful people are prone to depression." "Highly successful people are at higher risk for depression." "Why the super-successful get depressed." Doesn't this sound ludicrous to you? Senseless, weird, odd, strange? Or is it just me? What nonsense is this? We need to re-define what success means in today’s society. Success is subjective, of course. However, too many people are so caught up in society’s idea of success that we often forget that personal success is the only one that’s truly sustainable. Here are a few ways to assure you that you are truly successful. If you resonate with most of them, you should be very happy. 1. You feel gratitude for the simplest things. 2. You know yourself and you don’t fear revealing who you are. 3. You have peace of mind. 4. You have a genuine intention to be a good person. 5. You’re self-aware. 6. You’ve fallen more times than you can remember, and each time you fall you get right back up without compromising on your principles. 7. You are constantly learning about yourself. You don’t rush to improve. You accept that you’ll always be work in progress. 8. You don’t harm people and animals, you’re not careless about the welfare of the planet and people around you. 9. You take care of yourself, you eat well and you take enough rest. You don’t need fancy food or clothes to be happy. 10. You don’t put up a façade to show people a favorable image of yourself. You reveal your real self because you have nothing to hide or fear. 11. Truth that’s unacknowledged, or kept hidden, poisons us slowly. Insidiously. You know that the truth, whether you’re seeking it or revealing it, really does set you free. 12. You take accountability for your choices and actions. You make the most with the cards you were dealt with without whining about how unfair life is. 13. You don’t envy anyone, or resent them for appearing better off than you or luckier than you. 14. You forgive, not because people say you should, but because you really do see the silver lining in the harm done to you. And therefore, your act of forgiveness is actually gratitude. 15. You have faith in something bigger than yourself. And you surrender to that faith. You see God, the universe, source energy, or a higher being, not as your savior, not as your boss that’s here to judge and punish you, but as a partner. This partnership is where you do your part, and then you surrender to the faith that God universe will do their part. 16 You’re doing what you truly love and believe in, and you have faith that you can earn a comfortable living doing it. So you see, society’s idea of success is so effed up. How can success ever be anything but bring you peace of mind, contentment, and enjoyment of everyday simple things that are quite frankly, miraculous. These simple things assure us all the time, what sustainable and healthy success is. If you resonate with most of what I’ve said, be happy.  Be very happy! Have a great week ahead, and I’ll see you soon. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook  

Some of us will continue to perpetuate the cycle of anger, hate, fear and destruction. And the cycle will continue. But for some the time has come for us to turn those emotions into something more powerful. When all external avenues have been exhausted I hope we turn inwards to fight our internal battles and cleanse ourselves spiritually. To heal the world all we have to do is heal ourselves. I know it doesn't seem like much, and it sure doesn't look heroic or proactive but it's the most generous and powerful thing we can do. There are two paths we can take. Miracles can happen if we choose the right path. Because when we heal ourselves, we heal the world. The new year tradition of cleaning your home, re-organising your cabinets, giving away things you don’t need, those are not just physical cleansing. They’re metaphorical cleansing as well. Yes it’s good to have a clean environment to live in, but most people stop there, thinking that their external environment is all there is.  We need to cleanse our inner world too. Here are 6 ways to wipe off unwanted influences. 1. People who are always there for you when you’re down but not when you’ve recovered, or when you’re happy. Be grateful that they were there at your lowest points. Thank them in your prayers, but move on. Don’t miss the friendship or relationship because it's likely that they enjoyed your misery. They could be living in a low vibrational place that loves drama and complaining about how wretched life is. And they found a perfect partner in you. When you rise above it, they don’t want to follow. 2. People who always pull you down with negative opinions. Follow your intuition and it’ll always lead you to a better spiritual place, and that includes mistakes. Nobody except you knows what’s best for you. And the only thing that can guide you on this is your intuition. Trust yourself. Trust yourself blindly. 3. People who never text or call you unless you reach out to them. Stop doing this and see how long the silence lasts. If they don’t check on you, strike them off. This creates space for people who appreciate you. This will support your spiritual growth. 4. Be yourself and say exactly what you mean. Sometimes friendships and relationships are maintained because you play a role that suits them. Be yourself for a change and see what happens. Being our authentic selves is the only sustainable way to keep friendships that support our spiritual growth. 5. Give up something. What will you give up in order to free up the space for something more fulfilling and meaningful? Your spiritual energy is your most precious currency. Give up something to make space for something better. 6. The media. Stop participating in online arguments over politics and current events. The media is owned by a handful of powerful people and is curated to allow us to see only what they want us to see, to serve their agenda. Their agenda is to keep us fighting so they can divide and conquer. So, we should stop searching outside for the truth, and instead cleanse ourselves of this. Then, we will see a lot more clearly.   Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

