The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce

Whew, this one goes deep, y’all 💥💗. I sat down with my bestie Quinn to unpack one of the biggest emotional hurdles so many of us face but rarely speak out loud: What do I do with the heartbreak of not having my kids with me all the time? 😩💔This two-part episode was sparked by a powerful listener email that stopped me in my tracks. She put into words the raw grief and fear that can hit you hard when you imagine your children living part of their lives without you… especially when you don’t fully trust the other parent 😬.Quinn and I come at this from very different mothering frameworks — and y’all, the magic is in that contrast 💫. Together, we dig into:* 🧠 Why that gut-wrenching pain isn’t just biology — it’s cultural, generational, and deeply conditioned* 👩‍👦‍👦 What emotional adulthood really looks like when your kids are with their other parent* 💌 Tender rituals to stay connected without handing your emotional regulation over to your kids* 🧳 Practical tools for transitions, co-regulation, and redefining what motherhood looks like in two homes* 🎢 The surprising gifts of shared custody (yes, they exist!), including how it builds resilience in your kids* 🧘‍♀️ Nervous system regulation when the ache hits (“I miss them so much it hurts”)* 📖 Redefining “good mom” energy — from martyrdom to sovereignty and self-trust* 🔁 Reframing that double bind: Stay and suffer? Go and lose time? No, friend. There is a third way 💥I also get really real about what this has looked like in my life — including the heartbreak (and eventual healing) of my oldest son choosing to live primarily with his dad 💔➡️💗. It wasn’t easy, but I walk you through how I processed the grief, managed my mind, and found a way to anchor myself in the long game 🛤️.Whether you’re navigating shared custody, trying to reclaim your identity beyond motherhood, or just feeling the weight of missing your kids — these episodes are for you 💞👣.✨ Part 2 of this conversation is available exclusively to my paid subscribers on Substack! So if you haven’t signed up yet, head to the show notes to join us there. This is the kind of work that changes lives — yours and your children’s 💌🌱.Show NotesSubscribe to Stay or Go on SubstackDownload the Substack AppPost-Divorce Glow-Up Show SpotifyPost-Divorce Glow-Up Show AppleEmail for questions: decide@stayorgocoaching.comText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫Support the showYouTube ChannelThe Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching IntensiveStay or Go CommunityInstagramFacebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 72: Y’all… this episode is a BIG one! 🎉✨ The anticipation has been real, and I’m finally sharing all the juicy details about the podcast’s move to Substack—plus, a chance for YOU to win a free 90-minute coaching session with me! 🎁🔥But let’s be real—this episode is about so much more than a platform shift. This is a deep dive into something that’s been transforming my life: RECEIVING. 💌I’m talking about how hard, uncomfortable, and even vulnerable it can be to receive love, support, help, praise—and why it’s absolutely essential if you're going to become the woman you’re meant to be. Especially for those of you stuck in caretaker roles, exhausted from constantly pouring out without ever being poured into… this episode is your wake-up call. 🛑💡We unpack why patriarchy has stolen women’s ability to receive, what happens when we start reclaiming it, and how receiving isn't just some fluffy self-care vibe—it's RADICAL and NECESSARY. 💥💪And, in a moment that had me fully practicing what I preach, I read your beautiful listener emails aloud. 🥹💖 I let myself receive your gratitude, your love, and your stories—and babes, it was a full-body experience. Vulnerable as hell and SO powerful.Then, of course, I walk you through what Substack is, why I’m moving there, and how this shift is deeply aligned with my next evolution—more connection, more intention, more YOU. 💫👀 Don’t miss the deets on how to subscribe (there’s even a founding member option for my legacy-building babes 🙌) and how to enter the 90-minute coaching giveaway!So if you’ve been feeling worn out, unseen, or like your needs have been pushed to the backburner for way too long… this is your episode. 