Wild Sobriety

<p><em>Wild Sobriety</em> is a podcast about clear seeing and feminine freedom beyond alcohol.</p><p>Hosted by expert holistic alcohol coach <b>Mary Wagstaff</b>, creator of the proven <b>5 Shifts of Feminine Sobriety</b>, this show guides women who are ready to go beyond alcohol, reclaim their full, authentic feminine expression with sobriety made simple. Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free with your wild feminine.</p><p><br /></p><p>Through grounded spirituality, mindset shifts, and transformational tools, <em>Wild Sobriety</em> offers inspiration and clarity for women ready to live fully awake—beyond alcohol, beyond the script, and back into their power.</p><p>Watch the podcast on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@marywagstaffholisticwellness</p><p><br /></p><p>Want to find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink? 60 Seconds To Calm Is How you do it. Grab the free guid here:<em> https://marywagstaffcoach.com/urgetracking</em></p><p><br /></p><p>Work with Mary: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/</p><p><br /></p><p>⚠️ <b>Disclaimer:</b> This podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only. It is not a substitute for medical treatment, therapy, or professional healthcare advice. I am not a doctor. If you are at risk of harming yourself or your health, please call your doctor, 911, or a local emergency line right away. In the U.S., you can also dial or text <b>988</b> to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.</p>

Blindspot #4: Why You Should Stop Reading Quit Lit (5-Part Series)🌹

I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing your relationship with alcohol. I share how twenty years of drinking alongside a wellness practice taught me that awareness isn’t enough. Insight doesn’t rewire your brain—action does. I walk you thr...

12-03
20:32

Performance Mode

If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need next. In this episode, I talk about the performance phase—wher...

11-27
20:30

Blind Spot #3 Stop Fighting Cravings - Do This Instead (5 Part Series)

You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds. I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and start speaking to myself with compassion instead. When stress stacks up, judgment adds pressure until the body wants relief. But the antidote isn’t more control — it’s safety. I walk through how to use c...

11-26
18:09

Failure Tolerance

In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives. I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible. You’ll hear why getting numb to failure is normal, how to recognize the lessons hidden in your attempts, and why resilience alone isn’t enough—transformation requires intentional action.&nbs...

11-25
15:14

Blind Spot #2 Quitting Is Making It Harder To Not Drink (5 Part Series)

The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable. Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through how to uncover what alcohol has really been doing for you — comfort, transition, connection — and how to meet those needs in ways that honor your values and your body. This is where the feminine path t...

11-19
15:23

BONUS You Don’t Need To Be An Alcoholic To Quit Drinking

This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because nothing else feels right — this is your sign that a third option exists. I share the real mindset shifts I learned outside of AA, how I finally made alcohol irrelevant, and why most women stay stuck bargain...

11-18
20:36

The Real Problem Isn't Your Drinking (It's This)

What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem? In this episode of Wild Sobriety, I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it. I talk about how changing my relationship with alcohol wasn’t about giving something up, but about raising the quality of my problems — from “how do I stop drinking?” to “how do I create a life that doesn’t need alcohol at all?” It’s no...

11-12
17:15

The Real Cost Of Sobriety Nobody Talks About (and Why It’s Easier Than You Think)

If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever. I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that expands every part of your life. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three brutal — but liberating — truths that changed everything for me and every woman I’ve coached If you’ve ever thought: “I ju...

11-05
26:24

Blindspot #1: Why Avoiding Alcohol Keeps You Stuck (5-Part Series)🌹

This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety. I share the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me for a feminine-based approach to sustainable sobriety and start living your wildest, alcohol-free life! • why avoidance keeps you attached to alcohol • the belief ladder and confirmation ...

10-29
15:55

Stop Asking 'Am I An Alcoholic?' - Ask THIS Instead

If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am. In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might be keeping you from the freedom you're seeking. 🌹 IN TODAY'S VIDEO: • Why the label "alcoholic" doesn't serve women • The real question you should be asking instead • How to know if alc...