You start with emotional fasting. There's no point in making new year resolutions when we don't flush out the underlying issues. 1. Minimise the time you spend on watching and reading the news. By all means get an overview of what’s going on but don’t indulge. To know what’s going on in the world and to have an objective view of it, we can be more effective in deciding what we can do, or are willing to do. But to indulge will make us unnecessarily sad, angry, frustrated, and distressed. Compassion is empathy and sadness with a limit. When we go over that limit, we cease to be helpful to anyone. Not only that, but it’s harmful to ourselves. It’s time to examine why we are overly emotional about something. We’ll see a more balance picture about ourselves. When we’re calm, we hear the wisdom inside of us, and our understanding of how the world works, how life works increases because deep down our soul knows everything. We just have to delete all the noise outside. 2. Stop engaging in arguments physically, or on social media. Instead, observe without judging. You’ll have a clearer mind when you observe others. This is because it’s very hard to look at ourselves. I’m not saying to judge others, I’m saying observe them and then relate their behaviour to your own. Very often you’ll see that both sides are arguing from their ego. The ego is the biggest stumbling block to awakening. After eliminating the external noise, you can absorb positive and healthy emotional nutrients in the coming year. There are just 2 things you need to do. But do them diligently. 1. Treat yourself like you’d treat a good friend. You know they’re not better than you. You know they’re flawed human beings too, and yet you’re kind and compassionate to them. So why don’t you do that for yourself? Why hold yourself to a higher standard? Imagine you’re that person who’s your good friend. How would you talk to them? How would you advise them laugh with them or take care of them when they need your support? Do that for yourself. 2. Have forward moving internal dialogues with yourself. Acknowledge a mistake you’ve made, and move on to the solution. This has 3 benefits. You’re teaching yourself to be more forgiving. You’re replacing the voices of other people who belittle you, ridicule you or scold you. And thirdly, you're training yourself to see that many mistakes have simple solutions if you stopped focusing on the mistake itself, and instead, on the solution. So, that’s it. Just do these 4 things. If you do it diligently, I guarantee you your mind will be so clean and spacious, your soul can finally breath. And all the other resolutions will just fall into place effortlessly. Well, over time if course. Just don’t be caught up in the resolutions themselves. Focus on the foundation, which is a clean empty space, that’s where healthy habits grow. Remember, big changes happen effortlessly when you make the small changes. All the best. I wish you a Happy, fulfilling and spiritually rewarding 2024! Website Instagram YouTube Facebook  

What if I said you can overcome this without having to change yourself? Because being trusting, generous and kind, are good qualities you don’t want to lose. And yet those are the very qualities that create one disappointment after another. People who are naïve and trusting have 3 choices. The path you take will either make you a lifelong doormat, a cynic with a miserable life, or a balanced person who can get the best out of every situation. I want to share with you a very simple way to remain as you are, keep being trusting, keep being kind and generous, and still protect yourself from these grifters. One, is to love yourself more. Two, don't be cynical. Three, liberation from being a doormat or a cynic.  Look at the world for what it is, rather than what you want, or hope for it to be. Look at it without judgment, without emotions. That way you see people for exactly who they are without any negative or positive feelings. It’s just who they are, they’re entitled to that, but you choose not to interact with them. It's not being judgmental. It's being discerning. Cynicism is being suspicious of everyone. But being discerning, is seeing them for who they are, and choosing not to engage. This frees you to engage with people who are genuine. You don’t have to change a thing about yourself. You just have to be more discerning. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook Substack