🎙️💥Show Notes:Subscribe to Stay or Go on SubstackDownload the Substack App Email for questions: decide@stayorgocoaching.comDying for Sex - HuluText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 71: Hey babes 💛 This one poured out of me on a Friday night with dusk falling outside my window 🌅 because I couldn’t not record it. This episode is my full-body YES to the truth that the life you want most? It's not only possible—it’s happening faster than ever before 🚀💥I’m opening the door and letting you peek into a totally ordinary, magical day in my life—one I never would’ve dreamed was possible back when I was considering divorce. You’ll hear about everything from flashbacks and Five Guys 🍔 to tarot cards and raising our black cat baby 🐈‍⬛ with Joe, and how I’ve built a life that feels like me in all the right ways.I’ll also share the stories of two beautiful women, one client and one new community member, who reminded me just how brave, powerful, and world-changing this path is when we start choosing ourselves first 💖PLUS I’ll let you in on a big shift coming to the podcast 👀 (no more cliffhangers, I promise!) and how we’re building something so much bigger than just our own healing. It’s a movement, and I’m honored to be in it with you 🙏🔥Whether you're in the thick of deciding, knee-deep in grief, or just catching glimpses of your power again, I want you to know: you’re not crazy, you’re not alone, and the life you want most is already whispering your name ✨Let’s dive in, babes 🧡Show Notes:Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 70: Hey babe 💛—whether you’re out walking, driving, curled up in bed, this one’s for you.In this week’s episode, I’m sharing the story of my own “roadside test” last week—when my middle son broke his arm at football practice—and the big wake-up it gave me about what happens when we ignore the check engine lights in our lives. 🚨 From cars to life to marriages, those little warning lights are trying to tell us something… and pretending they’re not there doesn’t make them go away.We’re talking:💪 Why it’s time to stop waiting for the breakdown before we take action.👩‍🔧 The four truths that came out of my own roadside test (and how they’ll help you avoid your own desert breakdown).💔 How fear keeps us stuck—and why nobody is coming to turn off that light for you.🌍 Why today’s political and cultural climate makes this work more important than ever.💖 How to create a life (and relationships) that feel steady, supported, and ready for whatever detours lie ahead.This is part rallying cry, part heart-to-heart, and part practical “get under the hood” moment. You’ll walk away with a loving push to handle what’s asking for your attention—so that when life throws the next roadside test at you, you’re not running on fumes.So, deep breath, big girl panties (or not—your choice, babe 😏), and let’s get into it. You’ve got this. 💛Show Notes:Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 69: Hey, my loves! 💕 This week’s episode emerged from a comment shared with me by one of my community members and I cannot wait for you to dive into the goodies that came out of it with me. We’re talking about something BIG—moving from an expectation mindset (hello control + perfectionism 👋) into an exploration mindset that gives you SPACE to breathe, play, and actually be human. 🌱So many of us, especially as women, are living under crushing double standards. We give everyone else so much grace—our kids, our partners, even strangers—yet hold ourselves to impossibly high bars. And when we dig deeper, we see how this is rooted in childhood trauma, cultural programming, and patriarchal BS. 🙅‍♀️I’m going to share: ✅ Where this pattern of perfectionism and self-abandonment comes from. ✅ How to spot when you’re living from expectation instead of exploration. ✅ Why an exploratory mindset is your birthright (and how it changes EVERYTHING). ✅ What this looks like inside real relationships—and what to do if your marriage doesn’t allow room for exploration.This episode is part pep talk, part permission slip, and 100% your reminder that you were never meant to be perfect—you were meant to BECOME. 💫Grab your headphones, take a deep breath, and let’s reclaim that juicy, curious, messy, ALIVE version of you. You deserve this. ❤️Show Notes:The Man Music Video - Taylor SwiftEjaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion - Gabrielle Stanley BlairThe Crane Wife - CJ Hauser The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane WardNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships - Marshall B. Rosenberg PhDText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 68: Hello, my loves! 💕 This week, I’m coming to you straight from the messy middle—yep, that foggy, disorienting space where life says, “LOL, nope!” to all your perfectly laid plans. 😅If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “How the hell did I end up here?” or if you’re navigating the collapsing scaffolding of a life you thought was secure (hello, divorce consideration crew 🙋‍♀️), this episode is for YOU.We’re talking about: 🌪️ What happens when control—our favorite coping mechanism—is ripped away 💔 How to handle the self-judgment spiral (that “Why wasn’t I enough?” soundtrack) ✨ Why letting go is not punishment, but a sacred breakdown leading to something better 🌀 How life’s growth comes in cycles—like a spiral staircase 🧘 Practical ways to build trust with yourself (and why that’s the ultimate antidote to control)I’m sharing my own real-time journey of uncertainty, grief, and yes… hope. 