Go to: valorize.systems for the new podcast 'VALORIZE' out now.
The new podcast is here! VALORIZE Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/v-a-l-o-r-i-z-e/id1840660776 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1IELf7z3e4PKECUJx8Ay0l?si=9c1b64525ae3409c ______ Episode Notes for this final episode of The Unmasking Unschool Podcast: Taking up the power to self define means reorganising your relationships to all things from the inside out instead of the outside in. This kind of journey is profound. All encompassing. And transforms even the mundane aspects of your life. Because it starts in: How are YOU with YOU? Do you like you? Maya Angelou said 'Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.' An unmasking journey starts with PERMISSION to know what you like. Permission to know, with the kind of knowing that comes to you naturally and to feel the knowing of what you like as a truth. One that you are worthy of building your life around. Building your livelihood around. _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/023
Every time you try to “do it right,” for a system, you have to abandon what you know in your body. The SKILL I talk about in this episode is the skill of building SELF-DETERMINED value. This is the skill of being able to discern in your body what is actually right for you and your work and your people. There are cultural hybridities vantage points insights and ideas strengths uncommon or marginal knowledges that are calling you to SEE them as value. This skill is you: Transmitting belief in that value + building structure that backs that belief. I don't know any more valuable skillset: This is world making. _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/022
If you are someone who has learned that you have to manage your energy, your protective vigilance around your energy will be high. This relationship with your energy treats it like a finite resource that gets emptied. And needs a lot of space and time to drip back up into adequacy. It's the relationship of: managing the cost of contortion. Creating more energy, more capacity is the work of aligning your life structures with your actual truth and value. _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/021
The ability to exercise CHOICE in what reality you operate in, and how you respond, is a kind of freedom. Not freedom from accountability. But freedom to be in integrity with what you *actually* most value. In the first of four 'bridge' episodes (from this podcast to the next!), I speak to how starting with low belief is just part of the work. And what the experience is like, when a practiced belief gathers enough evidence to reach a crescendo of conviction; A "leap of faith" becomes available! _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/020
Part Two of my big announcement is the NEW DIRECTION and focus of my coaching: which is YOUR WORK IN THE WORLD I share the core insight that underpins my new offer, and what the offer is: it's called FLAREHOUSE HERE IS ALL THE INFO: https://www.solasystems.xyz/FLAREHOUSE _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/019
This week on the Unmasking Unschool Podcast, I invited previous podcast guest Laurie Green back onto the podcast, this time to talk about the culmination of what was once a vague dream, now realised as a tangible reality in the form of a BOOK. The BOOK: Deliquescent Beings: A Neuroqueering Book of Love https://www.neuroqueering.network/product/deliquescentbeings/ Neuroqueering Love: A Gathering: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/neuroqueering-love-a-gathering-tickets-1042904935737 Laurie's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueeringhumans/ Artists in the book: Axe Raulet Georgia Holman Ila Jess Murrain Laurie Green Lua Bairstow Rebecca Jagoe Rrangwane Sam Metz Sef V Westerman Artists for the gathering on 1st November: সঙ্ঘমিত্রা sanghamitra @the.poison.faeline Saint-Saëns @saintsaenssaid Hannah Mae Buckingham @natureb.y Georgia Holman @georgiaholman Oscar Vinter @oscarvinter Florin Garzotto @florin_garzotto Rrangwane @semausu.sa.pulayakgojana Quieting @quieting_sounds ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the mailing list HERE
It turns out I'm in a SEASON of change... Listen to PART ONE of my big announcement and why I closed doors to UNMASKING UNSCHOOL early!! ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the mailing list HERE
Unmasking Unschool is open for enrolment! ENROL HERE: https://www.solasystems.xyz/unun This is the online group coaching, support system, and social context for #autistic/audhd visionaries, creatives, change-makers who are not here to fit in, to enact the life pivots, self re-inventions involved in becoming your boldest self, and realising your most impactful work in the world. ___________ TRANSCRIPT Episode Notes Self belief that you can create a new thing in the world, or in your life that you can be in new ways starts low and builds as you create evidence that your body brain nervous systems understand as a REALITY that can be trusted and BELIEVED. Until that point, you best source of belief is your own ACTIONS and being able to keep moving forward during the ‘lag time’ between the doing and REALITY around you catching up. But there is another source of potent belief: DECISIONS. not just any decisions but the ones which ask you to EXPAND to be BIGGER that your problem to decide that you are up for the HARD and willing to ride the waves to make it REAL. This episode is about those kinds of decisions. I speak to how my own recent decision to ‘handle it’ to move through difficulty without compromising on my dreams to SHOW UP for what I want and the impact of that on my self belief. ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the mailing list HERE