Here are 8 types of people to avoid when you’re going though spiritual awakening. This depends on which stage of the spiritual journey you’re at. If you’re at the beginning, then you should most definitely avoid them, until you’re strong enough to take them on. If you’re not strong enough, you will be pulled down by them. Stay away from them if you want your journey to be a bit smoother.  Spiritual awakening is not a one-time thing. We go through levels of difficulty like playing a video game. So at the beginning, it's best to make sure you are surrounded by people who are supportive rather than those that bring you down. Here are the 8 types of people who are dangerous for your spiritual awakening: 1. People you care about who don't care about you. 2. Fake people 3. The victim. 4. Skeptics. 5. Gossip mongers. 6. People who can't say No. 7. People who thrive on drama. 8. Habitually negative people. Now, there is a huge difference between being judgmental and being discerning. How they behave is not our concern. But whether we engage with them is our concern. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook Substack

To know if you’re getting messages from your intuition, you need to know what else is talking to you. What are the voices in your head. If you’re not sure, then go through a process of elimination. It’ll help you identify which messages are from your intuition and for you highest good. And which voices are noise from other people. The thoughts that are not from your intuition are these: 1. Thinking. Thinking is from your mind, and is mostly based on logic. Logic is limited to only what you know, what you can see and hear. Logic is that 2 percent tip of the iceberg. 2. Other people’s opinions. We’re exposed to so many opinions and views from other people it’s no wonder our own intuition is buried underneath. The subconscious mind absorbs all that from people we know from our past and present. People you’ve known your whole life, from family, friends, work colleagues, strangers on social media, and the news. So, after putting aside all that mental chatter, what’s left? That’s your intuition. Intuition is knowledge from source energy. You can call them guardian angels, spirit guides or God’s messengers. They’re here to help us navigate by nudging us and whispering to us but in a very different way that humans communicate. They can’t speak to our ears because they have no physical bodies and voice boxes. So they give us signs through nature or events that happen around us. If we’re oblivious, then we won’t see or hear them. Here are 3 signs it’s your intuition or guardian angels talking to you: 1. You experience synchronicities. 2. A thought suddenly enters your mind out of nowhere. It usually doesn’t make sense, there’s no logic to it. 3. When you’re in that state between sleep and awake, like when you’re beginning to wake up from sleep, that’s the time when the most powerful messages come to you. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

Naming your emotions makes it easier to process them. My sadness is called Tinkerbell. When I’m sad, I say, now now, Tinkerbell, your mascara’s running down your face. Tell you what, let’s get you something waterproof from Amazon ok? My anger is called Agnes. When she’s angry, I tell her it’s ok, Agnes, go on, be angry… then I watch her punch holes in the wall. I named my anxiety Alex. When anxious Alex makes my tummy queasy and my hands cold, I tell him, Alex, you’re 6 foot 4, you have a 50 inch chest and your biceps are 22 inches. Why are you whimpering? When I talk to them whether it’s Pouty Penelope, Tinkerbell, or Frustrated Freddie I ask them why they feel the way they feel. I give them a chance to express themselves in a safe and non-judgmental space. Naming your emotions can be very helpful. You don’t have to go as far as I have in naming my emotions. You can just call sadness plain old sadness, or anger anger. That’s good enough to sit with them, ask them what’s wrong, why are they feeling that way. Naming our emotions gives us the proper language to process them. Rather than groping in the dark not being able to identify exactly what it is that we’re feeling. And identifying them is important because we get more clarity, and we get to understand ourselves better. I also found that apart from making it fun, giving my emotions human names and personalities somehow takes me out of the picture. I’m detached from the negative emotions. I’m able to look at them objectively, like I’m another person. That gives me perspective, and I take it less personally. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