💫 If you’re in the in-between right now, feeling like you’re free-falling without a net, please know you are not alone. There is refuge. There is magic ahead. And spoiler alert: the magic always comes when we lean into trust. 💖Take a deep breath with me. You are safe in this moment. Let’s walk this unknown road together. 🌈Show Notes:K-Pop Demon HuntersJungian Dream Interpreter GPTText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 67: Hey loves 💗,This week’s episode is a little different—short, unfiltered, and deeply vulnerable. I hit record right in the middle of my own "tower moment" (yep, for my tarot friends out there, that card 🌩️), where everything feels like it’s crumbling... and I’m letting it.Instead of packaging my process into a neatly wrapped episode with clear takeaways, I’m inviting you into the middle of the mess with me. This is me practicing what I preach—laying down the role of the “one who always holds it together” and learning to surrender to what I can’t control 😮‍💨💔.If you’re also in a season of uncertainty, fear, or raw transformation, I hope this gives you permission to breathe, to stop fixing, and to just be where you are. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is admit we’re not okay... and trust that it’s still enough 💞.I love you all so much. Thanks for being part of this sacred space. May you feel seen, held, and deeply worthy—even in the mess.xo,Britta 💕✨Show Notes:Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 66: This episode is raw, real, and liberating. Quinn and I dive deep into the second part of Jane Ward’s The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, unpacking what it means to live inside a system that was never built for our wholeness.We explore the emotional and erotic numbness so many women feel in straight relationships—and how it’s not your fault. We talk about internalized misogyny, performative sex, the quiet tragedy of disconnection, and the deep grief (and power) in waking up 💥.But this isn’t about blame—it’s about the system. We name the ways patriarchy hurts men too, and what’s possible when we let go of scripts, center real pleasure, and build relationships and communities rooted in emotional honesty, mutuality, and freedom 🌈.We also share four “exit ramps” from the system: 1️⃣ Name it 2️⃣ Learn nonviolent communication 3️⃣ Let go of the roles 4️⃣ Rebuild true communityWhether you're staying, going, or somewhere in between, this conversation will meet you there—with clarity, compassion, and hope. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And there is another way 💗Show NotesThe Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane WardTo Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything! Julie Newmar Trailer"The Men Are Not All Right"...Right? - Diabolical Lies PodcastThink Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know - Adam GrantQuinn's Email: quinn@postdivorceglowup.comText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 65: This week’s episode is a massive eye-opener, y’all. 🤯 Quinn and I dive deep into The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, and let me just say—holy 💩, our minds were blown. We unpack the historical roots of heterosexual marriage and how it was never designed with women’s joy, freedom, or wellbeing in mind. From patriarchy and white supremacy to eugenics and post-WWII propaganda, we trace how systems were built to serve capitalism—not connection—and how they continue to shape modern relationships, sex, and gender roles. 😤💔We expose the heterosexual “repair industry”—a self-help movement that gaslit women into believing they were the problem when marriages didn’t work. We name how religion, media, and even love stories sold us on performance over partnership, submission over selfhood, and how even “woke” men today are still often performing feminism while propping up patriarchy. 🧠🔥And most importantly, we ask: what if the real work isn’t about becoming “better wives”? What if it’s about shedding the programming and finally becoming more of who we truly are? 🦋We share personal stories, Mormon roots, and what it means to courageously wake up and refuse to play a game that was never meant for our thriving. This is the beginning of liberation—and if you’ve ever felt like something’s off, like you’re not crazy but finally waking up… this one’s for you. ❤️‍🔥Show Notes:The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane WardWould love to know if we missed anything or what you thought!My email: decide@stayorgocoaching.comQuinn's Email: quinn@postdivorceglowup.comText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 64: Okay y'all, this one’s for the women leaning toward staying—but not the old way. In this episode, I share the rest of the 7 powerful shifts that can transform your marriage into one built on truth, safety, and mutual thriving 💫💥We cover everything from the myth of “two halves make a whole” 🙅‍♀️ to rewriting your marriage rule book 📖, and even how separation can be a healing tool—not a failure. Plus, I’m spilling the tea on my recent astrology + GPT obsession (you’ll want to try this!) 