In this week’s episode of The Unmasking Unschool Podcast, I am joined by Rebekah Ubuntu (they/them, she/her) who generously shares their unique perspective on what it means to be in transition; Refusing to be a finished product; a destination, a known self, and being open to the mystery of being in process. Rebekah articulates felt truths that have emerged inside the experience of not knowing, and not needing to know, who they are becoming next; "refusal as an act of love" “in honouring refusal, I am also visualising everything that is refused, not being rejected or thrown away […] Composting as a literal phenomena [that] I derive a lot of hope, not necessarily optimism, but hope that even in the face of life destroying forces, that nature has a way of bringing some kind of balance.” Photo: Ciaran Frame ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the SOLA Systems mailing list HERE
I'm doing something I've never done before. I'm taking NEW ACTION I'm inviting all my clients, my podcast listeners, and my subscribers into ONE space; To coach with me, LIVE FREE NOW and you are invited. I'm inviting you too, to take NEW ACTION To become someone who can CREATE CHANGE on purpose. Who can shift the culture, the structure, the fabric of your life experience into higher integrity: CHANGE MAKER, CULTURE CREATOR Info & Enrol: HERE or: https://www.solasystems.xyz/cmcc
"The art world is so opaque and it really doesn't provide a lot of feedback or clear communication. So many processes are difficult to navigate, I think, probably for most people. And then for someone like me, who really needs to understand the whole process, why things are happening, it's just so difficult to access. and because there was a sense of scarcity and precarity, we didn't really feel stable. Like we just had to keep working and overworking to prove ourselves..." This week on the Unmasking Unschool podcast, I speak with artists Mia Rushton and Eric Moschopedis (Mia + Eric). They share insights from their 15-year collaborative art practice, and what unfolded in our coaching journey that formed part of their ongoing project 'Art School'. You'll hear about their struggles with art world opacity and inaccessibility, and the resulting self doubt, and sense of not belonging, as well as the breakthroughs that enabled them to recognise the value of their work, and embody that value with a new level of confidence. Plus the ripple effects - including in how they care for themselves within their practice. "[it's] been liberating and exciting because it means that we get to decide which systems and structures are interesting to us and which support us and which ones don't and which ones we want to engage in." Mia and Eric also share about their unique approach to creating a poetic, adaptive and relational culture of access, that informs their work now, and their artwork: 'A Guide for the Prepared'. To learn more about Mia + Eric's practice: miaanderic.ca @mia.and.eric ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the SOLA Systems mailing list HERE
"I don't think I need some tweaks. I think I need to burn it down." This week on the Unmasking Unschool podcast, I'm joined by the wonderful Andrea Cox (she/her). Andrea joined Unmasking Unschool in 2023 after a burnout that coincided with realising her neurodivergence, and led to the decision to review every aspect of her life, from the inside out. I talk with Andrea about taking the huge leap of going from full time employment to starting her own business as an Occupational Therapist working exclusively with hypermobile and neurodivergent clients. A decision that was part of a complete reinvention of her life structures. We also talk about the self doubts that come with working for yourself, and getting comfortable with a new level of visibility. How creating belief in the value of what you offer means your actions and decision are in integrity with how you best live and work so you can offer that value sustainably, and without waiting for permission. "There's not a single area of my life, honestly, that hasn't been changed." Find out more about Andrea's Occupational Therapy practice, access relevant resources, and subscribe to her waiting list here: https://www.hypermobileot.com/ ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Subscribe to the SOLA Systems mailing list HERE
Today's Unmasking Unschool podcast episode is about a common form of static that can mess with your sense of self corrupt the flow of energy corral your actions into contortions. That static in your sense of self is: Over-identifying with your habitual ACTIONS. Because over-identifying with your actions, when your actions are learned protective and reactive patterns, to past conditions means you can't SEE yourself clearly nor whats possible for you. SO we clean them up. And because ACTIONS are a primary source of belief. So when you need to believe New Things about your self, future and dreams your ACTIONS will be the first confirmation (before anyone else believes). Yup. And when your ACTIONS change course into a path that reflects deep integrity with who you are becoming, inside, and what you really want they create the feedback loop that AFFIRMS that new emergent self. Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz Unmasking Unschool opens for enrolment in September! Get ready... This is the online group coaching, support system, and social context for #autistic/audhd visionaries, creatives, change-makers who are not here to fit in, to enact the life pivots, self re-inventions involved in becoming your boldest self, and realising your most impactful work in the world... Subscribe to the mailing list HERE to find out more.