How many do you have? 1. They know that putting up a front kills their spirit slowly. 2. They have a clear sense of self. Through honest introspection they’re proud of their strengths and they own their weaknesses. They’re not ashamed to show their flaws. 3. They don’t have to remember anything they say, because only liars have to. 4. They know when they’re in the wrong and they apologize. They don’t apologise when they’re not in the wrong. 5. They don’t backstab you. Instead, they try to talk to you about whatever is bothering them. 6. Instead of playing office politics in a toxic environment they choose a profession and workplace for their mental and spiritual wellbeing. Because they know that mental and spiritual health which lead to physical health, are priceless. 7. They know when their ego tries to control them. They spend their time wisely and never engage in ego battles. 8. They don’t put anyone on the pedestal. A celebrity to them is still a human being. 9. They’re not impressed by status. They treat the janitor the same way as they treat the CEO. 10. They’re balanced in their moods because they’re able to regulate their emotions by themselves. 11. They’re calm and composed in any given situation. 12. They have clear personal boundaries. 13. They’re honest and direct without beating around the bush, but also without being rude. 14. They’re aware of their triggers. They don’t react but respond calmly with a balanced view, knowing that it’s not the other person’s fault for triggering them. 15. They’re comfortable in their own company and their own thoughts. The current state the world is in, is entirely because the majority are asleep. Look at how divided we’ve become. This is a classic case of divide and conquer, by whom, we don’t even know. It’s so much easier now because of social media. We’re being manipulated. We’re zombies made to fight each other. Conflicts don’t start in present day. They started hundreds if not thousands of years ago.  The real perpetrators are the people who’re making money out of this division. And they’re from both sides of any conflict. To stop conflicts in this world is for us individually to heal ourselves. There’s a ripple effect that cannot be under estimated. We’re doing the fighting all wrong. We should fight our own internal demons first. The more of us do this, the less conflict there will be. Less greed, less ego, less psychos. When they leave this world, what remains will be well adjusted, authentic, compassionate people. Will that take too long? Well, the world has been in conflict for thousands of years, always one catastrophe or another. Surely it won’t take thousands of years to heal the world by healing ourselves. All it takes is one generation to wipe out the greedy, the insecure, the dysfunctional, the gossip mongers and the sleeping zombies. In any conflict there are actually 3 camps. One on one side, one on the other side, and one asking people to be united. But in unity we need one common cause, if not, unity has to mean one side shifting over to the other. Do you think that’s going to happen? Unity in a common cause, means, we wake the eff up and do our own inner healing. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook May Kuen, spiritual coach & certified healer.  

Very often the black sheep is the one with integrity and compassion. They’re never the ones that badmouth their abusers. It’s the other way around. They’re also the ones with tremendous capacity to absorb all the blows for themselves as well as for other family members. So if you encounter someone who’s difficult and hard to like, please consider being kind to them. They’re not the office politicians, the corporate smooth talkers, the charmers. They’re the weirdos the ones people call unhinged. They often get secondary abuse from people who don’t know their history. But if you give them a chance, it can shift their path from possible suicide to self actualization. They sink or they fly. All it takes is one person, one word, or one moment to alter their path. What part would you like to play in this game of Russian roulette? What goes through the mind of the black sheep before they awaken is a jumble of contradictory thoughts. This leads to indecisiveness, anxiety, and depression. If you feel this way, I have a few tips to guide you to the path you’re most comfortable with. 1. Know that you were programmed this way. Get to know yourself. 2. Try to remember what your beliefs were when you were a child. If you’re a black sheep, scapegoat, or truth see’er there’s a very high chance that you were right all along. 3. You’re not fearful. You were trained to be afraid because of your innate power. 4.Fearful people are vengeful. You could be completely ostracized, stripped off your inheritance, and nobody will care about you. I really don’t want to be negative but this is to help you see the possible consequences, and to help you decide whether to stay or to go. 5. Stop explaining. They’re committed to misunderstanding you. It’s not your fault. It’s not that you didn’t communicate clearly. If you keep wondering how to improve the way you communicate it’ll keep you in the hamster wheel. This will drive you crazy.   6. Keep in mind that once you, the truth seeing scapegoat leaves, the equation changes. 2 things can happen - Everyone will scramble to find a replacement. Or, You could remain the scapegoat even from afar. 7. Your soul tribe will come to you. If you’re a truth see’er, it’s in your nature, you can’t change that. And you can’t change others. When you’re genuine and authentic, your soul tribe will find its way to you. You don’t have to search outside. You just have to find yourself, hold on to who you are, and what’s yours will come to you. 8. Don’t pretend to be OK. If you pretend you’re fine when you’re not, you won’t enter this dark tunnel. At the end of this tunnel, there’s something far better than any content on Instagram and tiktok. Far richer than any travel destination. You have grit. You can do it! Website Instagram YouTube Facebook    

