The Momset Podcast

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!" Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids. We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be. Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too. I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity. All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids. I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids. I mentioned my 21 day YES MOM CHALLENGE available in my membership (access it anytime) to learn the TOOLS of Yes Language. This will decrease the time spent yelling, criticizing, arguing and breaking boundaries.⁠ Sign up here! ⁠Learn from my ⁠free "Yes Mom" content⁠ .

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart. Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts. THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it. All my best, Tessa Romero p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to connect@momset.com Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way. We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word. Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here! Tessa Romerop.s. I have a journaling email sequence where I send you short writing examples every 2 days to help you stay clear and focused on your writing.

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.I understand this to my core. Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up. This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH. I know that you can, too. The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity. I adore you, I really do. Tessa Romero Connect with me on IG Is my mindset membership a good fit for you?

Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself. Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day. You'll be told "that's too much." "you shouldn't expect so much from yourself." "it's not realistic." Even if you enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen that reminds you of fresh starts and new days... someone will tell you that the pressure to clean it every night before bed is just too much. This is why understanding the difference between a mentality of Excellence and a mentality of Perfection will set you free. This episode takes a look at why we use perfectionism, how you can practically condition your mind out of it and what it looks like to strive for excellence AND fall short. I hope you enjoy it! Details for my coaching membership where this episode was inspired are right here. Huge thanks to Danielle for being a light and someone we can learn alongside. Tessa Romero

Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children. You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even when it feels really, really difficult. Look at us- breaking cycles. "We are one generation from the "that's permissive" mentality..." "Parenting is not a societal matter. It's personal, it's spiritual and it's emotional, but it's not societal..." - Ralphie JacobsSign up for Ralphie's "Teach Me How" subscription and check out her fantastic IG account for more tools and light.

Choose quiet observations and follow it with quick, intentional corrections.A few years ago, I realized that explaining every decision to my kids—why they couldn’t have something, what I didn’t like about their behavior—only made things worse. It fueled conflict, invited pushback, and exhausted me emotionally. So I made a change.I started quietly noticing the behavior, keeping my thoughts to myself, and then making a swift correction without fanfare. Whether it was about food dyes, screen time, or behavior after movies, this shift brought peace to our home and confidence to my parenting.You'll want to get a pen and piece of paper ready for the writing exercise in the last part of this episode. It will help you experience a huge shift in mindset and self-empowerment! More details on my coaching membership are right here. I'm excited to hear about your implementation of "quiet observations and quick corrections" to your daily parenting triumphs!

It's interesting that moms are being told how good and admirable it is to ask for help, then in the same breath we are told not to help our kids when they ask for it. "They're old enough to do it themselves." "They're big enough to do it themselves." "That's not mine, they should do it.""If I don't do it no one else will." I'm big enough, old enough and perfectly capable of simple tasks and sometimes those are the ones I feel are too big when I have so much else going on. I want my kids to know they can always ask for my help. Even when it's a problem or task to face on their own, I'll be there with them as a listening ear and word of guidance. Why would my kids ask for help with the big stuff if I instilled a "do it yourself" belief with the small stuff? This is my perspective that nurtures my willingness to serve seamlessly, say "yes" to helping and instilling lifelong beliefs. This is the Instagram reel I mentioned in the episode. Click here to learn about my coaching membership if you struggle with your mindset in motherhood and want to be free of your own thoughts.

Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions! "To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use! Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :) Click here to get personal coaching from me and my team inside of our fantastic membership full of moms ready for skills, tools, healing and ownership.

Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve CommunicationJoin my coaching membership for personalized coaching through your circumstances. You CAN have a positive mindset during this time and it IS the way through whatever it is you're going through. Let us help! ✨In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.For more support, check out the MOMSET membership !

Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE. This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself. This is YOUR life. YOU get to decide what you think about it. Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you. I'll coach you in my membership. You can see my free content here.

"If I forgive then they'll be let off the hook..." "Tessa, I want to forgive them but I can't just let them back into my life after everything they've done." Gosh, do I relate and have some good news for you. I like to think I have gotten really good at forgiving because I also invite in a crucial piece that keeps me in charge of my seasons. This episode is deeply connected to the way I coach women, just like you, through the journey and throws of becoming who you want to be no matter where you go or who you're with. Join our membership to receive coaching with me! I'll teach you the tools and show you the way they work even in YOUR unique circumstances and relationships. All my love, Tessa Romero

Ever notice how when things go wrong, you blame others, and when things go right, you chalk it up to luck? I’m here to remind you that your hard work and intention deserve recognition. By breaking free from old patterns of blame and victim mentalities, you can claim ownership of your successes and learn from your challenges. Tune in, shift your perspective, and discover how to flip your mindset—celebrating every victory and lesson on your journey to becoming the best version of you. This is your chance to reclaim your power and rewrite your narrative. Join me and begin.Ready for more? Let me coach you inside of my membership. We'll be the ones to challenge you and treat you as who we believe you can be. Join our March Challenge to adopt the 5 daily habits that change the game in your energy levels!

I was walking on a beautiful beach in Maui and three older women collectively sighed "poor mom." Only, I know I am a lucky mom. Are you ready to know that too? Click here if you want to be a source of joy in your motherhood and KNOW who you are while you do it. My coaching membership is full of powerful tools and community that completely transform your everyday life. Your mindset is shaping your motherhood more than you realize. In this episode, we dive into the power of perspective and how the way you frame your experiences will make a difference for you. Are you focusing on lack and hardship, or are you seeing the opportunities, growth, and joy in your journey? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can completely transform the way you experience motherhood—because the difference between a “poor mom” and a “lucky mom” is all in how you choose to see it. 🎧 Listen now and step into a more empowered, fulfilling motherhood.

YES, the MOMSET Community App is officially launched and buzzing with excitement from moms around the world. Come join us in daily community discussions, a weekly coaching session and access to my three courses! Get the details and sign up for the coaching membership. Founding members locked in rate of $67/month is for January ONLY. The price is $97/month starting in February. Join us in this heartfelt episode as we explore the two things moms must know to inspire and motivate their kids by truly understanding their unique visions for the future. Learn how to uncover what excites your child, provide the right support, and encourage their dreams without pressure and stress. From active listening to celebrating small wins, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help moms nurture a positive connection and guide their children toward a bright future. Tune in and discover the power of understanding your child’s dreams.

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful practice: writing a letter to your future self to read at the end of 2025. This is your chance to put into words who you want to become—before it even happens. This will give you direction and intention for the entire year to come. Creating a clear vision for yourself activates the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS), which helps you focus on opportunities and actions aligned with your goals. When you know what you want, your mind naturally works to make it happen. The real trick is to actually know what you want and that is where a lot of women struggle. We’ll guide you through: ✨ Envisioning the person you want to be and the life you want to create in 2025. ✨ Writing about your personal, professional, physical, and spiritual growth. ✨ Reflecting on how it feels to live as the version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of becoming. ✨ Setting your intentions and grounding them in gratitude for the journey ahead. Start your letter with “Dear [Your Name]” and let your vision for the year come alive on the page. This is more than just a letter—it’s your declaration of what’s possible for you in the year ahead. Let’s create a 2025 worth celebrating. 💖 p.s. My NEW Coaching Membership launches on our own app the MOMSET Community on January 7th. You can click here to have all of the details sent to you and lock in your membership saving $30 a month!

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the powerful phrase “They watch them, they study me” and what it means for moms striving to strengthen their mindset and hold themselves accountable as role models for their children. While outside influences—peers, media, and even family members—may play a role in shaping our kids, it’s our actions, attitudes, and reactions that leave the most lasting impact. Join me as we explore how to embrace this truth, even when it feels overwhelming, and how to use it as a guiding principle to set a strong, positive example for your kids. Understanding that while peers and media might capture their attention, your example shapes their character. How to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t. Using the phrase “They watch them, they study me” as a grounding mantra to respond with intention. Kids may watch others around them, but it’s your actions they truly study and emulate. Ready to Strengthen Your Mindset? Tune in now to hear how “They watch them, they study me” can empower you to show up as the mom you want to be—even in a world full of strong influences. Let’s Stay Connected: Instagram: @TessaRomero_ Email: support@momset.com Please subscribe, rate, and review! Let’s spread the message of empowered, intentional motherhood. 💖

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple practice that transformed my perspective and strengthened my marriage during one of the most full times of my life: writing a daily letter of appreciation to my husband. When preparing to welcome our fourth baby, I wanted to prioritize grace and connection in our marriage. This daily habit became my anchor and a tool to focus on gratitude rather than victim thoughts and unmet expectations. Tune in to learn: The science behind appreciation: How gratitude boosts happiness and connection by rewiring your brain. Why this is for YOU: Shift your mindset, see the good, and show up as the wife you aspire to be. What to appreciate: Practical examples to notice and honor what your spouse is doing right. The ripple effect: How this practice not only transforms your mindset but can also inspire more positive behaviors in your marriage. Whether you keep this journal as a personal tool or surprise your spouse with it as a heartfelt gift, this simple challenge can transform the way you see your marriage. Ready to take the appreciation challenge? Let’s dive in!

In this episode, I share a raw and honest moment we commonly find ourselves in as moms. I talk about a challenging experience where I put myself in a dark room to help my baby fall asleep, only to find myself overwhelmed by the situation. As I reflect, I realize how I resisted help, even when it’s offered, and how the victim mindset took me under for a few moments. Explore the importance of recognizing when we’re stuck, learning to regulate our emotions, and accepting support when we need it. Join me as I talk about the power of resetting, self-compassion, and the choices we can make to empower ourselves on this journey of motherhood and personal growth. Follow along for daily mindset in motherhood on Instagram