Your level of self-belief that YOU can • create the creative / rebellious / outstanding / impactful / world-changing / unique visions, projects, services that you dream of • BE YOURSELF and make life work at the same time • experience your FULL self as lovable, seen, enough... that belief level is directly correlated to what your environment (your social, economic, physical context) reflects about WHO you currently are and how much that aligns with inner self. How much the IDENTITY you crafted in response to that environment, actually supports you BEING who you are. So if that IDENTITY is out of date, misaligned, inaccurate AND you want to go against the grain of your environment or your past of what people expect of you to MAKE BIG DREAMS happen, that requires carving out space (head space, physical space, attention, time, relational space) for the parts of self, the version of you that YOU haven't yet experienced. The new IDENTITY, that your current environment can't possibly reflect... Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz
In this week's Unmasking Unschool PODCAST episode I speak to my experiences of having a porous sense of self. The artistic sensibilities and energetic sensitivities that this gifted me but also, how much my journey has been about CREATING and building an ego; developing an individuated, distinct, felt experience of my own boundaried limits so that I'm not LOST in other people. In their gaze, and their energy, and their agenda. WHAT I represent to others (autistic / adhd / etc) matters less than: I experience that I exist. Because I have CHOICE in my existence. And that choice creates SELF-TRUST; creates the self esteem + confidence to show up to my life and relationships knowing I 'have my own back'. Emerging into an experience of your own self, that is not a product of others dictates takes time, but it is worth the work of re-orienting to Self Connection: Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz
Tightly attuned for survival teaches you: to be oriented to how other people see you. Then comes: a late-diagnosis/self-identifying as autistic, or AuDHD opening a door, unfolding a second adolescence, that doesn't match your age, and the "supposed to have done X by now"s: supposed to know what I like supposed to know how to do life supposed to have a job, kids, partner(s), purpose, blah blah by now, supposed to know what I really feel and what I really want by now supposed to be living that already by now supposed to know WHO I am, by now That AGE COMPARISON, in the unacknowledged context of survival, creates a sense of loss; shoulda woulda coulda IF ONLY I'd known earlier. Yes, if only. It hurts. And - We are a product of our times; of so much before our times of so much outside of our own spheres of influence and yet here we are. EXISTING. Here you are. Still alive to find out. Still alive to re-write the story of WHO you are based on what you did next. That journey of WHO AM I NEXT? means: learning publicly. Giving over to a process of sharing the process of finding out who you are, visibly. Of being someone who is re-oriented to inner self in order to FIND OUT. And letting go of the shame of not knowing (how) so you can GET to know WHO you became next. That willingness to learn publicly, transforms the sense of loss into mind-blowing unfolding of finding out. Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz
Imposter syndrome feels be like: You're not supposed to be here! That's not yours! Who do you think you are? Who asked you? You're not good enough! You don't know enough yet! But is it true? Sometimes, its just a product of industry bias; narrow paths to a position of recognised expertise; ~isms presented as meritocracy. And sometimes its a LACK of feedback, or feedback you can't perceive or receive, that has you doubting if you can really call yourself that Other times, it's a signal that you are in the process of becoming. In this week's podcast episode, I get into these three reasons, so you can decide whether 'imposter syndrome' feelings are worth believing or are there to be welcomed as a sign that you are on track. Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz
Like many late-identified autistic / AuDHD / ADHD folks, a foggy, porous, unstructured sense of self; illusions, fantasies, pipe dreams... was my predominant experience of myself, until I learned to take EFFECTIVE, STRUCTURED ACTION. That action has to be structured a certain way for it to be effective. I couldn't do things the way other people did them nor follow their ideals, without losing myself. "falling into holes" In finding what has worked for me, I've adapted a concept that makes a strength out of my need to go deep; my monotropic tendencies; my need for distinction depth; A way of structuring ACTION, called 'skills stacking'. And this week's podcast episode is about why this works. Focusing on the next skill / system / sensorial groove until it is established, STACKING them one by one, has given me the material experience of my own agency, boundaries, and effectiveness (the antidote to a porous self) and helped me to build belief, clarity and unconscious competence for my big impossible dreams at speed. I hope it serves you too. Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz
In this episode, I speak to the importance of knowing and centring in your strengths, to create more energy. And offering a new term as a way to think about some of those strengths, called 'Distinction Depth'. When an environment or activity affords and rewards distinction depth: you excel! Subscribe to the mailing list HERE ___________ TRANSCRIPT ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self. Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems. Learn more at solasystems.xyz