Scapegoats are isolated because they’re truth see’ers. That makes them a threat. They see too much. In a dysfunctional family nobody wants to see what’s happening. Instead they toe the line, keep quiet, and remain in fear and survival mode. Not the scapegoat. The scapegoat is persistent in seeking the truth. At first, the scapegoat was isolated by family, then they carry those vibes with them, and wherever they go they feel like they don’t fit in. And then, as though things couldn’t get any worse, even the universe seems to be creating circumstances to further isolate them. There is a very good reason for this. The scapegoat has the best chance at spiritual growth and self love - sustainable self love that’s not dependent on external circumstances – whether it’s material wealth, status or approval. Self love is not dependent on things going your way to make you happy. The high that scapegoats get is internal, that’s the source of your happiness and peace. And of course, that has everything to do with our partnership with the universe, or source energy. This is a direct consequence of being isolated from people. Once the scapegoat embraces the isolation, they’ll achieve this integration with the universe. They become whole, their soul vibration rises, and they’ll meet people of the same soul vibration. Their external circumstances will change. It’s not that other people change for them. It’s that they’ll attract people who have done the inner work on themselves. That’s when alignment happens. This is where the scapegoat's isolation ends. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

8 reasons why you should stop wasting your time, effort and emotional energy on wondering about this. These are my personal observations, plus 7 years’ worth of research on grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. The objective of these 8 reasons is to help speed up your process of accepting narcissistic abuse and to move forward. 1. Narcissists are damaged people. They’re not capable of love. Try to forgive them. 2. Narcs cannot or will not change. Don’t waste your time hoping. 3. Society has put parents on the pedestal, especially mothers. This is a huge burden on mothers to be perfect. So it’s tempting for those who don’t love their children, to put on a show for others to see. My opinion on this, is that love is something you’re capable of, or you’re not.  It cannot be forced. There’s nothing wrong with a mother not loving her children. It’s a myth created by society, perpetuated by a capitalist world. That said, they should still try their best to refrain from abusing their children. I say SHOULD. In reality it rarely happens. So stop hoping and resenting, that’s your best move forward. 4. If anyone consistently makes you feel terrible about yourself, then something is wrong. It could be you, it could be them, I don't know, but talk to them. If they refuse to listen to your feelings, if they invalidate your reality, if they always have an answer to prove you wrong even before you finish your sentence, then stop wondering. It doesn’t matter whether they’re a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, borderline, or whatever term is used. It doesn’t matter. What matters is they are emotionally abusive and make you feel crazy. That’s not love. 5. Put up personal boundaries. They’ll become outraged because they’re used to stepping all over you, and suddenly you’re disagreeing with them. This can make them lash out in a very cruel way. And if this is the first time you’re putting up personal boundaries, you’ll be shocked at their reaction. But at least you’ll discover that all the years of so-called harmony was because you gave in all the time. This is proof that love is a one-way street in this dynamic. 6. Narcissists are deeply insecure. See them not as parents but as people who are painfully insecure. Insecure people are so impoverished that they’re not capable of unconditional love. The love they mimic is usually to get something in return. And if they don’t get what they want, they go into a rage. For the grandiose narc, it’s a full on physical rage. For the vulnerable narc, it’s a more cutting and cruel silent rage that manifests in many different ways. 7. Stop asking for friends’ opinions. Most will deny your reality. They’ll say, "of course they love you, they just show it differently." This is because they don’t understand narcissistic abuse, or they’re in a similar situation which they refuse to wake up from. So they don’t want you to rock the boat. Abuse from the vulnerable narcissist is unlike other forms of abuse. Even clinicians sometimes don’t understand, and many further damage their clients with secondary abuse. By invalidating their experiences, and further make them feel crazy and petty. The vulnerable narcissist knows this. This is their modus operandi. 8. Narcissists are very charming and deceptive. This means they have an entourage of supporters, or at least a small group of people who will always fuss around them and help them. This is a good enough reason to stop focusing on them and instead look after yourself. Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