🪐✨If you’re wondering whether staying is right for you, this episode is your map. Bring your journal and let’s go deep 💗Show Notes:Astrology GPT Questions to Ask:Can you please tell me about my life purpose?Please tell me more about my career and vocation insights.Let’s discuss my relationship patterns and soulmate indicators.Tell me about my emotional needs and inner healing please.Can you please show how my Part of Fortune and Black Moon Lilith add more depth to my emotional healing?Can you explore how these connect to my love life and even my soulmate contracts?Is there anything in my chart that gives deeper insight into sexuality?Please explain and explore my tantric blueprint?Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Attached - Amir LevineComplex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete WalkerAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonNo Bad Parts - Dr. Richard SchwartzWant Match - Life Coach School PodcastThe Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment - Jack MorinExistential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott PhDCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski Ph.DText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Ohhh my GODDESS, y’all! 🌞🔥 Is it just me, or is summer turning up the heat in all the best ways?! This week, we’re making a juicy pivot from covert narcissism (y’all blew me away with your responses, thank you 🙏) to something that’s been simmering in the background for a long time... STAYING. Yup. This one is for all my stay-girlies 💖.And hold UP—did Mayim Bialik really email me?! 😱 Y’all. Not only did she reach out with the kindest words, but she also shared that my episode from her podcast made it into a convo on “Hey Dude... The 90s Called”! I legit screamed. Like... WHAT. 🥹✨But let’s talk staying in a marriage—not by default, but by radical, empowered CHOICE. 🧠💥 I am breaking down the types of staying (strategic stay, anyone? 👀), giving all the love and support to those of you on that path, and introducing what I adorably named, the “Shift List”—seven areas you and your partner need to work on to rewrite the marriage rules and create something NEW.We’re diving deep into what it really takes to stay on purpose—not from fear or guilt, but from truth and transformation. 💪💫 And I’m spilling the tea on why regulated communication is a non-negotiable foundation. Spoiler alert: Nonviolent communication is changing lives in our summer camp right now, and I want you IN on it. 📚🧘‍♀️🗣️So buckle up, babe. Whether you’re stay-curious or actively rewriting the rules in your marriage, this episode is your map, your mirror, and your mega dose of love 💌. And next week—part two is coming in HOT. Let’s go. 💃🔥Show Notes:Think Yourself Into A Positive Mood - with Mayim Bialik - Hey Dude... The 90's Called! - AppleThink Yourself Into A Positive Mood - with Mayim Bialik - Hey Dude... The 90's Called! - SpotifyNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life -  Marshall B. Rosenberg PhDBrene Brown: The Call to CourageText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

In this second deep-dive into covert narcissism, I unpack the remaining techniques and traits that make this kind of abuse so uniquely painful… and so hard to name. From gaslighting and emotional blackmail to the crazy room and love bombing, I break it all down—raw, unfiltered, and straight from lived experience 💔.I’m not holding anything back in this episode. I share real-life stories—mine and others’—about being trapped in the invisible cages built by covert narcissists. I talk about what it costs us, what it steals from us, and how easy it is to believe you’re the problem when you’re just trying to survive. And I get really honest about the shame, confusion, and grief that come with realizing someone you love is emotionally harming you 🧠😔.But I also bring the hope 🌱. I walk you through the 10 tangible steps you can take to start healing, reclaim your voice, and ground back into your own reality. If you’re in it, if you’ve lived it, or if you’re afraid to say the words out loud—this episode is for you. You are not alone, and there is a way out. 