The Momset Podcast

In this episode, I share a raw and honest moment we commonly find ourselves in as moms. I talk about a challenging experience where I put myself in a dark room to help my baby fall asleep, only to find myself overwhelmed by the situation. As I reflect, I realize how I resisted help, even when it’s offered, and how the victim mindset took me under for a few moments. Explore the importance of recognizing when we’re stuck, learning to regulate our emotions, and accepting support when we need it. Join me as I talk about the power of resetting, self-compassion, and the choices we can make to empower ourselves on this journey of motherhood and personal growth. Follow along for daily mindset in motherhood on Instagram

Have you ever felt persecuted at a doctors office because the physician does not agree with your life choices and priorities? How about feeling persecuted by a family member for the way you are choosing to raise your kids? Maybe you've felt persecuted by your spouse when you expressed an opinion or desire. The truth is, we are GOING to get persecuted in most every area of our life. The magic is in the way you handle it. Do you become aggressive? Do you hide your hurt? Do you "one up them?" My recent experience at a doctors office was exactly what I didn't know I needed (and certainly wouldn't have chosen for myself at the time) to help me step further into who I really am. A wonderful woman that can feel hurt and be kind. I can show my hurt, rather than hiding it and be human and be kind. It really was so healing for me to experience that hurtful moment AND claim my opportunity. I hope this episode inspires you to treat people differently, even if you are being persecuted. We have a new Mindset Course coming out in October that will help you surrender the negativity you have previously used so you can pick up the empowered tools that you need. I am so thrilled and want you to be the first to know when this powerful course is ready for you!! Click here to be the first to know!! Follow along on IG for daily mindset encouragement and tools. love you dearly, Tessa Romero

From one mama to another, I get it. I get the tantrums, night time wake ups, craving a quiet moment to yourself and feeling overstimulated in the daily details. I also know that even with all of that, you want to BE the mama you envisioned yourself being. You want to see progress in the intentional direction of your choosing and feel proud of who you are. I have two steps to break down for you that will help you do that! Along with these two steps you will find what to avoid along the way and direct examples of what this looks like in action! I love that you are here and we get to do this work together, Let's get started! Tessa Romero Start journaling to calm your mind. Follow along on IG for daily examples and inspiration!

I feel so grateful to have friends in my life that share their unique and bold perspectives with me so that I may be blessed with them, too. That's what I want to share with you today, too. It can feel really hard to heal when life continues to look the same way and we continue to think the same way about our experiences. A friend of mine shared a bold perspective with me earlier this year and I believe it can help you make shifts like it did for me, too. Consider the writing exercise at the end of this episode because pen to paper is MAGIC for your mind. Love you dearly and thank you for being here!

If I were to ask a mother who she wants to be, I would likely hear "capable" in that statement somewhere. I have been coaching my sweet mama friends like you for five years now and it's clear as day why we'd want to feel capable. Life would be easier if we knew we were capable, right?! I am bringing a new perspective to the party on this, after a dear client of mine who we will call "sarah" shared this exact statement with us and we were able to unpack why it was hurting her progress so much and actually taking her AWAY from who she wanted to be. Mama, it's a beautiful thing to choose who you are and I want to help you live life like her because you deserve it. Deep breath and let's get started. p.s. I am bringing an excited change to the podcast soon and I didn't want episodes to pause in the process, so I removed the intro for now. Stay tuned!! Make sure you are growing your identity through daily writing using my proven alignment journaling method. Email connect@momset.com for coaching with Tessa and our powerful team of certified coaches in this work!

It's time we agreed on one thing, that we ARE influenced. Who you choose to allow into your head space will influence you for better or worse and the mind is such a fascinating place. The subconscious mind has no sense of humor so all of the "dark humor of motherhood" and little gabs at spouses and "jokes" about kids, are taken literally in your mind. I want you to intentionally choose who is in your mind. Are they living their rent free- taking up space without giving you anything in return? Clean up your influences today and see how your mind shifts! I've been working really hard on myself this year and I want you to have the same clarity and vision for your life to be beautiful, joyful and pleasant to be in mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Lets stay connected on IG so I can keep the mindset flowing your way! Put pen to paper before you join me back here next week! I'll teach you step by step how to journal for lasting change.

My sweet angel five year old boy is an early riser. Really, always has been and while I will say it is MUCH better than his 4:45 am wakings of his younger years, he still starts his day between 6:00 am and 6:30 am. Which is what it is as I have learned. Only, I used to think it's just who he is. He wakes up early because he is a morning person and I am grateful that Liam has taught me how to become a morning person, too. There was just a HUGE part of his morning wakings that I was oblivious to until a few days ago. Everything about his early mornings changed for me because of one simple shift in mindset. That is what I am sharing with you today :) You can grab your journaling course and join me in creating a BRIGHT, brilliant and loving mindset. You'll never regret time on the paper enriching your mind and I'll teach you step by step how to do it, as well as encourage you with prompts and examples every week because we are in this together. I love you with all I've got and I know the world needs our light and positivity NOW more than ever. Tessa Romero p.s. please pray, donate and support Lahaina, Maui in every way you can.

