If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need next.

In this episode, I talk about the performance phase—where you’re reading the books, listening to the podcasts, getting that dopamine rush from new insights, but not actually seeing the change stick. Then I dive into the resilience phase, the part no one celebrates: the trying, slipping, getting back up, becoming almost numb to disappointment but still believing something better is possible. Finally, I break down what real transformation actually looks like: embodied change, intentional choice, and the moment where quitting alcohol becomes less about willpower and more about identity.

Takeaways:
– Why surface-level understanding gives you a dopamine hit but not real change
– How failure tolerance and resilience are actually signs you believe in alcohol freedom
– The difference between trying to quit drinking and transforming your relationship with alcohol
– What your attempts, slips, and restarts say about your readiness for growth
– How to shift from surviving to fully transforming your life and your self-concept

If you’re ready to move from “I know what to do” to “I’m finally living it,” this episode will show you the next step.

The 90 Day Life Renewal is a Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life?  Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

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A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.