🦋Show Notes:The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family - Eleanor D. PaysonAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonWomen Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype - Clarissa Pinkola EstésLive Awake Podcast - Sarah BlondinTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 61: This one’s been a long time coming, y’all. I can feel it in my bones—this is some of the work I’m most proud to bring into the world. In this two-part series (yep, there’s more coming next week!), I’m diving deep into covert narcissism—what it is, how it operates, and how it might be silently shaping your relationship.This week, we’re laying down the foundation: I’m sharing the two core identifiers I use to spot covert narcissistic abuse and walking you through the first 7 of 14 psychological techniques covert narcissists use to maintain control. These aren’t just concepts—I’m pulling from personal experiences, years of coaching, and gut-wrenching stories from brave women navigating this exact terrain.We’re going to explore what makes covert narcissism so sneaky and so damaging, why it's so often misunderstood, and most importantly, how you can begin to make sense of what’s been happening to you 💔🧠.If you’ve ever felt like you were “crazy,” like you couldn't quite explain the emotional whiplash you’ve been living through, this episode is for you. 🧩✨And remember—just because your partner might not be diagnosable doesn’t mean the impact isn’t real. The confusion, the guilt, the feeling of being emotionally obliterated—it’s not in your head. You are not alone.At the end of the episode, I share a book that cracked open my own understanding and a way to work with me directly if this is landing deeply and you need more support. 📚🤝Let’s get into it. This is a clarion call. 💥Show Notes:The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family - Eleanor D. PaysonTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonSupport the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 60: Hey sis! 👋💞 Before diving into today’s episode, I took a moment to feel into all of you — whether you're cooking dinner 🍳, running 🏃‍♀️, or driving 🚗. Just know: I SEE you. You are not alone. 🤗This episode is a bit of a soul drop-in. I'm sharing some of my most recent and raw inner work 🌪️ — specifically, a powerful metaphor that came through during deep shadow work. Imagine your consciousness like a huge mansion 🏰 with countless rooms, each built around different beliefs we've picked up — many from childhood, religion, or past trauma.Some of those rooms? Super painful 😞. Some? Brand new and filled with self-trust, joy, sisterhood, love, and abundance 🌷🌟. And what I’m realizing is: we don’t have to stay trapped in the rooms we didn’t consciously build. We get to create NEW rooms. New realities. Whole new wings of our inner mansion that feel like home. 🏡💗PLUS — I share all the exciting details of what's launching in the Stay or Go Community: 🎉 Camp NVC (Nonviolent Communication)! 🌞🏕️ This summer camp is unlike anything we’ve done before — full of fun, healing, connection, and practical tools to help you communicate with more clarity, vulnerability, and power 🔥🗣️.If you’re ready to not just listen but actually do the work this summer — to build those new rooms inside yourself and connect with your sisters 💕 — Camp NVC is waiting for you. 🏕️✨And of course, thank you to every single one of you who has rated, reviewed, and shared this podcast 🙏💖 — your support is literally helping other women find these resources when they need them most.I can't wait to see so many of you at camp this summer — and remember: you do not have to stay in the rooms you were handed. You get to build your own. 🗝️✨Show Notes:Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 59: Wow y’all… this one is a wild ride. After the energy of being on Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, Quinn and I just had to circle back. You know those moments when you’re like, “Wait! I wasn’t done!”—yeah, this episode is all that and more. 😅✨We’re diving into the real talk that didn’t get airtime—reading through your 🔥comments, confronting trolls 🧌, and expanding the convo on divorce, identity, and the emotional minefield that women walk when considering leaving a marriage. We talk about the empathetic Achilles heel that keeps so many women stuck, the grief of leaving—and staying—and why “just lower your expectations” is NOT the move (no, thank you! 🙅‍♀️).From the ways society tells us to shrink and submit, to reclaiming our main character energy 💃🏽, this episode is all about being deeply, soulfully YOU in a world that often asks you to disappear. Whether you're in a small town with zero support or deep in your own freeze response, you're not alone. We’re here to talk it through—with truth, tears, laughter, and that fierce compassion I know you’re craving. 🧡⚡️We cover:Why some women stay in marriages that hurtRewriting the outdated divorce narrative 📝How to raise emotionally intelligent sons 🙌Real stories from the Stay or Go communityThe power (and pain) of being fully seen 👀This one is messy, raw, and rich with truth. And babe, if you’re feeling that “I can’t keep going like this” vibe… hit play. 