In my newbie beginner ways of doing life over here, I am thrilled to find little ways to continue to share with you and encourage you to BE A BEGINNER and embrace the "one step at a time" point in life. If you're in a place to change something in your life and work on yourself, (aren't we all???) then it is time to condition your mindset to support that. This episode is full of my favorite quote, a proverb I found and how we can choose the hard we are willing to experience and endure in life, with great purpose and fulfillment. Tessa Romero Remember to put pen to paper if you really want to change the way you think :) I can teach you how!

Okay, I love audio books a lot AND I'm noticing my love for them actually comes from a limiting belief that "I am a slow reader" and "I am not good at reading." So, here I am. Devoted to reading everyday instead of just listening on Audible. I finished two books in the last three weeks and I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF!!! Which brings us to this episode! You've heard "if you don't use it, you lose it" in many examples. Think about it with muscles and playing an instrument. Muscles need to be used if you want them to stick around, and music skills need to be practiced to keep them. I was reading the book "Hunt, Gather, Parent" recently and there was a specific part that stood out to me about cultivating awe to help parents and children feel angry less often. Then it hit me... if I don't spend more intentional time creating good feelings of joy, gratitude, awe, love and excitement, then it would make sense that I would lose the ease of creating them. It makes sense why anger, frustration, irritability, shame and insecurity are so easy when we've been using them SO MUCH. I am unpacking this shift with you in the hopes that by the end of this episode, you are clear on what you'd like to lose and how you can begin doing so. Find the journaling course here if you'd like my help rewriting the story in your mind and increasing the ease of feeling GOOD! Remember, God loves you and you are already forgiven. It's okay to give yourself a fresh perspective and chance at life. With love, Tessa Romero

My coach, Natty, is a gift and the four questions she asked me as I sat puzzled with what my "next step should be" completely shifted my focus and perspective in one swift whirlwind. I am sharing these questions with you in the hopes that you use them to gain clarity and shift focus when and where it is needed in your life. My hope is that if you, like me, want to feel like someone that can talk to God like you hear other people do, you can. And you can use these four questions to get started. If you're interested in one on one coaching with me, please email me at info@bodybymommy.com with the subject "coaching" It feels messy sharing about my faith here and to be honest, I am learning so much and changing my mind in an ongoing way- which feels so freeing. You are loved. You are forgiven. You can move forward. Let's keep working on the story in your mind with good ol' fashioned pen to paper journaling. There's a reason that writing is so relieving and healing and I want you to know exactly how to do it! www.alignmentjouranling.com to learn with me.

In the oddest way imaginable, this is the hardest episode I have ever recorded and absolutely that I've ever shared with you. I have felt so ashamed to have a love for God and a relationship with Him, for the past five years, so I hid it from everyone. I hid it from you, my husband and my kids. My whole family and my clients and my courses and content. Yesterday I had the most profound revelation, I am forever changed by it and I am ready to tell you this. I love God and He loves me. So, through the tears and transformation that I am working through, I want to share with you what happened that left me hating God for 17 years and why I felt so ashamed when I finally came back to Him 5 years ago. I hope this helps you <3 stay connected on Instagram with me and start rewriting the story in your mind.

"she's my hard one." "she's my sweet one." "she's my baby." That is exactly how my client described her three daughters to me after speaking through a stream of tears that she "feels so disconnected with her oldest." Guess which one is her oldest? "The hard one." This episode is all about what you CAN do about that so you can start feeling more connected with all of your kids, without trying to control who they are, how they feel and what they do. This is practical work that CAN be done. So let's do it! Hang tight because I have a brand new parenting mindset course" being released this September. It will teach you all of the practical tools you can be using on a daily basis, no matter your circumstances. You can start your mindset work right now inside of my journaling course. Teach your mind how to think in a way that empowers you! www.alignmentjournaling.com Follow along on Instagram to keep the daily inspiration flowing! love you dearly and we will talk really soon!

This episode shares a story that takes us all the way back to the summer going into my junior year of high school- which was a rough time in my life. I had just taken a BIG step out of my comfort zone and tried out for the JV Cheer team and made it!! Now I needed to figure out how the heck I was going to pay for cheer camp. This episode instills hope and inspiration to look for what is possible and the willingness to say "I've got this" along the way. You can follow Tessa on Instagram here. Implement practical mindset work in your daily life, here.

"don't do that!" "I told you not to do that!!" Have you wore down the word "don't" that it's really lost its value and severity? I get it! We can build back the value of what we say by speaking with intention and clear direction. This episode will teach you how to share more of what you DO want and use language to paint a clear vision that brings your home and family into alignment with what you DO want to see. There is so much goodness coming up and I want to make sure you are in the loop. Click here to subscribe to my email list and be the first to know about upcoming coaching, courses and events. You can connect with me and learn more on my Instagram account. I just joined Threads and will be sharing quick shifts in perspective and mindset tools over there.

Do you need a solid plan to implement when communicating with the people in your life and trying to think differently in the MOMENT? Me too :) which is how I found this magic word duo that has been a game-changing-show-grace-giver-move on my occasionally reactive mind. Good deal, right?! Listen in to learn the two words, why we are doing it and how to use them! What I recommend most of all is to START WRITING. Open up your journal each day, even for just a few minutes, so you can discipline your mind to slow down and think greater. You will feel tremendous relief when you change the narrative in your mind. Learn how to journal here. Come see the mindset swaps over on Instagram @tessaromero_

Sometimes your mind gets loud with the thoughts that no longer serve you and it feels heavy and hard to know which way is up, and worse than that, why you are even showing up. That's what this episode is here for. To remind you why you are showing up and doing what you are doing. This is your very last chance to enroll in Mind Body Alignment and spend 12 weeks receiving coaching with Tessa and the Community. Listen, you can be the exact woman you want to be. You are someone that is ready to feel proud of how you handle the highs and lows, and I am here to show you how. http://mind-body-alignment-1.showit.site/

My mommy heart often goes to places about my boys future and sometimes it floods me with gratitude and other times it brings me to tears. Motherhood has so much hard and good in it. It is hard to think about the future our kids will face and the possibilities that come with that. We know full well that they will experience hardship that is outside of our capacity of protection as mothers. They will live and they will learn and we will watch a lot of that. Fortunately for us, we have a wonderful opportunity right now while they are still in our home. While they are still watching our every move and hearing the words we speak. Now is the time to be proud of the example we set and the way we influence, which is easier when you have a role model to follow. Right? I am sharing my role model with you today, in hopes that you will go find yours. She's closer than you think. Mind Body Alignment enrollment closes June 17! This course is all about uncovering who you are truly meant to be and teaching you the practical skills and tools you need to get there. It is a fresh start in your life on many levels and I hope to see you there.

Have you been searching for a way to build more connection and vulnerability in your relationship? Because, SAME. It's something to continue striving for especially in my marriage. It can feel overwhelming to think about all of the ways we want to improve and show up so I wanted to make this short episode to teach you two itty bitty simple ways you can get started TODAY. No more waiting, now is your time to shiiine. You know me, I love what can be simplified and implemented! It's all nice in theory without the real STEPS to get there, so I have pretty steps for you to take.  These two things are for you if...  1. You want to build back connection and vulnerability  2. You find yourself criticizing... my husband calls it "the peanut gallery" 3. You find yourself arguing more than you'd like. 4. You're getting one word answers from your spouse and kids.  5. You're craving a wholesome step into alignment.  This podcast episode has got the golden goodness you're looking for and you can implement it today. The very next conversation you find yourself in or choices you observe someone else making. This will be fun! Grab that laundry basket and pop in a headphone so we can get to work on what we do control... YOU!  Remember that you can change before anyone or anything else does :)  love you something fierce and I hope to see you inside of the Mind Body Alignment Summer Group! This is the last group of 2023, get yourself there! http://mind-body-alignment-1.showit.site/ You've got this. Tessa Romero :) p.s. we do this because we deserve to be who we want to be. We deserve to be the mother we want our children to have. It's all within us and this is the good work to do that brings her out. 

My husband was out of town for a few days and I got to experience what it is like when I AM showing up as who I want to be, and when I am not. I got to learn so much in that time spent with my three boys and being able to figure out "what's really different here?" I know that circumstances can feel really freaking hard and honestly, I know the feeling of mom guilt. Where do we go from there? Listen to this episode to bring some light into your mindset and encourage you to show up today with a NEW perspective. You can sign up for my FREE Three Day Mindset Workshop here! I will coach you through building your identity, cutting off your victim mentality and leaning in to your empowered mind. I am excited to see you there June 6th, 7th and 8th, 2023 enrollment for my 12 week course Mind Body Alignment opens up on June 5th! This is your last chance to coach with me for 12 weeks inside of our private group and course for 2023! LAST GROUP that I will be coaching before I bring in more coaches to serve this mission alongside me in the New Year. Tessa Romero Instagram

You know that moment that it feels like such a struggle to hold your tongue when you want to say something hurtful? How it feels like a struggle to do your workout or even cook meals at home. It feels like a struggle to choose to breathe instead of yelling at your kids when they are doing THE THING you asked them 143 times not to do. I get it. During my workout this week I added 10 pounds to my weights and it felt like such a struggle. A struggle that I had put on myself, on purpose. Then it clicked for me that I can intentionally choose areas that I am willing to struggle in because they matter that much to ME. Breathing instead of yelling matters so much to me and I am okay with it feeling hard to do. What matters so much to you that you're willing to experience the struggle that it takes to get there and accomplish that thing? This episode will walk you through the mentality you need and a journaling prompt that will help you tremendously! click here to have your email on my list of friends wanting an invite to my free three day workshop happening on June 6th, 7th and 8th! Enrollment for Mind Body Alignment opens on June 5th and this will be my first group that I have a set limit of clients working with me to ensure that you get the time, energy and coaching you need during our 12 weeks together. This is my last group of 2023 so make sure YOU are there with US!