10-22
13:47

Why Anxious Attachment Makes You Drink More (And How to Break the Cycle)

Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud. Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start overthinking, over-explaining, or trying to control what you can’t? That’s what we’re talking about today. I’m opening up about a recent personal experience that cracked my heart open in new ways — and h...

10-15
21:44

Your Future Is Riding On It , New Chapter, Life Update

To all my Warriors of Love — this is for you. After a break for integration and creation, I’m back with a brand-new title, a new direction, and a new way for us to connect. Wild Sobriety is expanding to YouTube — not as a performance, but as a deeper conversation. In this episode, I share why I made the shift, what “wild sobriety” truly means, and how I’m integrating everything I’ve learned through my own healing, partnership, and growth. This is a love letter to everyone who’s been on ...

10-08
31:26

How to Support a Loved One Through Addiction (Without Losing Yourself) with Amber Hollingsworth

What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process. What happens when I’m navigating my own sobriety while someone I love is still caught in addiction’s grip? In this episode, I sit down with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth, founder of Put the Shovel Down, to...

08-27
01:00:38

Why You Should Stop Chasing Solutions

Calm isn’t just a mood—it’s the baseline your body must return to if you want to break free from the cycle of drinking. When you’re stuck in overwhelm—overthinking, overworking, and over-giving—your nervous system never resets. That constant stress is exactly what makes pouring a glass of wine at the end of the day feel so tempting. Here’s the truth most sobriety methods miss: alcohol was never the problem. It was just your body’s quick fix for a frazzled nervous system. The deeper issue is s...

08-20
19:53

Your Basic Needs Have Changed-Releasing the Need to Belong

Ever wonder why quitting alcohol feels like a full-on identity shift? It’s because sobriety isn’t just about abstaining—it’s about reclaiming the parts of you that got buried under performance, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. In this episode, we explore why alcohol is often just a placeholder for authenticity, and how perimenopause marks a powerful rite of passage—not a crisis, but a coronation. You’ll walk away with: A deeper understanding of why your nervous system craves authenticity o...

08-13
22:41

How You Know You Don't Have A Drinking Problem

What if nothing’s actually “wrong”—you’re just seeing it from an outdated perspective? In this episode, you'll learn how to interrupt spirals of stress, resentment, or drinking urges without needing to fix anyone else or wait for the perfect conditions. We’ll explore: The mindset shift that instantly diffuses urges to numbWhy “it’s just a thought” can be the most liberating realizationHow to take radical responsibility without bypassing your emotionsThe Sacred Pause process that rewires your ...

08-06
23:24

The Thing You’re Avoiding About Alcohol Is the Way Through

Freedom from alcohol isn't found in white-knuckling or temporary breaks — it emerges when you stay engaged with the process of transformation. In this episode, I share a powerful moment from a recent family reunion where, for the first time, everyone had shifted their relationship with alcohol. What came from that wasn't awkwardness — it was deeper connection, true presence, and genuine joy without needing a single drop. This is what happens when we stop performing and start participating in ...

07-30
19:13

"Can't you just have one?" And Other People's Advice You Should Avoid

Ever wonder why “just have one” never actually works? In this no-fluff episode, we unpack the deeper truth behind that tiny phrase—and why your body already knows alcohol doesn’t feel good anymore. If you're tired of the start-stop cycle and craving a way of living that actually supports your goals, your energy, and your feminine power… this one’s for you. Sobriety isn't just about saying no to alcohol—it’s about saying yes to yourself. To living fully expressed, in your truth, and from a pla...

07-24
19:48

The Woman Who Doesn't Need Alcohol

Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine? In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower farm. And what I thought would be found through achievement, I discovered through simplicity, presence, and letting go of alcohol. Midlife sobriety is more than just quitting drinking—it's a rite of pa...

07-17
21:42

Beyond Boredom: Rediscovering Your Creative Essence

Have you ever caught yourself pouring a glass of wine just because you were “bored”? Let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that go-to excuse — and why it matters so much to your feminine wellbeing. In this episode, we get real about how our culture conditions women to fear stillness and how alcohol has become a sneaky permission slip to rest. But what if you could grant yourself that permission — no wine required? ✨ This one’s for the woman who’s ready to reclaim her energy, her ...

07-09
18:30

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