🎧 You're not alone—and you're more powerful than you know. 💥Show Notes:Relationship Expert: You’re Not Lost — You’ve Been Programmed to Fail - Mayim Bialik's BreakdownFrom Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - AppleFrom Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - SpotifyFrom Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - YouTubeTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 58: Oh y’all… this episode is straight from my still buzzing heart 💓 because I just got done recording with Mayim Bialik and Jonathan Cohen for the Mayim Bialik's Breakdown podcast!! 😱✨ Yes. THAT one. It was magical, it was real, and it was absolutely a moment I’ll never forget. So naturally, I had to jump on the mic and share the aftermath glow with all of you—while still in my podcast outfit, no less! 😄🎧In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of how this incredible opportunity unfolded (spoiler alert: divine timing + deep soul alignment), and also sharing the very real emotional journey that came with it—hello imposter syndrome, vulnerability, and the voice of that old Mormon girl who was taught to stay small. 😮‍💨🙏But here's the magic: this episode isn’t just about me—it’s about us. It's about what happens when we say yes to our truth, even when our voice shakes. It’s a celebration of growth, of all the tiny moments that led to this big one, and a reminder that you too are worthy of being heard 📢💖.If you’ve ever wondered if your inner voice matters, if you’re really ready, or if your healing is actually “working”... this one’s for you. 🫶So come vibe with me, celebrate, reflect, and maybe journal with this question: What part of me is ready to be heard—even if it shakes? 💭🖊️P.S. The episode with Mayim drops this week, so keep your eyes on my IG (@consideringdivorce) and FB for the big announcement! 🚨🎉Show Notes:Mayim Bialik's Breakdown on YouTubeMayim Bialik's Breakdown on Apple PodcastMayim Bialik's Breakdown on SpotifyTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 57: Hey loves 💕—this one is a powerhouse episode that’s been a long time in the making! I finally get to sit down with the incredible Carmina Becerra (activating your voice coach, truth-teller, and all-around force of nature 🌪️🔥).This conversation is deeply personal for both of us, and I want to lovingly name upfront—it’s got a LOT of Go energy in it. For those of you still in the Stay phase, I see you, I honor you, and your path is just as sacred. 🌿 Please take what serves you and leave the rest, knowing I’ll have more conversations directly speaking to your experience soon.Carmina takes us on a raw, courageous journey through her marriage to a fellow facilitator and TV host—how what looked like the perfect power couple from the outside became a story of losing herself in order to keep the peace, dimming her own radiance to protect his insecurities, and ultimately, the wild, painful, and liberating path of choosing herself again.We talk about: ✨ How she lost—and reclaimed—her voice inside her marriage. ✨ The lie so many of us buy that we can "love someone enough" to do the work for them (spoiler: we can’t). ✨ Why divorce can sometimes be the most compassionate choice for both people. ✨ Somatic tools to help you access your inner knowing when your mind is spinning in stories. ✨ The delicious freedom and fullness waiting on the other side of bravery.💡 And loves, if you’ve ever found yourself making yourself small to keep the peace, or waiting for a partner to rise with you while you’re stuck in the blender of survival mode—I want you to know: there is another way. You are allowed to be fully you. To shine bright AF. To take up all the damn space. 💃🔥This is one of those episodes where I had chills the entire time. I know it’s going to resonate deeply for so many of you navigating that edge between love, loyalty, and self-abandonment. You do NOT have to choose between your truth and love. 💗 There are partners (and communities!) who will celebrate all of you.Come soak up Carmina’s potent medicine. And if you’re craving more, she’s leading a workshop in our community this month AND has a gorgeous retreat coming up in Mexico that I cannot recommend enough. 🌸🎉Let's go, loves. Let’s stop managing everyone else’s feelings and start choosing ourselves. 👑Show Notes:Carmina Becerra's WebsiteCarmina Becerra's InstagramFree Your Voice RetreatFree Your Voice Online ProgramTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 56: Hey my beautiful loves! 💖 In today’s episode, I’m pulling us back into a softer, more mystical vibe 🌙 — one that feels like curling up with a cozy blanket for your soul. After some heavier episodes, I was aching to share the deeper practices that have truly carried me through all the ups and downs of my journey. 