The Divorce Queens

One of the first — and most emotional — questions women ask in divorce is: "Can I keep the house?" In this candid and educational episode, Taylor and Rachel sit down with Tina Hagen, mortgage loan originator at Guild Mortgage, to explore the biggest real estate questions that come up during and after divorce. Whether you're hoping to refinance and stay in the family home, wondering what’s realistic based on your income, or facing pressure to sell and start fresh — this episode will walk you through what’s actually possible. We cover: What lenders look for when you’re trying to refinance post-divorce How equity, debt, and support payments impact mortgage eligibility Smart timelines for buying, selling, or waiting When it makes financial sense to stay vs. let go Creative solutions when one party can't qualify on their own Tina brings warmth, facts, and a whole lot of common sense to a conversation that feels overwhelming for many. If you're navigating housing decisions in your divorce — don’t miss this one. Guest Resources: 🔗 Visit Tina Hagen’s website: https://www.mortgageswithtina.com Upcoming events: Stop Renting: Start Owning: https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/budgeting-clone The Credit Building Blueprint: https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/stop-renting-start-owning-your-first-home-sta-clone-1 Connect with us: 📲 Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced 📲 Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce 📥 Got questions or a story to share? Slide into our DMs — we’re here for it. 💬 Divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your comeback.

Your people matter—especially when you’re navigating divorce, single motherhood, and a co-parenting dynamic that may feel like a daily emotional rollercoaster. This week on The Divorce Queens Podcast, Taylor (@mom.lawyer.divorced) and Rachel (@racheltalksdivorce) sit down to unpack what happens when your community shifts after divorce—and how to intentionally rebuild it from the ground up. We share how our support systems changed (or disappeared) during our own divorces, the judgment we felt, and how we created new connections that were rooted in shared experience, real talk, and mutual growth. From church friends to soccer squads, from MOPS moms to Facebook groups—this episode is about how you find your people and hold on tight. You’ll hear: Why the loneliest part of your marriage might come before the divorce How to build new friendships when your old ones don’t fit anymore The importance of having different types of support: practical, emotional, social Why community based on shared values and interests is key Tips for finding (or creating) support—Facebook groups, divorce meetups, nonprofit circles, coaching programs, and beyond A reminder that you’re not too much, too broken, or too far gone—you’re becoming 💡 Whether you’re newly single or years past your divorce, this one will remind you: you don’t have to do it alone. Resources & Mentions: Follow Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced Follow Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce Join the Facebook Community: Divorce Queens

Whether it’s your first weekend away from your kids or your hundredth, the silence can still hit hard. In this heartfelt and honest episode, Taylor and Rachel open up about what it’s really like to miss your kids when they’re with the other parent — and how they’ve learned to cope, adapt, and even thrive during parenting time transitions. They talk about the early days of post-divorce parenting schedules, what evolved over time, and how they’ve both cried, coped, and learned to build full lives in the “off” moments without their children. From sleeping in and pottery nights to dancing, dating, and even doing off-duty parenting on weekends “off,” this episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to feel it all — and still live your life. In this episode: How their parenting time schedules started vs. how they’re going The guilt of missing moments — and the power of making new ones What it’s like when parenting time isn’t “equal” Why it's okay to cry and be relieved when the kids leave How off-duty weekends often still involve parenting Building joy, hobbies, and relationships outside of your kids Reframing alone time as opportunity — not punishment Links & Resources: Follow Taylor on IG: @mom.lawyer.divorced Follow Rachel on IG: @racheltalksdivorce 💬 Got questions? Slide into our DMs — we want to hear from you. 🖤 Divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your comeback.

In this powerful episode, we’re joined by AJ Gajjar—therapist, trauma-informed coach, mom, and founder of The Trauma Healing Parent. Together, we get real about how divorce and high-conflict co-parenting can impact kids—and what we can do to support their healing. We talk about what trauma-informed parenting actually looks like, how to help our kids hold space for hard truths, and how to start breaking generational cycles without making ourselves feel like failures. If you’ve ever worried that your kids are getting caught in the middle, that you’re doing it all wrong, or that the system won’t protect them—this conversation is for you. We see you, we’ve lived it, and we’re doing it with you. Highlights: What “emotional buckets” are and how to fill them How to tell if your child is showing trauma symptoms or normal stress responses Why regulating your nervous system is key to helping your kids How to handle triggers without feeling like a bad parent What to do when you're the safe parent but still feel like the scapegoat Supporting kids who have experienced loyalty binds or alienation Creating safety when your co-parent’s home feels unpredictable How to talk about trauma and divorce without guilt or shame 🔗 Resources Mentioned: AJ’s book collab: Children's Mental Health Matters AJ's website: www.thetraumahealingparent.com Follow Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced Follow Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce

Divorce isn't just a legal process—it’s an emotional and logistical transformation. In this episode of The Divorce Queens Podcast, Taylor and Rachel break down exactly what to expect in the divorce process. Whether you’re just thinking about separating or are mid-way through your case, this episode will help you understand what has to happen in every divorce: gathering information, making informed decisions, and choosing the right path forward. You’ll learn: What decisions have to be made in every divorce (no matter how you do it) The importance of understanding your finances, parenting dynamics, and long-term goals Why you shouldn’t wait to gather documents and get clarity—even if you’re not ready to file The different process options: DIY Mediation Collaborative divorce Hybrid models Traditional legal representation Tips for choosing the right approach for your unique situation How to avoid rushing into agreements you’ll regret later Plus, we talk about what can go wrong when you try to “just get it over with” and why a little strategy now can save you years of frustration later. 💬 Favorite quote: “Divorce is about decisions. You have to make them for yourself, your family, and your future. No one else gets to dictate what that looks like—not even the court—unless you give up that power.” 🔗 Resources Mentioned: LawHelpMN.org (for MN-specific legal info) The Cooperative Divorce Kit (Taylor & Rachel’s divorce coaching program) 🎧 Tune in if you're: Contemplating divorce but not sure where to start Already separated and overwhelmed by logistics Wanting to keep things amicable, but not at your own expense Looking for a smarter, more supported way to divorce Connect with us on social!! @thetaylorwinds @racheltalksdivorce Or book 1:1 time with us by email at taylor@taylorwinds.com rachel@rachelkennedymediation.com  💌 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast with someone who needs to hear it. This is just the beginning—your new life starts here.

📝 Episode 5 Summary: This week on the Divorce Queens Podcast, Taylor and Rachel are calling out one of the biggest myths in divorce: that the court is going to make you do things you don’t want to do. From fears about selling the house to being forced to put your homeschooled kids into public school, there’s a lot of unnecessary panic about the court being the ultimate authority in your life. But here’s the truth: the court is not your parent. And most of the time, the decisions that shape your post-divorce life? You get to make them. In this episode, we break down: Why fear of the court keeps so many women stuck The difference between what can happen and what usually happens How couples can make agreements about finances, parenting, and property without a judge What it really means to preserve your autonomy in the divorce process What to say when someone tells you “you can’t just decide that on your own!” Whether you're getting divorced amicably or gearing up for a courtroom fight, this episode is your reminder that you’re still the grown-up — and you deserve to make the choices that shape your life moving forward. 🎧 Tune in if you’ve ever thought: “But what if the court makes me sell the house?” “We can’t just agree on maintenance, right?” “Won’t the judge just decide everything anyway?” We’re here to say: No, not necessarily. And yes, you can make empowered decisions outside the courtroom. 👑 Links + Resources: Learn more about divorce and custody coaching with Taylor at taylorwinds.com or with Rachel at rachelkennedymediation.com Follow us on Instagram: @thetaylorwinds and @racheltalksdivorce Grab our free Divorce Prep Checklist HERE 💬 Leave a Review: Loving the show? Drop us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so more women can find the support they need.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses coercive control, financial abuse, and emotional/psychological abuse in the context of intimate partner relationships. In this eye-opening episode of Divorce Queens, Taylor and Rachel sit down with attorney and domestic violence advocate Laura June to shed light on abuse that doesn't always leave bruises — but leaves lasting scars. We're diving deep into: The warning signs of emotional and psychological abuse How financial control can keep women stuck in unsafe marriages Why coercive control is so misunderstood (and often missed by the courts) What makes it so hard to leave these relationships The long-term impact on children How trauma affects decision-making, healing, and recovery Taylor and Rachel also share their own stories and how abuse can sneak up on even the smartest, most successful women — because it's not about intelligence, it's about control. 🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📘 Book: Children of Coercive Control by Evan Stark 💡 Tool: The Power and Control Wheel 📞 Support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline – Call 800-799-7233 or chat online at thehotline.org 💬 You Are Not Alone If this episode hits close to home, we see you. You’re not crazy. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not weak. You’re surviving something that was designed to confuse and isolate you. ✨ You deserve support — and we’re here for you. Want to know how to document patterns in a way that gets taken seriously? Check out the free training on creating compelling court documentation that gets taken seriously 👉🏾Free Training: Document What Matters Slide into our DMs if you need: A safe space to talk Help finding local DV resources Divorce coaching with trauma-informed understanding Legal support that gets it 📲 Taylor on IG: @momlawyeredivorced 📲 Rachel on IG: @racheltalksdivorced Or email us at: taylor@taylorwinds.com and rachel@rachelkennedymediation.com

When did you know your marriage was over? In this raw and unfiltered pilot episode of The Divorce Queens, Taylor Winds (divorce attorney + coach + mom of 4) and Rachel Kennedy (mediator + parenting consultant + mom of 3) share their deeply personal stories — the real-life, messy moments that led them to say, “I’m done.” We’re also breaking down the top five reasons women most often give when they ask for a divorce — and we’ve seen it all. From emotional disconnection to financial betrayal, infidelity to losing yourself completely, we walk you through the signs we see over and over again in our clients… and lived in our own lives. If you’re wondering whether you’re ready to leave (or already mid-divorce and doubting everything), this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and empowered. 🎙️ In this episode, we talk about: Roommate syndrome and emotional disconnection How unresolved trauma can keep you stuck The impact of hidden substance use, gambling, and infidelity When trying everything still doesn’t fix it Losing yourself in your marriage — and what it takes to come back This isn’t just a legal conversation. It’s real, relatable, and rooted in both experience and expertise. 💥 Because getting divorced isn’t just a legal event. It’s a total life transformation. Connect with us: 📱 Taylor: @momlawyeredivorced 📱 Rachel: @racheltalksdivorced 📩 Got a question or story to share? Slide into our DMs!