"Today you are you That is truer than true There’s no one alive Who is youer than you." - Dr Seuss Sometimes when I compare myself to others I feel slightly discouraged. And if I don’t put a stop to it immediately it spirals and I feel like a total failure. I tell myself I’m not Joe Rogan and will never be. And Joe Rogan is not me. There are certain things I can do that he can’t.  That shifts my focus out of who I’m not, and towards who I am. It’s very important that we keep reminding ourselves of this. Even Mr Zuckerberg can’t do certain things that you can. It’s not comparing yourself to someone else. There’s a very subtle difference here. You focus on you can do better without judgment. Then it’s not a comparison. It’s acknowledging a fact. To simplify all this, just be who you are. Get out of the way of who you are, and you’ll do fine. Because there’s nobody on earth, not one of 8 billion people on this planet, does you better than you! Being who you are is your only real currency. The only thing that gives you true joy. When we heal ourselves, we become who we really are. As cliched and tired as it sounds, when we're being our authentic selves, we collectively heal the world. So don’t look outside yourself. Look within. Our internal world is so much richer, its landscape far more vast than anything else outside of us. The journey within to find ourselves is the journey of a lifetime. Today, you’re going to be YOU… Website Instagram YouTube Facebook

We are all master manifestors. No question about it. The question is knowing the difference between what our ego wants, and what our soul wants, which brings us real and sustained peace, joy and fulfillment. How do we train our minds to fulfill our soul's desires? Having self awareness and knowing who we are. That will automatically enable us to manifest what our soul wants. It’s really as simple as that. Let me give you an example of how I unknowingly manifested something that was meaningful and truly beneficial. When I was a junior writer, earning a pittance, I used to do a detour on my drive to and from work. That detour took me on a little hill where there is low rise apartment. Late at night driving home, I’d slow down and admire the apartment that looked like a resort. I’d stare at it and immerse myself in it. The feeling was so nice and so peaceful. It felt as though I really lived there. And because it felt so nice, I’d drive past every morning and every night, Monday to Friday, for months stalking this apartment. But not once did I think about buying an apartment there, because I was earning a pittance. It was impossible. So I didn’t even entertain the thought of owning an apartment there. Still, I continued driving past, slowing down at the stretch just to admire it and to feel that (sigh)… so nice…. Now, put that aside… in the real world, I soon got a job offer that gave me 4 times what I was earning. Literally 4 times. There were other writers just as good as me, if not better. Why did the person who hired me offer me so much money? I don't know… till this day I don't know. I took the job. It wasn’t harder than my previous job, the work environment wasn’t worse than my previous job. For that kind of salary, it didn’t feel that I had to work 4 times harder. Less than 2 years later, I bought my dream apartment, facing a gorgeous view of trees, squirrels and birds came to my balcony every morning for their breakfast. How did I manifest this when I didn’t even put any effort into it? I didn’t go through one day of anxiety, wondering if I’d get it, how would I get it, when would I get it. That’s our minds creating drama. And it’s this drama that blocks us from manifesting. I realized that I manifested it by not being concerned. It boils down to one thing – it was a feeling. Every time I drove past the property, with its beautiful mature trees, lovely lighting, and quiet serenity, I had this sigh… so nice… It was just a feeling. That feeling, is knowing yourself. It’s self awareness. It was pure joy. It wasn’t ego based, like, I didn’t think that if I lived there, and by the way, it’s a very good location. People call it a posh location but not once did I think of it that way. Really, I just loved it. I didn’t once think oh people will see me as I’ve arrived, or that I’m successful. I didn’t care about that. The feeling I got every time I gazed at my future home, was simply sigh… so nice. That was it. It’s the purity of that feeling, untainted by ego. Don’t get me wrong I made a lot of ego based decisions. But this one taught me the difference. We are constantly manifesting. What you want is to manifest your soul’s desires. Not your ego’s desires. Everything we want, every thought we have really comes down to just 2 sources – your soul, or your ego. It’s easy to tell the difference with a bit of self awareness. When we’re being authentic, when we know who we are and we don’t give a toss about what others think of us, we align with our soul's desires. And it comes to us effortlessly. Website Instagram Facebook YouTube