In this powerful episode, we’re joined by AJ Gajjar—therapist, trauma-informed coach, mom, and founder of The Trauma Healing Parent. Together, we get real about how divorce and high-conflict co-parenting can impact kids—and what we can do to support their healing.

We talk about what trauma-informed parenting actually looks like, how to help our kids hold space for hard truths, and how to start breaking generational cycles without making ourselves feel like failures.

If you’ve ever worried that your kids are getting caught in the middle, that you’re doing it all wrong, or that the system won’t protect them—this conversation is for you. We see you, we’ve lived it, and we’re doing it with you.

Highlights:

What “emotional buckets” are and how to fill them

How to tell if your child is showing trauma symptoms or normal stress responses

Why regulating your nervous system is key to helping your kids

How to handle triggers without feeling like a bad parent

What to do when you're the safe parent but still feel like the scapegoat

Supporting kids who have experienced loyalty binds or alienation

Creating safety when your co-parent’s home feels unpredictable

How to talk about trauma and divorce without guilt or shame

🔗 Resources Mentioned:

AJ’s book collab: Children's Mental Health Matters

AJ's website: www.thetraumahealingparent.com

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