There comes a moment in every troubled marriage when you ask yourself: Can this be saved… or am I done? In this episode of The Divorce Queens, we’re sharing real stories (the good, the bad, and the flat-out embarrassing) about how we tried to save our own marriages — and why traditional couples counseling didn’t give us the clarity we needed. You’ll hear Taylor’s raw story of multiple rounds of counseling, including a wake-up moment so powerful it ended the conversation and the marriage. And Rachel shares how she sat in indecision for nearly a year before finding her moment of certainty. We’re also breaking down a powerful but underused tool: discernment counseling — what it is, how it differs from couples therapy, and why it can be the game-changer if you’re sitting in the “I don’t know” phase. 🎙️ In this episode: Why couples counseling isn’t always the right first step The danger of seeking help with a partner who isn’t safe or willing to change What discernment counseling actually is (and what it’s not) The difference between a “leaning in” spouse and a “leaning out” spouse What to do if you're stuck in indecision — or scared of making the wrong choice The real reasons some women go back after divorce… and why it doesn’t work This episode is for you if: You feel like you’ve tried everything, but nothing’s getting better You’re scared of making the wrong decision and regretting it forever You’ve lost yourself in your marriage, and you’re trying to find your way back You’re done with advice from people who don’t understand your situation 💡 Quote of the week: "Decision means to cut off. When you decide, you’re cutting off every other option. That’s the power of clarity." – Taylor Resources Mentioned: https://innovation.umn.edu/mncouplesonthebrink https://discernmentcounselors.com/ Follow us on IG: 👑 @momlawyeredivorced 👑 @racheltalksdivorced DM us your biggest “I’m so done” moment or let us know what part of this episode hit hardest. We’re building a community where truth-telling is power — and no one has to navigate this alone. Subscribe now so you don’t miss next week’s episode: How Do I Get Divorced? Your Options, Prep Steps, and What No One Tells You Welcome to The Divorce Queens. Your comeback starts here.

The number one question we get as a divorce attorney, coach, and mediator is: “How do I actually get divorced?” In this episode, we’re breaking down your options—from doing it yourself to hiring a full legal team—plus everything you need to prepare before you make a move. We’ll walk you through: The 3 main divorce pathways: DIY, mediation, or lawyering up (and hybrid combos) What financial, legal, and personal documents to start gathering now The truth about housing, refinancing, and temporary support realities How to avoid rushing the process and making costly mistakes Why your post-divorce comeback starts with smart prep We’re sharing real advice and personal stories to help you understand your options and avoid the “cheap now, costly later” trap. 💡 Links + Resources: Need help gathering your documents? Grab our Free Divorce Prep Checklist Curious about alternative divorce solutions? Check out the Divorce With Clarity Coaching program Looking for referrals to a divorce mortgage specialist? DM us @mom.lawyer.divorced If you're sitting in confusion, trying to Google your way through the chaos—this episode will ground you, inform you, and get you moving in the right direction. ✨ Subscribe, review, and share with a friend who's in the thick of it. You’re not alone.

🎙️ Divorce Queens Trailer – Start Here Welcome to The Divorce Queens Podcast — the show where we skip the sugar-coating and talk about what divorce is really like. If you’re navigating the heartbreak, chaos, and identity shift of divorce, you’re in the right place. We’re not here for Pinterest quotes or outdated legal jargon — we’re here for the real conversations: 💥 Late-night panic attacks 💥 Custody battles and co-parenting drama 💥 Telling your kids it’s over 💥 Rebuilding your life one messy, beautiful piece at a time Meet your hosts: 👑 Taylor Winds – Family law attorney, divorce coach, and divorced mom of four 👑 Rachel Kennedy – Mediator, parenting consultant, and divorced mom of three Together, we’ve helped hundreds of women survive divorce and thrive after it. And we’ve lived it, too. This podcast brings together our professional experience and our personal stories — the ones most people don’t talk about. 🔥 What to Expect in Season One: Is your marriage really over? (Discernment + decision-making) Divorce prep: What to gather, what to expect, and how to protect yourself How to talk to your kids, your ex, your family, and your community Co-parenting with a difficult ex S hared friends, school logistics, and introducing new partners What divorce options actually exist (not just lawyer up and fight) And so much more... Whether you’re folding laundry on your kid-free weekend, driving home from mediation, or just looking for someone who gets it—this show is for you. 👉 Subscribe now and join us for honest, unfiltered conversations about surviving divorce, co-parenting through chaos, and building a life you're excited to wake up to. 🖤 This is The Divorce Queens Podcast. 👑 Your new life starts right here.