💫I'm inviting you into one of my absolute favorite rituals — my New Moon and Full Moon Inner Quest spread 🌑🌕, inspired by the Pattern app and the Wild Unknown Oracle deck by Kim Krans (seriously, y'all, her art is pure magic 🎨🖤). This isn't just a "pull a card and move on" practice — it's a two-week journey with your soul, rooted in art, intuition, and divine connection. 🦋I'll walk you through how I use these spreads to stay anchored during even the messiest times 🌊, how the archetypes and energies guide me (hello, Venom card 🐍), and why creating a visual, mystical connection with your growth is one of the yummiest gifts you can give yourself. 🎁If you've been craving more grounding, intention, and a little more woo magic 🔮✨ in your life — this one's for you, sis. Let’s make the journey yummier together. 💖Don't forget to DM me and send me pics of your spreads 🃏🧡 — you know I'd die to see them!!Sending you so much love, magic, and maybe a few new decks or crystals from your next shopping trip! 😉💎Show Notes:The Pattern AppThe Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck by Kim Krans The Hero’s Journey Dream Oracle Deck by Kelly Sullivan WaldenTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 55: Hey my loves 💕 This week, we’re keeping things punchy and powerful as I break down something I see all the time in my community and my coaching sessions—when you know a relationship isn’t right for you, but you just can’t seem to leave.Whether it's your spouse, your affair partner, or both, this episode is a loving and truth-filled deep dive into the real reasons why letting go feels impossible. (Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re broken, weak, or indecisive. It’s your nervous system, babe. It’s trauma. It’s biology. And it's very real. 😮‍💨)I’m walking you through the 4 biggest reasons that might be keeping you stuck and offering tangible tools for working through each one—including somatic practices, nervous system support, and some beautiful reparenting work.And yes, this one goes out especially to my affair girlies 💋 who are feeling deep connection and deep confusion. You're not alone. You're not crazy. You're just wired for connection—and we’re going to talk about how to gently untangle those wires and come back home to YOU. 💫If you’ve been layering on shame because you know you should leave but your body won’t cooperate, this is your episode. This is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself and start understanding yourself. 🌿💗Let’s reframe “letting go” as a process—not a lightning bolt moment. You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be.Show Notes:Attached - Amir LevineComplex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma - Pete WalkerBreathwork - Allison Alexander's WebsiteTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe

Episode 54: Whoa 😮‍💨 this episode came in hot, y’all. It was not the one I had planned—but sometimes the universe throws something at you that cracks your heart open in just the right way, and you’ve got to go with it. 💥So today, I'm taking you inside a real-time nervous system ride—from receiving a message in my DMs that hit me right in my childhood wounds, to processing an emotional flashback, and coming out the other side feeling grounded and so connected to my purpose. 💫This one’s for every woman who’s been told she’s too much, too slow, too sensitive, too anything… and showed up anyway. 🙋‍♀️ I walk you through how I handled that CPTSD moment, what I really think about patriarchal standards of efficiency, and how our current political climate in the U.S. is activating all the old stuff for so many of us.We talk about what it’s like to question your path when everything feels uncertain, and why staying human—with humor, music, and dance parties—is a radical act of resistance. 💃🕯️I’m sharing a gorgeous list from Paul Shattuck called “80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance,” and how I'm using it to reclaim my energy and purpose. You’ll hear some of my fave tips (like wearing something meaningful or creating a playlist that reminds you who you are 🎶), and how even the smallest acts can reconnect us to our power.Whether you're leaning toward staying or going, this episode is a reminder that this work matters—and you are so not alone. 💖 Come breathe with me, laugh with me, maybe cry with me a little too. We’re in this together, babes.Show Notes:The Harms Are Cumulative. Your Overwhelm Is the Goal. Let’s Get Unstuck - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhDStay Human: 80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance in the Authoritarian Harm Complex - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhDPaul's SubstackTo book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe