The Deconstructed Woman

Understanding the Gen Z Stare: A Cross-Generational ConversationIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji, joined by co-host Tara, delve into the topic of the 'Gen Z Stare.' They explore how this phenomenon represents generational differences in communication, particularly in non-verbal responses and workplace interactions. The episode covers the nuances of the Gen Z stare, how it relates to changes in societal norms and the impact of technology and the pandemic on interpersonal skills. The discussion also touches on strategies for improving intergenerational communication in the workplace and the importance of personalized approaches to understanding and interacting with members of different generations.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Exploring the Gen Z Stare01:15 Defining the Gen Z Stare02:26 Generational Perspectives on Communication05:10 Gen Z in the Workplace08:36 Intergenerational Communication Challenges26:59 The Role of Emojis and Emotional Expression31:35 Tips for Managing Gen Z in the Workplace36:54 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

Exploring the 'Trad Wife' Phenomenon: Modern Choices and Gender RolesIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji delve into the trending term 'Trad Wives,' a movement where women are returning to traditional gender roles, primarily focusing on homemaking. They discuss the associated controversy, varying perspectives and experiences, including the challenges and criticisms of this lifestyle. The conversation also explores the implications for women's rights, the potential for misinformation, and the importance of personal choice in balancing career and family life. The episode emphasizes the need for authenticity and self-reflection across different life stages, urging women not to be confined by societal expectations but to pursue what genuinely fulfills them.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:31 Exploring the Trad Wives Movement01:24 Initial Reactions to Trad Wives02:12 Diving Deeper into Trad Wives and Gender Roles04:00 Criticisms and Controversies of Trad Wives05:44 Balancing Career and Homemaking07:58 Religious Influences on Gender Roles12:18 Authenticity and Social Media Portrayals21:07 Personal Reflections and Future Considerations33:32 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Exploring Intergenerational Trauma and Its ComplexitiesIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji delve into the topic of intergenerational trauma. They discuss how trauma can be passed down emotionally, psychologically, and even biologically through generations. The conversation explores the effects of familial and cultural dynamics, as well as societal conditions on trauma inheritance. Alyssa shares insights from psychological circles and literature, while the hosts consider personal anecdotes and well-known examples, such as historical instances of systemic oppression and family dynamics affected by past events. The episode also touches on the emerging field of epigenetics and its implications for passing down trauma or resilience. The hosts close with a discussion on how parents today might strive to counterbalance trauma with a focus on awareness and positive behaviors, aiming to give their children a better life.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Exploring Intergenerational Trauma01:30 Psychological Perspectives on Trauma04:13 Historical and Cultural Examples of Trauma07:06 Parenting and Generational Patterns18:26 Epigenetics and Trauma21:40 Counteracting Intergenerational Trauma30:52 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Breaking Down the Motherhood Penalty: Conversations and Insights with Sue GlumIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Jojy delve into the 'motherhood penalty' with guest Sue Gehm. They explore the economic disadvantages faced by working mothers, including lower pay, fewer promotions, and reduced career opportunities. Sue shares her personal experiences of balancing career and motherhood, touching on challenges like career stagnation and lower wages compared to male counterparts. The conversation also covers the impact of part-time work, the importance of community support, and strategies for maintaining career momentum while raising children. Sue also discusses transitioning to her own business, finding fulfillment, and offers practical advice for young mothers navigating their careers.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Introducing Today's Topic: The Motherhood Penalty01:04 Defining the Motherhood Penalty01:48 Sue's Personal Experience with the Motherhood Penalty04:25 Challenges in Returning to the Workforce12:07 The Fatherhood Bonus vs. The Motherhood Penalty17:25 Women in Leadership and Workplace Equity28:35 Sue's Career Transition and New Business35:08 Advice for Career-Driven Women39:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Navigating Women's Healthcare: Trusting Your Instincts and Overcoming DismissalsIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Jojy, joined by Elissa, delve into the common experience many women face of being dismissed or labeled 'overreacting' when expressing health concerns. They explore the importance of trusting one's gut feelings about their own bodies and advocate for the need for women to be assertive in seeking medical care. They share personal anecdotes and discuss a poignant story from Dr. Tallis Ali Body, an OB-GYN who emphasizes the significance of educating women about their health. The conversation underscores the challenges women face in being taken seriously in medical environments and the vital importance of self-advocacy in healthcare.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:31 Discussing Women's Health Concerns01:26 Alyssa's Personal Experiences02:34 The Story of Dr. Tallis Ali Body08:38 The Importance of Self-Advocacy10:37 Personal Stories and Reflections17:18 Encouraging Women to Trust Their Instincts30:19 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

Fearless Journeys: Kelly Schmidt's Path from Teaching to Real Estate MogulThe Kelly Schmidt GroupIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji welcome Kelly Schmidt from the Kelly Schmidt Group with Coldwell Banker Realty. Kelly shares her inspiring journey from being an elementary school teacher to becoming a successful real estate agent and business owner. She discusses the challenges she faced, including a tough real estate market, divorce, and raising three young children. Kelly emphasizes the importance of passion, perseverance, and the invaluable support from her mentor, Kathy Tardy. The episode delves into topics such as negotiating deals, the challenges of owning a small brokerage, and the significance of taking risks and pursuing one's dreams.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast01:00 Meet Kelly Schmidt: A Journey in Real Estate02:07 Overcoming Challenges and Finding Success04:49 The Importance of Passion and Mentorship06:16 Balancing Family and Career09:58 Navigating Business Decisions and Negotiations31:56 Expanding Horizons: Florida and Future Plans34:09 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Navigating Study Abroad: A Student's Journey to IrelandIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji interview Tara, a college student, about her recent study abroad experience in Ireland. Tara discusses the motivations behind her decision, the planning and application process, and the challenges and rewards of studying abroad. She shares insights into how her experience was structured, touching on the financial aspects, academic requirements, and cultural immersion. The conversation also explores the impact of the journey on personal growth, the dynamics of traveling alone, and the support from family and peers. Tara ends with advice for students considering studying abroad and reflections on the enriching experience.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Meet Tara: Our Favorite College Student01:05 The Decision to Study Abroad in Ireland02:05 Navigating the Study Abroad Process02:52 High School vs. College: Discovering Study Abroad04:11 Parental Concerns and Financial Considerations06:16 Faculty-Led vs. Direct Enroll Programs07:26 Experiencing Ireland: Academics and Adventures12:19 Family Reactions and Cultural Immersion22:20 Making Lifelong Connections Abroad25:39 Final Thoughts and Recommendations30:58 Conclusion and Podcast Wrap-Up

Rediscovering Purpose Through Post-Retirement WorkIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji welcome co-host Sandy Marshall to explore her surprising desire to return to work after retiring. Sandy shares her journey from moving to a retirement community, purchasing and selling a jewelry business, to now feeling a need for more social interaction and mental engagement. They discuss the challenges and opportunities for retirees considering re-entering the workforce, including part-time retail positions, remote work, consulting, and freelance jobs. Additionally, they touch on the importance of preserving one’s purpose and the potential for volunteer roles to lead to paid positions. This insightful conversation highlights the balance between staying active and finding fulfillment in later years.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:27 Meet Sandy Marshall: A Surprise Return to Work01:23 Sandy's Retirement Journey and New Aspirations04:25 The Social Aspect of Work05:09 Exploring Remote Work and Consulting13:22 The Importance of Sales Skills22:28 Job Search Tips and Opportunities32:05 Concluding Thoughts on Retirement and Work36:59 Podcast Outro and Listener Engagement

Exploring High Functioning Depression: Unmasking Hidden StrugglesIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Jojy tackle the concept of high functioning depression. Initially unfamiliar with the term, they delve deep into its characteristics and similarities to burnout after hearing an insightful discussion on the Zoe: Science and Nutrition podcast. They explore clinical definitions, personal experiences, and societal implications, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and addressing mental health issues even in highly productive individuals. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their well-being and the balance between productivity and mental health.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:32 Exploring High Functioning Depression02:25 Linking High Functioning Depression with Burnout03:30 Defining High Functioning Depression05:35 Personal Experiences and Reflections14:25 Generational Perspectives on Mental Health17:56 Balancing Work and Mental Health25:54 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Navigating the Complex World of AI Chatbots and Youth VulnerabilityIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman, the host is joined by Tara to discuss the concerning trends highlighted in an article from the Chicago Tribune. They delve into the complex interactions between teenagers and AI chatbots, examining ethical concerns, the blurring lines between human and AI interactions, and the inherent risks. Tara shares insights on how AI is becoming increasingly human-like and discusses the psychological dangers posed to vulnerable populations, including children and the elderly. The conversation emphasizes the need for parental vigilance, communication, and education regarding AI to protect children from potential risks.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:41 Discussing the Article on AI Chatbots01:23 Ethical Dilemmas and AI's Influence on Children02:30 Distinguishing AI from Humans05:41 AI's Learning and Human Interaction09:12 Vulnerable Populations and AI Risks12:27 AI's Impact on Mental Health19:21 Parental Concerns and Safeguards34:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Finding and Reclaiming Women's Voices: A Dialogue with SandyIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosted by Elisa Marie and Jojy, the conversation features Sandy, a long-time friend and advocate for women's rights. The discussion is sparked by Melinda French Gates' comments on losing and finding one's voice. Sandy shares her personal journey, from overcoming a difficult marriage to championing women's empowerment through business and consciousness-raising groups in the '60s. They discuss the cyclical nature of finding one's voice, the importance of supportive relationships, and the ongoing fight for women's rights. The episode highlights the critical role of empowered women and how even small actions can significantly impact families and communities.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Introducing Sandy: A Lifelong Supporter of Women00:54 Melinda French Gates and the Loss of Voice03:08 Sandy's Journey: Finding Her Voice04:13 The Power of Consciousness Raising Groups06:19 The Cyclical Nature of Finding One's Voice12:24 Challenges and Frustrations in Advocacy14:40 Empowerment Through Protest and Action20:20 The Importance of Women's Voices in Society26:14 Final Thoughts and Encouragement31:18 Conclusion and Call to Action

Nancy's book is available on Amazon The Good Mother MythNavigating Motherhood: Debunking Myths and Embracing Individual JourneysIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Jojy welcome Nancy Reddy, author of 'The Good Mother Myth.' The discussion dives into the challenges of new motherhood, the pressures of living up to societal expectations, and the importance of community support. Reddy shares her personal experiences of balancing academia and early motherhood while unpacking the psychological research behind her book. The conversation also explores the judgment faced by working moms, the evolving identity of mothers, and the importance of focusing on personal values over external ideals. The episode emphasizes that there is no 'perfect' way to mother and highlights the resilience of children and the necessity of finding individual paths in parenting.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:32 Welcoming Nancy Reddy: Author of The Good Mother Myth01:13 Nancy's Journey: From Academia to Motherhood03:00 The Struggles and Realities of New Motherhood04:36 The Importance of Community and Support06:29 Balancing Work and Motherhood09:04 Judgment and Choices in Motherhood11:02 The Role of Community in Parenting21:34 The Decision to Have Children: A Personal Choice26:50 Preparing for an Empty Nest36:23 Nancy's Intentions and Takeaways from The Good Mother Myth41:54 Closing Thoughts and Farewell

The Art of Active Listening in Parenting and RelationshipsIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Jojy explore the concept of active listening, a tool emphasized in the Real World Parent Positive Parenting Podcast with Lisa. They discuss the challenges of implementing active listening in parenting and relationships, emphasizing the importance of truly hearing and understanding. The conversation touches on the difficulties of listening without immediately problem-solving and the significance of sitting with uncomfortable emotions. They also reflect on how cultural and personal factors can affect our ability to listen. Throughout the episode, Elisa and Joji share personal anecdotes and strategies to improve active listening in their daily lives.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Exploring Active Listening02:08 Challenges in Active Listening03:39 Active Listening in Parenting06:12 Emotional Components of Active Listening12:34 Active Listening in Marital Relationships16:54 Balancing Time and Active Listening19:05 Providing Hope vs. Active Listening22:28 Reflecting on Personal Experiences26:26 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Navigating Joy and Grief in Your SeventiesIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, Jojy welcomes Pat for a heartfelt conversation about aging, experiencing the joy of grandchildren, and dealing with the grief of losing long-time friends. Pat shares her journey of moving to Wisconsin to be near her son and granddaughters and discusses how this transition has enriched her life despite the ongoing sadness of losing loved ones. The episode explores the balance between sadness and joy, the importance of making memories, and how these experiences contribute to a fulfilling life in one’s later years.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:33 Introducing Pat: Joys and Challenges of Aging01:31 Coping with Loss and Finding Joy in Grandchildren03:22 The Healing Power of Grandchildren04:22 Balancing Grief and Joy09:12 Moving to Wisconsin: A New Chapter14:21 Staying Active and Engaged with Grandchildren19:56 Creating Cherished Memories28:14 Final Thoughts and Reflections33:30 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

⁠Hot or Just Me Website (affiliate link)⁠ 10% Discount code: deconstructedNavigating Menopause: Breaking Taboos and Sharing Solutions In this episode of the Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji welcome Carin Luna-Ostaseski to discuss her innovative work on menopause and perimenopause. Carin shares her journey of experiencing symptoms in her early forties, the challenges she faced in finding accurate information, and the creation of her resource 'Hot or Just Me.' They delve into Carin's Time Magazine article, addressing symptoms like joint pain and shattered sense of identity. The conversation also highlights the importance of community, breaking taboos, practical solutions, and supportive products available on Carin's website. Their discussion encapsulates the need for better societal understanding and resources for women navigating this crucial life stage.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Introducing Special Guest: Carin Luna-Ostaseski00:40 Breaking the Menopause Taboo01:42 Personal Experiences with Menopause05:29 Navigating Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)08:57 Menopause and Andropause: A Shared Journey10:35 Medical Interventions and Holistic Approaches14:24 Resources and Support for Menopause20:44 Exploring Hot or Just Me: Products and Solutions27:27 The Emotional and Physical Impact of Menopause30:18 Parenting Through Hormonal Changes33:31 Final Thoughts and Listener Gift

Navigating Friendships Across Life StagesIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman podcast, host Elisa Marie and Joji welcome Alyssa and their book club friends, Sue and Karen, to discuss the evolution of friendships at various stages of life. They delve into the challenges and rewards of making and maintaining friendships, especially as one's life circumstances change. The conversation covers topics such as the impact of working remotely, the sense of community (or lack thereof) in different neighborhoods, and the complexities of adult friendships versus those formed in earlier years. Personal anecdotes and reflections provide a heartfelt exploration of the significance of friendships and the effort required to sustain them through life's shifting tides. The episode concludes with a hopeful look toward the future of their book club and the value of friendships that can withstand the test of time.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 Meet the Book Club Members01:20 Challenges of Making Friends in Adulthood02:20 Karen's Neighborhood Dynamics04:16 Sue's Journey to Finding New Friendships07:00 Alyssa's Perspective with Young Children07:44 The Importance of Shared Values in Friendships11:11 Maintaining Long-Distance Friendships12:37 The Impact of Life Changes on Friendships15:54 Being Deliberate in Adult Friendships31:53 The Future of Our Book Club35:00 Final Thoughts on Friendships38:35 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

Exploring Social Media Habits and Their Impact on Daily LifeIn this episode of the Deconstructed Woman podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji delve into how social media affects daily routines and habits, especially in the mornings. They discuss the challenge of breaking away from screen-induced time warps, share personal experiences with managing phone usage, and explore the idea of giving up social media for Lent. Additionally, they touch on the generational perspectives on phone use, especially in professional settings, and the consequences of excessive dependence on social media. The hosts encourage listeners to share their own experiences and consider joining them in a social media detox challenge.00:00 Introduction to the Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:29 Morning Routines and Social Media Habits02:54 The Endless Scroll and Its Impact03:53 Setting Limits and Personal Experiences05:52 Relaxation and Social Media11:58 Challenges of Giving Up Social Media20:30 Workplace Policies on Cell Phone Use27:48 Parenting in the Age of Social Media31:48 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Navigating Modern Dating: Evolving Trends and ChallengesIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji, along with co-host Tara, discuss the evolution of dating, especially focusing on the experiences of younger generations navigating the dating scene through apps and social media. They delve into the challenges of forming genuine connections, the impacts of dating apps, and the safety concerns associated with them. The conversation also touches on the expectations and frustrations of older generations using these platforms, societal shifts in dating norms, and the implications of rising technologies like AI chatbots. The episode concludes with reflections on maintaining meaningful relationships in the digital age and audience engagement requests.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 The Evolution of Dating: From Organic to Digital02:26 Challenges of Modern Dating Apps05:58 College Dating Dynamics10:59 The Impact of Social Media on Human Connection23:55 Teenagers and Dating Apps: A Growing Concern28:48 Parental Controls and Technology for Kids32:48 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement

Navigating Social Media and Kids: Balancing Safety and IndependenceIn this episode of The Deconstructed Woman Podcast, hosts Elisa Marie and Joji discuss the impacts of social media on children, family dynamics regarding technology use, and managing children's access to devices. They delve into the concept of 'sharenting,' the effects of social media on children's anxiety, and real-life anecdotes from parenting experiences. Elisa and Joji also touch on the pressures of social conformity among kids, the importance of encouraging outdoor play and social interaction, and the challenges of setting boundaries with technology. They conclude by reflecting on the balance between utilizing technology for its benefits while ensuring it doesn't dominate family life.00:00 Introduction to The Deconstructed Woman Podcast00:30 The Impact of Social Media on Family Dynamics02:35 Parental Decisions on Children's Phone Usage07:50 Children's Anxiety and Social Media08:31 Navigating Technology in Schools15:50 The Future of Social Media and Technology32:53 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

Embracing the Wise Woman Within: A Conversation with Lori Pappas In this episode of The Deconstructed Woman, hosts welcome Lori Pappas, author of 'The Magic of Yes: Embrace the Wise Woman Within.' Lori shares her intriguing journey from overcoming childhood abuse, founding a successful software company, to working in Ethiopia and starting a nonprofit organization. She emphasizes the importance of self-discovery, setting boundaries, and forgiving others. Lori also discusses her book and her mission to inspire and support women, shedding light on aging, wisdom, and the essence of being versus doing. Throughout, she provides insights on embracing inner wisdom and offers encouragement to women to find their inner strength and resilience. For information on Lori's book and many other endeavors, please visit Web site: https://www.loripappas.com/ Sticky Thoughts: https://loripappas.substack.com/ Wise Women Sisterhood: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wisewomanorg/ 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:28 Lori Pappas' Journey and Early Life 02:43 Building a Business and Facing Challenges 06:29 Life After Selling the Business 08:24 The Africa Experience and Starting an NGO 10:49 Writing the Book and Embracing Wisdom 14:40 The Importance of Inner Peace and Reflection 18:41 The Benefits of Aging and Wisdom 32:16 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts